10 reasons it sucks to be prego at Christmas

[lostinfaith225]

This came across my fb feed. Thought it was true!!!

www.bellybelly.com.au/pregnancy/10-things-that-suck-when-pregnant-at-christmas/

[katelou]

true! I don't mind being pregnant at Christmas (I was last time too), but like she said, I wish I was farther along and didn't have to be all sneaky about it.

On the bright side, I'd much rather be pregnant at Christmas than postpartum and expected to drag my exhausted, emotional, leaky self and my angry newborn to a bunch of family parties.

[lovegrilledcheese]

I'm totally ok with being pregnant at Xmas and every reason that it lists. After two years of TTC, a loss, and a year of fertility treatment I'm happy to be finally pregnant.

[uniquename]

I was stressing about hiding the pregnancy during Christmas so we decided to tell today. It feels like such a burden off my shoulders. I don't need to watch what I say or what I do or don't eat. I dont have to fake feeling good when I am exhausted and nauseas.

And I love being a bit too emotional at Christmas. It has made me love Christmas music and lights. I feel all warm and fuzzy inside this year

[ellebelle]

Dec 6, 2015 21:32:10 GMT -5 lovegrilledcheese said:

I'm totally ok with being pregnant at Xmas and every reason that it lists. After two years of TTC, a loss, and a year of fertility treatment I'm happy to be finally pregnant.

Pretty much this. I'm probably going to be sick as a dog on Christmas but will take it after last year's fresh off my fourth consecutive loss and trying to sneak in sexy time because of FW.

[housecarder]

I love Christmas, it's my favorite holiday. I love being pregnant this time of year. It's an extra blessing and the perfect end to an extremely emotional and shitty year with our IF journey which was much shorter than most.
I also promise to not complain when it's hot as hell out and I'm as big as a house. Before IF I thought being big pregnant in the summer would be the worst. Now I am just happy to be pregnant at all.

[cavewmn]

6 years and 1 loss later I am just happy to be pregnant.

[katelou]

Dec 7, 2015 1:12:12 GMT -5 housecarder said:

I love Christmas, it's my favorite holiday. I love being pregnant this time of year. It's an extra blessing and the perfect end to an extremely emotional and shitty year with our IF journey which was much shorter than most.
I also promise to not complain when it's hot as hell out and I'm as big as a house. Before IF I thought being big pregnant in the summer would be the worst. Now I am just happy to be pregnant at all.

I never really thought that but I know most other people do. And I know when I tell people my due date is July 27, I am going to get a zillion comments on how awful it will be to be pregnant in summer and poor me and "should've planned that better!" and crap like that. And I'm going to want to punch people in the face because I am just happy to be pregnant at all. Maybe it's just me but the amount of jerk comments I got from coworkers and total strangers last time was astounding. It was honestly one of the worst parts. I'm sure it'll be worse this time because I'm more sensitive after how hard it was to get here.

[mugster]

Dec 6, 2015 21:32:10 GMT -5 lovegrilledcheese said:

I'm totally ok with being pregnant at Xmas and every reason that it lists. After two years of TTC, a loss, and a year of fertility treatment I'm happy to be finally pregnant.

Amen. 

[mugster]

Also, I've never been spaghetti sauce at Christmas... that would be tough.

[rungirlrun]

Dec 7, 2015 8:50:34 GMT -5 katelou said:

Dec 7, 2015 1:12:12 GMT -5 housecarder said:

I love Christmas, it's my favorite holiday. I love being pregnant this time of year. It's an extra blessing and the perfect end to an extremely emotional and shitty year with our IF journey which was much shorter than most.
I also promise to not complain when it's hot as hell out and I'm as big as a house. Before IF I thought being big pregnant in the summer would be the worst. Now I am just happy to be pregnant at all.

I never really thought that but I know most other people do. And I know when I tell people my due date is July 27, I am going to get a zillion comments on how awful it will be to be pregnant in summer and poor me and "should've planned that better!" and crap like that. And I'm going to want to punch people in the face because I am just happy to be pregnant at all. Maybe it's just me but the amount of jerk comments I got from coworkers and total strangers last time was astounding. It was honestly one of the worst parts. I'm sure it'll be worse this time because I'm more sensitive after how hard it was to get here.

I feel like the odd ball out, but I think being pregnant in the summer is so easy and beats winter any day. My son was due in early Sept, and summer maternity clothes are a breeze. Dress and flip flops and you're out the door. No having to put on a ton of layers and boots. I don't mind a summer due date and can reuse all of my maternity clothes! People make dumb comments regardless so I'm going to enjoy the benefits of a July/Aug baby.

[acorn99]

Dec 7, 2015 9:39:29 GMT -5 mugster said:

Also, I've never been spaghetti sauce at Christmas... that would be tough.

YAS.

Can we all please agree to banish prego, preggers, preggly or any other word like this from our vocabulary?

Pregnant, please.

[madamewaffles]

Not trying to play Pain Olympics, but this article rubs me the wrong way. I understand it is supposed to be funny, but this is kind of a slap in the face to IF and loss mamas. Last Christmas was pure torture watching my SIL's son, who would have been the same age as my daughter open gifts and get all the ooh-ing and ahh-ing from family while DH and I sat off in the corner, trying to put on a fake smile and longing for what they had. It was also fresh off of getting news from my RE that my tumors were growing again, and that our next viable step would be IVF. I will be happy as a clam at Christmas, sober AND sick.

[harlowjune1984]

Dec 7, 2015 9:56:04 GMT -5 acorn99 said:

Dec 7, 2015 9:39:29 GMT -5 mugster said:

Also, I've never been spaghetti sauce at Christmas... that would be tough.

YAS.

Can we all please agree to banish prego, preggers, preggly or any other word like this from our vocabulary?

Pregnant, please.

My husband said prego to me the other day, and I said "I am pregnant. I am not spaghetti sauce, and I am not preggers or preggie.....those just sound like a immature 16 year old who thought she couldn't get pregnant if she had sex on a Tuesday."

[harlowjune1984]

I didn't read too much into the post, since I know that it is supposed to be something funny, but I am actually happy to be pregnant during this time. My last pregnancy was from January until October. There is no hiding how large you are getting under sweaters, there is no escaping the horrible heat and swelling, we spend our summers camping and boating, and that just sucked. I know that next summer, I am going to have to skip the camping/boating, since I am due at the end of July and there is no way I will camp with a 1 week-6 week old, But I am glad that I am getting a few months over with during the season when we are stuck instead and I can wear sweaters and leggings. Christmas is working out perfect that my sibling sand their spouses aren't coming, so that means we wont be doing our alcoholic drinks, like we do when we they are around. I don't hit my 2nd Tri until the end of January, so they will still not know. My IL's know, and they are good at covering for if I am feeling ill and want to leave, and luckily we live next door, so I can leave DD and DH, and walk down the driveway to our house.

The only thing that kind of sucks is both of my siblings are getting married next summer....so they will be dry weddings for me. Boring!

[beebe918]

Meh, the article was dumb and poorly written anyway. The only thing I'm seriously disappointed about is not being able to drink and that's all day er day not just at Christmas time.

[sarcaztic10]

Dec 7, 2015 9:38:38 GMT -5 mugster said:

Dec 6, 2015 21:32:10 GMT -5 lovegrilledcheese said:

I'm totally ok with being pregnant at Xmas and every reason that it lists. After two years of TTC, a loss, and a year of fertility treatment I'm happy to be finally pregnant.

Amen. 

Ditto. After dealing with IF and losses I am just happy to be PG and I could give a crap less what time of the year it is or what I am missing out on as long as I get a baby at the end of this. 

[lostinfaith225]

I am sorry ladies! Wasn't trying to offend or be selfish with this. I hope you don't hate me.

[littlesthobo]

Dec 7, 2015 9:46:17 GMT -5 rungirlrun said:

Dec 7, 2015 8:50:34 GMT -5 katelou said:

I feel like the odd ball out, but I think being pregnant in the summer is so easy and beats winter any day. My son was due in early Sept, and summer maternity clothes are a breeze. Dress and flip flops and you're out the door. No having to put on a ton of layers and boots. I don't mind a summer due date and can reuse all of my maternity clothes! People make dumb comments regardless so I'm going to enjoy the benefits of a July/Aug baby.

Yes to all this! My DS is an April baby, and I could not put my own boots on come mid-February. I looked like an idiot wearing crocs in the snow.

[tootsie]

Dec 6, 2015 21:02:55 GMT -5 katelou said:

true! I don't mind being pregnant at Christmas (I was last time too), but like she said, I wish I was farther along and didn't have to be all sneaky about it.

On the bright side, I'd much rather be pregnant at Christmas than postpartum and expected to drag my exhausted, emotional, leaky self and my angry newborn to a bunch of family parties.

So much this. My DD's birthday is Dec. 19th, and we went to MIL's house on Christmas. I remember crying because I had absolutely nothing to wear that I didn't look awful in, and it was a 1.5 hour drive away. Then everyone wanted to talk about giving birth, as if I wanted to relive that experience already. I'll take being pregnant over that any day.

[TheTuna15]

I really can't take this in any other tone than someone just trying to be funny about pregnancy. Having been pregnant through the holidays last year, I agree that it sucks. I hate relatives giving me unsolicited advice. I hate dealing with my family sober. I'm not looking forward to doing it again this year. On the bright side, I did love having my pregnancy uniform consist of sweatshirts, leggings, an uggs for three months.

lostinfaith225, I don't think you were trying to be offensive nor do I think sharing a funny pregnancy related article is offensive. I would imagine that no one actually hates you

[allison7]

Dec 7, 2015 8:50:34 GMT -5 katelou said:

Dec 7, 2015 1:12:12 GMT -5 housecarder said:

I love Christmas, it's my favorite holiday. I love being pregnant this time of year. It's an extra blessing and the perfect end to an extremely emotional and shitty year with our IF journey which was much shorter than most.
I also promise to not complain when it's hot as hell out and I'm as big as a house. Before IF I thought being big pregnant in the summer would be the worst. Now I am just happy to be pregnant at all.

I never really thought that but I know most other people do. And I know when I tell people my due date is July 27, I am going to get a zillion comments on how awful it will be to be pregnant in summer and poor me and "should've planned that better!" and crap like that. And I'm going to want to punch people in the face because I am just happy to be pregnant at all. Maybe it's just me but the amount of jerk comments I got from coworkers and total strangers last time was astounding. It was honestly one of the worst parts. I'm sure it'll be worse this time because I'm more sensitive after how hard it was to get here.

I felt the same way with DD who was born in August. It really wasn't that bad to be pregnant in the summer. I didn't have to buy a special maternity coat and I just threw on leggins or a skirt, a shirt, and flip flops. I would actually go crazy trying to keep my balance on the icy ground while extremely pregnant. So much easier in the summer. Plus, getting in a pool and floating your pregnant self around is a wonderful relief. Last time I had to use a friend's pool...this time we have our own. It is going to be awesome. 

[lostinfaith225]

Thanks TheTuna15

I am sad that my maternity clothes are opposite seasons. I am going to have to buy stuff for only 2 months of wear. Oh well!

[housecarder]

Dec 7, 2015 12:59:59 GMT -5 lostinfaith225 said:

I am sorry ladies! Wasn't trying to offend or be selfish with this. I hope you don't hate me.

I don't think anyone hates you or thinks that the article was mean spirited. Just for those who have been through hell to get here, or recently had to leave, it can rub them the wrong way. I remember how much it sucked to not be pregnant last Christmas and even Easter right after my CP. Even now that I have my BFP those emotions of going through IF and IVF can linger and make joking about how much pregnancy sucks hard.

[mugster]

Dec 7, 2015 22:31:53 GMT -5 housecarder said:

Dec 7, 2015 12:59:59 GMT -5 lostinfaith225 said:

I am sorry ladies! Wasn't trying to offend or be selfish with this. I hope you don't hate me.

I don't think anyone hates you or thinks that the article was mean spirited. Just for those who have been through hell to get here, or recently had to leave, it can rub them the wrong way. I remember how much it sucked to not be pregnant last Christmas and even Easter right after my CP. Even now that I have my BFP those emotions of going through IF and IVF can linger and make joking about how much pregnancy sucks hard.

Yes, I've been trying to find the words. I don't hate you, but I am really bothered by the article and some of the more dismissive comments made in response to people's real pain. All I want for Christmas is to be pregnant and I would suffer pretty much anything if it meant this pregnancy would bring me a take home baby.

[katelou]

Dec 7, 2015 12:59:59 GMT -5 lostinfaith225 said:

I am sorry ladies! Wasn't trying to offend or be selfish with this. I hope you don't hate me.

It's OK. If there's anything I learned from my last BMB experience, it's that everyone comes from different places and it's hard to always understand or anticipate how others are affected by something. The IF ladies have a hard time with pregnancy complaints because they went through so much to get pregnant. The mom of the micro-preemie with CP has a hard time with pregnant moms b*itching about being overdue. The moms who have kids with delays and disabilities have a hard time with moms proudly announcing how early their kids are hitting milestones. But we all learn from each other and hopefully come out with a better appreciation of what others are dealing with.

[mcktymck]

There is only one thing on the list I absolutely agree with 100%. We are going to CT for a week right before Christmas to spend time with DH's family. His mom is VERY touchy feely, while I am the complete opposite. To the point where I give my own mom and grandparents side hugs. I'll be 9 weeks so not even showing yet, but I know she'll be touching my stomach constantly, and I'm already dreading it. I understand she's just going to do it because she's so excited, but a girl needs her space!

[TheTuna15]

Dec 8, 2015 14:00:41 GMT -5 katelou said:

Dec 7, 2015 12:59:59 GMT -5 lostinfaith225 said:

I am sorry ladies! Wasn't trying to offend or be selfish with this. I hope you don't hate me.

It's OK. If there's anything I learned from my last BMB experience, it's that everyone comes from different places and it's hard to always understand or anticipate how others are affected by something. The IF ladies have a hard time with pregnancy complaints because they went through so much to get pregnant. The mom of the micro-preemie with CP has a hard time with pregnant moms b*itching about being overdue. The moms who have kids with delays and disabilities have a hard time with moms proudly announcing how early their kids are hitting milestones. But we all learn from each other and hopefully come out with a better appreciation of what others are dealing with.

THIS. I wanted to say this, but every time my brain connected to my hands to type something out I sounded like an insensitive douche canoe. So what I'm saying is, I totes agree.

[housecarder]

Dec 8, 2015 14:16:41 GMT -5 mcktymck said:

There is only one thing on the list I absolutely agree with 100%. We are going to CT for a week right before Christmas to spend time with DH's family. His mom is VERY touchy feely, while I am the complete opposite. To the point where I give my own mom and grandparents side hugs. I'll be 9 weeks so not even showing yet, but I know she'll be touching my stomach constantly, and I'm already dreading it. I understand she's just going to do it because she's so excited, but a girl needs her space!

I was just ranting about this. My sister rubbed my belly on Sunday and I was like thanks for the fat pat I guess?