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I've done googling and my nurse kind of blew me off when I spoke with her, that's a long story. I'm wondering about others experiences.

You may know I am experiencing a CP. I am still not bleeding though. O date was somewhere around 12/10 (based on OPK) I had BFPs 12/21-12/24 but they got lighter and by Xmas they were barely visible. Blood work was negative.

Should I be concerned or is it normal to sometimes take more than a week for it to happen? I've had very mild cramps on and off and I've been having major hot flashes and night sweats but that's it.

Should I call Monday if no AF or continue to wait? The nurse said they could give me provera but I'd rather not if I don't have to, and I also don't think she gave the doc all the info (don't even get me started on her).

I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else had a similar experience that took a while to start bleeding.

Sorry for the novel.

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I haven't but it's not all that uncommon for it to take a week or two. As long as you're still getting negative tests I would think it's on its way. If still nothing by Monday I would call back (and complain about the nurse you talked to while you're at it) and ask what you should do. For a CP it shouldn't take weeks or anything.

[DariaMorgendorfer]

I don't have firsthand experience, but my SIL had several CP's and her doc had her wait 2 weeks after the negative test before giving meds. I'm not sure how helpful that is.

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

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Thanks. The ones on Xmas and the day after and even one I took two days ago seemed to have the faintest shadow of a line but I can't tell if it's in my head. If I wasn't squinting for it I wouldn't see it. But my blood work was "negative". She didn't give me a number

[thechickencoop]

Wait, did you have follow up bloodwork? I'm sure you mentioned it at some point but I forgot. I don't know; both of my CPs I had my + then it def got light to non existent within a day or two then I got my period within another day. This MC was farther along and definitely much different but I had bw two days ago and again this morning and they said they will want a follow up next week to track it to zero. I'd definitely push for more follow up I would think....

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No I only had bloodwork the one day because I guess my hcg was super low or possibly even 0.

I googled and read a few things where I guess sometimes it can take longer to bleed. But if I'm not bleeding by Monday I am going to call and ask for an appt.

The nurse was rude and basically acted like I was never pregnant. But I had several positives and symptoms that disappeared. And it's not like my doc to blow me off so I think she didn't give him all the info.

I just want to move on and try to forget about this but I feel like I can't move on yet because I'm still waiting to start bleeding.

Hugs to you thechickencoop

[lavinia]

Based on what you said, if nothing has happened by Monday I would call back and ask what your hcg was and also ask them to do blood work again. I had a c/p last cycle and this was my experience: BFN at 11dpo, BFP at 12 dpo (2 tests), then very faint BFP at 13dpo, BFN on 14 and 15 dpo with spotting on 15 dpo and period started at 16dpo.
I am sure it is hard to wait, but fingers crossed something happens soon. Sorry you're dealing with this.

[Rama]

Irish, I'd ask for a quantitative beta-hCg test. That will give you a number. Most places will just do a qualitative, yes/no test unless you ask.

More hugs, I'm totally with you on not being able to get your head into it when you aren't bleeding, it's all a mind fuck. I hope you can get answers next week.

[britta]

Late to the party...

*Hugs* to you first off. I had a CP in August, they truly are the worst mind fuck.

With mine, I tested at 13DPO and recorded a negative test in FF, but truly felt I saw a faint line. Tested again with FMU at 14DPO (Monday). There was a definite faint line. I don't know why, but from the get go I felt something just wasn't right, so I tested 3 more times over the next two days-all positive but without lines getting any darker. MH told me to stop testing, giving me "a line is a line" pep talks, so I tested the last time on Wednesday. I started spotting Saturday afternoon and was full on bleeding by 9PM that night. By Sunday afternoon all my symptoms were gone and I was pretty heavily bleeding.

I never called my doctor or had any bloodwork done, which may have been stupid. I guess my thought process was that if I hadn't been tracking my temp, etc I probably wouldn't have tested that early and assumed that the bleeding that started Saturday was just my period. It was my first cycle off BCP so I wouldn't have had any history to tell me what my "normal" was.

I hope you get some answers soon so you're able to move on. So many hugs again.

[butlerfan]

Late to this but just here to say Hugs so sorry you have to go through this.

[cheezee]

Hugs to you. I would definitely call if nothing changes soon and ask for betas. And request your results. It seems like if you are still getting faint lines that wouldn't be a negative result. There are some situations that can make your betas very erratic...not to freak you out but it reminds me of what happened to me years ago. Hope you get some answers soon.

[Rama]

Jan 1, 2016 10:02:37 GMT -5 cheezee said:

Hugs to you. I would definitely call if nothing changes soon and ask for betas. And request your results. It seems like if you are still getting faint lines that wouldn't be a negative result. There are some situations that can make your betas very erratic...not to freak you out but it reminds me of what happened to me years ago. Hope you get some answers soon.

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@irish, all of my tests had light lines. It's a good idea to know if/how your numbers are dropping, just in case it's a similar situation. I didn't start bleeding until we started treating.

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Jan 1, 2016 10:09:44 GMT -5 Rama said:

Jan 1, 2016 10:02:37 GMT -5 cheezee said:

Hugs to you. I would definitely call if nothing changes soon and ask for betas. And request your results. It seems like if you are still getting faint lines that wouldn't be a negative result. There are some situations that can make your betas very erratic...not to freak you out but it reminds me of what happened to me years ago. Hope you get some answers soon.

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@irish, all of my tests had light lines. It's a good idea to know if/how your numbers are dropping, just in case it's a similar situation. I didn't start bleeding until we started treating.

Thank you.

When you say treating, is this a situation where you take provera? The nurse mentioned it but I said I wanted to wait a little.

[thechickencoop]

Jan 1, 2016 9:17:38 GMT -5 britta said:

Late to the party...

*Hugs* to you first off. I had a CP in August, they truly are the worst mind fuck.

With mine, I tested at 13DPO and recorded a negative test in FF, but truly felt I saw a faint line. Tested again with FMU at 14DPO (Monday). There was a definite faint line. I don't know why, but from the get go I felt something just wasn't right, so I tested 3 more times over the next two days-all positive but without lines getting any darker. MH told me to stop testing, giving me "a line is a line" pep talks, so I tested the last time on Wednesday. I started spotting Saturday afternoon and was full on bleeding by 9PM that night. By Sunday afternoon all my symptoms were gone and I was pretty heavily bleeding.

I never called my doctor or had any bloodwork done, which may have been stupid. I guess my thought process was that if I hadn't been tracking my temp, etc I probably wouldn't have tested that early and assumed that the bleeding that started Saturday was just my period. It was my first cycle off BCP so I wouldn't have had any history to tell me what my "normal" was.

I hope you get some answers soon so you're able to move on. So many hugs again.

I don't think that was stupid. I only called my ob with the first one because I had already called the first day I got a + to schedule and then I had to call and cancel. They didn't do any follow up. Second CP I didn't call. Both cycles ended at 30 days, normal for me is 26 but, like you said, if I hadn't been tracking, I wouldn't have even tested.

This time I called my ob because it is definitely different. I was 10 days late and got + on a digi too. The bleeding that started a few days ago was unlike anything I've experienced before. The two CPs were just like a regular period. ::shrug:: don't beat yourself up ::hugs::

@irish , I hope you get your answers soon. 


Edited - woah quote fail.

[cheezee]

@irish I would think they would want to follow your betas if you are still getting faint lines before doing anything. I'm no expert on provera though. And I would take that nurses conversation with a grain of salt. I'm sorry you are going through this.

[Rama]

Jan 1, 2016 10:28:01 GMT -5 @irish said:

Jan 1, 2016 10:09:44 GMT -5 Rama said:

Quote for emphasis.

@irish, all of my tests had light lines. It's a good idea to know if/how your numbers are dropping, just in case it's a similar situation. I didn't start bleeding until we started treating.

Thank you.

When you say treating, is this a situation where you take provera? The nurse mentioned it but I said I wanted to wait a little.

During a "normal" cycle, I do often need to take Provera. But in this case, I'm talking about the shots to treat the ectopic. It's a good idea to make sure your numbers are going down, in case that is the case with you.

I never would have known or suspected if I hadn't been monitored and with shit like that you really need to be on the ball. I've had zero ectopic symptoms, even now.

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Jan 1, 2016 11:41:01 GMT -5 @wickedcandy said:

Did you take a test in the last day or so? Are you still getting faint lines ? I would ask for another set (at least 2) of betas, that are quantitative rather that qualitative.

I took one two days ago and I feel like I saw the tiniest shadow but it may have been in my head. I think most people wouldn't have seen it

The first test was quantitative, I asked the phlebotomist when she did the draw, but the nurse didn't give me a number and my head was reeling with the conversation I had with her and didn't ask. I'm going to ask when I call Monday what the number was and if another draw can be done.

[WittyLittle]

Hugs @irish . With my cp i knew because i got a regular seeming period, so I would call on Monday justbfor reassueance. Maybe it is very normal, I have no clue sorry again for your loss ((hugs))