Does anyone still get random bouts of nausea? I never had terrible morning sickness, but I still get mornings where everything makes me gag. Brushing my teerh, DD's food.... And no definitely not pregnant.
Post by kaydee0402 on Nov 18, 2015 10:21:54 GMT -5
@holachica, mm Chik-Fil-A! aggiebug, no nausea here, but I hope it clears up for you! It's probably just part of your hormones still trying to balance out. I still get night sweats. lilyelayne, if AF comes back, I hope she's polite! Mine was SO angry the first two times.
Post by kaydee0402 on Nov 18, 2015 10:28:57 GMT -5
I had a total mommy win yesterday. I worked late, but still had time to do a homemade dinner, clean our bath tub, start laundry, get Little Man bathed and in bed by 8:30, and did a work out. And my DH FINALLY fixed the leaking faucet in Little Man's bathroom (we had no water for the better part of the night while he fixed it, hence the late bath and bed time), so we're going to paint and decorate it after vacation so DS can have his own bathroom.
It's after days like yesterday that I don't feel like I'm failing horribly at this working mom thing. It was a much needed confidence boost. Hopefully the rest of the week will be just as good so I can make it to vacation with my sanity intact!
Post by kaydee0402 on Nov 18, 2015 10:30:45 GMT -5
badw0lf, that's totally normal. I called daycare after sending Little Man with solids for the first time to make sure it went smoothly and everything was okay. My anxiety could not handle waiting until 5:00! Just take deep breaths and call if you feel the need to. They won't think you're crazy, promise!
I'm crazy. I love this time of year - Christmas music, decorations, coffee, GETTING HOLIDAY CARDS IN THE MAIL (my favorite!!!), but I'm starting to get anxiety about how rushed it's all going to feel. We're going to Chile (we go every other Christmas, DH's grandparents have a farm there) 12/17, so I feel like I have to cram everything in before we leave. There's so much I want to do! And things like gingerbread house decorating for a work contest and making a pie for our office Thanksgiving lunch are already making me feel like the walls are caving in. I need to learn to breathe and enjoy it. Especially since I get super sad once the holidays are over and I still have to wait a few months for sunshine.
Post by toadandbuggie on Nov 18, 2015 10:46:16 GMT -5
@holachica, MMMM chick fil a. There is not one near me!
badw0lf, I'm with ya on horrible visions. One time I left Mason sleeping in the rock n play at my parents when he was beginning to roll and I almost had a panic attack envisioning him rolling in the rock n play and suffocating.
kaydee0402, You are doing a fantastic job as a working mom even if you didn't get all those things done (but kudos to you!). Seriously, I worked part time (3 full days) for a month and I didn't get ANYTHING done after work.
My spam...
My old workplace called me a week ago and asked if I was still interested in a part time/on call position for working weekends and such when I was available. I said, of course! They said, okay we will call you soon and discuss details. Now the job is posted on their website. I'm slightly confused. Do I send in my resume again? I didn't know they were going to post it. I called the boss, but he was in a conference call. I'm really hoping I get it...! I'm going there tomorrow for a seminar for credits for my license so maybe I will get to talk to him then.
I walk Mason fairly often around the neighborhood. This one neighbor I run into occasionally. It's starting to feel uncomfortable though because she compliments me in a weird way.... I appreciate it, but I don't know what to say back. For example, yesterday she was like "Ugh.. you are so tiny! I bet you are one of those girls who are annoying and always small."
Um... thanks? I guess?
I have a background of eating disorders and poor self body image and it bothers me. No, I have not always been small and I worked really hard to get to where I am now. Am I being sensitive?
toadandbuggie wtf kind of compliment is that?? no you aren't being sensitive, that's pretty rude. i'd be like, "haha! i bet you are one of those girls who are annoying." and that's it. lol
toadandbuggie Sounds like she's "The Game"ing you, although heaven knows why... If you feel bothered by it you should tell her off, otherwise I think you should just ignore it.
*wispers* I tried a new routine/schedule today. So far it seems to be working really well for both me and DD. But I don't want to jinx it, so pretend I never said anything.
Post by toadandbuggie on Nov 18, 2015 11:11:09 GMT -5
@alyllyra, I'm going to ignore it because I think she meant it as a compliment, albeit a weird one. I just wish people were more careful with things they say about body image. I've struggled a lot for 10+ years and it makes me extremely uncomfortable for people to really focus on my weight. It's like once you get pregnant and have a baby everyone can comment on your weight.
Apparently once you get pregnant and have a baby people think they can comment on EVERYTHING. I'm awkward to begin with, and people putting their two cents in/giving their opinion/weird compliments make everything even more awkward.
Also feeling some AF feelings. I have the crampy, tummy trouble part but nothing to show for it. I'm sure now that I'm trying to quit EPing she's making her way back to me. Sad. I surely haven't missed her these past 18 months!
toadandbuggie try to not let it bother you. People can be insensitive. My own mother constantly comments about my weight (I'm a bigger girl and working on getting smaller) and I've realized it's just bc she's insecure. Don't let a stranger get to you.
Post by toadandbuggie on Nov 18, 2015 11:21:39 GMT -5
badw0lf, Wow that is weird. Why say that out loud? I mean, I think random things like that, but I would never SAY it to someone.
danitaec, So true. I became a SAHM and everyone thinks it's their business to comment on that as well. "Don't you want to add to your retirement? Don't you want to make your own money? Aren't you bored?" STFU!
Post by toadandbuggie on Nov 18, 2015 11:24:47 GMT -5
dreemkin, So does my mother and I think that's where it all stems from. Ever since I was little she always commented negatively on her weight and then when I got older would look me up and down and comment. Whether it be positive or negative, it just made me feel SO uncomfortable to be x-rayed like that. Like two weeks ago she demanded to know how much I weigh. "How much do you weigh? You've never been this small. Well, actually, you were small in high school." Like wtf, really? Thank you for updating me on me.
Pregnancy was the worst, because everybody evaluated you to see if you were showing and it made me cringe.
ETA: I read an article one time on teaching your daughter a positive body image. The jist was that the number one thing is to not comment on weight whatsoever, whether positive or negative. It puts value on outward appearance and can teach that the way you look, small or large, is important. I agree. I think you can just say "You look beautiful, honey."
toadandbuggie yup, my mom was the worst in high school when insecurity and self image is shaky anyway. And then she'd try to spin it like she just wanted me to be healthy and saying I was fat was out of love. But yeah, I know I'm going to have to work on just not saying anything about my girls bc I keep finding myself saying they are so skinny and tiny but it doesn't matter (they are healthy). As much as I don't want to be like my mom (in the negative aspects) I find myself saying things that sound like her. Ugh *slaps own hand*
My randoms are not exciting. Maybe going to get my new phone today. I want the new samsung note. I've never before gotten a phone when it just comes out. I always get the older, cheaper upgrade. I hate to spend the money but I want a bigger phone (I use my phone the least as a phone) and I admit, I like the stylus!
Post by lilyelayne on Nov 18, 2015 12:15:06 GMT -5
agm04 hope your enjoyment of the holidays is greater than your stress about the holidays. that's my goal every year, too.
toadandbuggie does your workplace have a policy that every job opening must be posted?
Also, re: your neighbor, that is not a compliment and you're not required to treat it as such. If you'd like to, just say thank you and move on and do your best not to spiral on it. If you'd like to somewhat acknowledge that is is not a compliment (no matter what her intentions were, or no matter if she doesn't recognize such statements as a product of body hate/shame culture) you can always choose something like "Please don't comment on my appearance; it makes me uncomfortable." ; "Wow." *walk away* ; "I don't discuss appearances." ; "I don't talk about bodies." ; "{I think you meant well but} that hurt my feelings." ; ignoring it entirely and switching topics immediately.
Neighbor: Ugh, you are so tiny BLAH BLAH BLAH. You: I'm so glad it stopped raining. Neighbor: I bet you don't even work out. You: I really like the flowers you planted. What kind are they? Neighbor: You're probably one of those girls who can eat whatever. You: Look at my darling baby! Let me regale you with the minutiae of his day!
Or choose to always exit the conversation if it touches on anyone's appearance, or stay and chat if it doesn't & you feel like it.
I, uh, may have an issue with accepting body shame culture norms. Also a member of the eating disorder currently in remission club.
agm04 hope your enjoyment of the holidays is greater than your stress about the holidays. that's my goal every year, too.
toadandbuggie does your workplace have a policy that every job opening must be posted?
Also, re: your neighbor, that is not a compliment and you're not required to treat it as such. If you'd like to, just say thank you and move on and do your best not to spiral on it. If you'd like to somewhat acknowledge that is is not a compliment (no matter what her intentions were, or no matter if she doesn't recognize such statements as a product of body hate/shame culture) you can always choose something like "Please don't comment on my appearance; it makes me uncomfortable." ; "Wow." *walk away* ; "I don't discuss appearances." ; "I don't talk about bodies." ; "{I think you meant well but} that hurt my feelings." ; ignoring it entirely and switching topics immediately.
Neighbor: Ugh, you are so tiny BLAH BLAH BLAH. You: I'm so glad it stopped raining. Neighbor: I bet you don't even work out. You: I really like the flowers you planted. What kind are they? Neighbor: You're probably one of those girls who can eat whatever. You: Look at my darling baby! Let me regale you with the minutiae of his day!
Or choose to always exit the conversation if it touches on anyone's appearance, or stay and chat if it doesn't & you feel like it.
I, uh, may have an issue with accepting body shame culture norms. Also a member of the eating disorder currently in remission club.
Hehe that made me smile! It does sound so ridiculous when people "compliment" you like that, cause what are you supposed to say? "Yeah, I'm pretty annoying."
My work place does have a policy of advertising every job as its government. I just spoke with the boss who told me to drop off a resume with him and send it over to HR. fingers crossed I get it. It's a good opportunity to not work full time or set hours and still keep my foot in the door. Honestly if it doesn't pull through I will try to look for something else flexible in the same field. I don't want to become obsolete.
So maybe I am just crazy over here with my nausea .
Today I think it's probably post nasal drip related, (although that isn't always the culprit) but it's so sporadic and out of no where what sets me off. Weird.
Post by seamonster on Nov 18, 2015 13:31:45 GMT -5
MOTY here. I tripped over my own feet carrying the baby, my pump bag and the diaper bag in from the car and the door banged him in the head. So much screaming. I think he's ok. No bruise it looks like, but I feel so bad. He smacks his head so much that a helmet would not be a bad thing until he doesn't need to be carried by clumsy mommy.
MOTY here. I tripped over my own feet carrying the baby, my pump bag and the diaper bag in from the car and the door banged him in the head. So much screaming. I think he's ok. No bruise it looks like, but I feel so bad. He smacks his head so much that a helmet would not be a bad thing until he doesn't need to be carried by clumsy mommy.
Aww poor momma and poor kid. I am sure it was just as traumatic for you as for him.
So I ended up getting called into work. Only from 11pm to 430am so I was able to come home and take a little nap before having to get up and leave the house again at 9am. It didn't help sitting through that boring class though. I was hoping to get some Christmas and grocery shopping done but now it's cold and rainy and I just want baby snuggles.
Re body image: my mom is really bad with the "suck it in" type comments. I am on her all the time about saying that kind of stuff to DD or anywhere near her. She's going to get that enough from society sadly and she doesn't need to hear it from her nana too. I personally wouldn't be able to just ignore your neighbors comments. I would have have to say something, no matter what her intentions are. I'm not sure what, because I've never had some random person that I hardly know say anything about my weight to my face, but I couldn't ignore it. Sorry
toadandbuggie I agree with all lilyelayne said. Talking like that to someone is not a compliment. It might have been well meaning, but it a not. It's harmful and toxic communication.
I understand if you don't want to be confrontational. At minimum I would change the subject drastically and maybe awkwardly so they get the point you aren't talking about your body and your weight. And with your mom get serious about it. "I don't want to talk about my body and weight with you, what are you making for dinner tonight?", " my body is off limits, how is old neighbor doing?", "I am not discussing it with you, we can talk about your new hobby though". Etc
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