Post by sstwinklinglites on Jan 31, 2015 15:16:38 GMT -5
mrscatfarmer13 - The only person I trust to leave LO with is my mother, & she's 1200 miles away. I'm going to be a wreak when we hire a sitter. I know it's a necessary step that needs to happen, but it's hard.
Post by sstwinklinglites on Jan 31, 2015 15:19:26 GMT -5
I don't want to start a new thread, so I'm going to vent here. I'm about 30 seconds from making my Matron of Honor speech about how much I hate this wedding. I went to Nordstrom to pick up the dress, drove around the mall in circles trying to find a space, & couldn't. Then DS starts crying so I got so mad I left. I don't even care if I get on the plane tomorrow without the dang dress. I'm so angry about everything regarding this wedding that I really don't know how I'm going to fake happiness that day.
I don't want to start a new thread, so I'm going to vent here. I'm about 30 seconds from making my Matron of Honor speech about how much I hate this wedding. I went to Nordstrom to pick up the dress, drove around the mall in circles trying to find a space, & couldn't. Then DS starts crying so I got so mad I left. I don't even care if I get on the plane tomorrow without the dang dress. I'm so angry about everything regarding this wedding that I really don't know how I'm going to fake happiness that day.
May I suggest alcohol? It's always a guaranteed way to make me happy!
Sorry for for the stress though! Hopefully when you land in the warm weather it will make you feel better!
I don't want to start a new thread, so I'm going to vent here. I'm about 30 seconds from making my Matron of Honor speech about how much I hate this wedding. I went to Nordstrom to pick up the dress, drove around the mall in circles trying to find a space, & couldn't. Then DS starts crying so I got so mad I left. I don't even care if I get on the plane tomorrow without the dang dress. I'm so angry about everything regarding this wedding that I really don't know how I'm going to fake happiness that day.
May I suggest alcohol? It's always a guaranteed way to make me happy!
Sorry for for the stress though! Hopefully when you land in the warm weather it will make you feel better!
^^^^^^WSS Cheers! Don't mind Toysrus in the background.
Post by mrscatfarmer13 on Jan 31, 2015 21:27:12 GMT -5
I'm feeling pretty good right now, but after actually reading everyone's posts, I feel compelled to share my terrifying (sort of) babysitter experience.
H and I were going out for out anniversary and some really good friends of ours were coming over to hold the fort down while we did dinner and a movie. This was the first time that we had someone that wasn't my mom watch M, so I was already a mess and had every imaginable scenario playing through my head. M was 7mo and went to sleep b/w 6:30-7pm, so I had already planned to have him in bed before we left the house, this way our friends didn't need to worry about getting him down, separation anxiety, feeding, etc.
Fast forward through dinner to around 8:30pm and I'm pumping in the car before we go to the movie theater. I decide to text our friends and make sure everything is fine. They respond that everything is great. Off to the movies we go. Fast forward to around 11:30/12am and we get back home. We walk in to find two exasperated adults that look like they've been put through the ringer. The first thing we heard as we shut the door is that they lied to us and M woke up about an hour after we left. He had been awake for the past 3-4hours crying/on and off the entire time he was awake. Apparently they thought us coming home to a hysteric overtired baby was better than possibly ruining our night by telling us things were not ok.
At the time I didn't say anything, but I thought it was odd that M woke up so soon after going down because that is something he NEVER did. I just wanted to get M back in bed and so I let it go and got to work, even though I suspected that one of them actually woke him up by going in his room, instead of letting him be and listening to the monitor. Months later one of them let it slip that the other *did* in fact go in the room to make sure M was ok. I guess the silence of a sleeping baby wasn't enough assurance? Sorry to ramble and apologies in advance for anything that doesn't make sense, I've been drinking...
TL:DR You have every justification for not trusting new babysitters and having a teeny tiny babysitter list.
Post by littlelevonloohoo on Jan 31, 2015 22:03:37 GMT -5
On the baby sitter...we are transplants. Dh's family is across the world and mine across the country. We have a few close friends nearby that we could leave LO with in a pinch, but, I just don't want to. It took so much for us to get him I don't want to spend any moment away from him that I don't have to. I know how fast they grow up first hand and I want to be there for every moment. Maybe if we were closer to family I'd feel differently.
I do have an almost 17 year old that is American Red Cross trained babysitter and she's great with other people's kids, but I don't feel comfortable leaving the baby with her for longer then it takes me to take a shower.
The only day I'll be away from DS while in Miami will be wedding day. Even though he'll be with my parents, I'm still dreading it, because they just don't get how important it is to keep to his schedule as much as possible. They don't understand that you can't just keep a baby up, he needs his naps, etc.
bazingaa - I should have drank ALL the alcohol. I was stabby the whole rest of the day.
Have I failed to mention I don't like Miami? I'm from there, but couldn't get out fast enough. I don't like the mentality of the majority down there, the traffic blows (Hialeah, which is like Miami's sister, has consistently come up as having the worst drivers in the country), it's crazy expensive, especially compared to wages made, crime and corruption rule. It's not what people see on TV or movies, not what they experience when they're there for a week as tourists. The only thing I really miss is the amazing food.
Safe travels. On the sitter note: Lo has been watched by probably 15 different teachers at daycare throughout the months ( they switch off and rotate some), and my parents, sister, both sides of his parents, and two different non related babysitters. My baby goes to bed at 6:30; and my DH and I get out of the house and go do something. We probably do a sitter twice/ month starting when he was around 2.5 months. I love it. Never had a bad experience. Oh and we also use the church nursery. He's very adaptable and social and I love it.
mrscatfarmer13 how is the tart green apple? My SIL drinks woodchuck a lot but I haven't seen that flavor sounds yummy.
sstwinklinglites interesting to hear your thoughts on Miami. Being from Orlando, Miami seemed like a world away to me. I used to travel there for work a couple of times a year and I hated it. The traffic is ridiculous and the people are so completely different attitude-wise compared to central FL. I love the beaches and architecture down there but try to avoid the craziness at all costs, try and have fun! ?
Edit: ugh stupid smiley that was supposed to be a winky smiley face.
Post by narbuckle01 on Feb 1, 2015 11:43:13 GMT -5
I have indifferent thoughts about sitters. I thought I'd be open to the everyday red cross trained teenager but we had a cousin offer this weekend and I turned her down despit desperately wanting to go out and have a couple drinks and socialize at our neighborhood hole in the wall. So far shes been left with my MIL and my Dad-he is absolutely the best with her. I'm not sure when I'll be comfortable with sitters...
I am fine leaving DS with sitter, but he's a really easy baby. We don't have a strict routine. We just feed him every 3-4 hours and watch for him to act sleepy, then we have a few tricks for getting him to fall asleep. Worst case scenario, he won't stay asleep, and he'll be up playing with a worn-out sitter.
That said, I wouldn't leave him with someone I didn't totally trust. We have a sitter in the area that used to work at his DC so she's known him since he was 10 weeks old. And we leave him with my inlaws all the time when they come to visit, or when we visit them.
I had a terrible experience as a babysitter about 2 years ago. It was a military family that had no family here, and I had babysat for them once or twice a month for about 2 years. Dad was deployed at the time, and mom went out with some friends. Long story short, just after she came home around midnight, there was a medical emergency and we had to call an ambulance (one of her friends was there also, who had driven her home.) There was nobody for me to call and I was faced with having to stay with the child indefinitely. I had no idea if she would even be able to come home the next day. I wrote a note to tell her I would stay as long as I needed to, and asked the paramedics to give it to her when she woke up. There was a police officer there who told me I was under no obligation to stay. I guess social services would have taken the child. Obviously, I would not have let that happen.She ended up leaving the hospital before she probably should have, and coming home early the next morning.
I think that will always be in my mind when I pick a sitter. Like if something happened to me, would this person be able to care for my child for an extended period of time?
Post by mrscatfarmer13 on Feb 1, 2015 13:28:21 GMT -5
@vlagroupue The green apple woodchuck is pretty good. I think I've only seen it sold in the multipacks. Ww drink a lot of woodchuck too, our favorites are 802 and Belgian White.
Post by ladytiffany24 on Feb 2, 2015 9:45:35 GMT -5
sstwinklinglites ugh! That sucks. Just think, it'll all be over very soon!
Re: Babysitters. As most of you know, DH and I are also transplants to the area. DD is left with our wonderful in-home caregiver while she works. I absolutely adore her and she's incredible with DD. Lucky for us, she has a "parent's night out" once a month that she offers to the parents of the kids she sits for. We have taken advantage of it almost every month since she's been watching her (since she was almost 3 months old). It most definitely was super hard at first. That first night we left her with her (outside of day watching) I was texting her like every hour. Obviously, it helps when you can find someone who is noticably good with your baby and they earn your trust quickly.
Outside of that, DD has only been left with my mom and our back up in-home provider who watches DD whenever our primary caregiver takes off (she takes off occassional holidays). I get a little bit more anxiety leaving her with the back-up because she hasn't been around her as often. She's good with DD but I just don't like her as much as my primary.
We'll definitely be continuing to take advantage of parent's night out's from our sitter. And when my mom comes to visit (which is also usually like once a month) we always leave DD with her for a few hours so we can get out. We'll continue to do that too. But as far as finding a sitter outside of that, it's definitely daunting and terrifying.
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