Well shoot. MIL was apparently chatting on the phone with DH last week and started talking about baby stuff, not inherently a problem. She brought up EC (Elimination Communication) which is working for my SIL and her LO, and started pushing DH about trying it. She even said, "I just can't see why you wouldn't give it a try." Fortunately DH is a hero and firmly let her know that at a certain point, it isn't any of her business what we decide to do with our baby. She backed off right away, but this tends to be a pattern with my ILs and I'm hoping we can set healthy boundaries with them about baby-related decisions.
The kicker is that now DH reluctantly feels like we should at least look into EC. To his credit, he said he knows that it would be mostly me doing it since I'll be staying at home with the baby, so he's leaving the decision ultimately up to me. I genuinely want to look into it, but I'm also trying to look ahead to the craziness of parenting and not preemptively add extra stresses.
What is the benefit to doing this? Not buying diapers? I'm not trying to be snarky, just generally curious. Sounds like a shitload of extra work for mom and for what purpose?
Well shoot. MIL was apparently chatting on the phone with DH last week and started talking about baby stuff, not inherently a problem. She brought up EC (Elimination Communication) which is working for my SIL and her LO, and started pushing DH about trying it. She even said, "I just can't see why you wouldn't give it a try." Fortunately DH is a hero and firmly let her know that at a certain point, it isn't any of her business what we decide to do with our baby. She backed off right away, but this tends to be a pattern with my ILs and I'm hoping we can set healthy boundaries with them about baby-related decisions.
The kicker is that now DH reluctantly feels like we should at least look into EC. To his credit, he said he knows that it would be mostly me doing it since I'll be staying at home with the baby, so he's leaving the decision ultimately up to me. I genuinely want to look into it, but I'm also trying to look ahead to the craziness of parenting and not preemptively add extra stresses.
What is the benefit to doing this? Not buying diapers? I'm not trying to be snarky, just generally curious. Sounds like a shitload of extra work for mom and for what purpose?
I'm definitely of the same mind as you are. From what my SIL and MIL have told me, one of the big benefits is potentially having your baby potty-trained earlier. The money saved on diapers is part of it for my SIL, too. I'm not familiar with all of the benefits aside from those, but the whole concept is inherently NMS.
marybeth I'm so sorry to hear about your dog, what a roller coaster you've been on these last couple of weeks. I'm glad you were able to give him a happy last few days.
katietopaz gotcha. Maybe I don't know enough about it, but from what I know mommy is trained, not the baby. So I wouldn't trust the baby to just not wear a diaper, so how much could you really save? It just seems exhausting to me!
@marybeth I am so sorry about your dog. I could not imagine how hard that must be!
Mine is to the parents of the kids at the preschool I work at. WHY would you send your sick child to school??? Today we had a mom bring her daughter late because she was throwing up all morning. My question--why bring your daughter to school after she was throwing up??? And even better--another mom brought her son to school with pinkeye. She dropped him off and ran out the door...we noticed it shortly after when he couldn't stop itching it...after we all had come in contact with him. I am just waiting for the itching to begin...
Not a computer chip. Apparently the ball bearings snapped which then grind against the drum so you need to replace all of that and it takes several hours. We might be getting a new washer. Apparently this one is 8ish years old. Fuck. Just what we need with all the baby expenses.
Oh, no! That sucks, fx you can find a good deal on one!
I'm terrified of the same thing happening to us -- our washer and dryer came with the house, not sure of their age but they are definitely not newer. I didn't want to deal with the expense of replacing them when we first moved, 18 months later I am just praying they have a few years left in them.
@marybeth I am so sorry about your dog. I could not imagine how hard that must be!
Mine is to the parents of the kids at the preschool I work at. WHY would you send your sick child to school??? Today we had a mom bring her daughter late because she was throwing up all morning. My question--why bring your daughter to school after she was throwing up??? And even better--another mom brought her son to school with pinkeye. She dropped him off and ran out the door...we noticed it shortly after when he couldn't stop itching it...after we all had come in contact with him. I am just waiting for the itching to begin...
That's a huge pet peeve of mine too!! Today I had a kid crying on and off all day for no reason at all. He said it was because he had "the cold." I'm assuming he meant he didn't feel well, but I didn't want to call home because I knew he had no prayer of being picked up early. Now I understand why DH gets annoyed when I'm crying for no reason!
@marybeth I am so sorry about your dog. I could not imagine how hard that must be!
Mine is to the parents of the kids at the preschool I work at. WHY would you send your sick child to school??? Today we had a mom bring her daughter late because she was throwing up all morning. My question--why bring your daughter to school after she was throwing up??? And even better--another mom brought her son to school with pinkeye. She dropped him off and ran out the door...we noticed it shortly after when he couldn't stop itching it...after we all had come in contact with him. I am just waiting for the itching to begin...
That's a huge pet peeve of mine too!! Today I had a kid crying on and off all day for no reason at all. He said it was because he had "the cold." I'm assuming he meant he didn't feel well, but I didn't want to call home because I knew he had no prayer of being picked up early. Now I understand why DH gets annoyed when I'm crying for no reason!
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If I get pinkeye because this lady brought her kid to school, I think she should write me a check for the days I have to miss work! Haha
My parents divorced last year, and my dad went to the Philippines last summer after everything was finalized. He is coming back to the states in March, and we've been in conversation about where he'll live and having him helping take care of LO so I can go back to work part time. My brother never bothered to ask what Dad's plans were when he got back, and just sold his effing car. I told him he better call dad and say, "Sorry I'm fucked up, and now it looks like you have no house and no car. Good luck."
So now DH and I are looking into leasing another car for him or something, so he'll have some means of transportation when watching LO.
I would be livid!! Why would he do that without checking in with anyone first? I agree with PPs, your brother should take that money and buy your dad a new car.
I have another...I accidentally left my 31 bag lunch bag at work on Friday. Since it was the end of the month the fridge for cleaned out, and I think they threw my bag out. Wtf??? Who does that?
Rude!! Couldn't they have just left it on the counter or something? Can't imagine someone thought it was a disposable lunch bag!
Post by seventythree on Feb 2, 2015 20:23:47 GMT -5
Finally caught up on this thread, my bitch is that DH and I went out to run 90 minutes of errands and not only did I almost pass out in Costco, somewhere in that time I tweaked my shoulder/upper back and I'm not even sure when/how it happened. It's just low enough on my back that an ice pack won't stay put without me holding it in place with both hands
If I get pinkeye because this lady brought her kid to school, I think she should write me a check for the days I have to miss work! Haha
I used to work at a small tax firm and one woman would bring her kids to work when they couldn't go to school. One day they had lice and she brought them in. WTF if your kids can't go to school because they have lice they can't come to the office either.
DH was bragging to his friends how the baby's room is allowed to be deer/fishing/hunting/camo related so he sent a picture (they're his best friends; who he hunts with; and they're all chicks when it comes to texting/gossip)...well the one was like "yeah...I remember doing all that for the first. I haven't done anything in grace's room yet" (baby #2 born early Jan)... um ok cool you have two kids. you don't need to minimize his excitement because you were lazy about your second kid's room. Thankfully all the other guys had decent reactions to it.
I've been noticing a lot of people doing this kind of stuff.
I showed my mom the baby's closet with his clothes hung up and she was like you'll never keep up with that. Ok, I don't plan on it but it's cute, can you just gush over it? Thanks.
Post by Starbuck128 on Feb 2, 2015 20:31:50 GMT -5
I haven't read through this thread, but I have a bitch. A couple of weeks ago I bitched about how DH is irresponsible when he watches DS and as a result DS is always getting hurt. A couple of weeks ago it was a fall on the tile floor where DS hit his chin and tooth, cutting his lip and bleeding a lot.
Tonight I noticed DS's front tooth, the one he said was hurt, is now turning gray. Obviously I need to take him to get a professional opinion, but when that happened to our dog, it was a dead tooth and needed to be pulled. His front tooth and his beautiful smile. I'm so furious at DH I can't even look at him. DH doesn't seem to care.
I haven't read through this thread, but I have a bitch. A couple of weeks ago I bitched about how DH is irresponsible when he watches DS and as a result DS is always getting hurt. A couple of weeks ago it was a fall on the tile floor where DS hit his chin and tooth, cutting his lip and bleeding a lot.
Tonight I noticed DS's front tooth, the one he said was hurt, is now turning gray. Obviously I need to take him to get a professional opinion, but when that happened to our dog, it was a dead tooth and needed to be pulled. His front tooth and his beautiful smile. I'm so furious at DH I can't even look at him. DH doesn't seem to care.
Oooooh my god, I would be FURIOUS. My husband is one that doesn't watch DS closely. His reasoning is "well kids are basically rubber at this age" Uh yeah, super fucking expensive to fix rubber. Irreplaceable rubber. SMH...
I haven't read through this thread, but I have a bitch. A couple of weeks ago I bitched about how DH is irresponsible when he watches DS and as a result DS is always getting hurt. A couple of weeks ago it was a fall on the tile floor where DS hit his chin and tooth, cutting his lip and bleeding a lot.
Tonight I noticed DS's front tooth, the one he said was hurt, is now turning gray. Obviously I need to take him to get a professional opinion, but when that happened to our dog, it was a dead tooth and needed to be pulled. His front tooth and his beautiful smile. I'm so furious at DH I can't even look at him. DH doesn't seem to care.
Oooooh my god, I would be FURIOUS. My husband is one that doesn't watch DS closely. His reasoning is "well kids are basically rubber at this age" Uh yeah, super fucking expensive to fix rubber. Irreplaceable rubber. SMH...
I mentioned it when I initially posted, but I had warned him many times about roughhousing on that floor when DS was wearing socks. DH never listened.
Good news is, I sent DH out on the walk. All his shit that's been in the nursery and he won't sort through, all his tools around the house he won't put away, it's all in the trash.
Why can't kids go from being babies, to sweet kids, to adults? I really hate the teen years. I have a 14 year old step daughter and we are encountering things we never thought we would. I totally feel like a fish out of water.
Post by sunshyneshay on Feb 2, 2015 21:16:21 GMT -5
Broke down crying tonight for the first time in a long while. I feel like at times DH doesn't give a shit that we are having a baby.
I said an Oreo mcflurry sounded good, so we went and got one even after I said I didn't want to get one cause I didn't want to spend the money. Then we stopped in the liquor store parking lot, and I got a pissed off look on my face. So he got pissed when he saw I was mad and we went home.
Background: DH has drank maybe 2-3 times in the three years I have known him (and never got drunk) because he used to drink heavily when in the military and his Dad's drinking problem.
We have had a half fifth of rum in our freezer for over 6 months that he decided to drink last Sunday (and he had 3-4 more mixed drinks out of that this last week before he finished it), okay that's fine. Then he convinced me to let him buy a pocket pint of Jack D on Friday which lasted two days, alright cool. But you want to buy something again tonight? Not cool with me. I'm all for having an occasional drink, but to go from basically never drinking to having a drink or two every other night is not okay with me.
That is one thing I liked about DH was that he doesn't drink. My dad is an alcoholic, his dad is and I have had my issues with drinking in the past. Maybe I am overreacting, but I let him continue to smoke after he said he would quit with me if I was pregnant. He cut back at first but still smokes, so he can't be spending money on booze too. We barely get by as it is until he starts this new job, and I feel like a crappy mom already that I can't afford all the things I'd like to get for the nursery cause we used everything I had managed to save for our deposit on our townhouse.
I feel really alone and have been upstairs since he was talking to his dad on speakerphone about how he just wants to be able to able a drink after a stressful day at work. Like hello I'm sitting right here talk to me about it don't call your dad to kind of relay the message. I'm sorry this was long and kind of rambling, I'm just upset
Oooooh my god, I would be FURIOUS. My husband is one that doesn't watch DS closely. His reasoning is "well kids are basically rubber at this age" Uh yeah, super fucking expensive to fix rubber. Irreplaceable rubber. SMH...
I mentioned it when I initially posted, but I had warned him many times about roughhousing on that floor when DS was wearing socks. DH never listened.
Good news is, I sent DH out on the walk. All his shit that's been in the nursery and he won't sort through, all his tools around the house he won't put away, it's all in the trash.
Tools in the trash makes me cringe. I totally understand your frustration and love throwing away shit that doesn't get cared for, put away or used. But, the tools!? You should have put them in a box somewhere
Broke down crying tonight for the first time in a long while. I feel like at times DH doesn't give a shit that we are having a baby.
I said an Oreo mcflurry sounded good, so we went and got one even after I said I didn't want to get one cause I didn't want to spend the money. Then we stopped in the liquor store parking lot, and I got a pissed off look on my face. So he got pissed when he saw I was mad and we went home.
Background: DH has drank maybe 2-3 times in the three years I have known him (and never got drunk) because he used to drink heavily when in the military and his Dad's drinking problem.
We have had a half fifth of rum in our freezer for over 6 months that he decided to drink last Sunday (and he had 3-4 more mixed drinks out of that this last week before he finished it), okay that's fine. Then he convinced me to let him buy a pocket pint of Jack D on Friday which lasted two days, alright cool. But you want to buy something again tonight? Not cool with me. I'm all for having an occasional drink, but to go from basically never drinking to having a drink or two every other night is not okay with me.
That is one thing I liked about DH was that he doesn't drink. My dad is an alcoholic, his dad is and I have had my issues with drinking in the past. Maybe I am overreacting, but I let him continue to smoke after he said he would quit with me if I was pregnant. He cut back at first but still smokes, so he can't be spending money on booze too. We barely get by as it is until he starts this new job, and I feel like a crappy mom already that I can't afford all the things I'd like to get for the nursery cause we used everything I had managed to save for our deposit on our townhouse.
I feel really alone and have been upstairs since he was talking to his dad on speakerphone about how he just wants to be able to able a drink after a stressful day at work. Like hello I'm sitting right here talk to me about it don't call your dad to kind of relay the message. I'm sorry this was long and kind of rambling, I'm just upset
I'm sorry YH is being a douche canoe. I'm with you on this one. Alcohol is fucking expensive and if you're having trouble affording needs, he has no business spending money on booze
I haven't read through this thread, but I have a bitch. A couple of weeks ago I bitched about how DH is irresponsible when he watches DS and as a result DS is always getting hurt. A couple of weeks ago it was a fall on the tile floor where DS hit his chin and tooth, cutting his lip and bleeding a lot.
Tonight I noticed DS's front tooth, the one he said was hurt, is now turning gray. Obviously I need to take him to get a professional opinion, but when that happened to our dog, it was a dead tooth and needed to be pulled. His front tooth and his beautiful smile. I'm so furious at DH I can't even look at him. DH doesn't seem to care.
When I was little one of my front teeth got hit by a racket and the tooth turned grey. The dentist just left it and said it will fall out on its own since it was a baby tooth. But I have a black tooth in all my school pictures until it fell out. Its funny now though! (For me)
Hugs sunshyneshay. Your DH could be stressed out in his own way about the arrival of the baby. Communication is key in any case though.
Thank you. And yeah I know, but I hate being the only one talking because when it comes to stuff like this he shuts down and doesn't say a word. It's like talking to a brick wall. I understand he is stressed and his job sucks, but drinking isn't the answer
I haven't read through the whole thread yet... I just have to jump in with mine right now.
We got home from a Super Bowl party last night and the new rescue dog was dead in his crate. I have no idea what could have happened... He has been pretty sick the entire time we've had him but I did not think his life was in danger. It was after 10 pm so there wasn't anything we could do with his body. My husband had to get up and take it away before work this morning.
I feel terrible.
So sorry to hear this. What a terrible thing to have happen! Hopefully he's resting in a better place.
OMFG that's awful. I'm so sorry. How old was the dog?
The vet said he was probably around 2.5, so not very old. He tested negative for heartworms, so the doc gave us medicine to start him on. We didn't give it to him for the first time until yesterday, because we give our other dog his on the first and we wanted them to be on the same schedule. My husband thinks it was the heartworm medicine, but like I said we'll never know for sure.
I am so sorry for your loss!! I hope you take comfort in knowing you did everything you could for this dog. ((Hugs))
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Thank you. And yeah I know, but I hate being the only one talking because when it comes to stuff like this he shuts down and doesn't say a word. It's like talking to a brick wall. I understand he is stressed and his job sucks, but drinking isn't the answer
MH shuts down like this when he is stressed. It sucks. Sometimes some snuggle time can melt the ice.
I agree-my DH is usually super quiet when he's stressed. And then gets cranky. Hoping you are able to talk things through with him and he realizes drinking that often isn't a good path to start down. ((Hugs!))
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