Post by missjenniebean on Dec 2, 2015 14:21:48 GMT -5
They know my name, but they have never had to use it I don't think. They just normally call me "mom" because of Vera. I wouldn't think anything of it if they called me by my first name.
Post by baytosa2013 on Dec 2, 2015 14:24:43 GMT -5
They know my name but generally call me "mom" or "C's mom". Umm eww with the cash request. I'll get something for her teachers and give it to them K thanx! (unless they tell me it's their policy for no gifts at all).
I work here so everyone knows my name, but typically they refer to me as mama because of Z. We have the same exact system with gifting as what you described, but it's put on by the PTA so maybe it seems a little less grabby. Many parents still do a gift on their own or none at all. I'd say about 1/4 of families contribute to the gift card.
I work here so everyone knows my name, but typically they refer to me as mama because of Z. We have the same exact system with gifting as what you described, but it's put on by the PTA so maybe it seems a little less grabby. Many parents still do a gift on their own or none at all. I'd say about 1/4 of families contribute to the gift card.
If I got a notice from the PTA I might feel differently because then it's the parents organizing it. I'm kind of "don't trust anyone" sometimes though and I want to be sure that the teacher is actually getting my gift. You just never know what shady shit some people will do over the holidays.
@bubbs119 I'm sorry you are feeling so insecure about your day care. I honestly don't think I could deal with working if I wasn't 100% on board with our daycare. I'm so happy with her main teacher and I'm sad that she will have to switch rooms in 6 months because she loves her Ms. Sarah.
From the other side (I taught babies - prek for years) I personally always knew the parents first names and felt is was important for us to have a good relationship and being on a first name basis and comfortable with each other was part of that. I would think its weird if they dont know your name
When DD was in the infant room they used to call me "Mom" before they learned my first name. DD's teachers in the toddler room refer to both DH and I using our first names. It took awhile for me to get used to it. I have a really popular first name and it is the same name as one of the teachers in DD's room, so I have always been in the habit not to automatically respond to my name. LO's teachers just call me "Mrs. Last Name" as do all of the other staff like the receptionists.
I would not participate in a group daycare gift like you described. We do gifts for teachers but we like to personally hand them to them and thank them.
I honestly don't know if they 100% know my name or not - but they can look it up really easily since it's on the daily connect website (where they post updates throughout the day) in which case they would know my "full" name and not my preferred nickname. I do sometimes say my H's name when I tell them certain things about being late the following day or something. But like others they usually just say "Hi! Look E, mommy is here!" or something like that.
As for the money thing, I do think it's odd that the president/director is reaching out for that. It would be like a manager coming to your table and saying "please tip your waitress tonight!" So weird.
This is our first Christmas at this center (our 3yo also goes here) and prior to this she was at an in-home with only the one caregiver. We used to just give her a christmas card, some homemade cookies, and a gift card for a store or restaurant.... like $25.
This year will be tough because I know the 2 main teachers in each room, but I also know there are others who help or float rooms and I don't know if I should do things for them too.... that's a lot to do, and I don't want to hurt feelings.
Another question. Our DC sent home a letter from principal explaining that we could give a monetary gift in the form of cash to the teachers and they would combine gifts from everyone and give a visa gift card to the teachers. Attached is a spreadsheet with places to write how much you want to give each teacher and your child's name.
I feel like this is weird and grabby. There's no requirement to give but I'm still uncomfortable with the whole thing. Am I being crazy?
So two things.. They do know my name, but when I go to pick DD up they just say Mom's here. But if I am ever having a conversation about something with them they do call me by name.
AS far as the gift: we are DD's class parents and we have organized a class gift for the two main teachers in her room. We emailed all of the parents and asked everyone to give 25-30 but if they couldn't give that to give whatever they could afford so that we can get a nice gift for the teachers. We are getting them each an amazon gift card and a card for all of the families to sign.
The kicker is that there is a spot to contribute to the principal.
Yeah, that's a no. I would not be contributing to that. If you don't get a warm fuzzy feeling from infant teachers, I would be out of there. I think you really have to go with your gut when you're trusting someone with your baby. If things just don't feel right, they probably aren't.
Don't have a kid in daycare but as an elementary school needed to chime in with a HUGE HUGE EWWWWWWW for the spreadsheet thing. That is beyond bizarre and really unprofessional not to mention gift grabby and rude!
Post by musicfrk2002 on Dec 2, 2015 23:22:07 GMT -5
We are at a home daycare. The owner/main provider is a friend of my mom's from when they were in middle school. So, it's safe to say she knows me by first name, as do her two helpers.
That does sound really grabby to send a form asking for money. Major side eye from me.
The kicker is that there is a spot to contribute to the principal.
I wouldnt be okay with this.. I think its fine like i said earlier to ask for class parents and then the parents be the ones to set something up. But for the principal to be asking for a Christmas gift is just rude.
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