Working. Desperately trying to stay awake. Last night's HOA meeting was absolutely nuts and at one point I had to step outside to avoid a complete meltdown. I was running late getting home from work and had to be at the meeting early, so I didn't manage to get any dinner before the meeting. Tensions were high, there was a lot of yelling. H finally took pity on me and went to the store nearby to get me a coke and some peanuts.
Post by goldenlove3 on Nov 20, 2015 13:01:53 GMT -5
For the past hour and a half, I've been deleting ~200 emails from people replying to all to an email that was very obviously sent out by mistake. It was a system email that accidentally included a group that has 8000 people in it and the very first line in the email says "do not reply". People are either asking why they got it or telling other people not to reply to all. I really wanted to respond with a picture of a post it because they are all going on my list.
For the past hour and a half, I've been deleting ~200 emails from people replying to all to an email that was very obviously sent out by mistake. It was a system email that accidentally included a group that has 8000 people in it and the very first line in the email says "do not reply". People are either asking why they got it or telling other people not to reply to all. I really wanted to respond with a picture of a post it because they are all going on my list.
OMG. I love the people that Reply All yelling at everyone who replied all. They are my favorite.
Holy this is long after I typed it but tl:dr: Inlaws are assholes who want control of everything but want us to give them grandkids but when we need them to do something to help reach this goal they don't put their words into actions.
I wish I was day drinking. We waiting until FIL had gone to bed to finish getting our stuff ready for hunting this weekend. We then packed it up in the car and got up really early so we would be gone from the house before he got up. I slept for 2 hours because I couldn't sleep. Last night did not go well at all.
We are going to be starting the foster to adopt process due to most likely having to do IVF (which I highly doubt we will be doing) after the holidays which means a home study but we need them to pack up their items (they still have most of their stuff there) so we can have room for a child in this house. It is technically their house but there has been much talk about land contracts etc. and they are in FL while we are in WI. They won't be coming back for 4 more years. They want to turn the basement where I have all of our books and the pool table and other tv is there as well into storage. There is 10 lbs of stuff in a 5 lb house. They need to get a storage unit and they won't do it.
Every thing we were saying they would not listen to. They said per their mortgage this has to be there primary residence but yet, they file taxes as FL residents, that is their mailing address, that is their drivers license-don't think by you having your stuff here it makes you residents. They then said we are house sitting and I shouldn't be calling it rent. They still have a financial responsibility to the house. Any maintenance requests we have they don't listen to and we bang our head against the wall trying to get them to think there is an issue. I told them if there were here the pool would have been fixed 2 years ago but because they aren't here it is out of sight out of mind. In a previous conversation it was going to be January when they came up to start this process-now it works better for them in April so they will do it then which means our hands would be tied until then and they don't want us boxing it all up.
So while we have IF and the one thing we could control is working on the house we don't even have that. They also said this was all sprung on them and they still have to process it-WTF do you have to process of the fact we can't have biological children so we are looking at adopting?! You got to have kids-we have to jump through a million hoops for us to be able to have children and we need your help with the house and you won't do it. We feel like they are valuing their possessions over us having kids/giving them grandkids. This is making us feel even more inferior and inadequate in this situation......
We are ready to move, our pastor is going to try to talk sense into them because they promised certain things and they are already breaking them. We are ready to never talk to them again or let them see any kids if this is how they act and treat us.
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
For the past hour and a half, I've been deleting ~200 emails from people replying to all to an email that was very obviously sent out by mistake. It was a system email that accidentally included a group that has 8000 people in it and the very first line in the email says "do not reply". People are either asking why they got it or telling other people not to reply to all. I really wanted to respond with a picture of a post it because they are all going on my list.
I freaking hate Reply All offenders of all varieties! That's when I hit the "ignore conversation" button on Outlook - they then go directly into my deleted items box!
For the past hour and a half, I've been deleting ~200 emails from people replying to all to an email that was very obviously sent out by mistake. It was a system email that accidentally included a group that has 8000 people in it and the very first line in the email says "do not reply". People are either asking why they got it or telling other people not to reply to all. I really wanted to respond with a picture of a post it because they are all going on my list.
I freaking hate Reply All offenders of all varieties! That's when I hit the "ignore conversation" button on Outlook - they then go directly into my deleted items box!
The last 20 or so emails were people explaining how to ignore or create a rule to stop the emails. I seriously wanted to scream!
For the past hour and a half, I've been deleting ~200 emails from people replying to all to an email that was very obviously sent out by mistake. It was a system email that accidentally included a group that has 8000 people in it and the very first line in the email says "do not reply". People are either asking why they got it or telling other people not to reply to all. I really wanted to respond with a picture of a post it because they are all going on my list.
F*** the Reply All feature. People are idiots, I swear.
I'm so sorry butlerfan. They sound very self-centered, at best.
Would they maybe go with a storage unit if you paid for it?
The whole thing sounds unbelievably frustrating.
Nope. Either the boxes need to go in the guest bedroom (where their bed and dressers will be) so no guest bedroom at all or in the basement. Or we have to move. They were not listening to why that won't work and that they do need a storage unit. Nope they are refusing because it boils down to their stuff is "nicer" than ours so shut up and put up with it. But oh wait make it your own. Oh wait nope not if you want that moved. F that at this point.
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
butlerfan how awful. I'm so sorry. I'm not familiar with your situation--is there any way for you guys to get your own place?
I think that is what it is going to have to come to. I would love to have our kids grow up in the house that H grew up in but not if we can't make it into what we need and every conversation they backtrack on their promises.
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
butlerfan how awful. I'm so sorry. I'm not familiar with your situation--is there any way for you guys to get your own place?
I think that is what it is going to have to come to. I would love to have our kids grow up in the house that H grew up in but not if we can't make it into what we need and every conversation they backtrack on their promises.
You have to do what's right for you and your situation. Don't write them out of your life but it wouldn't hurt to buy some distance between you for a bit.
This is my opinion from the tiny bit if information I know.
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