Making it public?

[frenchteachermama]

Just curious what everyone's thoughts are on public announcements about adopting on Facebook or Instagram. Now that we're live I feel free and would love to make some kind of post to share our good news. Did anyone make a public announcement like this?

[lizblue]

We didn't announce anything on social media, but we were very open to a lot of people. One thing to think about is when you do bring a baby home there will be some revocation period. It's doubtful you will have a PA adoption, but if you do, the revocation period is 30 days. Everyone in our immediate lives knew we brought home a baby girl, and that meant we would have to tell all of those people should a disruption happen. We were ok with that, but we did not announce the birth of our daughter on facebook until after the 30 days were up.

Announcing you are live and waiting to adopt on social media is totally different though - I think it sounds nice. Ultimately, all of this is whatever you are comfortable with and of course there is no right or wrong way.

So exciting! Celebrate!

[frenchteachermama]

lizblue I agree completely about announcing before the adoption is finalized. I meant more like the second situation you mentioned. Just announcing that we are waiting to adopt. I was thinking it would be a nice way to celebrate and share our news with friends who aren't local.

[redandblue]

We did make an announcement on facebook when we were officially adopt ready. It felt like a 'right of passage' for us, similarly to a pregnancy announcement, but rather paper pregnant. One of my best friends is a photographer, so we had her do some family photos for our profile books. We announced with those photos. It is completely an personal decision, but we wanted everyone to share in our joy about our expanding family

Here is one of the pictures we had done.

[lizblue]

redandblue, that is awesome.

Also, I love your shoes.

[frenchteachermama]

redandblue that is exactly what I was thinking! I love your photo! I was thinking of 2 signs...."growing in our hearts" and "waiting for you" and the girls could hold them.

[pinkie]

We shared when we were adoption ready and asked our FB friends to share the link to our website (word of mouth).

Then we shared about each son once they were formally in our custody (TPR signed and waiting period passed).

[redandblue]

frenchteachermama, We had a couple of different photos that we did. We had another with all of us sitting in chairs, and then a little rocking chair (that was mine when I was little) with a sign that said "waiting for you". We also did one of just DH and I where we were holding a sign that said "growing in our hearts". The other one that we did was us as a family playing scrabble, but we had the board set up with 'adoption' language. Our plan is to re-create the photos, but with M in the spot's that were vacant. Once my friend is not as busy!

lizblue, Thanks We tried to have our shoes represent us a little bit. DH wearing baseball cleats, DS wearing his snow boarding boats...and well, I love shoes! lol

[badgergirl66]

We haven't done any announcements. I had planned on doing one, but then we were matched. I don't want to post or share that we are matched with the world. My close friends & family know since its been a long match so far (matched around 16 weeks pregnant, she's currently 34 weeks).

I follow a couple blogs and they all did announcements on Facebook.

We have a sign that says "mom and dad are adopting a baby human for me. Baby last name eta: Unknown" or something similar. I'll eventually take a picture with our dog and the sign.

[roxy]

We did a FB announcement as soon as we were approved to adopt. I also did announce that we were matched, however, we are adopting the the FC system and parental rights were already terminated. So really all we are waiting on is the final court date to happen.

[chicago]

Similar to others, we announced in Facebook when we were officially waiting. The support and excitement from everyone was wonderful.

We did the announcement of her arrival after the birthmother signed her rights. Nothing when we matched ...

We (actually my husband) had a weekly blog post during the waiting period that kept people up to date. We plan on printing that into a book for us.

He's now doing a weekly post to a private blog for our daughter and birthmother. And plan to print those for each year. I hope we can keep it up.

[persianmaman]

We have not made it official on any of our social media or past our closest friends and family. We know that there are some people who feel that we should have biological children (continuing the family line - which will end with DH - as well as reasons like, but you're so beautiful, have beautiful babies or smart people have to have smart kids). Rather than light fuel to their fire and give them time to protest, which they will feel they have to do, we will make a FB announcement once we are matched. We know a lot of them will keep their mouths shut at that point because we're set on the course.

Til then, our friends ask, our bosses ask (they are in the know), and our immediate family asks. And they're happy for us. It's all we need.

[RajahMD]

This makes me kinda glad I got rid of my FB. One less thing to worry about. I've been pretty open about limiting biological children due to my genetic disorders, so most of our families and close friends already know that adoption is on the table (they just don't know the timeline). We'll probably update our families as we move through the process, but no big social media post.

[delenire]

I really wanted to post, but still haven't as we are waiting for the final word.

[casarosada]

We sent an e-mail to family y friends once we were approved and in the profile book. I never officially announced on FB but shared our FB page after year 2 of waiting.

We have had our little one home for about a month and a half. Termination paperwork hasnt been signed. We announced to family y close friends after she wad with us for a week and wil announce on fb once paperwork is signed and the legal risk period is up