Post by meerkatmillie on Dec 29, 2015 9:57:49 GMT -5
achromia I was concerned about the same thing for my IVF cycle but found out anything over 14mm at the time of the trigger has a shot at maturing and being viable. They grow 1-2mm each day. I also read some studies that suggested waiting for larger follicles isn't always the best and some clinics are now triggering when follicles reach 17mm. If I can dig up that study I'll come back to post it. It really made me feel better about the timing
Oh, W, so many hugs. I'm sorry that he made you hurt. I agree with others that even the best partners can sometimes say thoughtless things. I hope that you guys get a chance to talk things over and he can understand why that was not okay.
meerkatmillie, thanks for the reassurance. I do think my doctor is smart and trying to make the best decisions for me with the best chance of getting me KU; it's just hard for me not to obsess over the details because I'm a reader/know-it-all who always wants to look things up and learn more.
Post by teachermomtobe on Dec 29, 2015 10:55:27 GMT -5
emilie, Thanks for the suggested wording. I'll have to decide if that will make her more curious/gossipy or less. Sorry IUI #2 didn't work. W, Sorry you're are struggling right now and YH said something so hurtful. I'm not saying it's okay, but I don't think our husbands always understand how their words hurt us regarding IF. Last night DH and I went at it because I was crying and he was judging me for being so upset about IF. Like you said, normally MH is very supportive and great. Last night, not so much. I hope you two are able to work past it. *hugs*
IF is a really shitty, difficult thing to deal with. But unexplained IF? I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. I've spent countless hours on Google trying to find reasons why I can't get pregnant. It's frustrating and depressing to say the least, but I know how easy it is to go on a downward spiral when it comes to IF. I don't know YH, but I'm going to guess he didn't mean to hurt you the way that he did. I think we're lucky in the fact that we have each other's support here and know what to say/what not to say to someone who's going through this. MH has definitely said some dumb shit before, but I just try to remember that he's going through the same IF that I am. And as much as I'm sitting here wondering what's wrong with me, he's probably doing the same thing about himself. Maybe when things calm down you can explain to him that what he said was wrong and hurtful. And if he truly thinks that your eating habits are to blame, then maybe you can remind him that there are people who eat really fucking healthy and still can't get pregnant. Or that there are people who eat whatever they want, whenever they want, and have no problem getting pregnant.
And don't ever feel bad for venting, that's what we're here for.
TTC #1 since August 2013 DX: Endo November 2014: Hysteroscopy, D&C June - September 2015: Clomid + Novarel + IUI #1-3 January 2017: Laparoscopy - endo removed
Post by wannabmama on Dec 29, 2015 12:31:25 GMT -5
W just chiming in to agree with the PPs, MH is a wonderful guy...but he's hurt my feelings more than once through this process and it sucks bc IRL he's one of the only people I have to talk about it with so when he doesn't feel "on my side" it's even more upsetting. But that's why this board is so great, a support system when it could otherwise feel very lonely. I hope you feel better and can talk to him about it. In the meantime, ((hugs))
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
Hi there, and hugs to all of you just trying to get through the damn holiday season and end of year grumpies. This sucks.
@whitney please don't feel too badly about sharing, you weren't nasty and IF is something of an asshole. We are here for support, not judging. I as well had some hurt last night after both of us were too stressed and pressured for TI. Finally I realized I will not let IF ruin my marriage, it ruins enough of me already so I said screw it and went on with my night.
**loss mentioned** We are on round 2 clomid + trigger + TI after cycle 1 chemical. This cycle feels less intense, not sure how to explain it but last cycle I felt very strong that it was going to work and this cycle I feel just like meh.. We had CD12 monitoring on CD11 bc of holidays. I had one 16.5mm follie on right, one 19mm follie on left. And my lining was only 5+.... He said I was starting to show estrogen effect of clomid so he started me on Estradiol and told me to trigger the next am. I'm feeling grumpy bc our timing was less than ideal, just so much pressure. We got it in at 24hrs post trigger and that was it.
QUESTION: for those of you who started with clomid + TI and then went to IUI, did your husband find it to be less pressure/stress with IUI? My husband believes he'll feel less pressure in the dr office under an even shorter time constraint and into a cup. That sounds like a lot more pressure to this girl.
butlerfan - Sorry that your records are taking so long. That seems really unreasonable. Hopefully, you O soon. peaseblossom55 - So, so sorry for the BFN. rooskie - I'm sorry to hear you started spotting on Christmas. mustloveerica - FX the urologist gives the go for IVF. wannabmama - *hugs* I know that feeling all too well. daisy818 - FX for a positive OPK & O! mrsjene - FX the spotting stops. GL at you ET! Evelyn3 - So sorry. *hugs* teachermomtobe - All the hugs. It is hard coming to that realization. beckynsean11 - Ugh, so sorry. So many hugs. achromia - So sorry IUI #1 was a bust. ceejay - I'm so sorry you were made to feel like you foster children "don't count". *hugs* pippacricket - FX your vertigo clears up. goldenlove3 - Squee, you're getting so close! emilie - So sorry IUI #2 was a bust. FX for IUI #3. W- As PP's have said, sometimes our husbands are super clueless about stuff. MH has said some hurtful things regarding IF, without thinking. *huge hugs*
Had my appointment with my GP today regarding my high blood pressure. He put me on medication for hypertension but made sure it was safe to take if I happened to become pregnant. I asked him if I needed to stop TTC and he said no. So, while I am slightly upset about being put on another medication and being diagnosed with yet another medical condition, I am glad that it will not affect our TTC process. Which means I will be calling the new RE on Thursday and making my appointment. Hopefully, I can get in before the end of January.
kleigh, no advice from experience but as long as YH thinks it's less pressure, that's all that matters!
Your question did get me thinking (again) about the post coital test we have this week. DH is super stressed about finding another job (apparently his old employers are being dicks and fighting his unemployment application) and stress tends to have an impact on him. The last two times we've had sex he was never able to finish. So now I'm worried about what will happen when we add even more pressure to time everything right. I must admit, I hate how much we have to get poked and prodded, but at least I don't have to deal with performance anxiety.
Post by teachermomtobe on Dec 29, 2015 14:13:37 GMT -5
kleigh, We did one cycle with TI and one with IUI. For our IUI, he is able to collect at home so I think that helps him feel less pressure. He definitely doesn't enjoy it but he's able to get the job done. If we have to move to IVF though we have to go to a different location and he'd have to provide a sample there which he is freaking out about.
Hi, everyone. I'm coming back, I'm just having a hard time getting my head in TTC mode again. I don't think I'll be able to concentrate on it until after everything is resolved. So I'll hang, but I might just lurk for awhile.
TTC #1 since August 2013 DX: Endo November 2014: Hysteroscopy, D&C June - September 2015: Clomid + Novarel + IUI #1-3 January 2017: Laparoscopy - endo removed
Post by wannabmama on Dec 29, 2015 16:58:20 GMT -5
kleigh MH had a really hard time with his first SA (at the lab) then second one he did at home (was better but travel time puts us right on the cusp) then we went to IUI and he went back to the lab, kind of kept a light hearted attitude and as he said "took his time and enjoyed himself" and it was nbd...our second IUI he announced "I'm a pro"...with TI he can get a little stressed, too, but now giving a sample is easy. I think getting the first weird and awkward one out of the way and sort of joking and keeping things light on the day of helped.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
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W, big hugs, as PP's have said the stress and emotions of all this calls for letting it out sometimes. It's a lot to handle. I hope you feel better and get a moment to talk about it together.
Sigh. It seems like it's been a rough week for a lot of people here. Sending many awkward internet hugs. Don't try too hard to push me away. I will hug you anyway. And maybe throw in a butt grab for good measure.
I *might* have my u/s and post-coital test today, but I'm waiting to hear back from the doctor. I have been using my cheapie OPKs, which have always worked for me, and I got a positive last night around 6 and then again with SMU this morning. However, RE had recommended using the CB digital test, and that test was still negative this AM. Argh, body, why you gotta send mixed messages?? If we don't do it today it will probably need to be on Friday, which UGH to having to do that on New Year's Day.
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