3. General symptoms/rants/concerns/exciting things?
Due Date List amandflo - January 16 cetcar - January 16 kh826 - January 22 daisyflower - January 26 wittyandwaiting - March 28 honigbiene - April 24 crazyaunt84 - May 15 bexincanada - June 1 mahler5 - June 9 Stringy - June 9 Esquette - TBD Kona - August 14
QOTW: Did you get anything checked off of your baby to do list over the holidays?
3. So, funny story, I realized on Saturday that I have been off by 1 day in calculating how far along I am with this pregnancy for the ENTIRE pregnancy. I think at some point in the very early days of this pregnancy, I somehow was mistaken by thinking that my due date (Jan 22nd) was on a Saturday. It's not, it is on a Friday. So I have been a day behind for the whole pregnancy. Obviously not a big deal at all, but it was weird to feel like I "lost a day" when I realized it. So, today is 37w3d and I officially have 18 days left until EDD. AHHH!!!
In other news, I decided to ring in the new year by falling on Friday. Yep, my biggest pregnancy nightmare was realized. I was very lucky, because it could have been a lot worse. The abridged version is that I was wearing socks in the house (I usually am barefoot when I am not wearing shoes or slippers at home), and I was carrying a bag of William's outgrown clothes to sort through... we have a step down from our family room into our kitchen (the kitchen is an addition to our 200 yr old house, and the step used to be the back step out of the house -- it is a slate slab with a hardwood surround)... anyway, I digress... I slipped (presumably because I was wearing socks), and I fell down the 1 step into the kitchen. It felt like it happened in slow motion. I was able to brace myself with my arms on the step behind me as I went down (which minimized the impact to the rest of me), and I put my left leg down in an effort brace myself on the kitchen floor and landed on top of that leg. Ultimately, when my butt hit the floor it felt like more of a "plop" than a fall -- mostly due to my ability to brace myself I think... Regardless, I totally panicked, and so did J. My immediate panic was that something would have happened to the baby. J's immediate panic was that the "impact" would bring on labor. After a few minutes baby starting moving around normally, and I felt much more relaxed about the whole thing. I did have a few contractions after the fall, but I sat in our glider with my feet up on an ottoman for about 2 hours and they stopped. I did bruise my left knee pretty well, and my left foot is also bruised, swollen and sore, but both are feeling a lot better today. Baby has been moving and grooving in there regularly since then, so I think we dodged a bullet. I thought about calling my OB, but it was New Years Day after hours, and I knew the on call Dr would just tell me to go to the ER. I felt pretty confident that everything was fine, so we decided not to do that. I will definitely tell my OB about the fall during my appointment tomorrow though.
Otherwise, things are chugging along... my periodic hand swelling continues, but it always seems to go back to normal after a couple of hours at most. Baby has been more active over the last day or so than usual. Lots of frequent, strong movements. I am also starting to feel more pressure in my pelvis, but I don't think baby has dropped yet. I have been having mild contractions once or twice a day and LOTS of BH contractions where my belly will get hard as a rock. Nothing time-able or consistent yet, so definitely not the start of labor, just my body starting to prep. Last night at dinner I was NOT hungry at all (which is super unusual), and I thought for a minute that might mean something, but I think I was just reading into nothing.
QOTW: We are almost done with completing the baby prep check-list! Yay! *Hospital bag packed - check! *Infant seat installed in my car - check! *Infant clothes, blankets, etc. washed and ready - check! *Double stroller assembled (and currently in J's car) - check! *New baby swing assembled - check! *House is being professionally cleaned on Thursday - YAY!
kh826, Really glad you've been feeling kicks since your fall! Will you get an estimate on the size at your appointment tomorrow?
1. General overview (examples--answer what you like: How many weeks? First baby/, second, etc.? Do you know the sex of the baby? 38 weeks, 2 days pregnant with our first. It's a girl.
2. Appointment Updates (recent appts? ones coming up?) We had an appointment last Thursday with our OB and he measured her. She was 6lbs 4oz. I guess there is up to a 2 week margin of error so that is just a ballpark. I don't think this is TMI, my cervix was low, soft, 60% effaced, 0% dilated, and she's at station -1. CET and I get the feeling she is pretty comfortable in there. Our next appointment is this Thursday.
3. General symptoms/rants/concerns/exciting things? Feeling pretty good considering we are 38 weeks pregnant. But I do find that I get tired more easily. I took a couple naps during the holidays and they really helped. I feel big and my stomach feels kind of tight at times. The last few days I haven't been as hungry as I usually am.
We've been talking a lot about when we want our family to visit. They are a plane ride away so it takes more planning. How soon did you all feel up for having visitors? Part of me thinks some help would be nice but another part of me wants to make sure we have enough time together. We also have been talking about bonding, especially for the non-carrying parent. Did anyone's partners have any concerns about this? CET has thought about inducing lactation but hasn't taken any steps towards doing it. After a little while, we do plan on pumping so CET can bottle feed her.
QOTW: Did you get anything checked off of your baby to do list over the holidays? We didn't get everything checked off but we made a dent. We put away our Christmas decorations, washed her bedding, put together the pack n play and BOB stroller, cleaned the Britax stroller, organized the garage, and made a whole bunch of freezer meals.
CET & CAR - both 30, married Aug, 2013, together 12+ yrs.
TTC #1: CAR carrying IUI #1 & 2 - Clomid, trigger = BFN IUI #3 - Switched to Gonal 150iu. Overstim led to 'surprise' IVF. Retrieved 21, 14 mature, 13 fertilized, all 13 made it to day 5, 9 PGS normal. Transferred 1 AA hatched blast 5/1/15 Baby Girl M born 1-21-16
kh826 , Really glad you've been feeling kicks since your fall! Will you get an estimate on the size at your appointment tomorrow?
I hope to get a size estimate, but I don't know. I feel like last time I had an u/s at 37 weeks as well as a cervical check, but honestly this time my OB has been much more laid back and hasn't done as many u/s, etc. as last time, so who knows. I am hoping to have an u/s tomorrow, but I don't care either way about the cervical check. I wouldn't be shocked if I was starting to dilate already, but I don't think it really means much for me in terms of progress towards labor based on my experience last time! I was at 3 cm dilated for a week, and I was walking around and at an OB appointment at 5 cm dilated (I went to the hospital later that day).
With all that being said, I am guessing this kid is big. We shall see if I am right...
I haven't checked in here in a while. cetcar , and kh826 , you guys are so close to meeting your LOs!
Cetcar - Boding with the non-gestational parent can be tough in the beginning. My wife carried M so I had that experience. Bottle feeding helped, but wasn't all that practical if my wife was around, cuz she'd just have to pump too. I feel like i did a LOT of diapering in the beginning, and a lot of naps on my chest. But honestly it was hard for a while, especially when the boob was the only thing that comforted her sometimes. I don't know much about induced lactation but I think you have to start early and it takes a while. Someone here has done it.
AFM, I'm rolling along at 17 wks 4 days! Still battling nausea but diclegis helps and it has been a little better lately. Haven't felt any movement yet and might be a touch less exhausted (but last week off may have helped that). Anatomy scan in a week!
ETA: after a while, the best bonding was to be left alone with her. This was part of our back to work schedule so didnt happen often until 3-4 months in, but once we were alone together, we figured out our own thing. 2 years later and there is clearly no difference in the bonding.
Post by crazyaunt84 on Jan 4, 2016 14:58:08 GMT -5
kh826 - YIKES! I'm glad you and baby are OK, save the bruises. Sorry you had to experience that nightmare!
cetcar - you're so close! My wife is super anxious for help when the babies come, and it will be 99% my family as hers isn't local and won't be travelling up. If she has any concerns about bonding, she hasn't voiced them. But if either of you is anxious about taking that time to bond as a family before the extended family comes in, could you hire some outside help for a week or two and allow the three of you to settle in as a family?
As for us...
1. 21w1d with twin boys
2. Next OB appt has been postponed until 1/21. It STILL won't be covered by my insurance (that kicks in 2/1) but that was the longest they were willing to go without seeing me, so we'll deal.
3. I am getting suuuper excited to meet these boys, and I'm falling more and more in love with the thought of them every day. I had a great lunch with my best friend last Wednesday, and we talked about letting go of the ideas of what could have been and falling in love with the idea of what will be. It was such a great conversation, and totally hit the nail on the head in terms of where I was at emotionally. C has made a huge turn around and there doesn't seem to be any bit of dissapointment left over not having one of each.
In other news, we got an amazingly generous box of of baby clothes in the mail over the weekend and spent yesterday afternoon sorting and washing and stocking the dresser in the nursery with the most adorable outfits. I was seriously floored at how amazing everything was. And in typical pregnancy hormone fashion, I sat on the couch holding these tiny onesies, imagining my little guys in them, and crying like a crazy woman.
QOTW: We got our nursery furniture ordered!! I found these cribs that we loved and they went on sale. Somehow, we nabbed both cribs, two mattresses AND the changing table and changing pad with free shipping for under $500. I'm a bargain shopper to the core, but even I was stunned. Next weekend we'll be sitting surrounded by pieces of furniture trying to figure out what goes where and why we have so many screws left over!!
kh826-- so sorry you fell. Glad you are ok. I had a small fall in my first pregnancy at 30 something weeks. I did call my OB and after describing everything to her she didn't even have me go in.
cetcar-- it's so exciting how close you are! With our first, which I carried, my wife had a hard time bonding but it got easier. They are very close now.
Stringy-- it's good to see you over here! I finally got on diclegis 4 weeks ago and it has helped so much. In still having a tad bit of nausea too but much better with the meds and getting away from first tri.
crazyaunt84-- that stinks about your insurance. I really hope it works out soon. So glad you had a nice lunch with your friend and your wife is getting excited about two boys!!
I'm 17 1/2 weeks now. We have our anatomy scan in 3 weeks. That seems really far away. I think i felt the baby kick last night but now I'm not sure. Haven't felt it since then. I can't remember if I felt it often at first with my first pregnancy. I know I did in the end but I can't remember how often it was at first.
Overall my energy has still been better. I have been walking more. I still haven't cut back on sugar enough. When I was nauseous all the time I would eat anything I could get down or would make me feel better ( i. E. Sprite). Now I am in a bad habit of drinking soda at work. Luckily I only work one or two days a week! I know it will be a rude awakening when they put me back on a GD diabetes diet (assuming I will have it again).
QOTW-- not a lot. We did acquire a swing from some friends, so that is exciting. We are planning to move early to mid-April. So we really need to get on that so we can get C adjusted and the baby's room ready etc before the baby comes. Although the baby will spend it's first 6 months or close to that with us on our room if things go the same as last time.
I'm also excited to use some amazon gift cards on a double stroller. I think I'm going to do that soon so I can use it when I watch my friend's kid.
Howdy! It's official, my due date is 8/16/16. Please add it to the list!
1. General overview (examples--answer what you like: How many weeks? First baby/, second, etc.? Do you know the sex of the baby? I'm at 7 weeks 6 days, by my math. First baby/first pregnancy. Too early to tell the sex.
2. Appointment Updates (recent appts? ones coming up?) Had my first ultrasound today (well, for pregnancy, anyway.) I was so pleased, because first of all, there was a little nugget in there measuring a few days ahead with a fast heartbeat (169ish)! Second of all, they were able to do it on my belly instead of transvaginally. I have some pretty intense penetration anxiety at the doctor, so that was a big relief. (Normally, I feel like that's a big TMI, but I figure somebody else might feel the same way, and be comforted to see that they aren't alone. Who knows.) I have the real first appointment next Friday. :-)
3. General symptoms/rants/concerns/exciting things? Well, I feel like garbage. Tired, upset tummy, hungry but averse to most food. And I'm back to work today, with all the kids back tomorrow. I have no idea how I'll survive until my 2nd trimester.
In other news, my co-teacher's wife is due 8/17. So there's that. Bahahaha.
cetcar, we had M's family who is 1.5 hours away visit twice in the hospital and that was fine. They came for a couple hours each time. My family was from farther away. My dad and brother came up to visit on day 3 when we got home from the hospital and stayed with us for 3 days. If I had it to do again, I would not have them stay with us. It was nice to have the help but M and I were eager to develop our own routine and settle in and we couldn't do that with house guests.
****loss and living child discussed***** We're queer. I'm 34, have severe stage 4 endo, and both fallopian tubes are gone. My love ("Manada" 33) was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve. We did Partner IVF (my eggs, her uterus). We lost our twins Tav.in and Ca.sey at 21 weeks gestation.
Post by wittyandwaiting on Jan 5, 2016 19:23:41 GMT -5
I'm 28 weeks and 1 day pregnant with a little lady who is baby #2.
No appointments this week but next week I have an appointment with my midwife on Tuesday and then.....<cue dramatic/sad music>.....an appointment at the gestational diabetes clinic at my hospital on Friday.
I am pretty bummed at having GD, I cried when they told me and a few times since (can I blame hormones for this?), mostly because I am so frustrated with food being a thing in this pregnancy - there are already a million foods that I avoid because they make me puke and now I am going to expland that list. I'm just really not in the mood to have to think about anything else and seriously, it's not like anybody wants GD. Also, if it can't be controlled by diet alone (and I already have a pretty good diet) and I have to go on insulin I will have to leave my midwife and go with an OB. The goal is a healthy baby so obviously I will do whatever it takes - this just sucks.
Rant Over.
We actually accomplished a lot over the holidays, the room swap (DS and baby girl) is just about complete and overall out to-do list shrunk significantly. Yay!
cetcar I was the non carrying partner with O and I will admit it was a bit hard at first. Esp because there were bfing issues so I couldn't give a bottle. I dealt with it by doing everything else besides feeding. I would do all the diaper changes, I wore O a lot as well, and I also doted on M, which helped me feel useful. Similar to stringy when M went back to work I was alone with O 3 afternoons a week starting at 3 months, that helped.
wittyandwaiting I'm so sorry about the GD. You have a right to all the feels. Fingers crossed that it can be diet controlled!
8 weeks along. Baby #2.
No recent appts. We opted to skip 2 of the scheduled u/s at the RE. They do them weekly till 8 weeks. M has an appt with her OB but I'm still pushing for the midwife. Im struggling because I don't know why she is hesitatiing. I know she is resistant to change. I'm also really trying not to push too hard because it needs to be her decision.
I think we are still both a little overwhelmed with the thought of 2. After trying for 3 years to conceive O we just didn't expect to get pregnant again the first try. I'm hoping that things will even out as the pregnancy progresses. I am also nervous about revealing this pregnancy to family and friends, that we will be judged. This is supposed to be happy and all I am doing is worrying.
mahler5 Hooray for baby kicks! This time around I started feeling kicks days apart from each other.
esquette Congrats on a due date and a heartbeat! So happy for you!
kona Thanks for the kind words. I'm going to eat all the salad and keep my fingers crossed. I hope that your friends and family will become so excited about a new baby that they will forego the judgement
wittyandwaiting, sorry about the GD dx. It does suck but it gets easier as the weeks go by. I was able to control it with diet alone. Have you met with a nutrionist yet? This helped me immensely. I was surprised at how much I could eat. A quick example is for breakfast I was allowed to eat up to 70g of carbs. That's a bagel with butter or peanut butter. My body also tolerated some sweet treats on occasion too. I know how overwhelming it can be. My son has severe dairy, egg allergies so we eat a lose vegan diet at my house which is the opposite of what you need to eat with GD. If you need any snack ideas or need to vent, know I'm here.
I meet with a dietitian next week, they emailed me some advance reading and a log book but I don't have my numbers to fill in the blanks yet - I don't really know what that really means but in the book there's a page that says "my numbers" and has blanks next to each meal and snacks. There's a note which explains that I will be given my numbers at my first appointment.
In the meantime, I am working on reducing my fruit and carbs and increasing my veggies and protein.
I'm so happy to hear that you were able to control it with diet alone...that makes me feel super hopeful.
Thanks everyone for all your input on bonding! That's what we love about this board. You all are such a wonderful resource. Since this is our first, we have no idea what to expect. Probably a good idea to remember to be gentle and understanding with each other, especially at the beginning.
I think my family is going to get a refundable/changeable ticket for January so we can be flexible and then plan a longer trip for February. At least that is what we are thinking now.
As a FYI, I stumbled upon the Pregtastic podcast series yesterday. There are tons of episodes on all different topics.
CET & CAR - both 30, married Aug, 2013, together 12+ yrs.
TTC #1: CAR carrying IUI #1 & 2 - Clomid, trigger = BFN IUI #3 - Switched to Gonal 150iu. Overstim led to 'surprise' IVF. Retrieved 21, 14 mature, 13 fertilized, all 13 made it to day 5, 9 PGS normal. Transferred 1 AA hatched blast 5/1/15 Baby Girl M born 1-21-16
kh826, It seems like you guessed right! So glad they're happy and healthy in there
crazyaunt84, It may seem silly, but we've found organizing her clothes to be somewhat of a challenge. We ended up arranging it by size and type but for us, not all of the sizing is consistent. We've tried multiple arrangements in her drawers.
Stringy, You're cruising along. Only a couple weeks away from being halfway. Glad to hear you're feeling a bit better.
mahler5, Same as wittyandwaiting, it took a while to feel movement consistently. And even now, she will have quieter days. For me, she's most active in the evening.
esquette, Very exciting hearing the heartbeat for the first time! What wonderful news!
wittyandwaiting, Sorry about your GD diagnosis. Sounds like you have some useful resources to learn how to manage it. Good luck figuring it all out. It's really wild we're so close to our due date....I keep thinking that I can't procrastinate on simple to do's, like deposit checks at the bank and keeping the house tidy because you never know. But in reality, we could still have like 3 weeks.
CET & CAR - both 30, married Aug, 2013, together 12+ yrs.
TTC #1: CAR carrying IUI #1 & 2 - Clomid, trigger = BFN IUI #3 - Switched to Gonal 150iu. Overstim led to 'surprise' IVF. Retrieved 21, 14 mature, 13 fertilized, all 13 made it to day 5, 9 PGS normal. Transferred 1 AA hatched blast 5/1/15 Baby Girl M born 1-21-16
wittyandwaiting, they base your allowed carbs on your weight/height. I found out a lot after my dx, like the AAOG recently became more strict with the glucose numbers. My glucose was at 135 which they considered a fail but a true diabetic needs their glucose to be under 200! So I was a little pissed when I found this out but I think this is the reason why I was able to control it with diet is because I "barely" failed if that makes sense.
wittyandwaiting , they base your allowed carbs on your weight/height. I found out a lot after my dx, like the AAOG recently became more strict with the glucose numbers. My glucose was at 135 which they considered a fail but a true diabetic needs their glucose to be under 200! So I was a little pissed when I found this out but I think this is the reason why I was able to control it with diet is because I "barely" failed if that makes sense.
Do you know how much you failed by?
I also barely failed, the threshold was 5.3 and I was at 5.5.
wittyandwaiting-- sorry about your GD diagnosis. I had it with C and it was fairly easily diet controlled for me. I can't remember my exact numbers but know my initial and last reading were fine, but my middle two were high. Like karlamo said, meeting with nutritionist was helpful.
For your numbers I imagine that is how many carbs they will allow you per meal. I could be wrong though.
If you need more meal ideas let us know. I know certain breads have way less carbs and still taste ok. And certain cereals like unsweetened Cheerios were not too high in carbs for me.
wittyandwaiting -- sorry about your GD diagnosis. I had it with C and it was fairly easily diet controlled for me. I can't remember my exact numbers but know my initial and last reading were fine, but my middle two were high. Like karlamo said, meeting with nutritionist was helpful.
For your numbers I imagine that is how many carbs they will allow you per meal. I could be wrong though.
If you need more meal ideas let us know. I know certain breads have way less carbs and still taste ok. And certain cereals like unsweetened Cheerios were not too high in carbs for me.
Thanks! I really appreciate hearing that it's not all doom and gloom!
As a FYI, I stumbled upon the Pregtastic podcast series yesterday. There are tons of episodes on all different topics.
Oh! A new podcast. I'm a podcast nerd. Thanks!
I listened to the one about the Dunstan Baby Language last night. Seems like there is a learning curve to getting it down, but if you do (and if it works), seems really useful.
CET & CAR - both 30, married Aug, 2013, together 12+ yrs.
TTC #1: CAR carrying IUI #1 & 2 - Clomid, trigger = BFN IUI #3 - Switched to Gonal 150iu. Overstim led to 'surprise' IVF. Retrieved 21, 14 mature, 13 fertilized, all 13 made it to day 5, 9 PGS normal. Transferred 1 AA hatched blast 5/1/15 Baby Girl M born 1-21-16
Post by bexincanada on Jan 10, 2016 11:19:23 GMT -5
kh826, cetcar, you are so close!!! I'm excited for you all.
wittyandwaiting, sorry to hear about the GD'ed GD. I'm crossing my fingers it is controlled with diet.
19.5 weeks with our first. Will be 20 weeks on Wednesday which is when we will have our anatomy scan. The imaging centre was closed over the holidays causing a back up in booking. We have the next midwife appointment the 20th and I'm hoping I pass the pee test this time, noticed no difference on antibiotics - being asymptomatic makes it tough to know what's going on. Last week I was sick, but have been feeling much better the past few days. Had a good exercising day yesterday.
I've begun to feel movement, not every day but distinctive enough to know what it is, there tends to be more movement in the afternoon/evenings. It's pretty incredible. H. is bursting to feel the baby from the outside.
QOTW: We've now gotten all the quotes in to finish our basement, the first step to prepping the nursery (small second bedroom on main floor). We're not painting or anything so it should be pretty easy, the big job is prepping the partially completed basement for reno completion (it'll be a 3 week reno) - also making sure I'm not inhaling a bunch of dust and chemicals during the job.
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