Weekend randoms...

[kemdupuis]

Congrats stcyct!!! So exciting!! B slept for 9 hours straight last night, so I'm doing a happy dance over here, too.

I'm so sorry V is sick again budders. You guys can't catch a break! Hope everyone in your house gets well and stays well ASAP.

Our house dropped to 62 degrees last night. We haven't had the heat on at all this fall, and I feel so guilty that it got that cold. B's poor little hands were freezing this morning. His body was warm, though. Thankfully, he was in his winter sleep sack. I put the heat on this morning, so it won't happen again, but I feel awful poor little guy!

[erbear]

Lo's hands are always cold. my mom always comments on it, too, like I'm at fault for that.

[Flick]

I avoid the baby sleep thread like the plague. Lol M sleeps so good and I'm terrified that I'll jinx it.

[carolyngrace]

I feel like lots of us are sometimes bitching about how our husbands get to stay up late, and sleep in, while were stuck with kid duties.

Well, when it became clear at 5:30 AM that Oscar was up for the day. I went back to bed, pulled the covers off DH when he wouldn't wake up, and told him that his kid was up and he needed to take care of him LOL. I knew he didn't come to bed until like 3 AM. But he always does that, and I always let him off the hook. So later today when he commented that I didn't give him a choice about getting up, I just said nope! And he didn't push it any further. I think he knows I'd win the fight since I'm up almost every day at 6 AM with him.

[periwinkledaydreams]

I did something similar MOTN carolyngrace. LO woke up at 2AM, I gave her a bottle and was rocking her in the chair until 3 with no signs of going back to sleep, when she started doing the poop grunt. Okay so TMI she takes a very effortful crap for 20 minutes, I go to change her and it has exploded all over her pajamas... Ive got the light turned on so I can actually see what Im doing and yea its almost 4 at this point, Im huffing and puffing and SO is sighing in bed and finally says "What is wrong with you?" Oh dear god why he choses his words so poorly? I went off about how Ive been up with her for almost 2 hours and now Im changing a poop explosion, and he just rolled over and put the blanket over his head. So no. I put her crying butt in bed next to him and was like, someone's got to take care of her while I go take care of the shit that is all over her pajamas. I came back and rocked her til 4:20 and when she was still awake just set her in the pack n play crying and told him I'm done. If the crying is bothering you, you can take a turn trying to stop it. Which he did.

Eta guess who was up with her again at 5:30... it wasn't him...

[carolyngrace]

DB is so weird. He woke up after a half hour nap and was all grumpy. I knew it wasn't long enough to rest him up, since he usually takes at least an hour. So I fed him and put him back down. He screams like someone was murdering him for five minutes, and then completely quiet. I look in and his eyes are shut and he sucking on the edge of a blanket. A minute later he's asleep. And this is why I do "CIO" for my kid. Because I could've tried to soothe him all damn day and he wouldn't have been happy being awake, and wouldn't have fallen asleep in my arms. Crazy kid just wants to scream for a few minutes and then drop off!

[wegrowsheep]

DH slept in the recliner with congested LO last night from 1am to 4 am. Love that man. However, we need to work on "baby holding does not equal handicapped" some more. One battle at a time.

[carolyngrace]

Nov 14, 2015 12:27:05 GMT -5 @bubbs119 said:

Nov 14, 2015 12:14:16 GMT -5 wegrowsheep said:

DH slept in the recliner with congested LO last night from 1am to 4 am. Love that man. However, we need to work on "baby holding does not equal handicapped" some more. One battle at a time.

yes. My DH is completely incapable of doing anything else when entertaining or holding the baby. He complains that he has to go to the bathroom while I'm busy doing things and I flat out asked him what he thinks I do during the day when I have to go to the bathroom. You can do it, buddy. 

Haha yes! This!

Also, this morning when DH got up with the baby he asked me what he should do with him. Granted he doesn't want him in the morning very often, but he usually has time alone with him on the weekends and at night. I was like what do you think you do? Play with him, put him down while you do the dishes, whatever the heck you want to do!

[stinybean]

Nov 14, 2015 12:27:05 GMT -5 @bubbs119 said:

Nov 14, 2015 12:14:16 GMT -5 wegrowsheep said:

DH slept in the recliner with congested LO last night from 1am to 4 am. Love that man. However, we need to work on "baby holding does not equal handicapped" some more. One battle at a time.

yes. My DH is completely incapable of doing anything else when entertaining or holding the baby. He complains that he has to go to the bathroom while I'm busy doing things and I flat out asked him what he thinks I do during the day when I have to go to the bathroom. You can do it, buddy. 

Haha! Meanwhile, when DH and I are both home I constantly ask him to get me things. "Oh, can you get me water, the baby is sleeping on me."

[mrsmonogrammed]

I asked DH to run and grab some donuts for breakfast while I was vacuuming and he continued sitting on the couch, so a few minutes later I asked him if he was going or not and I got a "well are you going to come take her?!"

Ooooooooooh no, DH. Buckle her into the car seat and take her with you just like I have to do anytime I want to do an errand and have her! That man WILL learn how to be out and about with her (without me) if it's the last thing I do!

[wegrowsheep]

Nov 14, 2015 13:02:38 GMT -5 budders said:

I just snapped at H and I feel bad. I was trying to get V ready for us to go out and get lunch, and the baby started crying as soon as I put him in the car seat -- like he does every time. H said sarcastically, "this is going to go really well" and I just lost it and swore at him. He didn't really do anything wrong, but I'm just having one of those days where I am exhausted but am feeling trapped in the house at the same time. It's not his fault, but he was just there, and now I've ruined the mood for awhile.

So, I am sitting in the parking lot of the deli and trying to stop crying so I can go in and get us lunch.

*hugs* Being exhausted sucks for everyone. But don't beat yourself up. My H has learned, mostly, when to keep unhelpful comments to himself. Only took 3 kids to get there.

[ashbash]

Nov 14, 2015 12:42:36 GMT -5 mrsmonogrammed said:

I asked DH to run and grab some donuts for breakfast while I was vacuuming and he continued sitting on the couch, so a few minutes later I asked him if he was going or not and I got a "well are you going to come take her?!"

Ooooooooooh no, DH. Buckle her into the car seat and take her with you just like I have to do anytime I want to do an errand and have her! That man WILL learn how to be out and about with her (without me) if it's the last thing I do!

Its good for everyone! After pushing DH to do it with DD1 it was great, they got their bonding time, he felt more confident in taking care of her and I got freedom He can do it!

[erbear]

I'm sorry, budders.

I made LO a cute onesie, bought a play yard and abc floor mat, and most redecorated my bathroom. My husband moved my makeup and tampons and hair things out of the bathroom, though, so I'm going to need to fix his cleaning job!

[mrsmonogrammed]

H was in charge of DD today when I was working. When I came home she was dressed in the outfit I had laid out and also had a bib on. When I went to change her bib after she spit up, I see that the little sweater dress she's wearing is backwards!! The buttons were in the front and all H said was "well that's the way it looked right to me, I don't know girl clothes!" LOL

[erbear]

Does anyone else's LO fake cough? I found out today at the BRU event that two other babies her age do it, too.

[Deleted]

P got up four times last night. FOUR! He had been doing much better, only getting up at 3 am for about a week, and then last night happened.

Today DH wanted to take a nap. NBD. While he was napping P played peacefully while I vacuumed and cleaned the kitchen. But as soon as I put him in the bouncer in the bathroom and got into the shower he started screaming like he was being murdered. Peeking out from behind the curtain at him to let him know I was still there only made it worse. And then I had the nerve to dry off and get dressed too, which really pushed him over the edge. I'm an asshole mom, wanting to bathe at least 2x a week and wear clothes and nonsense like that. Total screaming =about half an hour. Somehow DH managed to sleep through the entire thing instead of getting up to help. I'm kind of over the mommy gig today. Thank goodness people are coming over this evening to watch football with me so I can hand him over to someone else for a while.

[thecatsmeow]

We went for an hour and a half walk this afternoon! It was 65F today which is completely nuts - one year ago our low was -15 and high was 14 above, that is much more usual. I pulled out a sun hat for the babe and I had on shorts and a sleeveless shirt. It also was his first time in the stroller without the car seat. He slept for an hour so I think it went over well!

[carolyngrace]

We may as well re-name this "fighting with DH" thread.

So... of course since DH got 3 hours of sleep last night he needed to nap. So he napped for almost FOUR HOURS. Meanwhile, of course, DB napped for 30 minutes during that time.

So once he got up I tried my damn hardest to not be annoyed. I was pleasant, I initiated time together (we played a game) and we were doing ok.

Then this conversation after putting DB to sleep:

DH: What are your plans now?
ME: Not sure.
DH: Want to have our weekly sex? *sarcastically, and a little bitter sounding*
ME: Ha. Maybe not, I'm pretty tired.
DH: Ok. (seemed slightly bothered, but not bad)

ME: You know how I usually bother you asking if it's OK that I said no to sex? And making sure you're not holding resentment? I'm not going to ask, but I need to know you'll tell me if it's getting to you.
DH: Well, it is tonight. I know you like when I initiate, but sometimes you have to too.
ME: I like to initiate when I'm not exhausted. And usually earlier in the day.
DH: Well, I don't see how that's ever going to happen!
ME: Well.... It could have happened today during DB's nap.
DH: Oh, when I was sleeping because I didn't feel good.
ME: You didn't feel good BECAUSE YOU STAYED UP TOO LATE!
DH: Ok, great, so this is officially not happening!

*angry face*
*storms upstairs*

Ugh. And I'm almost too tired to care, honestly. I tried so hard but I can't hold it in when he does shit like that.

Sorry, total DD entry, but I'm too far in now to make it shorter!

[mrsmonogrammed]

Nov 14, 2015 17:40:30 GMT -5 erbear said:

Does anyone else's LO fake cough? I found out today at the BRU event that two other babies her age do it, too.

Charlotte will fake cough and if we do it back to her we get the BIGGEST giggles out of her!

[carolyngrace]

Nov 14, 2015 19:30:45 GMT -5 mrsmonogrammed said:

Nov 14, 2015 17:40:30 GMT -5 erbear said:

Does anyone else's LO fake cough? I found out today at the BRU event that two other babies her age do it, too.

Charlotte will fake cough and if we do it back to her we get the BIGGEST giggles out of her!

We're getting so many giggles lately, it's awesome. I can't stop tickling him! 

[carolyngrace]

It's really cruel how different the male and female sex drive (typically) are!

[erbear]

I'm sorry DHs are being shitheads today!

[wegrowsheep]

carolyngrace I love it when I get to end an argument with the grand finale of an "if you acted like a grown-up" statement. And then he gets all huffy and storms off.

[erbear]

My H accepted an invite out to brunch tomorrow and told our friends they could come over. So much for a nice, stay in my sweat pants, makeup-free, relaxing day!

Also, we have things everywhere right now - piled up dishes, boxes of books, garbage from the bathroom. My anxiety is running high thinking of it!

[stinybean]

Nov 14, 2015 17:40:30 GMT -5 erbear said:

Does anyone else's LO fake cough? I found out today at the BRU event that two other babies her age do it, too.

Alllllll the time!

[Deleted]

And can we talk about breath holding? Because when P gets as worked up as he did today, he holds his breath and turns purple. He hasn't passed out from doing it yet but I'm sure that he will eventually... and I will freak the F out. He's gone close to a full minute a couple of times. Anyone else's baby?

[wegrowsheep]

Nov 14, 2015 21:11:26 GMT -5 @jimbobcooter said:

And can we talk about breath holding? Because when P gets as worked up as he did today, he holds his breath and turns purple. He hasn't passed out from doing it yet but I'm sure that he will eventually... and I will freak the F out. He's gone close to a full minute a couple of times. Anyone else's baby?

Nope. Try blowing in his face?

[Deleted]

Nov 14, 2015 21:16:34 GMT -5 wegrowsheep said:

Nov 14, 2015 21:11:26 GMT -5 @jimbobcooter said:

And can we talk about breath holding? Because when P gets as worked up as he did today, he holds his breath and turns purple. He hasn't passed out from doing it yet but I'm sure that he will eventually... and I will freak the F out. He's gone close to a full minute a couple of times. Anyone else's baby?

Nope. Try blowing in his face?

We've tried that.  Doesn't do anything, unfortunately.

[periwinkledaydreams]

Nov 14, 2015 19:44:59 GMT -5 wegrowsheep said:

carolyngrace I love it when I get to end an argument with the grand finale of an "if you acted like a grown-up" statement. And then he gets all huffy and storms off.

Literally... the end our fight (cause yes, Im in a fight with my SO tonight too) was him calling me selfish, and then proceeding to LEAVE THE HOUSE and not tell me where he's going or when he's coming back. Ummm, who's being selfish now???

Eta he's back and asleep on the couch.

[periwinkledaydreams]

Also, clearly not the end of the fight. This is a to be continued...