1. Both kids have colds are we were up every hour last night between the two of them.
2. Today the cleaning lady is coming. Hiring someone to clean our house is one of the better parenting/marriage decisions we've made lately. It frees up so much of our time and we get to be with the kids and not stressed over cleaning.
3. I'm making a vegan butternut/lentil dish for dinner tomorrow.
4. We are onto our next house project, our dining room. It's been an empty space ever since we moved in last year. We are having wainscoting installed in a few weeks. It's going to look so elegant in there.
5. My wife now wants to buy a new dining room set. Originally I wanted to wait till the kids were like 4 but I may be convinced.
6. I'm excited for Christmas. I'm looking forward to seeing R's face when he sees his new toys.
7. I ran 6 miles over the weekend and feel like a million bucks. I'm looking forward to doing more running.
8. My boobs look like the Baywatch lifeguards when I run. They're huge from breast feeding and have a certain bounce to them.
1. I am in a really cranky mood today. You all have been warned. Sorry in advance!
2. I still have a cold.
3. J's Dad texted last night that he has unilaterally decided that Christmas dinner will be at his house at 7pm on Christmas night.
4. #3 is problematic for multiple reasons -- first off, William's bed time is 7pm (which J's parents know full well), so in all likelihood we will have to feed him early and put him to bed at J's parents' house before the adults eat dinner. Which I don't like. Secondly, this will basically force us to spend the night at J's parents' house that night since William will already be in bed and it would mess with him too much to wake him to put him in the car and drive him home later (they live an hour away from us).
5. I will be 36 weeks at Christmas. J's parents' house is over an hour away from our hospital as well. Plus I won't be in my own bed. I am totally being a selfish, whiney pregnant lady, but I really don't want to be staying over anyone else's house at that stage of the game. Especially at that distance from the hospital. I highly doubt J will consider telling her parents no or offering an alternative plan. So, I have to decide if this is a battle worth fighting to me...
6. William had an epic meltdown last night when we tried to do his "nightly" Christmas picture. (For those who are not familiar, J started the "25 days of Christmas" last year with a different photo of William every night that gets posted on FB. The 2014 photos were phenomenal (J really is an awesome photographer) -- this year's photos are VERY simple and scaled back, but she insisted on still doing a nightly photo. I didn't want to, but I have been supportive.) -- Last night was a total sh$t show, and we didn't end up getting a photo. J and I did end up fighting (I still don't even know why. I feel like J was just fighting with herself and I was collateral damage because I was there and apparently not doing the right thing for the photo). The whole thing made me really sad and frustrated.
7. J seems fine today like all is forgotten about the great holiday photo debacle of 2015... I guess I'm not 100% over it and it is just adding to my mood today that is mostly based on my lingering cold, lack of sleep, and annoyance with my in-laws over Christmas plans.
8. I need to just shake all of this off and put a smile on my face. I am struggling with that though.
9. In other news, I actually think Dosey might be working on flipping again today. Ugh. Kiddo, pleasssseeeee stay head down!
kh826, ummm..Christmas dinner at 7pm? Seriously? I'm with you on that one. My in-laws tried having Thanksgiving dinner at 5pm and I shut that down right quick. "Dinner" was at 2pm:) How does J feel about this? Is there a reason why they are eating so late? Christmas is going to be so overwhelming for our LO's and adding a late dinner plus sleeping over someone else's house is asking for trouble.
kh826 , ummm..Christmas dinner at 7pm? Seriously? I'm with you on that one. My in-laws tried having Thanksgiving dinner at 5pm and I shut that down right quick. "Dinner" was at 2pm:) How does J feel about this? Is there a reason why they are eating so late? Christmas is going to be so overwhelming for our LO's and adding a late dinner plus sleeping over someone else's house is asking for trouble.
The reasoning is to accommodate J's brother and his wife (they do not have kids -- in fact, William is the only kid in the group) who will be spending Christmas day with SIL's family about 40 mins away. Apparently they requested a later dinner so that they could do both. Also, my FIL hates "early dinner." We are getting together with them on Christmas Eve as well, but we are doing dinner at a restaurant that night at 4pm. J's dad was very outspoken about not liking the 4pm time. I explained that the restaurant was 40 mins away from our house (they would not agree to anything closer to us, which would be further from them) and it was important to me that we could get home at a reasonable hour and have time to get William in his Christmas PJs, read stories, put out cookies for Santa, etc.
The fact that William is 18 months old and I will be 9 months pregnant seems to make no difference to anyone other than me (and a little J, but she isn't saying much) when planning Christmas activities.
I am really trying to be reasonable and not ask for a lot of "favors" or deviation from what everyone else wants. I already asked for Christmas Eve at a restaurant (usually I cook and host Christmas Eve at our house, but I was being lazy and selfish this year and wanted a break from that -- maybe that was my first mistake).
I will also note that we are going to J's parents' house this coming weekend to bake cookies with her family on Saturday, then staying over Saturday night and doing breakfast with Santa at her parents' country club on Sunday morning. They probably think if we are willing to stay over at 34 weeks, that staying over at 36 weeks is no different. To me it feels like pushing it. I don't really want to even stay over this weekend for comfort reasons, but it doesn't make sense to drive home and then drive back 12 hrs later.
THEN, we are going BACK down to J's parents' house (well BIL's house, but he lives 2 miles away) for a family Christmas party the following Saturday.
I usually don't mind traveling to them all the time. It is only an hour each way, and William does well in the car. I am just feeling exhausted, worn out from my cold and from serious sleep deprivation, and a little irritated by the fact that William's schedule is quite literally never taken into account when planning this stuff. He is pretty go with the flow, but he is still an 18 month old. If we keep him up late, he is going to get fussy. If he skips a true nap, he is going to get fussy. If he is cooped up in the car for 2-3 hours every weekend the month of December, I could see that potentially becoming a problem.
Ok, the end. I think I am just being too sensitive...
kh826 , Dude, I'm exhausted just reading everything you have going on. I think you're being too hard on yourself. My family lives an hour and 45 min away from us. They used to always make holiday dinner times at 3pm and when R was born I told them we either needed to change to an earlier time or we would come over but need to leave by 4pm to make it home for bath/bedtime. They changed the time because they wanted us to be there. My point to them was I am the only one who is traveling a far distance AND we have babies now. It's already an all day event going out there and to add in the night too is asking too much from us. The difference for me is that it's my side of the family. I have a good relationship with my family so I feel like I can get away with my demanding behavior on this:) Maybe it'll be different for you but with 2 kids it takes a lot of work to travel now. So I'm even crazier than before.
ETA: My sister always hosts Christmas eve and she lives in the same town as the rest of the family. My wife and I have decided that it's too much to travel there for that and then come home and go back the next day for Christmas. So now we are making our own family tradition for Christmas Eve and it's fun to do something just with the four of us.
1. kh826,Yuck. :-( I'm sorry things are so complicated with your family. Don't forget that it is totally a legit option to say "Pass! We are doing our own family thing this year! See you on Christmas Eve!" 2. Egg nog is delicious. 3. Since I still haven't started my period, I am beginning to believe this whole BFP a little more. I'm starting to think about what it might be like to have that little brown-eyed (?) baby in my arms next year. (Sweetie has brown eyes, so one of the things we wanted was a brown-eyed donor.) It's still frighteningly early though. Stick, baby, stick! 4. We are having homemade beef with broccoli tonight and decorating our Christmas tree! 5. I have 7 days left with students this semester. I'm never gonna get everything done. 6. I have a snow-boarding buddy that is getting excited for the season, and is wanting to plan a trip. I'm pretty sure there's lots of things I can do while in the 1st trimester (assuming stickiness), but I think snowboarding isn't one of them. I'll ask my doctor. It's probably not worth the risk, considering I'm a terrible snowboarder and fall down constantly. 7. On that note, I was reflecting today on how physical my job is. In addition to periodically getting hit and kicked, I help lift, transport, position, walk, etc. with kids all day long. 8. We saw Frozen on Ice this weekend. It was super cute. There must have been thousands of girls dressed as Elsa. 9. I want to nap, but it's just a bad idea. 10. I'm excited for Christmas!
Post by firstcomeslove2013 on Dec 8, 2015 22:32:38 GMT -5
1. We made an RE appointment for next Monday. The TTC process is starting again and I'm really scared. 2. I work from home and have H and our 2 nieces during the day as well. We finally hired a part time helper to give me extra hands during the day. She starts tomorrow. I hired her but I'm nervous! 3. We just bought a new (to us) car (a Mazda 5). My old car was a Jeep Liberty and had approximately 4 million miles on it AND was not going to fit the 3 car seats. I was boycotting a minivan so we settled for a mini-minivan...I love it. 4. C and I took the plunge about 2 months ago and got rid of cable...I am running out of Netflix and Hulu shows to watch. 5. My sister just returned to work from maternity leave. My parents have been so supportive and helpful. 6. I feel so grouchy about Christmas. I don't feel prepared and I am just not feeling it. 7. I lost about 60 pounds this year and I want to lose more but I'm struggling. 8. December is such a crazy month. H & C have birthdays, Christmas is happening, we are moving my 91 year old grandma into a nursing home...it's a lot. 9. I've really been struggling with insomnia lately. 10. I wish I was at the beach...
Post by wittyandwaiting on Dec 9, 2015 4:57:29 GMT -5
1. I'm cranky too.
2. It's 4:42am.
3. I don't consider it Wednesday yet.
4. I'm so sorry to hear about all the colds and cooties around here; hopefully everybody is better soon.
5. kh826 I'm sorry that you IL's are being so inflexible especially since it sounds like you are already giving and compromising a lot. I'm with esquette, a pass is totally legit.
6. C wants to sleep cuddle and it's not working for me; I'm too hot, uncomfortable and restless for that.
7. esquette, snowboarding is specifically on the no-no list my midwife gave me.
1. kh826 I hope you get the Christmas situation resolved. I hope that the family can be a little more flexible for you. We are sticklers on getting O home to bed on time too. I think your concerns are very valid.
3. I had a meeting with my manager at work yesterday. Basically what you see is what you get. They basically won't promote me because I have the wrong letters after my name despite having worked on the project for 4 years and am actually probably the most senior person for the job. Really frustrating. I think it's time to move on but I have been looking for over a year with nothing so far.
4. I wish M could stay home. It's really getting to be a drag that she can't.
5. I'm already trying to figure out how to make an extra $4,000/month with my hopefully second job. I could kick myself for not planning for this stage of my life better.
6. We are seriously considering moving. We probably could but I'm tired of getting crappy mortgages because we don't put 20% down. We have only been in our current house just over 2 years but when we bought it we thought we were never going to get pregnant. We had been trying for 3 years, then we got the BFP a month after we moved in. The house was fine for the 2 of us and it's even ok now with the three of us but it's going to be a stretch to get another kiddo in, esp for the long haul.
7. #6 really stresses me out. Esp because I hope to be working full time plus from home in the next year.
8. I love my wife :-)
9. I'm finally consistently exercising. It's not as much as I would like but it's better than before. I've even lost a few pounds. I hope to get a run in today with O since the dog will be a daycare (I know silly but sooo worth it). It's supposed to be 50 today!!! I LOVE this weather. I would probably stay in this location if this was the typical weather.
1. We had 1/3 bottle of white wine leftover from cooking. Last night I decided I either needed to toss it or drink it. You can guess what I did. I was asleep by 8:30.
2. Work has been nuts recently. Too much drama for me.
3. I need to find something to wear to a holiday party Saturday night. I have an idea of what I want...the question will be, can I find it.
4. L and I are actually going to go to a movie and then a holiday party and then home alone on Saturday night. The kids are spending the night with a friend. We are going to have 18 hrs of kid-free time!
5. I am so grouchy today. It started off with a rough morning.
From Wednesday:
6. I am still grouchy. I am not supposed to be PMSy - so what gives?
7. My dad is coming for Christmas. I will need all of the wine. And the beer. And the tequila.
8. I really need to put on music and get to work. I have so.much.to.do.
9. I was awake from 3a-5s. Wide awake. Sigh. Now I am exhausted.
10. I brought kettle corn for a snack. I am so excited.
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