Babysitters and bedtime

[lia1303]

DH and I just moved to a new area and are no longer close to any friends or family. I have been considering hiring a sitter from care.com since we desperately need a date night. DS is 15 months old and still nurses right before bed. We also have recently ferberized and he is hit or miss with going right down. He usually goes down between 8 and 8:30.
If you have hired a sitter, how do you handle bedtime? Should I have someone come after he is already asleep so it's easy or leave a bottle and hope for the best?

[thebay]

Personally having been in a very similar circumstance I had the babysitter over for a couple of hours in the morning so A would know her, then we left after she went to bed. She goes to bed a little earlier than that, but it was fine.

[sassypantzz]

Normally we would leave after DD was asleep, but on the days that a sitter put her down she never gave a problem. I just always feel less guilty if I leave after she is asleep.

[cambury108]

Jan 30, 2015 14:35:12 GMT -5 thebay said:

Personally having been in a very similar circumstance I had the babysitter over for a couple of hours in the morning so A would know her, then we left after she went to bed. She goes to bed a little earlier than that, but it was fine.



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I would do this. 

[k3am]

When DD was younger, it was just always so.much.easier to put her down, have the sitter come, THEN leave. She hates new people, she hates sitters, and it hasn't gotten better over time. We still do this whenever we can, but it's not always an option.

FWIW, though, I don't think ONE night of throwing your kid off schedule is going to ruin your sleep training plans. Do whatever you need to do to ensure you and DH get a night out and remain sane and happy, and deal with any potential fall out later.

[queenbabee]

Jan 30, 2015 15:58:38 GMT -5 k3am said:

When DD was younger, it was just always so.much.easier to put her down, have the sitter come, THEN leave. She hates new people, she hates sitters, and it hasn't gotten better over time. We still do this whenever we can, but it's not always an option.

FWIW, though, I don't think ONE night of throwing your kid off schedule is going to ruin your sleep training plans. Do whatever you need to do to ensure you and DH get a night out and remain sane and happy, and deal with any potential fall out later.

I agree. One night shouldn't be a big deal even if she doesn't go to bed like usual.
Go enjoy your date night stress free!

[lia1303]

Thanks all.