RCS - scheduling and questions and whatnot

[nitecheese]

During my last visit to the OB, my doc scheduled our A/S for February 3rd (which CANNOT GET HERE SOON ENOUGH). He also mentioned that pending all looking good, etc. that we could schedule my RCS that day.

1) This blows my mind. 

2) I'm essentially picking my child's birthday, which feels weird. Has anyone else scheduled their CS?

3) I get to schedule it between 39w and 40w, which is the norm. I am pretty convinced I won't go into labor on my own since with DS I went 42 weeks, was induced, labored for nearly 60 hours and STILL wound up with a CS. Has anyone scheduled a CS and gone into labor before that date?

4) The scheduling window is between June 12 - June 19. DH's birthday is June 16th. A lot of his family members share birthdays and he thinks it would be really cool to share a birthday with this baby (for baby, more than himself, I think). I...am not so sure about this.  Am I being silly to object?

[Flair Underwood]

Do you want to try to VBAC or no? If you want to try - schedule it out as let as you can. If you want to avoid the chance of laboring at all, schedule it early.

I haven't made up my mind between VBAC and RCS 100% - but if I schedule, I will do so as late as I can to give LO the most time to develop, grow, etc.

Would it be easier for you to do it at the beginning of the week with childcare/recovery/hospital stay/etc? Or later in the week>

[nitecheese]

Jan 11, 2016 10:06:24 GMT -5 Flair Underwood said:

Do you want to try to VBAC or no? If you want to try - schedule it out as let as you can. If you want to avoid the chance of laboring at all, schedule it early.

Would it be easier for you to do it at the beginning of the week with childcare/recovery/hospital stay/etc? Or later in the week>

I am pretty set of RCS. My labor with DS was so prolonged and draining that I want to avoid that. By the time I had the CS I was so depleted that I could barely nurse him. I wouldn't want a repeat of that with his baby.

In terms of delivery time, I'm pretty lucky. DH and I are both teachers, so we'll be out of school. My mom and my MIL will be around to help with DS, so we don't have to work around any of those restrictions. 

[bgkc4]

nitecheese, as long as your H knows that the LO's bday will always take precedence over his (at least during his adolescent years), then I say go for it. He doesn't seem to mind, so why should you? I think it's sweet that he wants to share a birthday with the baby.

Other Options: the 14th is Flag Day (not a very celebrated holiday, but it still has patriotic significance), and Father's Day falls on the 19th this year (so your H could always tell the LO that he/she was his Father's Day gift).

[sandandsea]

Jan 11, 2016 10:11:27 GMT -5 nitecheese said:

Jan 11, 2016 10:06:24 GMT -5 Flair Underwood said:

Do you want to try to VBAC or no? If you want to try - schedule it out as let as you can. If you want to avoid the chance of laboring at all, schedule it early.

Would it be easier for you to do it at the beginning of the week with childcare/recovery/hospital stay/etc? Or later in the week>

I am pretty set of RCS. My labor with DS was so prolonged and draining that I want to avoid that. By the time I had the CS I was so depleted that I could barely nurse him. I wouldn't want a repeat of that with his baby.

In terms of delivery time, I'm pretty lucky. DH and I are both teachers, so we'll be out of school. My mom and my MIL will be around to help with DS, so we don't have to work around any of those restrictions. 

I'd schedule it as early as possible then. You will have extra time with the baby before school starts and your chances of natural labor starting are smaller.

[Flair Underwood]

In that case - humor your DH and go for the 16th! Why not?

[nymama917]

I'm with you on not wanting to share with your DH. I mean my daughter was born on my favorite uncle's birthday, but it was a natural labor so it's fun and exciting. He's also in his early 60's and we don't do parties for him or anything so I feel like it's different. My uncle has a special love for her, but him and I always had a special bond too. I think with DH it's a little different....I sort of think everyone should have their own day...even if close together. My husband's birthday was 5 days before DD was born and I had my fingers crossed (and legs) that she would not be born on his day. He didn't care, but I just worried that one day she might care. Just my 2 cents.

[ArgyleEnigma]

I agree with your intuition--your DH might think it's cool, but there's a fair chance baby won't. You can't consult the baby before signing them up for a lifetime of sharing. And what about after your DH has died--it is always going to add a sad shadow to your son/daughter's birthday. So give him/her his/her own birthday.

My ILs had a somewhat similar dilemma--my DH was born at midnight on the 29th of February (leap day). They got to choose whether to fudge the minutes to one day or the next, and they chose to give him a 28th birthday. Lots of people would think a leap day birthday was really cool, but plenty of children would be really disappointed not to have their real birthday practically ever. So it's a bit of a guessing game and they went with the safe option. If I were in your shoes, I'd go with the safe option too--baby gets their own birthday.

[shan]

I would be all over Father's Day in your situation.

[packerfan4life]

6/18 is my anniversary! I'd avoid your H's birthday and father's day. 6/12 is a nice number, I'd probably go with that. Plus more time off with baby