Tuesday TFAS Check In - 1/19

[ellabee]

This Check-in is for anyone actively trying to conceive a sibling or planning to TFAS in the upcoming months.



Age of LO(s):

Circumstances:

Cycle/Month:

CD/DPO:

RRCS:

GTKY: How often do you take time for yourself, or you and your SO (i.e., get a babysitter or inlaws or friends to watch LO)? And, if you could have a whole day free to yourself without your LO, how would you spend it?

[judyblume14]

Age of LO(s): 16 months

Circumstances: TTC# 2

Cycle/Month: 6/6

CD/DPO: CD12/WTO

RRCS: I'm in my fertile window right now. It's cold as all get-out here. Guess we'll have to find a way to stay warm this week ;-)

GTKY: I go the the gym a couple days a week after work, but still get home at about the same time as DH/DD. DH hangs out with DD weekend mornings when I go to the gym or to breakfast with girlfriends. Then, I'll take DD somewhere (grocery store, to visit my dad, etc), so that DH has a few hours to himself.

DH and I go out-out without DD maybe once a month. We either have my dad, MIL or sister babysit, so it's free for us.

I have a whole day to myself this Friday. I took the day off, and DD is going to day care. If snow doesn't prevent me from doing so I plan on getting a bikini wax, then going to the gym, then pedicure, then massage. Then, we actually have a date Friday night - dinner and a comedy show.

[BabyStandish]

Age of LO(s): 1 year aka 12 months

Circumstances: NTNP, no PP AF due to breastfeeding

Cycle/Month: n/a

CD/DPO: n/a

RRCS: I'm going to be lame and say nothing

GTKY: How often do you take time for yourself, or you and your SO (i.e., get a babysitter or inlaws or friends to watch LO)? And, if you could have a whole day free to yourself without your LO, how would you spend it? The only real time I get for myself is when I run/workout and at MOPS events. Dh and I do a parent's night out at our gym about 1 or 2x a month depending on our budget. They babysit for $15 for 4 hours. It's pretty legit.

[smallllmin]

Age of LO: 17 mos

Circumstances: TTC #2

Cycle: 1

CD/DPO: 15

RRCS: Can I get a chart stalk please? I'm over thinking everything even though I didn't O until CD20 with the cycle that got me KUd with DS. CD15 and I'm having anxiety for no reason that this cycle is going to be anovulatory. I know I could link it, but, lazy.

GTKY: We don't often, and we should.

[BabyStandish]

Oh and if I had the day to myself I'd probably sleep in, go on a long run, take the longest shower of my life, lounge around the house and cook and eat without interruption and then I'd maybe go see a movie or something.

[BabyStandish]

judyblume14 have fun "staying warm"

[jubilantsquirrel]

Age of LO(s): 22 months

Cycle/Month: 4/3

CD/DPO: 5

RRCS: Nada

GTKY: How often do you take time for yourself, or you and your SO (i.e., get a babysitter or inlaws or friends to watch LO)? And, if you could have a whole day free to yourself without your LO, how would you spend it?
My me time is running in the evenings. I usually run for about an hour 4-5 nights a week. I love it because it's quiet and I'm left alone with just my thoughts. If I had a entire day without DS I think I would go shopping, out to lunch/dinner and sit in the bar and then just lay around the house with no TV on.

[ellabee]

smallllmin, I would say no O yet for you, though it could be in the next few days or so based on CM. Keep HIO.

[ellabee]

judyblume14, that day sounds amazing. I hope you enjoy yourself!!!

[britta]

Age of LO(s): 2

Circumstances: TFAS since 7/2015

Cycle/Month: 6/7

CD/DPO: 4

RRCS: None to speak of.

GTKY: I'm horrible about making time for myself. It was one of my NY resolutions-to be better about that. I technically get one day every week to *myself* because H works and DS is in daycare. I don't count that much though because it's a day filled with laundry, cleaning bathrooms, grocery shopping, and other super fun activities.

H and I get out for a date night about once a month. Our closest family is my sister, who is about an hour away, so we have to rely on babysitters. Obviously, that can get expensive so we don't get out as much as we'd like; although DH's work schedule is just as much to blame.

[cheezee]

Age of LO(s): 4

Circumstances: MFI

Cycle/Month: 8/10

CD/DPO: 10dpo

RRCS: Started spotting and seems like AF will be here any minute. I had a mini meltdown last night. I basically analyze birthdays too much but my amazing rational thinking DH told me to snap out of it last night. As long as we have a healthy kid who cares when the birthday is. I feel the same but I still needed to hear that from him. I also am just feeling frustrated that we more or less wasted 8 months of trying since we just got DHs counts up to normal in December.

GTKY: How often do you take time for yourself, or you and your SO (i.e., get a babysitter or inlaws or friends to watch LO)? And, if you could have a whole day free to yourself without your LO, how would you spend it?
Date nights are a rare occurrence in our house. Like a couple times a year. We both have crazy work schedules so it's hard to just find the time. I do get maybe one day a week to myself when DD is in MDO but that is usually spent at the grocery store and cleaning house. If I'm lucky I'll go get a pedi.

[sanibel21]

Age of LO(s): 21 months

Circumstances: TFAS

Cycle/Month: almost cycle/month 1

CD/DPO: CD 32, of course the longest it's ever been

RRCS: just waiting for CD1 taking its sweet time getting here so we can get this show on the road!

GTKY: How often do you take time for yourself, or you and your SO (i.e., get a babysitter or inlaws or friends to watch LO)? And, if you could have a whole day free to yourself without your LO, how would you spend it?
We get a babysitter maybe once every three months for a couple hours.
I get my own alone time maybe once a month or so. I'm pretty sure its due to this that I'm kind of a basket case.
If I had a whole day alone, I'd go do lots of clothes and hobby shopping. Then come home and read in the quiet with some sort of glorious take out. I'm crazy too and would prolly end up cleaning the house.

Eta typos

[jense927]

Age of LO(s): 2

Circumstances: TTC w RE

Cycle/Month: 12/13

CD/DPO: CD2

RRCS: We are on to the 12th cycle...I am getting CD3 bloodwork tomorrow and SHG is next Friday. Then I have to wait until Feb 25th to meet with RE. I am so annoyed. I will likely already be halfway through another cycle at that point. So frustrating. My RE will be there for the SHG though so hopefully she can at least tell me how that looks and if I need surgery then we can schedule that immediately after? I am not sure if that is possible but I am hoping.

GTKY: How often do you take time for yourself, or you and your SO (i.e., get a babysitter or inlaws or friends to watch LO)? And, if you could have a whole day free to yourself without your LO, how would you spend it? We probably go out together twice a month. We have my parents and his parents that basically fight over watching him so we are very fortunate. I feel like we have a good balance though. We both work from home probably 1-2 times a week usually separate days so we get some alone time there. We also get together with family quite a bit on the weekends so even though we are with him we get a little break since the aunts or grandparents are busy occupying him

[ladytiffany24]

Age of LO(s): 18 months

Circumstances: TFAS since 11/2015

Cycle/Month: 3/3

CD/DPO: 20/4

RRCS: Nothing this time.

GTKY: How often do you take time for yourself, or you and your SO (i.e., get a babysitter or inlaws or friends to watch LO)? And, if you could have a whole day free to yourself without your LO, how would you spend it?
Add me to the camp of not being that great at taking time for myself. I somehow end up feeling sad or missing DD. But, I do tend to go out with friends at least once a month. Occasionally I'll take a trip to Target by myself and end up spending too much money. As far as SO and I, our sitter does a parent's night out once a month so we always have at least one date night per month. We live for that time! I'm so thankful that our sitter does it because we don't have any family in the area to watch DD for us.

If I had a whole day to myself, it would probably consist of drinking HOT coffee in the morning on the couch with a blanket while getting updated on all my social media sites, lunch out (maybe with some girlfriends), watching a movie (or maybe a massage), happy hour with some friends followed by a delicious dinner. I'm pretty simple!

[Deleted]

I'm new here!

Age of LO(s): 12 months

Circumstances: IUD, reluctant husband, BFing

Cycle/Month: N/A

CD/DPO: N/A

RRCS: Hi ladies! I'm ready to TFAS but my husband is not quite there. We have a 12 month old and we are both kind of in flux at work. So we have some shit going on, but I still feel SO READY to try for another child. I expected to have a 4 to 5 year gap between babies and now I can't wait. It's ridiculous.

GTKY: How often do you take time for yourself, or you and your SO (i.e., get a babysitter or inlaws or friends to watch LO)? And, if you could have a whole day free to yourself without your LO, how would you spend it? We don't. But it's not because people aren't available to us, it's because we don't want to. We take our baby with us everywhere. I'm hoping for a few dates in the next few months where we'll have parents watch the chunk.

[sleepymonkey]

Age of LO(s): 2

Circumstances: AMA, currently testing with RE

Cycle/Month: 8

CD/DPO: 26/9

RRCS: I decided I'm going to test on Friday at 12DPO. I would prefer to wait until 13DPO but I have my follow-up appt with the RE Friday morning so I want to test before that.

GTKY: How often do you take time for yourself, or you and your SO (i.e., get a babysitter or inlaws or friends to watch LO)? And, if you could have a whole day free to yourself without your LO, how would you spend it? I hardly ever take time for myself and even more rarely do MH and I get out by ourselves (pretty much just anniversary, Valentine's Day and maybe one other time a year.) We both feel incredibly guilty leaving DD much on the weekends since we get such limited time with her during the week when we're working. It's definitely something we need to work on because I worry our relationship may be suffering a bit without having time to just be a couple. If I could have a whole free day to myself where I didn't have errands or chores to do, I would sleep in, lounge around the house in my pajamas for the whole morning, then probably take a very leisurely trip to Target and maybe the outdoor mall by my house.

[jcrewgirl]

Age of LO(s): 20 months (today! - where is the time going?!)

Circumstances: Trying for #2

Cycle/Month: 1/1

CD/DPO: 8

RRCS: FF says that my fertile days begin tomorrow and go through the weekend which means all the sex will occur over the next week.

GTKY: How often do you take time for yourself, or you and your SO (i.e., get a babysitter or inlaws or friends to watch LO)? And, if you could have a whole day free to yourself without your LO, how would you spend it? Almost every weekday I'm able to go to the gym for about an hour - either over my lunch break or DH will put DD to bed 1-2x a week so I can go and maybe once on the weekend. My alone time is either at the gym or going grocery shopping. DH and I suck at going out. Luckily, my sister lives close and loves to babysit DD, but we never plan anything. We should plan something.

Edited to add what my day would look like alone: Roll out of bed whenever I wake up, drink two cups of hot coffee, hit the gym, shower, lunch alone, pedi/mani, facial/massage, and then binge watching a tv show with a frozen pizza and a bottle of red. #perfectday

[smallpotato]

Age of LO(s): 3.5

Circumstances: TFAS next cycle.

Cycle/Month: n/a

CD/DPO: 26/12

RRCS: CD1 should be here by the end of the week. I am excited and nervous to start trying.

GTKY: How often do you take time for yourself, or you and your SO (i.e., get a babysitter or inlaws or friends to watch LO)? And, if you could have a whole day free to yourself without your LO, how would you spend it?

I go grocery shopping by myself every Sunday, except for when MH works. Our families live 2-3 hours away, so we don't get a ton of time just for us outside the house. We have concert tickets in April, and my mom is watching DS (the show is near her house), so I'm pretty excited about that! If I had a day to myself, I would book a spa day (massage, mani, pedi), walk leisurely around the mall or the outlets, and take a nap.

[amandamh2]

Age of LO(s): 9 months

Circumstances: TFAS/NTNP as no PP AF due to BFing

Cycle/Month: unknown/1

CD/DPO: unknown

RRCS: We're finally moving DS's crib into his own room this weekend. I'm much calmer about it than I thought I would be which tells me it's definitely the right time. I'll still bring him back to our bed for feeding after he wakes MOTN so it only changes the first part of the night anyway.

GTKY: How often do you take time for yourself, or you and your SO (i.e., get a babysitter or inlaws or friends to watch LO)? And, if you could have a whole day free to yourself without your LO, how would you spend it?
It's only recently gotten easier for me to leave LO since he's finally nursing less frequently (doesn't take bottles well). DH does bath and story time which is my daily small break and every once in a while I go for coffee alone. Date night is a rare occurrence since DS nurses to sleep so I can't leave him at that time. We also don't live in the same city as any of our family and moved here recently so don't have a lot of close friends to watch him yet.

[KR]

Age of LO(s): 19 months

Circumstances: TFAS

Cycle/Month: 3 (1AL)

CD/DPO: cd 19

RRCS: I am waiting to O now. I am new to temping and find that I am crazy about it. I get all anxious to get up in the morning and guess what is happening to my body. It's quite stressful. I can only imagine 2ww. I hope I GKU soon just so I don't have to stress over it! Ha.

On another note, my son was diagnosed with Fifths disease! I know there is risk of mc in the first trimester, but what impact does it have on TTC? Anyone have experience with this?? I've contacted my doctors office to see if I've ever been tested for immunity but haven't got a call back yet.

GTKY: How often do you take time for yourself, or you and your SO (i.e., get a babysitter or inlaws or friends to watch LO)? And, if you could have a whole day free to yourself without your LO, how would you spend it? Not enough! I try to fervour with friends once every 2 months and same for out with H alone. We have no family or even close friends where we live so it is always a babysitter which is just so expensive. If I had a day to myself, read? Massage? Brunch with friends.

[judyblume14]

jcrewgirl, we sound like #perfectdaytwins

[pivot]

Age of LO(s): 16 months

Circumstances: TTC #2

Cycle/Month: 1

CD/DPO: 25/9

RRCS: AF expected Thursday.. Will probably test tomorrow just because. 

GTKY: How often do you take time for yourself, or you and your SO (i.e., get a babysitter or inlaws or friends to watch LO)? And, if you could have a whole day free to yourself without your LO, how would you spend it? DH & I go on a date just us once a week. It's a firm rule we set for ourselves before having DD. I really believe our relationship is as strong as it is because of this. My in-laws live right up the driveway from us and beg to babysit about every day so it's easy for us. We usually go on a weekend night & they keep DD overnight too We both grew up with spending weekends at our grandparents houses and wouldn't change it for the world. Love that our children can have that same experience. 

A day to myself: Goals - sleep in, big ol' breakfast in bed, go for a run, get ready, go shopping, massage, mani pedi, etc.
Reality: Get up normal time, clean the house, do laundry, run errands, worry about all the other things I don't have time for but have to get done

judyblume14 your day on Friday sounds fabulous! Enjoy  

[littlelion]

cheezee, hugs for your over analytical mind driving you bonkers. but yay that yh can bring you back to reality. 
sanibel21, fx your cycle ends soon and you can move fwd!
jense927, TTC def tries one's patience. It can feel like a never ending waiting game. Hope your RE can move things along!
@saiven, GL with the work situation and that yh agrees soon to tfas!
sleepymonkey, Sending all the good vibes for a positive for you this week! And I hear you about the guilt. Between working and his early bedtime, I barely see DS during the week.  
amandamh2, I wish we had kept DS in his crib in our room. I proposed this to DH after he outgrew the bassinet but DH shot it down and we ended cosleeping. Which is a lovely experience on it's own but fast fwd and here we are at 1 yo and still no clue how to transition to a crib. 

[jrun2013]

Age of LO(s): 20 months

Circumstances: TFAS

Cycle/Month: since April 2015

CD/DPO: 4

RRCS: I just finished what appeared to be a 45 day anovulatory cycle. My period just lasted for three days and was very light, which isn't normal, so now I'm just hoping for a normal cycle.

GTKY: How often do you take time for yourself, or you and your SO (i.e., get a babysitter or inlaws or friends to watch LO)? And, if you could have a whole day free to yourself without your LO, how would you spend it?

I take time for myself once every couple of weeks. DH and I only go on baby free dates once every few months, but the next one is Saturday!

If I had a whole day free I would sleep in, go to a coffee shop for a fancy coffee and to read, then I would go see a movie. Once I got home I would probably take a nap, then find a show to watch.

[ellabee]

I'm just going to take a moment to say that it's awesome to have so many people participate in this check-in.


Age of LO(s): Almost 22 months

Circumstances: TTC#2

Cycle/Month: 7/8/2AL

CD/DPO: 17/na

RRCS: Really really hoping to O soon. I'm ready. Just, so ready. Let's get this show on the road, body!

GTKY: Both DHs and my parents are close, so once every two weeks or so they'll take DD for a few hours. Maybe once every 1-2 months she may do an overnight with the grandparents or SIL so H and I can do dinner and a movie.

Perfect day: Sleep in, gym, lunch out with friends, mani/pedi/massage, some kind of baking or DIY project, catch up on tv shows on the couch in sweats with a bowl of popcorn.

[cheezee]

judyblume14 your friday sounds fabulous! Enjoy!
smallllmin hang in there! Hopefully you'll get a good temp spike and can confirm O soon!
jense927 Good luck with the SHG and testing with the RE. Hope you get results asap and get a good plan lined up.
ladytiffany24 ahhhh yes...I forgot about trips to target. Those are a little slice of heaven but I do end up broke.
@saiven welcome!
smallpotato you just reminded me that we have concert tickets in April as well for Mumford & Sons! Who are you seeing?
amandamh2 Good luck transitioning DS to his own room!
KR I've just heard that fifths disease and pregnant women should not come in contact. I'm interested to hear what your doc says!
pivot how nice you get a date night once a week and have grandparents so close!
ellabee Thanks for starting and I hope you O soon! Also, agreed...I love our TFAS check in!

[thelittleredm]

Age of LO: 2yrs

Circumstances: TTC #2

Cycle/Month: 12/12

CD/DPO: 29/6

RRCS: So tired. Woke up at 3:30 this morning wide awake and then H's breathing was irritating me so I finally popped a couple Benadryl to get me back to sleep. Normally, they help me conk out and have no affect when I wake up. Not today!

GTKY: We usually take time for ourselves every other week and leave DS at a grandparent's house. If I didn't have him for a day? I'd workout and spend the rest of the day vegging on the couch watching my TV shows.

[britta]

KR from what I understand, the danger is the possibility of significant anemia in the fetus during the first trimester, which is what increases the risk of miscarriage.

The problem is, Fifth's Disease usually looks like a mild cold during the time when it's actually contagious. By the time a child has the classic red cheeks and/or the rash, the contagious point has passed. My guess is that your LO was diagnosed with it based on the classic red cheeks/preceding symptoms and that he's past being contagious now. So unless you were pregnant while he was contagious, there's no risk to you at this point.

It sucks, but many of the diseases women are supposed to avoid in early pregnancy looking like nothing more than a regular cold. You wouldn't know you were exposed until after the fact, so the best thing you can do is practice good hand washing.

Edited to finish thoughts.

[pivot]

ellabee oh baking or diy project are good ones! Mentally adding that to my perfect day goals list..

[penguin129]

Age of LO(s): 2 1/1

Circumstances: WTDS

Cycle/Month: WTDS

CD/DPO: 27/8

RRCS: Just waiting for AF and my appointments. Hoping my TSH levels are in a TTC range

GTKY: How often do you take time for yourself, or you and your SO (i.e., get a babysitter or inlaws or friends to watch LO)? We got out by ourselves without DD once every other month or so.
And, if you could have a whole day free to yourself without your LO, how would you spend it?
Probably catching up on TV shows, taking a soak, mani/pedi, hair appointment. That kind of stuff.