Post by wineandcake on Jan 30, 2015 11:05:49 GMT -5
I thought from the beginning I wanted to be team green. I was really excited about it, but DH always wanted to know. Now I'm 17+3 and I'm so torn, some days I NEED to know and others I want to wait until baby is born. DH still really wants to know. A/S is scheduled for Feb 18th. DH can't come with me because it's 4hrs out of town and he has to work that evening.
I'm afraid if I have the tech write down the sex and put it in the envelope I will cave and we'll open it. But I'm afraid if I don't have them write it down I'll regret it and be angry with myself around 30wks when I just want to know.
My other option is going to a baby store, choosing a coming home outfit for a boy and girl for the same price, having the cashier open the envelope and ring up only one outfit and put it in a bag/box that I can't see inside. That way if we want to find out we can open it, if not we will bring the bag/box to the hospital and after we have the baby we will have the coming home outfit ready to go.
Gah! If you were team green for one baby and knew for another, which was a better experience? Any reason I really really really need to know? We have everything gender neutral already since we didn't go for extremely boyish stuff with Mac. Did knowing the sex help prepare older siblings or not (keep in mind Mac has no idea what a boy/girl is, he just knows baby)?
Post by wineandcake on Jan 30, 2015 11:15:26 GMT -5
I should add, no one IRL would ever find out that we knew before. We would be the only ones to know (and Mac but he doesn't really talk, and they would probably assume its nonsense). I just knew Mac was a boy from the second I out I was pregnant with him, never a doubt in my mind and we didn't even consider the possibility that it could be a girl. This time I have a pretty strong feeling it's another boy.
Post by colinsfebmommy on Jan 30, 2015 11:24:10 GMT -5
I tried to do team green and did the envelope. I walked past that envelope and cracked after 24 hours LOL If you want to stay green DO NOT do the envelope! temptation is too great
I think it would be such a neat moment to wait and find out at delivery. But I couldn't do it. At our Ultrasound when we were supposed to find out they couldn't tell - the tech said it was the first baby in 10 years she hadnt been able to see - that week between then and when I came back was agonizing so that taught me it wouldn't work for me.
Based on my experience, if you have a strong feeling it's a boy, I would find out.
We were Team Green with DD. I was convinced she was a boy. Obviously, she was a girl. I was so shocked. I actually think it affected my ability to connect with her (of course I'm sure hormones and new-mom anxiety contributed to that). With DS I did not have strong feelings either way so I think I would've been okay to be TG, but we decided to find out anyway and that experience was so much better. With #3 I want to be TG again because I already have girl and boy stuff now and I know not to be convinced one way or the other, so I'm hoping to enjoy the delivery-room surprise more.
Post by wineandcake on Jan 30, 2015 12:56:06 GMT -5
Hmm that's a good point kleigh926 I really want the surprise, but I'm worried I wouldn't connect right away with baby if it is a girl because I'm really counting on it being a boy. I'm going to keep thinking about it and talk to DH. I think if we do find out we will still have the surprise factor for our families since they won't know what it is or that we knew.
Yes I wanted to go team green with this one but DH didnt. I also felt like all we were going to have were boys. I caved on the genetic testing and found out. I'm glad I did because I'm STILL processing the idea that we are having a girl. I wouldn't want all the feels I have right now after delivery.
Post by magaroni86 on Jan 30, 2015 13:59:52 GMT -5
I am having the same feeling with this pregnancy as well. I was TG with DD and thought for sure she was a boy. It took me almost a week after she was born to let it sink in that I had a daughter. DH wants to be TG again but I am torn. I think once I make it past my US I will be ok with not knowing.
Post by photomama1990 on Jan 30, 2015 14:21:50 GMT -5
We were team green last time and are again this time. Last time was easy being team green. We bought everything g neutral, had both names picked out and I had NO feelings one way or the other what it was. This time I have felt like a girl since the beginning. We chose a girl name first. But now that we have a boy name, I don't have a strong feeling one way or the other.
I feel like a baby is a baby and you're going to love it no matter what it's sex is. Personally the incentive to push is a big enough reason itself for me to not find out. Picking a name and decorating the nursery were the only two reasons that it would have been nice to know, but I fell in love with a gender neutral nursery and we've decided on both names. The next 100 (OMG we are down to 100 days?!?) should be a breeze.
Yeah I could never do TG. Never. I just need to know. And I'm also an over thinker so once I start picturing something in my mind I have a hard time moving past it. I was sure DD1 was a boy and sure again that DD2 was a boy - clearly I have tunnel vision. There was a minor amount of gender disappointment and I was glad to move past that and certainly wouldn't want to deal with it at the time of birth.
Post by photomama1990 on Jan 30, 2015 15:35:15 GMT -5
trichie5 I found some stuff with giraffes at carters this time. I was very excited to not have to have ducks. We have a lot of hand me downs for a girl and I have all of E's stuff if it is a boy. I just wash both and after the baby is here I'll pack the other stuff away.
Also, twice in the last two weeks I have heard of someone in my community (who go to different practices) who have been told that they were having one sex and ended up with the other. I would rather be prepared for either!
I couldn't go TG. Nope never. I always need to know everything muahhhh... Ok on a serious note, we found out we I was carrying at least one boy with the twins due to the genetic testing. With twins it won't tell you both on the blood test. I needed to know if I was having a b/g set or a b/b set. At 18 weeks we were told at least one boy again as baby A wouldn't cooperate. There was about a 2 week gap between our next scan and I was coming to terms with keeping A a surprise. Then I decided I couldn't do it. I tell myself I need to know as I am a planner but in reality I am just impatient and need to know everything. Plus I knew if just we found out I would cave under pressure and tell someone else. Getting to hold my baby is enough of a surprise/treat for me.
If you're on the fence about team green, I would definitely have the ultrasound tech write it down and put it in an envelope. If you are strongly committed to TG to the end, you won't open it, but if you change your mind, you won't be kicking yourself for not finding out at the ultrasound.
With my twin pregnancy we found out the sexes at our anatomy scan b/c it was hard enough to plan for 2 babies period, let alone not knowing the sexes. With this pregnancy, we're not sure what to do. I had genetic testing done 2 weeks ago and the doctor called Wednesday to tell us it came back normal. The genetic testing also identifies the sex of the baby. I told her I didn't want to know the sex, but asked her to write it down and mail it to us. We'll likely open the envelope at some point, I just don't know when.
I think finding out the sexes of my twins helped me connect with them better during pregnancy and after they were born. I'm feeling very disconnected from this current pregnancy, and I worry that if I stay TG till the end, I may struggle a bit initially after the baby is born. Having the envelope lets me decide when I feel ready to know. I also know that names will be a huge struggle for us, and I don't want to deal with trying to agree on 2 names when I'll only need one of them.
Post by verovladamir on Jan 30, 2015 22:44:05 GMT -5
That's so hard. I found out with both of mine (or tried to. They were super uncooperative but we eventually nailed it down). Now that I have one of each I sometimes think that I would be team green with a 3rd. But I'm just not sure I could do it. I would cave if given an envelope or something. But I like the idea because I know if I went and didn't find out at the ultrasound I would totally kick myself around 35 weeks when the insane nesting kicked in.
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