Post by daystardreams on Nov 30, 2015 13:45:02 GMT -5
Hi guys! I post here sometimes. We were planning to start the fostering paperwork in September but that got thrown all around by a miscarriage, buying a house, and my sister and niece staying with us while she gets back on her feet. However, we still talk about it all the time.
Several months ago I read a blog post about a woman's fostering journey or something and in the comments there was a debate about the difference between foster parents who are called by God (usually after having biological children) and foster parents that choose to do foster care after infertility. (wish I had the link but I don't)
Some spiteful women were saying that infertile women didn't make as good of foster parents because they will not be able to support reunion. Some of the hateful women went as far to say infertile women were broken, unstable, and incompetent. I shrugged it off and quit reading it but for some reason it has stuck with me.
I've tried looking up the affect being infertile has on foster parenting but I haven't really found what I'm looking for. How hard is it to be infertile and still support reunion? How hard is it to send the children home? I truly believe children belong with their families if at all possible but does your mind change when you fall in love with a little human? Does asking these questions mean I'm not emotionally ready to be a foster parent? Is anybody ever emotionally prepared to be a foster parent?
I'm trying to work through this now so I can be ready when my spare rooms are not occupied by my sister and niece but I'm scared I might never be ready. We do hope to someday permanently grow our family through foster care but I also think helping families reunite would be so rewarding. Maybe this is just scared "Can we really do this?" jitters...but anybody care to lend some advice? TIA!
Several months ago I read a blog post about a woman's fostering journey or something and in the comments there was a debate about the difference between foster parents who are called by God (usually after having biological children) and foster parents that choose to do foster care after infertility. (wish I had the link but I don't)
Some spiteful women were saying that infertile women didn't make as good of foster parents because they will not be able to support reunion. Some of the hateful women went as far to say infertile women were broken, unstable, and incompetent. I shrugged it off and quit reading it but for some reason it has stuck with me.
I've tried looking up the affect being infertile has on foster parenting but I haven't really found what I'm looking for. How hard is it to be infertile and still support reunion? How hard is it to send the children home? I truly believe children belong with their families if at all possible but does your mind change when you fall in love with a little human? Does asking these questions mean I'm not emotionally ready to be a foster parent? Is anybody ever emotionally prepared to be a foster parent?
I'm trying to work through this now so I can be ready when my spare rooms are not occupied by my sister and niece but I'm scared I might never be ready. We do hope to someday permanently grow our family through foster care but I also think helping families reunite would be so rewarding. Maybe this is just scared "Can we really do this?" jitters...but anybody care to lend some advice? TIA!