But my random is that I haven't grocery shopped in three weeks. Yep. We ran out of toilet paper on Christmas (my IL's live next door, so they tossed us a few rolls). During these three weeks, where there hasn't been any food in the house, I have said countless times "We don't have any groceries and my stomach cannot handle going in the store...." The list is sitting on the dining room table. Did DH ever go to the store? Nope. So today, I sit down to add to the list, and decide that if that is how it is going to be, I will just order them online and have them brought to our house by Safeway. Its worth the $10 delivery charge. At which point, he says "If you need me to go to the store later today, I can....."
Seriously?!?! SERIOUSLY?!?! The only reason we have survived this long, is because of the leftovers from the holidays that his parents sent over (because they cannot eat it quick enough), and the takeout we have been getting twice a day (because I also cannot stomach cooking and he doesn't want to cook, and really doesn't have anything that he can cook, since we haven't gone to the store). All of those conversations about how I couldn't stomach going to the store, and how we were out of this-n-that, and it takes him three weeks to offer to go to the store?! Ugh.
Didn't you say you were symptom-free Wed-Sat? Why didn't you go then?
I was, but we had family and holiday stuff going on pretty much all day for the holidays (which is why I was glad that I was feeling good). Our last thing was on Sunday, and I was back to feeling pretty bad by that day.
harlowjune1984 I have come to the conclusion that my very very dear, DH will do just about anything I need or ask him to do... but I have to ask. He just won't ever have the idea on his own of "hmm, wifey hasn't done the dishes in a few days... it would be nice if I did them." But if I ask him to do the dishes he does with no issues. I stewed over it for so long. In my head I was always like "He's not my friggin child... I shouldn't have to give him CHORES like a 10 year old. He should WANT to help me!" But then I realized it was better for both our sanity if I just asked for help. And you better believe I pull the PG card every chance I get
He ended up going to the store, and I kind of had to laugh that I gave him a short list, he was gone for almost two hours, and came back looking like he bought the whole store.
This was the exact convo: MIL: So do you have names? H: We have a couple we like, just fine tuning right now. MIL: Well you liked Caspian, maybe Cassandra. What about Bertie? Me: Well we are sure on Seraphina just trying to decide on a second and the middle names. MIL: Oh well hold on a second, let's think this through (as she walks up behind me and puts her hands on my shoulders). Sera? I don't know. Me:...
This reminds me of my MIL with SIL's baby. SIL and her H were set on a name (did not share until he was born) but MIL kept referring to him as the name SHE wanted (Oliver). She still calls him Oliver. Baby is not named Oliver.
madamewaffles, sounds like my friends mom. She wanted them to name their son, Jack. They named him Landon. She still says "I still think that he would have made a better Jack....its a much better name." He is four lady....time to move on.
MH didn't want to tell anyone names we were thinking of, and I accidentally slipped on his #1 pick to my mom over lunch one day. Her reaction will forever be burned into my brain as a reminder not to mention names again. We ended up using his #1 pick in the end, but it really made me second guess the name the rest of the pregnancy. No names will be mentioned this go-round.
housecarder, I like that she put her hands on your shoulder, like she is trying to comfort you while she is breaking the news that she doesn't like the name. HAHA!
Post by housecarder on Dec 30, 2015 2:11:20 GMT -5
harlowjune1984 I was sitting down and she was behind me. She even kind of laid her head on my back. I think she truly thinks H came up with ridiculous names and I don't want to stand up to him. Which she has a basis for this because for the longest time he wanted to name a boy named Beastman. But give me some credit, when I comes to names I will put my foot down on anything I'm against.
Post by housecarder on Dec 30, 2015 5:40:06 GMT -5
Oh dear Lord please help me not kill my husband today. He has a cold, actually he has a sore throat. I have congestion, constipation, heartburn, nausea and vomiting. And he's whining about dying and me not having any sympathy for him.
Oh dear Lord please help me not kill my husband today. He has a cold, actually he has a sore throat. I have congestion, constipation, heartburn, nausea and vomiting. And he's whining about dying and me not having any sympathy for him.
besy eye roll gif ever lol FX you both feel better soon (and that he can grab a pack of halls and get over it)
Oh dear Lord please help me not kill my husband today. He has a cold, actually he has a sore throat. I have congestion, constipation, heartburn, nausea and vomiting. And he's whining about dying and me not having any sympathy for him.
besy eye roll gif ever lol FX you both feel better soon (and that he can grab a pack of halls and get over it)
I actually sent it to him when he texted me this: If I don't make it you tell those girls that their daddy's last wish was that they are happy...and no boys! And then I followed it with:
My sisters are in town and were doing Christmas tomorrow night, I was asking my mom what the plans were. Then I was like well do we have plans for nye? She's like tomorrow is nye. I'm like oh that really snuck up on me.
harlowjune1984 I have come to the conclusion that my very very dear, DH will do just about anything I need or ask him to do... but I have to ask. He just won't ever have the idea on his own of "hmm, wifey hasn't done the dishes in a few days... it would be nice if I did them." But if I ask him to do the dishes he does with no issues. I stewed over it for so long. In my head I was always like "He's not my friggin child... I shouldn't have to give him CHORES like a 10 year old. He should WANT to help me!" But then I realized it was better for both our sanity if I just asked for help. And you better believe I pull the PG card every chance I get
He ended up going to the store, and I kind of had to laugh that I gave him a short list, he was gone for almost two hours, and came back looking like he bought the whole store.
My husband does the same thing. His theory is that if he doesn't know exactly which one I wanted he'll buy both so he doesn't have to go back if he guessed wrong lol
I am interested in being Team Green and DH is absolutely insistent that we find out the sex of the baby ASAP.
Last night I proposed that he could find out at out anatomy scan but not tell me and I'd find out in the delivery room. This actually seemed like a great compromise until he started twisting it into methods to torment me, which he found hilarious. Sigh.
I am interested in being Team Green and DH is absolutely insistent that we find out the sex of the baby ASAP.
Last night I proposed that he could find out at out anatomy scan but not tell me and I'd find out in the delivery room. This actually seemed like a great compromise until he started twisting it into methods to torment me, which he found hilarious. Sigh.
Hey, we're twin couples! MH suggested finding out and letting me wait until delivery, but despite his steel trap of a mouth, I'm convinced he will accidentally slip up. When he gets sentimental/mushy, all that goes out the window! We're still at a stalemate.
I am interested in being Team Green and DH is absolutely insistent that we find out the sex of the baby ASAP.
Last night I proposed that he could find out at out anatomy scan but not tell me and I'd find out in the delivery room. This actually seemed like a great compromise until he started twisting it into methods to torment me, which he found hilarious. Sigh.
We are the opposite - DH wants to be Team Green and I just can't LOL. I did promise that if we had another LO in the future that we could be Team Green....
Random for this morning - I spent most of the morning in my office with my door closed so that I could eat pizza with garlic sauce for breakfast without getting the side eye from co-workers.
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I am interested in being Team Green and DH is absolutely insistent that we find out the sex of the baby ASAP.
Last night I proposed that he could find out at out anatomy scan but not tell me and I'd find out in the delivery room. This actually seemed like a great compromise until he started twisting it into methods to torment me, which he found hilarious. Sigh.
My H suggested this with my last pregnancy. I honestly don't think it would be possible to keep this type of secret. It would have to slip in some way (even facial expression) when buying baby items, decorating the nursery, discussing names. That's quite a secret to keep for 4-4.5 months!
Our decision came down to who felt more strongly. And that was me. I'm so into being team green that finding out would sort of ruin a little bit of my pregnancy happiness. That sounds really crazy, but I'm not someone who really enjoys being pregnant so having a huge surprise at the end makes it more bearable and keeps the excitement going.
Good luck with the decision. I hope you get your way :-)
Post by housecarder on Dec 30, 2015 10:12:47 GMT -5
katelou and madamewaffles MH was the opposite and didn't want to find out at first, but he didn't want me to know and him not. I think it was more that he wanted something about this pregnancy to be different since this is his first pregnancy. The twins changed everything so he was all about finding out.
Post by sarcaztic10 on Dec 30, 2015 10:15:40 GMT -5
My family would never dream of criticizing our baby name choices. We have been set on another boy name for years and if it just happens to be a girl they know it will be hard enough for us to settle on a name without their assistance.
The IL's probably have their opinions but I am fairly certain I made it clear when we had DS that there opinions on names or my parenting are not welcome at all so I foresee very few problems with them.
I slept in 20 minutes past my alarm this morning and still made it to work 30 minutes early. Part of the reason is that I am not even really trying with my makeup and hair anymore because I feel like shit in the morning.
My family would never dream of criticizing our baby name choices. We have been set on another boy name for years and if it just happens to be a girl they know it will be hard enough for us to settle on a name without their assistance.
The IL's probably have their opinions but I am fairly certain I made it clear when we had DS that there opinions on names or my parenting are not welcome at all so I foresee very few problems with them.
I slept in 20 minutes past my alarm this morning and still made it to work 30 minutes early. Part of the reason is that I am not even really trying with my makeup and hair anymore because I feel like shit in the morning.
Oh girl, I feel ya. I blew my hair dry today for the first time in 4-EVA. My co-workers have been asking me if I colored my hair or got a haircut. Nope. Just washed it. LOL
I'm kind of cracking up at the names conversations. Sorry you guys are dealing with all of that. I couldn't imagine having family members who were all up in our business about names. MH made the mistake at Christmas of telling my family that if we had a boy we'd be naming him Dominic, which was swiftly followed by my godmother asking if we'd be naming a girl Domenica. No, we will not be, because MH hates that name with a fiery passion for reasons that I cannot understand. So awkwardly explaining that we would name a boy in honor of my deceased grandmother, but not a girl after her was interesting.
Man colds: Can go eff themselves. MH made the mistake of telling me a few days ago that he couldn't hold the baby because he was "actually sick". You're about to actually have a knee to the dick if you don't take your kid right now, buddy.
Post by housecarder on Dec 30, 2015 11:05:33 GMT -5
TheTuna15 I went off on H when he came home on break asking for cold medicine because he was "dying" from his sore throat, but then he stopped by the gas station to buy chewing tobacco. Your throat doesn't hurt that bad if you can still dip.
housecarder, This is why I maintain that men are the dumber sex. If he can dip, his throat doesn't hurt that bad. Just like if MH can come onto me, he's not so tired that he can't go downstairs and get the comforter out of the dryer. They simply do not make basic connections in their brains.
I'm letting DS watch way too much Netflix today. I'm suppose to be taking it super easy for a few days after my rhogam shot. It's the only way he sits still.
But my random is that I haven't grocery shopped in three weeks. Yep. We ran out of toilet paper on Christmas (my IL's live next door, so they tossed us a few rolls). During these three weeks, where there hasn't been any food in the house, I have said countless times "We don't have any groceries and my stomach cannot handle going in the store...." The list is sitting on the dining room table. Did DH ever go to the store? Nope. So today, I sit down to add to the list, and decide that if that is how it is going to be, I will just order them online and have them brought to our house by Safeway. Its worth the $10 delivery charge. At which point, he says "If you need me to go to the store later today, I can....."
Seriously?!?! SERIOUSLY?!?! The only reason we have survived this long, is because of the leftovers from the holidays that his parents sent over (because they cannot eat it quick enough), and the takeout we have been getting twice a day (because I also cannot stomach cooking and he doesn't want to cook, and really doesn't have anything that he can cook, since we haven't gone to the store). All of those conversations about how I couldn't stomach going to the store, and how we were out of this-n-that, and it takes him three weeks to offer to go to the store?! Ugh.
I get what you're saying, but I think it's silly to be mad that he didn't do something you never asked him to do. Would it have been thoughtful if he'd taken the initiative on his own? Of course! But some people don't work that way. If you want shit done, ask for it to be done. Don't sit back pouting that no one's doing it.
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I'm letting DS watch way too much Netflix today. I'm suppose to be taking it super easy for a few days after my rhogam shot. It's the only way he sits still.
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Post by icaughtfire on Dec 30, 2015 12:26:21 GMT -5
Speaking of names, we didn't get any criticism on DDs name, and haven't shared any name choices for this baby. But my grandma keeps demanding this baby be named after her. I hope it's a boy so we don't even have to deal with that drama.
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But my random is that I haven't grocery shopped in three weeks. Yep. We ran out of toilet paper on Christmas (my IL's live next door, so they tossed us a few rolls). During these three weeks, where there hasn't been any food in the house, I have said countless times "We don't have any groceries and my stomach cannot handle going in the store...." The list is sitting on the dining room table. Did DH ever go to the store? Nope. So today, I sit down to add to the list, and decide that if that is how it is going to be, I will just order them online and have them brought to our house by Safeway. Its worth the $10 delivery charge. At which point, he says "If you need me to go to the store later today, I can....."
Seriously?!?! SERIOUSLY?!?! The only reason we have survived this long, is because of the leftovers from the holidays that his parents sent over (because they cannot eat it quick enough), and the takeout we have been getting twice a day (because I also cannot stomach cooking and he doesn't want to cook, and really doesn't have anything that he can cook, since we haven't gone to the store). All of those conversations about how I couldn't stomach going to the store, and how we were out of this-n-that, and it takes him three weeks to offer to go to the store?! Ugh.
I get what you're saying, but I think it's silly to be mad that he didn't do something you never asked him to do. Would it have been thoughtful if he'd taken the initiative on his own? Of course! But some people don't work that way. If you want shit done, ask for it to be done. Don't sit back pouting that no one's doing it.
My husband told me if I want him to do something or help out I have to be specific with and ask for I want. He isn't always perceptive with what I may need or what needs to be done. If I say "honey I really need help could you please go to the store?" He will 9 out of 10 times do it
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My morning sickness has come back in full force. And the more tired I am, the worse it is. Therefore my plans for NYE is being in bed by 7:30, asleep by 9. My poor husband.
Anyone else noticing an increase in morning sickness at 11 and 12 weeks? And this whole time I was excited to get to that point so I could feel better...
I had a couple weeks where I was feeling better, but I started puking again yesterday and today (11w1d, 11w2d). *sigh* Not just you!
But my random is that I haven't grocery shopped in three weeks. Yep. We ran out of toilet paper on Christmas (my IL's live next door, so they tossed us a few rolls). During these three weeks, where there hasn't been any food in the house, I have said countless times "We don't have any groceries and my stomach cannot handle going in the store...." The list is sitting on the dining room table. Did DH ever go to the store? Nope. So today, I sit down to add to the list, and decide that if that is how it is going to be, I will just order them online and have them brought to our house by Safeway. Its worth the $10 delivery charge. At which point, he says "If you need me to go to the store later today, I can....."
Seriously?!?! SERIOUSLY?!?! The only reason we have survived this long, is because of the leftovers from the holidays that his parents sent over (because they cannot eat it quick enough), and the takeout we have been getting twice a day (because I also cannot stomach cooking and he doesn't want to cook, and really doesn't have anything that he can cook, since we haven't gone to the store). All of those conversations about how I couldn't stomach going to the store, and how we were out of this-n-that, and it takes him three weeks to offer to go to the store?! Ugh.
I get what you're saying, but I think it's silly to be mad that he didn't do something you never asked him to do. Would it have been thoughtful if he'd taken the initiative on his own? Of course! But some people don't work that way. If you want shit done, ask for it to be done. Don't sit back pouting that no one's doing it.
I actually told him a couple of times that he would have to go to the store, where the list was, and that if there was anything else he needed, he would have to add it to the list. I just wasn't until I said that I was going to have Safeway deliver, that he acknowledged everything I had been saying to him.
I get what you're saying, but I think it's silly to be mad that he didn't do something you never asked him to do. Would it have been thoughtful if he'd taken the initiative on his own? Of course! But some people don't work that way. If you want shit done, ask for it to be done. Don't sit back pouting that no one's doing it.
I actually told him a couple of times that he would have to go to the store, where the list was, and that if there was anything else he needed, he would have to add it to the list. I just wasn't until I said that I was going to have Safeway deliver, that he acknowledged everything I had been saying to him.
I get what you are saying and it must be frustrating but there is a difference between telling someone they need to do someone and asking someone to help you with doing something. Just a thought.
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