Resolutions?!

[broadwaymama]

What is your New Years resolution? I don't think we have done this yet! Please ignore if we have!!

Mine is to always be ahead! One thing that really bothers me about myself is that I always have so much going on I tend to wait for things until the last second. Like for instance birthday cards are NEVER Sent on time. It seems silly but I want to be way ahead of the game! I think it will reduce my stress, and improve other aspects of my life.

[ArgyleEnigma]

I want to face my career challenges head on, and not just revert to what's known or comfortable.

[sandandsea]

January through May will be all about work and getting ahead and being über efficient so my maternity leave is less of a burden on my colleagues and easier for my clients. June to December will be about survival and fitting little bro into our routines. Given that this will be such a year of change for our family I really want to make it as easy and stress free as possible. So preparation, planning, and follow through are where it's at in 2016...Which fortunately are my natural strengths. I'm not really setting any resolutions as I want to really focus on the two big goals this year and not try to take on too much since we are adding a baby this year and I already know how consuming that is!

[babyzebra]

In the coming year, I want to get my career settled down and work fewer hours so that I can spend more time with DH, DS, and this LO. This will also allow me to be better at adulting and not forgetting things I need to do.

[lakecountrygal]

Mine is to feel good about myself after 2.0 is born and to fit back into my work clothes when school starts in September so I don't have to fork out money for a new work wardrobe again.

[Flair Underwood]

I really need to work harder at work. I am really over my job and my main motivation is just to get to June, use my maternity leave and start looking. Besides that I have two I think:

Don't believe everything you think. Meaning- just because i think something should be one way doesn't mean it's right

Also- don't admire the problem. Meaning: shit happens. Don't worry about how crappy the situation is - just work toward a solution.

[Kevinmac]

I want to make sure to walk regularly during my pregnancy. I gain weight so easily and don't want to be a complete mess after having the baby.

[cattuccino]

To attempt to let the little things - especially out of control things - go. I stress and worry a lot, and it negatively impacts my life. I'm hoping to make an improvement.

Also to put my phone away when I'm around DD more. She's almost 2, and I don't want her memories of mom to be me on my phone all the time - nor do I want her to think screens are that great to begin with.

Get outside more.

Make more time for just myself. For exercise, reading, baths - just me time (and stop feeling guilty about it).

[frecklesnbrains]

Flair Underwood I love your resolutions. They're highly philosophical. I think I'm going to make a resolution to make a more highly philosophical resolutions.

In reality, I'm really not a New Years resolution type of person. However, I do have one for this year: We need to clean out our apartment very thoroughly before either a) we move or b) baby arrives. DH and I have agreed to do one room a week starting next week.

(In truth we'd have do the same thing regardless - it's just convenient that it's the New Year).

[broadwaymama]

@cattaccino we sound very alike! I'm really trying not to let negativity effect me so much. Although I have just made this a regular battle rather than a resolution! My DH is so go with the flow and doesn't dwell on things...I wish I was more like that

[Flair Underwood]

frecklesnbrains... I know i tend to hold too tight to my opinions and be a little self-righteous. So my goal is to be more open overall. My on-going resolution is this (a censored version hangs in my office).

[GOmamab15]

I'm resolving to be more positive and more open to positivity.

[microworm]

Dec 31, 2015 10:52:15 GMT -5 GOmamab15 said:

I'm resolving to be more positive and more open to positivity.

+1

[csat]

Dec 31, 2015 8:33:41 GMT -5 cattuccino said:

To attempt to let the little things - especially out of control things - go. I stress and worry a lot, and it negatively impacts my life. I'm hoping to make an improvement.

Also to put my phone away when I'm around DD more. She's almost 2, and I don't want her memories of mom to be me on my phone all the time - nor do I want her to think screens are that great to begin with.

Get outside more.

Make more time for just myself. For exercise, reading, baths - just me time (and stop feeling guilty about it).

+1 These are all essentially mine as well.  The first in particular is something I've been thinking a lot about recently especially with the addition of the new baby and hopefully a new job.  I need to enjoy the moment or at least live in the moment more, appreciate all we do have and not stress over things out of my control. Be a more positive person in general.

Flair Underwood, I also like your last one about working on a solution to a problem if there is one rather than just getting so worked up over the fact that the problem exists (and how shitty it all is, etc, I refer to this as ruminating, which I do all the time).  

I will also add really working on maintaining our budget and working on increasing our savings.

[bgkc4]

My resolution is to pay down some debt. I really should've done this before getting pregnant, but no use in dwelling on what I did wrong; it's time to start doing things right. I'm not talking a drastic debt reduction. I'm talking about chipping away at it, little by little. I think it's like weight loss...nobody wants to put work/time in to get it done the long way; everyone wants quick results. But in actuality, this can be my resolution for the next 3 years. I wont see a drastic debt reduction in 2016, but by 2019 I'll hopefully be in a more comfortable position.

[Flair Underwood]

bgkc4, I just started doing this. The number one thing that helped me is opening a second bank account. In one account I have my "spending cash". In the other I have EVERYTHING ELSE so I can use it to pay bills and build a savings account. By limiting what I have direct access too, it made a huge difference for me. With that said.... If i could just stop using my credit card.... aye.

[frecklesnbrains]

+1 for the "ruminating" club here. I'm terrible but it's something I've been actively working on for a while. I actually really like serenity prayer, which is adopted by AA but is applicable for SO many things. I'll also note that I'm not at all religious, but I repeat this mantra whenever I find myself falling into the trap.
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

[manybellsdown]

You guys have great resolutions! I don't typically make them, but I do need to revamp my daily routine--I need to move more (such a sloth lately), practice patience, chill out on the phone usage, etc.

I could also stand to let go of little things. I feel like I do a good job, but only when I'm in certain moods. And lately an easy mood to get into for me has been "irritation," which is decidedly NOT one in which it's easy to let go...

[nymama917]

I'm not really a resolution type person, but I think that I need to work on my overall self in 2016.

I'm such a worrier and I need to stop being that way and live for the moment because you never know when you might not get another. I can't always think the worst....sometimes I just need to accept that just because something good happened doesn't mean that something terrible is right behind it.

I also need to learn to let things go more often. I often get too fired up about things (I'm looking at you in-laws) and I need to learn to let things roll off of my back. I can't hate them forever, and I can't get angry when DD wants to see them. I need to accept them and be happy with life because I only have this one to live! And if I can't figure this out on my own by March then I need to go talk to someone about better ways to do it (open to suggestions if anyone has any).

[sandandsea]

Dec 31, 2015 11:51:34 GMT -5 bgkc4 said:

My resolution is to pay down some debt. I really should've done this before getting pregnant, but no use in dwelling on what I did wrong; it's time to start doing things right. I'm not talking a drastic debt reduction. I'm talking about chipping away at it, little by little. I think it's like weight loss...nobody wants to put work/time in to get it done the long way; everyone wants quick results. But in actuality, this can be my resolution for the next 3 years. I wont see a drastic debt reduction in 2016, but by 2019 I'll hopefully be in a more comfortable position.

You may find inspiration in the Dave Ramsey podcast. I listen to it on my way to work and really like it. Simple old fashioned money advice. When we were paying off our student loans right after college I found it very helpful and inspiring.

[virginiaorjohn]

My resolution is to work on better routines in my household so that when the baby comes, it's not a complete shitshow. My house is never a complete mess, but I have a tendency to let dishes pile up, or be down to no clean underwear, or get takeout three days in a row. I want o be better about getting ahead when it comes to meal planning, tidying, etc.

[Flair Underwood]

Oooh, virginiaorjohn... Meal planning is a good one!!!

[mladerri]

I just want to enjoy life. I know this year will be hard with change and I want to embrace things instead of letting life slip away.