STM+ TTMA potty training

[Widget123]

In all seriousness, are you opposed to bribery?

With DD we started out with walking her over to the potty in regular intervals until she was better at recognizing and communicating her needs. Now she still isn't 100% accident free but we rely much more on her cues. If we know she has to go (i.e. just woke up, etc.) but is refusing for some reason, we might offer her a dum dum, cookie, etc. as a short term solution. Pooping on the potty was a bigger obstacle for her so there was a bigger potential prize, i.e. chocolate ice cream. MOTY I know.

[alayne926]

No real advice, because I think I got spoiled by DS just deciding to start going on the potty so he could move up to the next classroom at school. He knew he couldn't go there until he didn't wear diapers any more.

Is there something that she wants to do that is only for "big girls" who don't wear diapers and go on the potty?

DS is also very strong-willed and stubborn, so I totally get it.

[veggiemo]

One thing I read (and I think someone on the bump even mentioned it) is that when kids poop on the potty sometimes they want to get completely naked. Something about wearing clothes during the process bothers them and they feel cleaner and more comfortable when they poop naked. So don't discourage clothing removal and maybe even try taking her clothes off when you think she has to poop?

Also, is she using the big potty or little potty? If she's on the big potty, encourage her to straddle it wide, so like, hands on the front of the seat and legs going off to either side. This helps the positioning and gets their poop out easier. DS had to poop when we were out at a cafe last week and he sat for a minute and then said he changed his mind and didn't have to go. He never fibs about having to go, so I knew something was up. So I took his pants completely off and then he was able to comfortably straddle wide and the poop came right out.

[dmoney]

Not sure what the method was, but my sister took 4 days off of work and my nephew essentially wore no diaper or underwear for those 4 days (while awake) every time he peed on the potty he got 1 m&m, every time he pooped he got a little match box car. He was potty trained in a week. Could you do something of the same? If she is into the Shopkins toys get her a bunch and if she poops she gets 1 and if she pees she gets the m&m or something else if you don't want to do candy? I believe this is the method that she did www.parenting.com/toddler/potty-training/how-3-day-potty-training-method-works . Good luck and let us know how it goes.

[silv3rlining]

No advice we're "loosely" trying to PT DS with not much luck...mostly bc he's stubborn (gee with 2 stubborn parents I can't imagine why). Plus regression bc of the baby doesn't help...we're trying M&Ms now and had 2 successful pees yesterday (he told us he had to go even). But mostly he doesn't want to sit on the potty, or he wants to sit on it for a long time but then he wants a diaper when he realizes he has to go. We've tried the 3 day method with timer even. And one might say he's not ready by some of his behavior. However he was doing great and even went at my SILs when we went to visit in Sept. We've tried cloth trainers, pulls ups, underwear, diapers. And like you if it weren't for the button germs I'd just let him go bottomlesss. (We don't have any carpeting on the main floor of the house)

[dmoney]

Jan 11, 2016 12:35:57 GMT -5 @jemomma said:

Jan 11, 2016 12:25:50 GMT -5 dmoney said:

Not sure what the method was, but my sister took 4 days off of work and my nephew essentially wore no diaper or underwear for those 4 days (while awake) every time he peed on the potty he got 1 m&m, every time he pooped he got a little match box car. He was potty trained in a week. Could you do something of the same? If she is into the Shopkins toys get her a bunch and if she poops she gets 1 and if she pees she gets the m&m or something else if you don't want to do candy? I believe this is the method that she did www.parenting.com/toddler/potty-training/how-3-day-potty-training-method-works . Good luck and let us know how it goes.

This is essentially what we are doing, although she is just wearing "big girl underpants" instead of being naked, mostly because I do not want butt germs all over my house, lol. I tried the candy every time thing and it doesn't seem to make a difference, so we sort of discontinued that. 

I think those "3 day training" things only work in certain situations. Like if I could watch her like a hawk all day for 3 days straight, we may have a different outcome, but that just isn't realistic in this house because I have 2 other kids to feed/watch as well.



**SITB**  I think part of the reason that they were so successful was because my brother in law was home (Hes a teacher) and my parents were still living there watching the babies.   Good luck and I hope it works out for you guys! 

[khaze]

When we were PTing DS1 we got fed up with the poop accidents so we started giving him a cup of chocolate milk (his favorite) every time he pooped on the potty and didn't go in his pants. Instant success. Does your DD have a favorite snack/drink that she could have especially for poop? My DS had a potty regression this fall so we went back to rewards, but now he only gets a cup of chocolate milk at the very end of the day if he didn't have any poop or pee accidents all day.

[alayne926]

Jan 11, 2016 13:48:29 GMT -5 @jemomma said:

Jan 11, 2016 13:07:28 GMT -5 sammyca said:

Ok so this is pretty gross and weird but it appealed to my DD's personality and it worked!

I told her that there's bugs in the toilet pipes and that they love to eat poop and drink wee. So everytime she went to the potty we'd say "here you go bugs!". The story got more and more elaborate (e.g. they think poop tastes like chocolate etc...) and she just really went for it.

lol. Based on past conversations, our DD's sound very similar...I may try this "method." lol.
Right now, when DD is pretending to be a dog (yes, it's a regular occurrence) I have to ask "puppy E" if she has to use the potty. One bark means no and 2 barks means yes. I have found she is much more agreeable during this type of game, lol

OMG...I think our kids would get along great. My DS told me I was a puppy the other day and wanted to boss me around.

Maybe my DS needs to meet your DD and they can live in their little puppy world together.

[Deleted]

We used a food reward system so DS used to get 2 chocolate raisins everytime he went poop on the potty seat and 1 chocolate raisin if pee (we use a little turtle shaped seat because he still doesn't like to poop on the big toilet).

Now he doesn't really ask for chocolate anymore. We got the idea from H cousin who is a pediatrician and she trained both her kids this way so it made me not feel so bad about bribery and chocolate.

[ashbash]

I just skimmed so ignore if this is repetitive.......
We did a sticker chart starting with 3 stickers earns something out of the treat bag or something like a lemonade from chik fil a and gradually worked up to 20 stickers and now she sometimes even forgets to get a sticker

At the beginning she would refuse to sit when i asked her to go so we set a 15 minute timer and then she had to sit, even if she just sat for 1 sec i would make a fuss "awesome sitting!" "Thank you so much for trying"
It slowly faded into not being a fight and we faded the timer

As for poo we had troubles there, she did not want to go! I think it freaked her out so she would hold it. She didnt go for 3 days so i gave her a suppository ans explained this is because you didnt put the poop in the potty and if it stays inside you it will make you sick. She HATED the suppository and that helped motivate her to go. It still took awhile before she would go everyday but it helped

I also made the most ridiculous deal out of it "that is the most awesome poo ive ever seen!" "What a pretty green brown color" "oohh it made a funny plop" so gross but it made her excited and kept it positive

[Deleted]

Um... I told DS1 that the Rancor monster that lived below Jabba's palace in Return of the Jedi was the poopy monster and that if he didn't put poop down the potty to feed him he would jhave to come out of the potty to find it. He never shit his pants again after that.

[wegrowsheep]

Never did potty charts. DS1 is my strong -willed one, and I stopped fighting him because it never ended well. He knew what to do, and one day he decided to do it. I did bribe him, but he had to be diaper free for 2 months before I bought the big excavator toy he wanted.

[silv3rlining]

Jan 12, 2016 8:55:11 GMT -5 @jemomma said:

Half-assed potty charts have been made! Thank you for your input ladies, I hope these work. It seems to be off to a good start

That's more impressive than mine were. DS ended up ripping the one in the upstairs bathroom down bc he wanted to take the stickers off.

[silv3rlining]

Jan 12, 2016 9:37:15 GMT -5 wegrowsheep said:

Never did potty charts. DS1 is my strong -willed one, and I stopped fighting him because it never ended well. He knew what to do, and one day he decided to do it. I did bribe him, but he had to be diaper free for 2 months before I bought the big excavator toy he wanted.

Do I dare ask how old he was when he finally decided to do it?

[wegrowsheep]

Jan 12, 2016 9:38:35 GMT -5 silv3rlining said:

Jan 12, 2016 9:37:15 GMT -5 wegrowsheep said:

Never did potty charts. DS1 is my strong -willed one, and I stopped fighting him because it never ended well. He knew what to do, and one day he decided to do it. I did bribe him, but he had to be diaper free for 2 months before I bought the big excavator toy he wanted.

Do I dare ask how old he was when he finally decided to do it?

3.5
ETA He was pretty good about peeing in the toilet at that point.

[silv3rlining]

Jan 12, 2016 9:40:37 GMT -5 wegrowsheep said:

Jan 12, 2016 9:38:35 GMT -5 silv3rlining said:

Do I dare ask how old he was when he finally decided to do it?

3.5

A lot of my friends boys were the same. 3.5-4. DNW another year of this... (plus cloth diapers aren't fitting as well anymore)

[tatersalad]

Jan 11, 2016 19:06:33 GMT -5 @jimbobcooter said:

Um... I told DS1 that the Rancor monster that lived below Jabba's palace in Return of the Jedi was the poopy monster and that if he didn't put poop down the potty to feed him he would jhave to come out of the potty to find it. He never shit his pants again after that.

I'm going to have to resort to this at some point. DS is 3 years 4 months and stubborn as hell. He can pee standing up in the big toilet when it suits his fancy but is terrified to poop outside his diaper. We tried to do serious potty training during winter break and reward system motivated him for a few hours, then he would lose interest and pee and poop everywhere, even when wearing the dreaded plastic pants. I gave up after 3 days of cleaning up mess and a New Year's hangover.

[Deleted]

Jan 12, 2016 13:30:18 GMT -5 tatersalad said:

Jan 11, 2016 19:06:33 GMT -5 @jimbobcooter said:

Um... I told DS1 that the Rancor monster that lived below Jabba's palace in Return of the Jedi was the poopy monster and that if he didn't put poop down the potty to feed him he would jhave to come out of the potty to find it. He never shit his pants again after that.

I'm going to have to resort to this at some point. DS is 3 years 4 months and stubborn as hell. He can pee standing up in the big toilet when it suits his fancy but is terrified to poop outside his diaper.  We tried to do serious potty training during winter break and reward system motivated him for a few hours, then he would lose interest and pee and poop everywhere, even when wearing the dreaded plastic pants. I gave up after 3 days of cleaning up mess and a New Year's hangover.

To clarify, it wasn't an intentional decision.  It just fell out of my mouth in frustration one day after weeks of watching him run to the corner and quite deliberately poop in his pants there, instead of just going to the bathroom.   There is absolutely nothing worse than the poop phase of potty training. I already dread dealing with it again.

[silv3rlining]

@jemomma I decided to ignore but germs and utilize bribery. DS peed 9 times in the potty today! His only real/full accident was when he was in cloth trainers and sweat pants to start the day. He started to pee during lunch but was able to stop himself and finish on the potty. It's probably false hope but woohoo!