s/o throwbacks: DH reactions

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Do you remember your DH's immediate reaction to LO being born?  I was thinking about this the other night while looking at pictures of dad on a birth photographer's portfolio (and sobbing hyterically).  

The only thing I remember about DH from right when P was born was that he jumped in and grabbed one of my legs to hold and got very drill sergeant about pushing, in a good way, when the doctor subtly made it quite clear we were headed for a c-section if we didn't get him out ASAP. And then I remember DH asking, in a very non panicked way, why P wasn't crying after several minutes.   (P was fine and breathing, he just didn't have anything to say right away.) But I don't remember his actual reaction right when they pulled him out and showed him to us.  Sad panda. But it was pretty late and I'd been at it for 15 hours.

[hannahl201477]

I giggle every time I think about it. I had c-section so DH got to see him more and better. I'm thankful I wasn't put to sleep but i was out of this world. Hahah. I remember DH running back and forth from Mal to me and telling me things about him. Then finally when he got to carry him over to me I told him about 10 times not to drop him!
AW:: I'll add a pic bc I love it!

[pbubblegum]

H's reaction when I called and said my water broke "I'm still working so if nothing is happening I'll come home at my regular time"
Water broke at 4:00, he works around the corner from our house so it wasn't a big deal.
H's reaction when he saw a crowning head "Woooooaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhh"
H being supportive in between contractions "Unleash your inner animal Bubblegum, I'll roar with you" and he did!
First thing H said when baby was born and placed on my chest "It's a boy!"

I got a huge bouquet of peonies delivered to our house 3 hours after giving birth. They were from H and the card said "You're my hero"

[belle0720]

We were both crying. My sister took pictures and video throughout my entire labor, all so beautiful.

[alayne926]

DH said, "We got a girl, baby, We got a girl!" (we didn't find out the sex) and he had tears in his eyes while we were watching her get cleaned up.

[erbear]

My H kept saying "wow, erbear, this is so amazing!" As he watched and then he was so emotional he couldn't hold her. The weirdo kept the tissue he wiped away his tears with in his wallet.

[Widget123]

Jan 19, 2016 11:41:15 GMT -5 @jemomma said:

Honestly I have no idea what his reaction was because I had all of my attention on M. I do know that he was not allowed to talk to me while pushing because he was cracking jokes, so not helpful in the moment. My husband is probably the most annoying person in the world during L&D. I love him anyways, though.

A lot of this for me too. Plus I don't think he reacted as much as he did the first time, not that I remember that time very clearly either.  I do remember he was kind of in shock that the OB didn't let him cut the umbilical cord.

[jillywilly]

C-section here, so DH got to hold him first. It was a super long and un-fun labor that led to the c-section, so all I really can remember at this point other than sheer relief of it being over was DH kept saying "I'm your daddy." It was pretty amazing.

[beersandweirs]

I wish I could remember husband's reaction. He was sitting behind me, so I wouldn't have been able to see him anyway. I do remember that when she was born, the midwives said, "here's your baby" and all I could think to say was "oh, boy!"

I have a pretty good memory of all the events leading up to the birth since I was unmedicated, but the events after are just a little foggier, hormones?

[dmoney]

First thing DH said to me was that he loved me and that he was proud of me. Then he went to be with the baby and i was freaking out that she wasnt crying, even though the Dr told us they didnt want her to cry right away.

[mrsmonogrammed]

DH was facing me and started tearing up said "I'm so proud of you, babe! You had our baby!". It was the sweetest thing<3

[kemdupuis]

DH and I were both completely stunned that B had actually arrived. It was in the middle of the night, and DH was sleeping before they came in the room and it was time to push. I only pushed for 25 or so minutes, so I think he was still out of it. I didn't really scream or anything either, so he just held my hand and kept telling me I was doing well. When he came out, we just kind of looked at each other for a second and then both started tearing up. When they took B for a second to clean/weigh him, they asked us what his name was, and again, we both just looked at each other and then DH said "His name is... " which was a big moment because we weren't officially decided on it. IT was really sweet.

ETA: DH also kept saying "he has 10 fingers and 10 toes. He's perfect"

[sabrinaml]

I'm usually so good about remembering details and conversations but for the life of me I can't remember what his immediate reaction was. I was admitted to the hospital on Thursday afternoon. Friday evening they started to induce, Saturday around 6:50pm my water broke (no contractions and only at a 2). Sunday morning I still hadn't changed so they decided we were getting close to the 18 hour mark and began prepping me for a c-section. It was a long and pretty boring weekend until Sunday morning.
Our Dr. told us what we had (team green) and DH went over to cut the cord. I also remember him being nervous about dropping him since he had never held a baby before.

[silv3rlining]

We were all (DH, myself, and my doula) in shock at hoe gast delivery went that I don't remember much of DHs reaction other than we were all like "did that really just happen"

I also remember asking after she was out and on me for a while if anyone checked to make sure she was a girl. (Nope no one looked, it was all so fast)

[ashbash]

When I was crowning "Ash how are you doing this?! "

With DD my pushing was kinda rough so as soon as she was out he said "its over! Its over! You did it! "

And to the placenta "whoa thats big"

With DS "here he is! I cant believe we have another baby" and cried

Love all these sweet daddies

[baytosa2013]

All these stories are so sweet!

I have no clue other than a picture one of the nurses took of him holding her. I went in for a scheduled C section and the spinal didn't take so I ended up quickly being put out. i never got to see his face the first time he saw her and I was so out of it on morphine after that I don't even remember what he said after I sort of woke up

This is photo that was taken in the OR

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I had a doula so during labor DH just kind of sat on the side and watched like a deer in the headlights while she did everything. I felt kind of bad that he was just in the background. The first thing I remember him jumping in with was after my head started spinning in circles and I became enraged with all the demons from the lowest depths of hell I asked for an epidural when we discovered I'd only progressed .5 cm in 8 hours and my doula was trying to talk me through it. The terror in his voice when he told her, "No I think she really means it this time," still makes me giggle.

[mbjune13]

I don't really remember DH's reaction. I know he was worried about baby and me because I ended up being a c-section and I was violently ill in the OR. I just remember him going to see B after their NICU gave him the all clear and him bringing her to me. I wish I remembered more but the whole day is foggy. I was in labour more than 48 hours before the c-section so I was exhausted by that point.

[tiffbot]

H actually wrote his version of DD's birth story and put it up on FB. He's not normally one to use social media and it was hilarious, and touching all at the same time. I shared it on here once but would share again if anyone wanted to read it.

He was WAY more cool and collected this time around, he was a rock star. We were also team green and my doctor was rushing to make it in time for the delivery but walked in as they were cleaning her up. It had seriously only been seconds, to a minute post birth and somehow we just hadn't even asked if it was a he or she. My dr came in and looked and came up to me and said 'what a beautiful girl you have!' And I think I said 'a girl?!' And we both started crying. I remember we were still holding hands at this point.

I need to share some of DS's birth though, because it was quite the series of events for my poor emotional husband. For one, he was premature so everything was unexpected. He called my mom to tell her my water broke and I was in the hospital and she fainted. He had to call her back because she disappeared on him. Apparently she ran into the bathroom that my dad was, erm, occupying and said 'Tiffbot's water broke' and passed out on the floor while my dad was sitting there with his pants down. Of course everything turned out ok, so now funny to look back on. So of course that shook up my H, who also had to call my boss (well I could have but I thought I'd be too emotional-turns out I should have been making the calls haha!) and he panicked and said 'Tiff's not coming into work today...actually, she's not coming back at all' Since he didn't initially say I was in labour, my boss thought I died for a minute!
He was a mess through delivery, and when it was over and they told us 'it's a boy' H was crying so hard I said the name I wanted and he and just fell to the floor crying and saying yes, he was just so relieved DS and I were both ok. It is funny, but also really sweet to look back on.

[purple]

These are wonderful stories :-) Thank you all for sharing, even though there seems to be something in my eye!

I had a scheduled section because they were still afraid I might not make it. The theatre was full of people. We knew the anaesthetist and the doctor who delivered L. It wasn't the obstetrician I'd been seeing throughout pregnancy because his daughter was graduating that day, but we had met the delivery doctor a few times. Everyone else was a stranger.

They used an epidural to numb me because it was less risky than either a general or a spinal, but it took a little while to tsle effect. H started to feel faint whilst they were preparing me for surgery so they brought in an extra midwife to look after him :-)

When she was born the doctor lifted her over the curtain and H caught his breath. They cleaned her up a bit and put her on my chest and he kept saying how beautiful she was, and I was (that bit really wasn't true!) I tried to tell everyone what her name was but I couldn't quite get it out, so he announced it. Then I started to have a reaction to the epidural so they whisked L and H away and put her down the front of his scrubs so that she could carry on having skin to skin. One of my favourite pictures from that first day is of H in blue scrubs with L clutched to his chest under his jacket, wearing only a nappy and a hat :-)

[jessila]

I had a fairly quick labor that ended with an emergency c-section. I couldn't control the shaking in my body and kept passing out during the csection.
I do remember H holding him and fighting to stay conscious because I just wanted to be with my baby. And I remember H introducing us (after I puked everywhere). Mostly he was terrified because I was doing so poorly.
When I was rolled out into recovery I asked whose ears did O have and DH looked between us and was amazed at the exact minature of my ears on our baby.

[gigi3126]

I ended up needing a c-section, and when they held Jude up for us to see I remember that I started to cry and I looked at H and he was laughing. I think it was the whole anticipation and him finally being here. It's funny that we responded in precisely opposite ways. After, I could tell that he was excited to watch them clean up J and do all the measurements and whatnot, but he didn't want to leave me. I had to keep reassuring him that it was okay for him to go. Then he came rushing back to show me the pictures that he had taken. It was funny because as soon as he came back, they brought J over to me, but H still insisted on showing me the pictures. Here's one that he took:

[carolyngrace]

DH was so focused during labor, doing all of the things I wanted him to - Kept quiet, held my hand (or my shoulder), and muttered encouraging things like "good job care, you're doing it!"

After I grabbed O from between my legs, stumbled back to the bed (from the toilet, where I pushed him out) and collapsed on the bed, DH curled up next to us all misty eyed and just kept saying "wow" while he touched Oscar's head and face. It was really sweet. He was way more engaged than me for the first hour or so, I just wanted to pass the fuck out.

[musicfrk2002]

I was knocked out under general about an hour before the c section, long enough for them to get all the ivs and catheter and what not in me. H wasn't allowed in the OR either. So, I have no idea what his initial reaction was, just that once J was out he went up to the NICU to be with him.

[missjenniebean]

He cried. If I could go back in time I would hire a photographer for only that moment. It was beautiful to see.

[pghtruelove]

SO cried and kept saying how beautify she was and how proud of me he was. I remember being super pissed because he was wearing a hat in the picture where he first held her and you can't see his full expression. I still give him shit for it.

[periwinkledaydreams]

Similar to baytosa2013 and @badwolf321 and anyone else who doesn't remember their own first moments.. reading your stories struck a cord in me reminding me I'm not alone in that.

After 30+ hour labor I was brought for emergency C, and the anesthesia wore off during the stitches so they knocked me out with morphine.. all I remember is hearing her cry and SO holding my hand and wiping my tears and suddenly Im cold and then Im awake in a different room nursing her. He was still right next to us in that room, communicating with nurses. The pictures of him and her from the OR are absolutely beautiful. The one picture of the three of us is absolutely terrifying.

[carolyngrace]

pghtruelove, love the photo! I think it's kind of special that the look is just between them, and you can just see DH's smile. Very sweet.