Waiting to do Something 11/16

[nuggetrn]

Gooooood Morning beautiful ladies!! Trying to get this posted early so we can get started. I will be back later to post my own update. I am currently in the waiting room at employee health. Woo fun, not.

penguin129 thank you for being so awesome and getting this going all these weeks!! Good luck moving forward!!

The Waiting to Do Something Thread is posted once a week (usually on Mondays) for those of us that experience long, extended cycles. Whether it's medicated cycles, long (45ish+ days) cycles, postpartum/breastfeeding, TTA, on the bench, or something else, this is the place we gather throughout the week to discuss and vent about our slightly unique situation.


Numbers:

Circumstances:

R/R/NFNSQ:

GTKY- Do you have Thanksgiving figured out? Where are you going, how many do you have to attend? Any Thanksgiving scheduling woes you would like to rant about? Or maybe things are going super smoothly this year and you would like to brag about it

[penguin129]

Aww... Thanks nuggetrn! You ladies are AWESOME! I was missing this thread already today. Thanks for tagging me in

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Numbers: CD 11 of a project 46 (ish). Cycle 3/month 4 temping. NTNP for approximately 10 months

Circumstances: Hypothyroid and TFAS

R/R/NFNSQ: long cycles are the pits, but at least I seem to be ovulating.

GTKY- Do you have Thanksgiving figured out? Where are you going, how many do you have to attend? Any Thanksgiving scheduling woes you would like to rant about? Or maybe things are going super smoothly this year and you would like to brag about it
We're way past thanksgiving here, I'm on to christmas dinner planning . I've never hosted christmas, so I'm hoping everything goes well.
Were having ham and turkey, along with a couple kinds of pies. I just need to figure out what to have xmas eve for snacks/supper.

[gabride2010]

Thanks for starting nuggetrn!

@sparky85 Sorry for the long cycles. They do suck!

AFM...
Numbers: Month 4, Cycle 2 CD 48 off BCP

Circumstances: TTA using pull out method (most of the time). Still waiting to O. I'm starting a plan for calling for Provera next week if no O

R/R/NFNSQ: So...H and I are somewhere in between TTA and NTNP. Well I haven't O'd yet, so I wouldn't call it NTNP exactly. CD 60 is the Saturday after thanksgiving, and I would want to start my Provera that day. I'm planning on calling on Tuesday for the RX and then start taking it on Saturday if I still haven't O'd.

I'm having so much EWCM this cycle. I guess it doesn't mean anything since my temps still aren't showing O.

GTKY: We haven't decided about Thanksgiving yet. We can either go to BIL and SIL's (ILs will be there too), but their house smells like pee, and I DNW to be in the pee house all day. We could also go to visit H's aunt and grandmother. I would like to see Aunt and Grandmother, but I know MIL will give us a huge guilt trip if we don't see them.

[dashook]

Hello lovely WTDS ladies! So, I realized over the past few days that while we said we weren't going to really try until next cycle (since I only JUST got my first PP period two weeks ago), the truth is that our hearts are in this and we really are TTC.

I guess this means I am officially moving on from this thread. It feels weird! This is the first place I started posting on GKU, back in April when I had a 3-month old and no real plan at all other than "I want to have more kids at some point." You guys are awesome and I will miss you all! Seriously, some of my favorite ladies on the whole TCF site post in this thread.

Anyway, I don't know why I felt the need to AW my exit so forgive me if that was annoying. And also please be advised that I may still lurk. Kthx

[nuggetrn]

dashook, AW your exit all you want!! I would have tracked you down anyway if you didn't say goodbye!! I am so happy for you guys!!! Good luck!

Burn that bench!!

[dashook]

Nov 16, 2015 10:41:45 GMT -5 nuggetrn said:

dashook, AW your exit all you want!! I would have tracked you down anyway if you didn't say goodbye!! I am so happy for you guys!!! Good luck!

Burn that bench!!

Thanks, girl!  Yeah I debated between posting something or not and in the end I thought it would be rude/weird not to say anything and just ghost you guys, which is NMS.

[RajahMD]

Numbers: Cycle 1 off BCP, CD5

Circumstances: NTNP for a few months while we wait to see what my cycle does off BCP

R/R/NFNSQ: GDI. I woke up in the middle of the night to pee. I didn't even think about temping until I had already sat on the toilet. At that point I looked at my watch and realized I had less than 3 hours before my alarm would go off. So I temped when it did, but I have no idea if it's accurate. Sometimes I really hate my bladder.

Also, I'm already getting anxious about whether or not I'll ovulate. It's been so long since I've had a natural cycle (~12 years), and they were irregular before that. GDI. Send me head pats please- I think I need them.

GTKY- Do you have Thanksgiving figured out? Where are you going, how many do you have to attend? Any Thanksgiving scheduling woes you would like to rant about? Or maybe things are going super smoothly this year and you would like to brag about it

Well, this is where things get interesting. I'm on call the week of Christmas, including the day of, so I have to remain within 30 minutes of the hospital at all times. This means that we can't go see my family until several days after Christmas. So, DH and I decided that we will spend all of Thanksgiving Day with my family and his family, who are local to us, will get us for all of Christmas Day. My aunt and uncle are hosting this year, so that should be fun. The IL's were confused for awhile and thought we would be coming by later on Thanksgiving for dessert, but DH clarified. Thankfully they are understanding and don't have a problem with that. But it was frustrating for a few days there.

I'm looking forward to taking dessert to my family's meal. I'm making Strawberry Pretzel Salad and DH is making eclair cake. 

[penguin129]

Yay dashook! Another WTDS graduate!

[hurricanerek]

dashook best of luck to you!
RajahMD I pee all night too. My temps are chartable as long as I temp at the same time each day. I understand how perplexing that first temping cycle can be though. This is just practice :-)

Numbers: CD 5

Circumstances: ttc next month

R/r: this is my last cycle TTA. I'm starting to get those pre-ttc jitters and I can't believe I'm going to do this again. I'm trying to recall my labor so that I make sure I'm really ready for all of that. #worthit

Gtky: we go to Dh's aunt's house which is about 2 hours away. I'm probably making mac and cheese :-)

[gabride2010]

Yay for burning the bench dashook! I'm so glad
You posted to let us know. Good luck TFAS!

RajahMD It's ok! I have done that too. *Some* people actually temp in their way to the bathroom in the morning. It just depends on your body if you can do that or not. One temp (especially so early in your chart) won't make a difference. That sucks that you are on call for Christmas. I'm on call for New Years...that's life I guess.

hurricanerek I'm so happy for this being your last TTA cycle! You better let us know when you officially burn the bench

[ourcrazynavylife]

Good morning everyone!

Numbers: N/A

Circumstances: started temping over the weekend just to start getting back in the habit. IUD removal Dec 9th. Waiting until March to TFAS.

R/R/NFNSQ: OMG. Huge rant. TFAS has been discussed multiple times with my DH. We talked time frame, EDD, everything. I told him when my IUD removal appt was last night and he had a HUGE freak out. Like seriously dude WTF. This is not new news.

Side note: we're both navy & he's seriously considering getting out so we'd be going down to one income for a while during the time of him figuring out his career and getting a job. Which is 110% fine with me because he's miserable at his current job.

Someone help me not kill him.

GTKY- we have zero plans. We're on the opposite coast from our entire family and all our friends are working or have plans. So I'll probably just cook a turkey breast and some sides.

[gabride2010]

Sorry your H freaked out ourcrazynavylife. Did he change his mind about TTC?

Welcome to WTDS misspatty. I got off bcp almost 4 months ago, and I'm so glad I did that before TTC.

[BabyStandish]

Numbers: N/A

Circumstances: TFAS, NTNP, Breastfeeding 10 month old and no sign of AF returning yet

R/R/NFNSQ: I'm embarrassed to admit how many times I POAS last week. I was feeling so nauseous all week and seriously thought I had to be KU, but nope. GAH.

GTKY- Do you have Thanksgiving figured out? Where are you going, how many do you have to attend? Any Thanksgiving scheduling woes you would like to rant about? Or maybe things are going super smoothly this year and you would like to brag about it
Yes, I'm going to my brother's house this year. He lives about 4 hours away. It'll just be his family and our little family. We rescued a dog this summer and we are really realizing how much traveling expenses rise because of it. We can't bring the dog because of his son's allergies (plus we have a small car), but we found a good petsitter to use. I'm planning on bringing the desserts so I'll be baking a pumpkin and apple pie.

[BabyStandish]

dashook Best of luck to you!!

[ourcrazynavylife]

gabride2010 I really don't know. It was like he all of a sudden looked at a calendar and realized what month it was. I think ultimately he lets me do what I want. But that really wasn't the attitude I wanted going into having a second child. So now I'm torn about what to do. We're having a long sit down conversation when he gets home from work today.

[TheEleventhHour]

@sparky85 Sorry you're dealing with long cycles but yay for still seeing O!

gabride2010 FX you O soon!

dashook Yay for burning the bench!!! GL!!!

RajahMD Try not to stress about temping especially in the first couple of cycles. Every body is different so you might find that you do not have to be super strict following the "rules". In my case I can pinpoint O without temping at the same time everyday (I just temp when I wake rather than setting an alarm). Some ladies can get up to pee and the temp and still pinpoint O. You will find what works best for you!

hurricanerek Yay! Only one more cycle before TTC!

ourcrazynavylife Sorry YH is freaking out a little. DH went back and forth for so long (and for a very long time we were one and done) so I know it can be frustrating. Hopefully he will come around soon and can find a new job that works better for him.

misspatty Welcome! I love your name and avatar

BabyStandish I have totally been there before. No shame! Just buy cheap HPTs lol.

[amandamh2]

Numbers: n/a

Circumstances: TTA until TFAS/NTNP in January depending on if AF returns

R/R/NFNSQ: The colder weather is already making me stir crazy. While it was nice out, my days got broken up by going for a walk every day but now that there's a nasty wind almost constantly DS can't be out long without getting upset. It's kind of lonely just hanging out at home with a baby, and I haven't met a lot of people here who are also free during the day (we moved when DS was 2 months old).

GTKY- Do you have Thanksgiving figured out? Where are you going, how many do you have to attend? Any Thanksgiving scheduling woes you would like to rant about? Or maybe things are going super smoothly this year and you would like to brag about it
Canadian here so Thanksgiving is long past. We went back to our hometown and had dinner with my family one day and DH's the other. It was the first time we've been back in a while since we were posted far away and it was really nice to have that time with our families.

[TheEleventhHour]

Numbers: N/A ... not currently keeping track

Circumstances: TTA until sometime next year

R/R/NFNSQ: So I have been excited because DH has finally (finally, finally) started talking more about TFAS as something that IS going to happen rather than something that MIGHT happen. This is a big deal because we were both one and done for a long time. Then I changed my mind but he was still one and done for awhile longer. He has slowing been warming up to it since early this year but now is totally onboard! DS has been crying a lot in his sleep lately and DH wanted to get a video monitor. I told him it seems silly since DS is almost 3 but then he goes "Well we can use it for the next kid!"

GTKY- Do you have Thanksgiving figured out? Where are you going, how many do you have to attend? Any Thanksgiving scheduling woes you would like to rant about? Or maybe things are going super smoothly this year and you would like to brag about it I go into work at 7p on Thanksgiving so we will have a low key day just the three of us!

[RajahMD]

Nov 16, 2015 15:29:10 GMT -5 TheEleventhHour said:

Numbers: N/A ... not currently keeping track

Circumstances: TTA until sometime next year

R/R/NFNSQ: So I have been excited because DH has finally (finally, finally) started talking more about TFAS as something that IS going to happen rather than something that MIGHT happen. This is a big deal because we were both one and done for a long time. Then I changed my mind but he was still one and done for awhile longer. He has slowing been warming up to it since early this year but now is totally onboard! DS has been crying a lot in his sleep lately and DH wanted to get a video monitor. I told him it seems silly since DS is almost 3 but then he goes "Well we can use it for the next kid!"

GTKY- Do you have Thanksgiving figured out? Where are you going, how many do you have to attend? Any Thanksgiving scheduling woes you would like to rant about? Or maybe things are going super smoothly this year and you would like to brag about it I go into work at 7p on Thanksgiving so we will have a low key day just the three of us!

That's exciting! Glad y'all are getting on the same page with TFAS.

[RajahMD]

Thanks for the head pats guys. I have OCD, so I tend to overthink things (more like everything) and can easily end up obsessed. Given my diagnosis, I have to be careful not to go down that path. That's part of the reason why we're starting out just NTNP and not jumping straight into TTC. It's also why I will probably never use OPK's.

Sometime I just need a reminder that not everything needs to be analyzed to death.

[littlelion]

@sparky85 already past thanksgiving?! I have to admit I was jamming to Christmas music this morning
gabride2010 GL with provera, sounds like you’re approaching things proactively
dashook woohoo! Congrats lady! Much luck to you TFAS
RajahMD GL o’ing...and it's ok, we're all prone to get hung up on something during this epic journey
hurricanerek I know what you mean but you’re so very right…it’s so worth it!
ourcrazynavylife oh, that is so annoying. Esp with something as important as this. GL with your conversation!
BabyStandish, LOL. Lady, I never POAS, but once in while (way before DH) I'd stop and worry I was KU and then had to remind myself that without sex that was very much impossible
misspatty welcome and GL temping!
TheEleventhHour very happy for you! 
amandamh2 sorry about the cold weather...perhaps there's a class you can take your LO too and start meeting moms in your area that way? or story time? Cabin fever is no fun with a LO (who can also get cabin fever too!)

[TheEleventhHour]

amandamh2 I feel you on dreading the cold weather! It makes it so much harder to get out and about. I was home with DS all last winter and the weather was so brutal we barely got outside. I found a lot of good indoor activities on Pinterest. Also maybe check out the website MeetUp to see if there are any mom groups in your area so you could try to get out once or twice a week?

[mosdub]

Nov 16, 2015 9:45:57 GMT -5 @sparky85 said:

I just need to figure out what to have xmas eve for snacks/supper.

I have a friend who wrapped bacon around whole water chestnuts and baked them.  SO FRIGGIN GOOD!  They were even good later in the evening after they cooled.

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littlelion Canadian thanksgiving was a month ago, so I don't have to worry about any other holidays before christmas.

mosdub bacon wrapped waterChestnuts are one of my FIL favorites.

So far I have chicken pot pie for "supper", some hot cheese dip, veggy tray, pepperoni, cheese plate and crackers. I keep feeling like that isn't enough for 8 adults and a toddler, but I have a tendency to overfeed people

[littlelion]

Numbers:Waiting 
Circumstances:Currently going thru an ectopic pregnancy. I asked my RE if I was benched after this and she said no. She wants me to track my cycle and start progesterone I think 3 dpo. She has a plan already. I do not. 

R/R/NFNSQ: Before I could get excited about a new pregnancy (esp since my RE gave me all the meds to take) this happened. I'm thankful that it was caught early and my RE has been wonderful and the nurses too.  My body needs a break. Emotionally I need a break. I worry when I'm not pregnant cause you know, my eggs are getting older by the minute. And I worry when I get that BFP. I'm going to wait at least one cycle before I re-evaluate.

Thanksgiving is at my oldest sister's place. She's such a planner that it's bugging me she hasn't responded to my what should I bring question. I've asked twice, and the second time was an email with options. We used to do big thanksgiving dinners at both sets of my grandparents. That was awesome. Now, we do it at my sisters with her inlaws which can be awkward since they don't speak Spanish and my DH doesn't speak much English. DH doesn't have much family in the U.S. but I'd love to go hang out with one of his cousins. But no invite just yet.

[mosdub]

Thanks for starting nuggetrn!

dashook Congrats on burning that bench!!! That matches gif is so satisfying to watch... I've watched it a lot.

RajahMD YAY! Welcome to WTDS! That temp you entered should be fine - I've done that before and still get the general curve of the temperature shifts. It's hard not to over-analyze the data, good for you trying to keep a lid on the anxiety. I've definitely spent hours comparing my charts with bfp/bfn charts and it never really gave me any real clue as to whether or not I was pregnant until it was test day.
amandamh2 is there any mommy groups where you live? Not sure if you're into that thing but maybe you could meet up with others?
hurricanerek how exciting it's almost ttc time!

ourcrazynavylife sorry about the H freak out Hope you guys can settle on something that you're both comfortable with.
TheEleventhHour cute H

[TheEleventhHour]

littlelion Hugs. Take your time. I'm glad you feel supported by your RE and nurses.

[dashook]

littlelion, big hugs. I'm so sorry you're going through that right now. If you need some time, don't be afraid to take it.

[hurricanerek]

Welcome misspatty!
amandamh2, are there any moms groups on meetup.com in your area? I just joined one in august and mine has activities every day of the week! It may be worth checking out just to get you and lo out of the house.
TheEleventhHour, I'm so glad your Dh is getting on board! That monitor story is so cute!
littlelion I'm so sorry you're going through this. It sounds like your RE is great but make sure you take the time you need.