aggiebug, I love red wine. My favorite is Pinot Noir.
I seem to remember you're in NC, is that right? Have you been to any wineries? DH and I are sad we're not going to the Yadkin Valley wine festival next week.
Our favorite winery is in Shelby, kind of nearish to Charlotte. They have excellent reds. I also like dry reds.
Yes, I'm in Raleigh. I have been to some of wineries. My brother lives outside of Charlotte, so he has taken me to some. The last one we went to was Shelton Vineyards in Dobson. The restaurant there was amazing! I haven't ever been to the wine festival, but I've heard it is great.
I struggle to remember to talk about things other than DS even with DH. Also a struggle is how many sentences start with "one of my forum girls" or "I was talking with my forum girls" in any given conversation.
My husband laughs at me when I tell stories about what happens on the forum. He doesn't understand this whole thing.
After being on these forums for 6 years H is finally used to the idea.
I feel like I would be liking H better if he actually acknowledged the things I accomplish during the day instead of giving me the side-eye for not folding/putting away a load of laundry from the dryer. Yesterday, I: showered (yay); did 2 other loads of laundry and put them away (I have to be strategic about using the dryer because it has a loud buzzer that I can't turn off that wakes up LO if he's napping); went to the grocery store with LO; made myself a healthy lunch; scrubbed the pots and pans we used on Mother's Day to make a nice meal for H's parents; wiped down the kitchen; unloaded and re-loaded the dishwasher; went on a walk with LO to the library; and I went to the gym (LO went to gym care for the first time). I also played with and cared for our fussy and adorable 3 month old.
H himself has noted how hard it is to get stuff done while watching LO, and he knows we don't have a maid. But he makes comments (implying that I nap with LO all day, for example, or not understanding why I'm tired at night) that kind of bring me down and then I get defensive and list everything I do and I feel like a petty person. Bleh, sorry for my second vent of the day. It feels good to type it out; makes me feel less crazy for some reason.
TLDR; being a mom is hard work and my H needs a junk-punch
Holy shit, superwoman, you got all that accomplished in one day? Of course you were hurt when your H noticed the one thing you didn't do instead of the mountain of tasks you did accomplish. Mountain. You go, mama, I'm hella impressed.
aggiebug, lilyelayne, thanks for the support. I love-love-love being home with LO and I am proud of myself for not constantly comparing my new role with my old one (being a prosecuting attorney). I have zero regrets about quitting my job. I need to tell H to stop being a butthead and making me insecure. I'm sure he has no idea.
And I am going to google our dryer model to see what I can do about that darn buzzer!
Post by seamonster on May 12, 2015 16:38:04 GMT -5
cginge you're doing an amazing amount of work. I'm happy if I can do a load of laundry and make dinner on the same day. Sorry YH isn't acknowledging that.
aggiebug, we use the white noise machine for bedtime but not for naps. According to Google, I should be able to disable the buzzer. It involves dealing with live wires though and I'm not handy sooo I think it can be H's job...
And just for the record, I consider a successful day to be showering, changing out of my pajamas (and, let's be honest, into clean pajama-type clothes), and making an effort at dinner (such as having all the ingredients out on the counter by the time H gets home).
I feel like I would be liking H better if he actually acknowledged the things I accomplish during the day instead of giving me the side-eye for not folding/putting away a load of laundry from the dryer. Yesterday, I: showered (yay); did 2 other loads of laundry and put them away (I have to be strategic about using the dryer because it has a loud buzzer that I can't turn off that wakes up LO if he's napping); went to the grocery store with LO; made myself a healthy lunch; scrubbed the pots and pans we used on Mother's Day to make a nice meal for H's parents; wiped down the kitchen; unloaded and re-loaded the dishwasher; went on a walk with LO to the library; and I went to the gym (LO went to gym care for the first time). I also played with and cared for our fussy and adorable 3 month old.
H himself has noted how hard it is to get stuff done while watching LO, and he knows we don't have a maid. But he makes comments (implying that I nap with LO all day, for example, or not understanding why I'm tired at night) that kind of bring me down and then I get defensive and list everything I do and I feel like a petty person. Bleh, sorry for my second vent of the day. It feels good to type it out; makes me feel less crazy for some reason.
TLDR; being a mom is hard work and my H needs a junk-punch
Wow! That's impressive. I played with LO, took a nap and read an entire book while the cleaning lady cleaned my house. It was a lazy day.
I would try to show DH all the work you do when your not in defensive mode. Oh and then give him a punch in the junk.
aggiebug, we use the white noise machine for bedtime but not for naps. According to Google, I should be able to disable the buzzer. It involves dealing with live wires though and I'm not handy sooo I think it can be H's job...
We are trying transition from rnp to pnp. Not going well so far. I had lo sleep in the rnp for an hour and a half hoping he would be in deep sleep. Then transfered him. Five minutes later he is kindof wining almost crying but kind still asleap. I'm waiting to see if he full on wakes up. I predict a long night
After all the moaning and little sleep crys lo went to sleep for 3 plus hours. He's back in there after earing and is thrashing around If he can get to 430 I'll be really happy. Then we can have snuggles in the big bed and it will have been in the normal range of sleep for him.
LO is GASSY, all capital letter to stress the severity. Woke up thrashing about wildly. He's been bad about going to sleep lately, DH hasn't been able to put him to bed early evening, I ended up nursing him to sleep several nights in a row. So many bad habits are forming these days... He hasn't been in his crib for over a week, the cosleeper is getting way too small for him esp with his one arm out of the swaddle. I need to transition him to his crib in the nursery soon.
Post by hollydfromtn on May 19, 2015 4:03:08 GMT -5
My LO was just up screaming with gas pains too. Bless his heart. I got him some gripe water and we are now nursing. He has let out some man sized farts in the past few minutes. No wonder his little tummy was hurting.
DD is up early too. She'd normally sleep for another two hours. Feeding her then we're going back to bed.
Still having trouble sleeping and I don't know why. I might make DH stop at the store and make him pick up some zzzquil and see if that works for me just to help go to sleep. This has just really been sucking.
DS got up around 5:30. I'm not sure what time I should be getting up nowadays, but I set my alarm for 6:30. I'm debating whether I should lie back down for a few or just stay up snuggling him in the glider. I think I'll stay up today since I can still nap later. It'll be harder starting tomorrow with work.
I probably should have done side-lying and stayed in bed, but I'm not sure how he'd react to my alarm clock. I'd like to try and get a shower in the mornings while he sleeps.
I probably should have done side-lying and stayed in bed, but I'm not sure how he'd react to my alarm clock. I'd like to try and get a shower in the mornings while he sleeps.
My fitbit that I wear on my wrist has an alarm feature. It just vibrates. Never used it before I had DS, but now it's awesome for if we're snoozing together.
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