Post by sunfrogger88 on Jan 31, 2015 9:00:20 GMT -5
It's a little late but can I play?
FFFC: my husband thinks I orgasm most of the time we bd. I don't all the time but some of the time. But it's so fun to play I don't want to get him upset. So I keep it to myself. I don't keep it to myself all the time.
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FFFC: my husband thinks I orgasm most of the time we bd. I don't all the time but some of the time. But it's so fun to play I don't want to get him upset. So I keep it to myself. I don't keep it to myself all the time.
The only one you're hurting is you. You can tell your husband what you like in the bedroom without hurting his feelings. Or you can keep having mediocre sex..whatevs.
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FFFC: my husband thinks I orgasm most of the time we bd. I don't all the time but some of the time. But it's so fun to play I don't want to get him upset. So I keep it to myself. I don't keep it to myself all the time.
I don't understand this at all. I like to orgasm. And I'm going to make sure sex is awesome for me, too.
FFFC: my husband thinks I orgasm most of the time we bd. I don't all the time but some of the time. But it's so fun to play I don't want to get him upset. So I keep it to myself. I don't keep it to myself all the time.
I can understand this. DH and I usually have amazing sex. But there are times that I don't O and really enjoyed it anyway. I don't never lie to him about, but if he doesn't ask I don't point it out. I'm sure he knows if I don't though. It's usually pretty obvious.
FFFC: my husband thinks I orgasm most of the time we bd. I don't all the time but some of the time. But it's so fun to play I don't want to get him upset. So I keep it to myself. I don't keep it to myself all the time.
You're not a robot. If you don't O then you don't O. It's not a big deal and it shouldn't hurt his ego if you don't. You're only hurting both of you by lying.
We had sex the other day, I knew it wasn't going to happen for me, so I made it fun for him. He knew I didn't, it wasn't a big deal. It was still fun and even more fun to put the focus on him for a change so I could see just what I was doing to him -- which was making him make some noise
Post by icaughtfire on Jan 31, 2015 10:56:00 GMT -5
I'm not saying you HAVE to O every time you have sex, but if your husband thinks you are he's gonna keep doing what he's doing & that clearly isn't working.
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Perhaps you should talk to your friend instead of "laying into" the child when her mother isn't around.
Perhaps the wrong words to use. If she goes after my kid when her mom isn't around, I speak up and tell her to back off. When her mom is there I don't feel that it's my place to tell her to stop and will remove my kid from the situation.
FFFC: my husband thinks I orgasm most of the time we bd. I don't all the time but some of the time. But it's so fun to play I don't want to get him upset. So I keep it to myself. I don't keep it to myself all the time.
I can understand this. DH and I usually have amazing sex. But there are times that I don't O and really enjoyed it anyway. I don't never lie to him about, but if he doesn't ask I don't point it out. I'm sure he knows if I don't though. It's usually pretty obvious.
I wouldn't say I outright lie but I don't point it out. It's difficult because I really need frontal.. action.. And I just don't feel like the whole horse and pony show all the time. But we do have fantastic sex. Just sometimes I'm not up for the show and I'm in it for him. I just keep it to myself. No biggie deal. Thanks for the advices ladies
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FFFC I've been having a hard time sleeping. I lay awake in the middle of the night afraid, of things that aren't real and of people breaking into my house.
Same. I ended up putting a fan and TV in my room to drown out weird noises.
Omg puppy! I expect lots of pictures and stories. I suggest working with a trainer or going to a puppy class. They are cute but labs are like little land sharks. If he's a mix though he might not be as bad as a purebred. Did you go to a breeder or rescue?
We are getting a puppy next Thursday. He's a roly poly 7 weeks old lab mix, sweet as anything and just adorable. FFFC: I've never raised a puppy and I'm terrified of everything people have told me about labs!
Second FFFC: I think my friend's daughter is a little bitch and needs some serious discipline. I want to smack said friend every time she says her kid is "so sweet". I smile and bite my tongue but when she shoves my kid and her mom isn't around I lay into her.
Pictures required when you get him! Don't worry too much - we got my Hank at 8 weeks (yellow lab) and he's been amazing! He was my first dog too and I can't imagine not having a dog now.
Just be consistent with training. He needs to know you are the pack leader, not him. I'm not a trainer by any means, but if you have any questions feel free to PM me! I really recommend crate training if you haven't considered it yet.
+1 to all of that.
You can pm me too. I trained our pup (with the help of a trainer) and there are a lot of different training styles. I work with a rescue and help with basic command training so feel free to ask questions. Dogforums.com was helpful too!
Omg puppy! I expect lots of pictures and stories. I suggest working with a trainer or going to a puppy class. They are cute but labs are like little land sharks. If he's a mix though he might not be as bad as a purebred. Did you go to a breeder or rescue?
Crap- now I want a puppy
Our lab is purebred and he's awesome. Apparently his whole litter has a calm demeanor. It's great!
Perhaps the wrong words to use. If she goes after my kid when her mom isn't around, I speak up and tell her to back off. When her mom is there I don't feel that it's my place to tell her to stop and will remove my kid from the situation.
ETA: mom thinks she can do no wrong
Well isn't that nice.
So what do you want her to do- keep letting the other kid act like an asshat unchecked while she is in charge of her and let the other child harass hers?
Nope. If I am watching your kid and they act up, they will be corrected. You are out of your mind to think that other people are going to let your child be a brat completely unchecked because you aren't around.
So what do you want her to do- keep letting the other kid act like an asshat unchecked while she is in charge of her and let the other child harass hers?
Nope. If I am watching your kid and they act up, they will be corrected. You are out of your mind to think that other people are going to let your child be a brat completely unchecked because you aren't around.
I think her original word choice wasn't the best, but yea, you can bet that I'll be correcting your kid if I'm responsible for them. Hell, I'd probably even correct them if I wasn't and they hit or harassed my kid.
So what do you want her to do- keep letting the other kid act like an asshat unchecked while she is in charge of her and let the other child harass hers?
Nope. If I am watching your kid and they act up, they will be corrected. You are out of your mind to think that other people are going to let your child be a brat completely unchecked because you aren't around.
I think her original word choice wasn't the best, but yea, you can bet that I'll be correcting your kid if I'm responsible for them. Hell, I'd probably even correct them if I wasn't and they hit or harassed my kid.
It takes a village and all that.
Correcting behavior isn't calling a toddler a bitch and, forgive me if I quote incorrectly, "laying into" the child.
I think her original word choice wasn't the best, but yea, you can bet that I'll be correcting your kid if I'm responsible for them. Hell, I'd probably even correct them if I wasn't and they hit or harassed my kid.
It takes a village and all that.
Correcting behavior isn't calling a toddler a bitch and, forgive me if I quote incorrectly, "laying into" the child.
My husband just finished up a super rigorous grad school program while working full time. He had classes all day, every Saturday for the past year and a half. It was pretty stressful for him, especially since he takes FOREVER to read anything and organize his thoughts for essays and such (he freely admits this). As much as I love my husband, I wish he was still in classes...I really miss my alone time on the weekends.
That's great that he finished the program. I bet he feels relieved. But I do agree on the alone time. My husband ski patrols on weekends during winter and I love having that Saturday or Sunday to myself. I think the alone time allows me to handle things better, lets me unwind. lol
I think her original word choice wasn't the best, but yea, you can bet that I'll be correcting your kid if I'm responsible for them. Hell, I'd probably even correct them if I wasn't and they hit or harassed my kid.
It takes a village and all that.
Correcting behavior isn't calling a toddler a bitch and, forgive me if I quote incorrectly, "laying into" the child.
I don't think she called the toddler a bitch to her face. I think she just used that word here.
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I don't think she called the toddler a bitch to her face. I think she just used that word here.
I still find it incredibly inappropriate...
Yep, this.
No one has a problem with someone disciplining a child that is shoving your child. It was the insinuation that the actions would be different depending on whether the mother was present or not. It is also not cool to refer to a toddler as "a little bitch". You can bet your ass that I would discipline a kid that was fucking with my kid, but I'd do the exact same thing whether the mom was there or not (if she chose not to acknowledge it on her own) and it wouldn't be described as "laying into her".
The original post was most definitely worded poorly. People responded to those words as written because none of us are skilled enough to psychically interpret through our computers how those words were intended. Words mean things. If you don't want to mean those things then don't use those words.
Post by icaughtfire on Feb 1, 2015 14:12:24 GMT -5
I'm all for correcting a child's behavior, whether they're your kid or not. But describing a child as a little bitch...really? Although, where it's coming from, I'm not even surprised.
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So what do you want her to do- keep letting the other kid act like an asshat unchecked while she is in charge of her and let the other child harass hers?
Nope. If I am watching your kid and they act up, they will be corrected. You are out of your mind to think that other people are going to let your child be a brat completely unchecked because you aren't around.
This topic is all played out, but you completely misinterpreted my meaning here.
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