I get what you're saying, but I think it's silly to be mad that he didn't do something you never asked him to do. Would it have been thoughtful if he'd taken the initiative on his own? Of course! But some people don't work that way. If you want shit done, ask for it to be done. Don't sit back pouting that no one's doing it.
I actually told him a couple of times that he would have to go to the store, where the list was, and that if there was anything else he needed, he would have to add it to the list. I just wasn't until I said that I was going to have Safeway deliver, that he acknowledged everything I had been saying to him.
Weird, your original vent said you told him you were too sick to go to the store, not that you repeatedly asked him to go to the store. To me, there's a huge difference between "Ugh, I'm sick and don't think I'll be able to go to the store.." and "Husband, we need groceries. Please go to the store now, here is the list. Goodbye."
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I actually told him a couple of times that he would have to go to the store, where the list was, and that if there was anything else he needed, he would have to add it to the list. I just wasn't until I said that I was going to have Safeway deliver, that he acknowledged everything I had been saying to him.
Weird, your original vent said you told him you were too sick to go to the store, not that you repeatedly asked him to go to the store. To me, there's a huge difference between "Ugh, I'm sick and don't think I'll be able to go to the store.." and "Husband, we need groceries. Please go to the store now, here is the list. Goodbye."
Post by uniquename on Dec 30, 2015 21:09:44 GMT -5
My brother in-law phoned this morning to announce that his wife had just delivered their healthy twin girls...and it hit me, I get a baby at the end of all this!
I feel like I've been fighting morning sickness and fatigue and bloat, and in all that the fact that in six+ months there will be a baby just kinda got lost on me.
Maybe it's because I'm sick and my kid is being a butt that I feel like this, but why the fuck are we so concerned about the intricacies of harlowjune1984, 's conversation with her husband? I get that she vented about him not getting the hint that groceries were needed in the house and she was not doing the said shopping because she doesn't feel well. So, can someone tell me why it matters if she asked him to go, strongly hinted at him to go, or drew him a venn diagram that demonstrated the food situation in the house? Are there two adult humans living in her house? If the answer is yes, then she can be annoyed that the other adult human did not go to the store. MH will do the most un-useful things in the world to "help". I constantly have to redirect him. That doesn't make it any less annoying, or make me want to vent about it any less.
Any other subjects on the table that people are going to get all butt hurt about someone venting on?
Maybe it's because I'm sick and my kid is being a butt that I feel like this, but why the fuck are we so concerned about the intricacies of harlowjune1984, 's conversation with her husband? I get that she vented about him not getting the hint that groceries were needed in the house and she was not doing the said shopping because she doesn't feel well. So, can someone tell me why it matters if she asked him to go, strongly hinted at him to go, or drew him a venn diagram that demonstrated the food situation in the house? Are there two adult humans living in her house? If the answer is yes, then she can be annoyed that the other adult human did not go to the store. MH will do the most un-useful things in the world to "help". I constantly have to redirect him. That doesn't make it any less annoying, or make me want to vent about it any less.
Any other subjects on the table that people are going to get all butt hurt about someone venting on?
Personally, I think it's stupid to get pissed off at someone for not doing something you never asked them to do.
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Maybe it's because I'm sick and my kid is being a butt that I feel like this, but why the fuck are we so concerned about the intricacies of harlowjune1984, 's conversation with her husband? I get that she vented about him not getting the hint that groceries were needed in the house and she was not doing the said shopping because she doesn't feel well. So, can someone tell me why it matters if she asked him to go, strongly hinted at him to go, or drew him a venn diagram that demonstrated the food situation in the house? Are there two adult humans living in her house? If the answer is yes, then she can be annoyed that the other adult human did not go to the store. MH will do the most un-useful things in the world to "help". I constantly have to redirect him. That doesn't make it any less annoying, or make me want to vent about it any less.
Any other subjects on the table that people are going to get all butt hurt about someone venting on?
And the only one who seems to be getting butt hurt about anything is you so...?
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I personally don't care. Just not a fan of the "ugh men" generalities being thrown around. Because I am the forgetful, dumb, doesn't take the hint "man" 95% of the time. Generalities aren't cool.
icaughtfire, And I think it's stupid to dissect someone's statement and assume they're pissed off when they could just be annoyed. I think it's stupid that you have to ask someone who splits a household with you 50% to do a basic chore. But yeah. Totally butthurt. Going to go cry in a corner now about being called out on it.
Ray, I am guilty of drawing MH a venn diagram, but we're both total nerds. And, I'm totally guilty of being the forgetful one, so I wouldn't be surprised if MH ever walked into work and complained that I forgot his birthday or something equally as important. Everyone does stupid shit sometimes.
Ray since I am rh- and this is my second pregnancy, if there is bleeding of any kind in the first trimester I need to get the shot. I had some spotting the night MH hurt his back because I was lifting and moving him too much all is well though.
I got it at 28 weeks and delivery last time.
I don't think it hurts at all. When they push the medicine through it burns a bit but nothing unexpected. Also- you get the shot in your butt check in case no one told you
icaughtfire , And I think it's stupid to dissect someone's statement and assume they're pissed off when they could just be annoyed. I think it's stupid that you have to ask someone who splits a household with you 50% to do a basic chore. But yeah. Totally butthurt. Going to go cry in a corner now about being called out on it.
Ray , I am guilty of drawing MH a venn diagram, but we're both total nerds. And, I'm totally guilty of being the forgetful one, so I wouldn't be surprised if MH ever walked into work and complained that I forgot his birthday or something equally as important. Everyone does stupid shit sometimes.
Yeah I wasn't pissed off actually.....a little annoyed....but that is about it. I was actually laughing about the whole incident, when I was typing out the original post.
icaughtfire, And I think it's stupid to dissect someone's statement and assume they're pissed off when they could just be annoyed. I think it's stupid that you have to ask someone who splits a household with you 50% to do a basic chore. But yeah. Totally butthurt. Going to go cry in a corner now about being called out on it.
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
Ray since I am rh- and this is my second pregnancy, if there is bleeding of any kind in the first trimester I need to get the shot. I had some spotting the night MH hurt his back because I was lifting and moving him too much all is well though.
I got it at 28 weeks and delivery last time.
I don't think it hurts at all. When they push the medicine through it burns a bit but nothing unexpected. Also- you get the shot in your butt check in case no one told you
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