Not only did I have to spend the afternoon with a coworker that is 6 months today (thankfully we work in diff offices) and constantly talk about babies, I was then asked if I was pregnant. Why people?! Whyyyy???
Then I get home and DH's sister wants to know if I want to see her first u/s... Nope. Nope, not at all. (Mind you, she and I got into a big fight the night before we left at thanksgiving. Next morning she wants to act like nothing is wrong. Now I get this text)
Bitter party of one over here.
LT = commiseration. All the hugs lady.
My company revamped its maternity policy this week (12 weeks paid!!), and that's all my 8 month pregnant CW can talk about. #bitter
Post by hydrangea1019 on Dec 16, 2015 20:50:24 GMT -5
Oh goodness gracious. I'm shaking right now. DH politely told his sister that we did not want to see the u/s. Text ended with i loves yous. Everything was fine. Then he gets a rude and angry text from his sisters BF about how he needs to fix this bc DHs sister is now crying.
Oh goodness gracious. I'm shaking right now. DH politely told his sister that we did not want to see the u/s. Text ended with i loves yous. Everything was fine. Then he gets a rude and angry text from his sisters BF about how he needs to fix this bc DHs sister is now crying.
I can't right now.
Do they know about your loss? If so - fuck that bitch.
Oh goodness gracious. I'm shaking right now. DH politely told his sister that we did not want to see the u/s. Text ended with i loves yous. Everything was fine. Then he gets a rude and angry text from his sisters BF about how he needs to fix this bc DHs sister is now crying.
I can't right now.
Do they know about your loss? If so - fuck that bitch.
Yes!!!! That's what's so mind boggling. She asked DH and I both if we wanted to see the u/s. We both politely said no and then DH gets that awful text message from her BF.
I text her and apologized for my short response, bc it was very short. I don't want her to be upset. But seriously BF back the F off!! He's equating us wanting to see the u/s with us being happy for them. So by us saying no we do not, means we aren't happy and aren't being respectful to them.
Post by littlelion on Dec 16, 2015 22:27:23 GMT -5
hydrangea1019 big hugs for the emotionally charged day. You were too nice to apologize. Esp with the recent fight. Just be happy for her when you can. and when you can't, ignore her antics.
Post by hydrangea1019 on Dec 17, 2015 7:52:45 GMT -5
Thanks for the love last night ladies. He started jumping off saying they would no longer share anything, so I told him I would no longer speak to him about anything as he clearly can't see or understand what he had done to DH and I last night.
Then I started talking to DH sister. I think she was upset, which is fine, but I think she's the one who blew everything out of proportion. Once she calmed down and came back to her senses she realized what had happened.
As I was going to bed her BF text DH and I again, seeming to be much calmer, but by that point the damage has been done.
Updates/questions: In the TWW now, should be getting my period on Christmas Eve...
Debbie downer (a place to vent): I'm trying to convince myself this is just a practice cycle, but the thought of doing it all over for the foreseeable future is pissing me off. I'm tired, I'm stressed, my vagina hurts from too much sex... I just want the end result.
GTKY: Are you excited for the holidays, or will you be relieved once they're over? Excited a little, but mostly relieved, I want my regular schedule back, and being around all these sweets and parties makes it impossible to lose weight!
littlelion as much as I want a bfp, I am terrified of it too, I know my mind will go straight to the 'what ifs' like you described So sorry @willylittle hydrangea1019 that is some BS, shame on them for not being more considerate and turning the situation into a problem for you
Post by requiressnacks on Dec 18, 2015 15:41:40 GMT -5
Ok, so my doctor now tells me that she wants to do a sonohysterogram (saline ultrasound) after I get my next period. Is this something everyone does?? (I'm just annoyed because that's another cycle we won't be getting back to the IUIs. This process is so damned long)
Post by LadyNymeria on Dec 18, 2015 15:44:25 GMT -5
requiressnacks - It's not something every office does. I just had one last week because I spot a decent amount before my period every month, and have for 7 years - so we did one to check for polyps or fibroids.
They may want to do it to make sure there was no structural cause for your loss, but it's certainly not something everyone does.
If you do end up having one, please feel free to ask me anything you'd like. The procedure itself really wasn't a big deal.
requiressnacks - It's not something every office does. I just had one last week because I spot a decent amount before my period every month, and have for 7 years - so we did one to check for polyps or fibroids.
They may want to do it to make sure there was no structural cause for your loss, but it's certainly not something everyone does.
If you do end up having one, please feel free to ask me anything you'd like. The procedure itself really wasn't a big deal.
Thanks, I guess they want to be safe rather than sorry. I'm just frustrated because this is starting to feel like the miscarriage that won't end. I've had 2 post-cytotec ultrasounds, bloodwork and now this.
Dr. Google says the saline ultrasound is far less annoying than the HSG, so I think I'm good there.
requiressnacks - It's not something every office does. I just had one last week because I spot a decent amount before my period every month, and have for 7 years - so we did one to check for polyps or fibroids.
They may want to do it to make sure there was no structural cause for your loss, but it's certainly not something everyone does.
If you do end up having one, please feel free to ask me anything you'd like. The procedure itself really wasn't a big deal.
Thanks, I guess they want to be safe rather than sorry. I'm just frustrated because this is starting to feel like the miscarriage that won't end. I've had 2 post-cytotec ultrasounds, bloodwork and now this.
Dr. Google says the saline ultrasound is far less annoying than the HSG, so I think I'm good there.
And thank you!!!
It definitely makes it feel like it's dragging on, but I would hope the RE would be able to get you in much quicker than my OB's office did. We ended up resuming TTC before the procedure because my loss was in August and I didn't get in for it until last week.
I get it's definitely frustrating to have to wait another month to resume the IUIs, but agreed on the better safe than sorry route.
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