Holiday vent thread

[katelou]

We all need this sometimes, right? Feel free to vent about your family, siblings, in-laws, DH, the weather, or whatever else is bugging you.

[lostinfaith225]

The upside to having hg this Christmas is dh and I don't have to attend an awkward family Christmas with my dad, his new wife and her kids.

Ok not really a vent! Haha

[housecarder]

Christmas is my favorite. I usually bake a ton of goodies and look forward to our Christmas Eve family dinner. This year my mom decided that it would be better for the kids to make pizza rather than traditional stuff and I've been too exhausted and sick to bake. I'm so upset that I won't get my ham and sides because I had to work Thanksgiving and missed out then.

[uniquename]

After feeling pretty good for a couple of weeks, I started puking again today.

My family's Christmas dinner is tomorrow so I feel that that is just real cruel timing.

[cavewmn]

Again we are having lasagna for Christmas dinner. .....I might be just sticking with salad.

[Susan0utLoud]

Inlaws cancelled on coming to town. Called tonight to tell us, conveniently just after we finished all the grocery shopping for Xmas dinner. Jerks.

[katelou]

My 3.5 year old still takes a 2 hour nap every afternoon. And she NEEDS it. We've always been really strict about naptime and bedtime and IMO it's the reason she's a great sleeper and doesn't get overtired and cranky.

IDK if my in-laws just think they can make the executive decision that she doesn't need a nap or if they are just so self-centered that her needs don't even cross their minds (and she's the only grandkid, it's not like they have to balance needs of multiple kids) but they scheduled stuff on Christmas Day and Sunday that ruins naptime- including a brunch at a restaurant that could have easily been scheduled for an hour earlier. They've been pulling this stuff since she was born and I'm so sick of it.

[TnT10]

WTF for absolutely no chance of a white Christmas!! Gah, that's the only time I really welcome snow!

cavewmn, that is what MIL is doing for Christmas dinner this year too. I get it, she had double knee replacement a few months ago and her mom just had surgery to have her appendix taken out, so they just don't want to do a whole lot this year. But I'm feeling just like housecarder and I want all of the normal holiday sides! I offered to do a bunch of it, but with me being pregnant they wouldn't take me up on it. Wahh.

So my rant is that DH's uncle is causing all sorts of drama before even showing up this year and it just annoys me- there is always some sort of drama that has to do with them every year. So their two children (both are mid-20s) have recently moved back in with them, and there is all of that underlying drama to start with (they post all over FB about it, really mature). They usually come on Christmas and will leave the next day and normally stay at IL's house while Grandma, Grandpa, and Uncle R (he has CP and depends on them completely) stay in a hotel. Well Gma/ Gpa said that they aren't going to a hotel this year, so Uncle is the one that will have to get a hotel- it is way easier on them with Uncle R because MIL helps out a lot, they don't have to get him in and out of the car, etc etc. Uncle said that he "doesn't have a ton of money like the rest of you," and they can't afford to stay in a hotel and that it "isn't fair." Errkay. So they are going to drive 3 1/2 hrs here, stay long enough to collect their presents, eat, and then drive 3 1/2 hours back home and I am just anticipating their dramatic exit. It just is really annoying because everyone has been through a lot in the past couple of months and for him to throw a hissy fit like this is asinine. MIL even offered that they could all stay at her house on air mattresses and couches, but they declined that. I sure as hell hope they don't think they can come stay at my house- we don't have the room and they all smoke, so I don't want my house/ couch/ everything to smell like smoke. End rant haha!

TL/DR- DH's Uncle is an ass and trying to start unnecessary drama before even showing up, so it should be a load of fun once they get here.

[harlowjune1984]

Vent from my side of the family: My family likes to change the date/location/time of their celebration several times leading up to whichever holiday it is. They will also plan multiple things, instead of just planning one and being done with it. And because we have the only grandkid/great-grandkid, if we don't show up to one of their events, we never hear the end of it. It makes the holidays extremely stressful. Last year, we nipped it in the butt by hosting, and then I refused to change the date and time to cater to anyone. If you came, great. If you didn't, maybe next year. It was the most relaxing Christmas I had in years. This year I didn't want to deal with it, as none of them know that I am pregnant and I didn't want the stress of hosting. They have three events going on, and if I make it to two out of the three, they will bitch that I didn't make it to that third one. It makes me want to boycott Christmas. Also, none of my siblings are coming to town, none of my cousins make time to spend with family, and so it would just be the same people I am seeing at each event, it isn't like there are different people at each one.

Vent from husbands side of the family: My IL's brought our Christmas gift to our niece when they went to visit her (she is almost 23 and lives about 3 hours away). We bought her new pots and pans because she is broke and her ex-boyfriend took all of them when he moved out (even though they were her's), and refuse to give them back. I was so excited to give them to her, but then she found out she couldn't get time off from work to come down, so IL's drove her gifts out to her. She opened them, and we didn't even get a "thank you" from her. My nephew decided that he didn't want to come down and stayed home with his friends, so we won't see him either. Christmas Eve will be my SIL I cannot stand, my BIL who is annoying, and my IL's (who I actually love). Luckily, my IL's know about the pregnancy and are good at helping with covering it up, so at any time I can just say that I have a headache and leave DH and DD there to go back home (next door), and relax in a quiet house.

Overall vent: I am so tired, my house is trashed, and my tree is still in our downstairs entryway.....bundled. We have yet to put the dang thing up, and I think that I am getting sick. I have a plugged nose sore throat, and just feel horrible.

CLIFF NOTES: My family cannot get their shit together. My husband's side is driving me batty. My tree still isn't up, and I feel like hell.

[rungirlrun]

Dec 24, 2015 1:35:22 GMT -5 Susan0utLoud said:

Inlaws cancelled on coming to town. Called tonight to tell us, conveniently just after we finished all the grocery shopping for Xmas dinner. Jerks.

Rude! What was their excuse? Good news is most food can be returned at least.

[Susan0utLoud]

Dec 24, 2015 12:34:03 GMT -5 rungirlrun said:

Dec 24, 2015 1:35:22 GMT -5 Susan0utLoud said:

Inlaws cancelled on coming to town. Called tonight to tell us, conveniently just after we finished all the grocery shopping for Xmas dinner. Jerks.

Rude! What was their excuse? Good news is most food can be returned at least.

They said their dog isn't feeling well. Is it bad form to return a pie, a ham, bread, etc.? I can't decide.

[lostinfaith225]

I am having diarrhea and constipation all at the same time, while puking today.

[rungirlrun]

Dec 24, 2015 12:41:24 GMT -5 Susan0utLoud said:

Dec 24, 2015 12:34:03 GMT -5 rungirlrun said:

Rude! What was their excuse? Good news is most food can be returned at least.

They said their dog isn't feeling well. Is it bad form to return a pie, a ham, bread, etc.? I can't decide.

I'd definitely try the pie and ham assuming they are still wrapped. Anything wrapped should be fine. Bread like produce type stuff is harder if it came from the grocery store bakery. I'd keep the bread, but I love carbs :-) Still stinky situation!

[cavewmn]

TnT10, FIL said he could make something else but she refused. Last year she made the same thing and put spinach in it. blech. Dh's family keeps a certain tradition. Easter - Ham, Thanksgiving - Turkey, Christmas - Hopefully they don't stick with lasagna. lol

I am sorry for everyone dealing with family drama.

[Ray]

Dec 24, 2015 12:41:24 GMT -5 Susan0utLoud said:

Dec 24, 2015 12:34:03 GMT -5 rungirlrun said:

Rude! What was their excuse? Good news is most food can be returned at least.

They said their dog isn't feeling well. Is it bad form to return a pie, a ham, bread, etc.? I can't decide.

If you do, it will all get thrown out by the store. I would just keep it and eat it.

ETA: the bread may not because it doesn't need to be refrigerated, but that ham and pie definitely will because the store can't guarantee to the next customer that it was stored at proper temp while you had it. Food safety laws blah blah etc

[tikoberry99]

So my dad is a real ass hole and likes to make inconsiderate, insensitive comments that he thinks are funny and he's been like this his whole life. I woke up in a super sensitive mood and I said something like "I dont like talking to strangers" and he said "how are you going to have a kid if you don't talk to strangers? The kid won't have social skills" this was after he told me he was going to kiddingly take my kid bc of my liberal views. I just about flipped the fuck out. Then my brother was acting like a 12 yr old...he's 25...bc he wouldn't play bacchi with us and we needed 4 people to play bc he's a little bitch aND would rather play a stupid computer game. I did lose my shit over this and was crying and yelling that our parents will die soon and he will regret not spending time with them, blah blah blah. I haven't flipped put like that in years. I'm in FL and just want to go home to cali. I'm over fucking xmas.

[katelou]

WTF to my hormones. I just want to cry and I have no idea why.

[littlesthobo]

Every year we go to my parents' to open gifts for an hour and then we all go to my aunt's house for Christmas dinner (she lives a block away from my parents). My mom decided to cancel presents this year and gave us all a cheque weeks ago, and made me buy DS' present from them. My sister isn't going to make it (we're supposed to skype her in- annoying) and my brother just texted he's not coming. I feel like all the family traditions I wanted to share with DS have gone down the shitter. And I was pumped to share my news with everyone.

[littlesthobo]

Can I also vent about not being able to drink? I need a drink!

[Ray]

Dec 25, 2015 12:56:45 GMT -5 littlesthobo said:

Every year we go to my parents' to open gifts for an hour and then we all go to my aunt's house for Christmas dinner (she lives a block away from my parents). My mom decided to cancel presents this year and gave us all a cheque weeks ago, and made me buy DS' present from them. My sister isn't going to make it (we're supposed to skype her in- annoying) and my brother just texted he's not coming. I feel like all the family traditions I wanted to share with DS have gone down the shitter. And I was pumped to share my news with everyone.

I'm sorry your plans to tell everyone didn't work out

[cavewmn]

littlesthobo, I'm sorry that all has happened. I feel the same way about my family. Which is why we now spend holidays with DH's family.

[beebe918]

littlesthobo so disappointing, in the past few years both my family and H's have discontinued a tradition I really enjoyed.

[littlesthobo]

Thanks Ray, cavewmn and beebe918. It ended up being a really nice dinner and everyone's excited about our news, I just wish my siblings had been there to hang with DS and so I could tell them in person. DH and I have decided to start new traditions for ourselves and our little family; call it our resolution for next year!