Post by Leapinglizards on Jan 30, 2015 10:05:08 GMT -5
I sometimes go to parties even though I would rather sleep because I know everyone will dote on the baby and I will get some time for myself to let loose
I lurk on TD from time to time because now they have ALL THE CRAZY and it's reassuring to know I'm not actually completely nuts. I know I'm a terrible person.
I lurk on TD from time to time because now they have ALL THE CRAZY and it's reassuring to know I'm not actually completely nuts. I know I'm a terrible person.
I can't give it up. It's awful, but it's like watching a train wreck and I can't look away.
Post by jnnfrrose6 on Jan 30, 2015 10:20:45 GMT -5
I'm exhausted today even though DD slept last night (well, she slept to 5am, but I was getting up at 5:30 anyways). I foresee a nap in the room I pump in later today.
I lurk in the GKU board but rarely post because I feel mean TTC when some of the GKU members don't have kids yet or have had a rough time TTC.
I felt that way when I started TTC last time around, but found that they really don't hold it against you (for lack of a better phrase) for having kid(s) and wanting more. As long as you aren't ridiculous in what you post and actually support others in what they are going through, give legit advice, and make an effort to be a part of the community you aren't going to get flamed.
I have been using the baby to avoid sex certain nights. DH will give off signs he wants to have sex after B crashes, so I'll keep nursing B long after he is asleep because it's quiet and I can catch up on my FB/GBCB/Reddit.
I know this isn't healthy, but it's only a night a week I let myself do this.
I think we've had sex 3 times since DD was born. The hubs doesn't push it and I just don't feel into it now with my body being what it is after having her.
Post by luckynumbers81 on Jan 30, 2015 11:11:15 GMT -5
Here's my confession:
I normally don't lie to spare people's feelings, because usually I don't care, but I did yesterday. Feel free to flame away.
A friend's husband came back after a 9 month deployment. She arranged to have photos taken during the reunion as he got off the plane. She posted them online and asked me if I liked them. I said I did. In reality I'm not a fan of photographs of intimate moments overall and particularly not ones of folks ugly crying. Strong emotions make me feel awkward. So, that's me, I'm a big fat liar!
I have been using the baby to avoid sex certain nights. DH will give off signs he wants to have sex after B crashes, so I'll keep nursing B long after he is asleep because it's quiet and I can catch up on my FB/GBCB/Reddit.
I know this isn't healthy, but it's only a night a week I let myself do this.
I think we've had sex 3 times since DD was born. The hubs doesn't push it and I just don't feel into it now with my body being what it is after having her.
Ditto. It might be 4, but all I know is that it's not enjoyable one bit for me anymore. I hope that will change when I'm done BF'ing, because I thought this was supposed to be my prime!!! Luckily DH doesn't have much of a drive right now either, so I don't have to constantly turn down advances. I guess that's what happens after 8 years together.
Confession: I finally put Punky in her crib the other night. I've been putting it off because I wasn't ready for her to be so far away. She goes down super easy, but I still move her to the PNP in our room when she wakes MOTN. Baby steps for mommy.
I lurk in the GKU board but rarely post because I feel mean TTC when some of the GKU members don't have kids yet or have had a rough time TTC.
When I was TTC I lurked that board for 6 months because I was too shy to post. I remember there being a few ladies who were TFAS. The main thing seemed to not be an asshole or give bad advice.
ETA looks like jnnfrrose6 covered this already!
I know, I think it's just British politeness & overthinking holding me back. Offending someone by accident eats my people up inside for months, or even years after and we slowly die of guilt.
I'm worried about having more issues like I did between my DDs but would feel so cruel saying I'm worried about it happening again, especially if I go on to have a healthy pregnancy first try.
What-ifs and not knowing what to do for the best makes me stress-y *headdesk*
DH and I have always had a pretty equal division of labor for household chores... He has been taking over more and more of mine and I have been letting him and probably not feeling as guilty as I should about it.
I think we've had sex 3 times since DD was born. The hubs doesn't push it and I just don't feel into it now with my body being what it is after having her.
Ditto. It might be 4, but all I know is that it's not enjoyable one bit for me anymore. I hope that will change when I'm done BF'ing, because I thought this was supposed to be my prime!!! Luckily DH doesn't have much of a drive right now either, so I don't have to constantly turn down advances. I guess that's what happens after 8 years together.
Confession: I finally put Punky in her crib the other night. I've been putting it off because I wasn't ready for her to be so far away. She goes down super easy, but I still move her to the PNP in our room when she wakes MOTN. Baby steps for mommy.
I stopped BF this month, and after a few weeks, I finally feel back to normal. Looking back, it feels like I was in sort of a haze. Mentally I feel clear again, and sex drive is back to normal.
Someone told me yesterday she had an "oops" pregnancy and was using condoms and on BC. How is that possible? I totally judged and dont feel bad about it.
FFC # 2-we were supposed to have out of town friends staying this weekend. I was excited for the boys to have friends to play with an a curious george exhibit we were going to, but today they cancelled. I dont have to worry about cooking/entertaining and cleaning. YES!!!
Someone told me yesterday she had an "oops" pregnancy and was using condoms and on BC. How is that possible? I totally judged and dont feel bad about it.
Someone told me yesterday she had an "oops" pregnancy and was using condoms and on BC. How is that possible? I totally judged and dont feel bad about it.
Yeah, I'm gonna call BS on that one also.
If the condoms were ancient and she wasn't taking the BCP as prescribed I could see it happening. I knew this one girl who thought you only took the pill right before sex...you never know!
Someone told me yesterday she had an "oops" pregnancy and was using condoms and on BC. How is that possible? I totally judged and dont feel bad about it.
Yeah, I'm gonna call BS on that one also.
Calling BS too, but devil's advocate they were on cold meds (makes BCPs less effective) and had a condom failure?
If the condoms were ancient and she wasn't taking the BCP as prescribed I could see it happening. I knew this one girl who thought you only took the pill right before sex...you never know!
If that's how pills work, why would they have DOTW printed on them? Also, her doctor needs to be fired for not explaining properly.
If the condoms were ancient and she wasn't taking the BCP as prescribed I could see it happening. I knew this one girl who thought you only took the pill right before sex...you never know!
If that's how pills work, why would they have DOTW printed on them? Also, her doctor needs to be fired for not explaining properly.
She was an idiot, she once called the cops because she thought her car was stolen but in reality she forgot to put it in park and it rolled away. So who knows, the doctor may have explained it, but this is the same chick who thought that she had a super power because her eyes adjusted to the dark and that it only happened to her and no one else. Never underestimate the stupidity of people!
Calling BS too, but devil's advocate they were on cold meds (makes BCPs less effective) and had a condom failure?
Cold meds make BC less effective? That's a first for me.
I'm a cynic and still think it's bullshit. Somebody wasn't on anything and just wanted to make it sound better than the truth.
She already has 4 kids (the youngest is 8months). I think she knows darn well how to get pregnant and how not to. Although she did say "this isnt the first time this happened". What?? Talk to your OB and try a different kind of BC if its happened legitimately. I think she was just BSing me.
If that's how pills work, why would they have DOTW printed on them? Also, her doctor needs to be fired for not explaining properly.
She was an idiot, she once called the cops because she thought her car was stolen but in reality she forgot to put it in park and it rolled away. So who knows, the doctor may have explained it, but this is the same chick who thought that she had a super power because her eyes adjusted to the dark and that it only happened to her and no one else. Never underestimate the stupidity of people!
I will never not wonder how people like this survive to adulthood.
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