That's also IF you go with a midwife. My mom works with a guy who has delivered all six of his kids at home, by himself. Just him, his wife, and a kiddie pool.
I figure his wife has to have serious balls to have kids at home with not a single medical professional around in case something goes wrong.
This I do not agree with. For me that is too dangerous and I believe it is also illegal... Someone with medical training has to be there if you are doing a home birth.
Nope. It's actually illegal in some states to have a midwife attend a home birth, but it's legal in all 50 to have an unassisted home birth. If something were to go wrong, and he performed an "internal exam" on her. He could be charged as for acting as a midwife without a license. But that's it. You can plan to have a baby in a field with a deer as your only witness and the government would be like "Cool but don't let unlicensed people touch your hoo ha while you're out there"
People who give my child stuffed animals deserve an envelope of glitter.
Lol why?
They're large, space-taking, not that cute, and rarely played with. For every one that comes in that door, I sneakily put an old one in the donate pile. A couple is fine, but a room full of stuffed animals is my version of hell, lol.
People who give my child stuffed animals deserve an envelope of glitter.
They're overflowing the bins!!!! I find stuffed animals everywhere. Also... Do not give my kid shit that makes noise or requires parental participation.
People who give my child stuffed animals deserve an envelope of glitter.
They're overflowing the bins!!!! I find stuffed animals everywhere. Also... Do not give my kid shit that makes noise or requires parental participation.
TRUTH. I do not want to paint with unwashable paint, people! And stop giving DD fucking shopkins! I can picture DD2 choking on them already... the worst part is all this crap comes from my SIL who has a 2.5 yr old and should know better.
People who give my child stuffed animals deserve an envelope of glitter.
I really hate the "goody bags" DS brings home from school after their holiday parties. Its all crap and I want to trow it away immediately but he treats the stuff like gold. As soon as he loses interest that stuff finds a new home in the trash.
Yeeeep. It was very nice of someone to load up on dollar store crap for the holiday party or whatever, but DNW it all in my house.
They're overflowing the bins!!!! I find stuffed animals everywhere. Also... Do not give my kid shit that makes noise or requires parental participation.
TRUTH. I do not want to paint with unwashable paint, people! And stop giving DD fucking shopkins! I can picture DD2 choking on them already... the worst part is all this crap comes from my SIL who has a 2.5 yr old and should know better.
SHOPKINS ARE THE WORST FUCKING THING EVER MADE. The whole play room is covered in Shopkins. Like what do they even do?!
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This I do not agree with. For me that is too dangerous and I believe it is also illegal... Someone with medical training has to be there if you are doing a home birth.
Nope. It's actually illegal in some states to have a midwife attend a home birth, but it's legal in all 50 to have an unassisted home birth. If something were to go wrong, and he performed an "internal exam" on her. He could be charged as for acting as a midwife without a license. But that's it. You can plan to have a baby in a field with a deer as your only witness and the government would be like "Cool but don't let unlicensed people touch your hoo ha while you're out there"
This is craziness!! I know in IL it is illegal for MW's to attend a birth outside a hospital but I just cant imagine trying to do it on your own with no medical professional there. Just no... does not compute.
They're large, space-taking, not that cute, and rarely played with. For every one that comes in that door, I sneakily put an old one in the donate pile. A couple is fine, but a room full of stuffed animals is my version of hell, lol.
My kid has one of those nets that hangs in the corner of the room, filled with stuffed animals. They don't take up space & she doesn't lose her damn mind seeing me throw away/donate any. Win/win.
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TRUTH. I do not want to paint with unwashable paint, people! And stop giving DD fucking shopkins! I can picture DD2 choking on them already... the worst part is all this crap comes from my SIL who has a 2.5 yr old and should know better.
SHOPKINS ARE THE WORST FUCKING THING EVER MADE. The whole play room is covered in Shopkins. Like what do they even do?!
It makes me pissy when I get the side eye for putting my children in daycare - and yes I plan to do the same with this one. There are pros and cons to both (which is another side argument) but I have a very good job that I worked hard to get and I will not give it up. Also helps that I am the breadwinner in the house and I like our lifestyle (added note - DH works as well).
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Nope. It's actually illegal in some states to have a midwife attend a home birth, but it's legal in all 50 to have an unassisted home birth. If something were to go wrong, and he performed an "internal exam" on her. He could be charged as for acting as a midwife without a license. But that's it. You can plan to have a baby in a field with a deer as your only witness and the government would be like "Cool but don't let unlicensed people touch your hoo ha while you're out there"
This is craziness!! I know in IL it is illegal for MW's to attend a birth outside a hospital but I just cant imagine trying to do it on your own with no medical professional there. Just no... does not compute.
I know. I'm not surprised that it's not illegal (because bodily autonomy and Uber babies). I'm just always surprised that people do it and have their spouses as their delivery service. One of MHs colleagues tried to convince him that delivering his own kids was magical. He came home and told me that if I REALLY wanted him to he could deliver our DD at his hospital. My reaction was a cross between are you high right now? And fuck no. Above the waist rule, buddy. Above the waist.
It makes me pissy when I get the side eye for putting my children in daycare - and yes I plan to do the same with this one. There are pros and cons to both (which is another side argument) but I have a very good job that I worked hard to get and I will not give it up. Also helps that I am the breadwinner in the house and I like our lifestyle (added note - DH works as well).
Are you expected to kick off your shoes and live in your kitchen after having a kid or something? Throat punch the side eyers.
It makes me pissy when I get the side eye for putting my children in daycare - and yes I plan to do the same with this one. There are pros and cons to both (which is another side argument) but I have a very good job that I worked hard to get and I will not give it up. Also helps that I am the breadwinner in the house and I like our lifestyle (added note - DH works as well).
SAH life ain't for everyone. If everybody waited until they were able to SAH (whether because of finances or just because they felt ready to leave their careers) there'd be a hell of a lot less people in the world. If anyone were to side eye my choice to work, I'd let them know they're welcome to pay my bills while I stay home.
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I didn't do CIO with DS because I just couldn't force myself to do it. He didn't sleep through the night till he was 3. You bet I did CIO with DD and have no regrets.
I couldn't do a home birth either. I feel much more comfortable in the hospital surrounded by medical professionals and equipment. I'm terrified labor with this one is going to go fast and we won't make it to the hospital in time.
My UO is that I think New Years resolutions are a crock. Probably like 1% of people actually keep up with them. So many people were disturbed I didn't have one when they asked.
Post by rungirlrun on Jan 28, 2016 12:51:07 GMT -5
Re homebirths: not for me but I have a few friends who did it, and they had wonderful experiences. And cleanup wasn't really that much as a tub was brought in for them to give birth. But it is too scary for me. I had zero risk factors with DS and a picture perfect pregnancy until it all went to shit when labor started and I had to be hooked up to everything and had about 15 medical professionals in the room when I gave birth and then DS wasn't breathing when he came out. So no not something I could ever do, but I have a lot of respect for moms who do home births and have everything go well.
And re daycare, I think working moms are awesome. I also think SAHM are awesome. But as a stay at home mom, I'm so sick of getting asked when I'm going back to work, if I found a job yet (nope not looking), how bored I must be, if I'm having fun just chillin at home and mooching off my H. Just all the shaming for whatever you choose sucks.
I wish I could do a home birth. It is no longer an option and well now all I want is a rainbow baby.
I hate how parties have turned into everyone gets something....
Also if my kid gets something that makes noise it will stay in their bedroom and they can play with it there. My poor head can't take shit like that.
on EO I have a friend who swears by them because it cured all her body problems.....side note she started using them right after surgery for the body problems.....I love them in beauty products but I don't want to ingest them.
Not looking forward to how clingy in laws will get once baby is here. Also I won't feel bad for holding people off on seeing the baby for at least a week. If you don't show any interest in our life now and then all of a sudden you can't wait to see the baby. Fuck you, you can wait.
Post by cabbagecabbage on Jan 28, 2016 14:15:39 GMT -5
My UO is that too many parents assign their kids'good attributes to their parenting and don't see that it's just temperament and luck of the draw. How your kid sleeps, how picky of an eater, how clingy, etc. I know so many smug moms who swear by their method when I bet one zillion dollars that's just the nature of their kid.
Also, I'm as crunchy and AP as they come but I can't hang with the groups because there are so MN any non-vaxers. Get it together, fellow hippie inclined mommas! You're making us all look crazy.
People who give my child stuffed animals deserve an envelope of glitter.
When people give my kid a stuffed animal I give it to my dogs. He likes to watch them destroy stuffed animals and they love it and I don't have another stupid stuffed animal laying around. Win for all of us! I do keep the special ones that play music and all that jazz but cheapies from crane machines and carnival games, no thanks!
They're overflowing the bins!!!! I find stuffed animals everywhere. Also... Do not give my kid shit that makes noise or requires parental participation.
TRUTH. I do not want to paint with unwashable paint, people! And stop giving DD fucking shopkins! I can picture DD2 choking on them already... the worst part is all this crap comes from my SIL who has a 2.5 yr old and should know better.
Shopkins are such an enigma to me...what is the point??? At Christmas my little cousin was showing my a catalog with all the shopkins she wants, they're just like little tiny things that don't even go together. I'm like this is a hoarder in the making, cut this shit off right now.
It makes me pissy when I get the side eye for putting my children in daycare - and yes I plan to do the same with this one. There are pros and cons to both (which is another side argument) but I have a very good job that I worked hard to get and I will not give it up. Also helps that I am the breadwinner in the house and I like our lifestyle (added note - DH works as well).
Anyone who side-eyes you for putting your kid in daycare is an idiot.
And re daycare, I think working moms are awesome. I also think SAHM are awesome. But as a stay at home mom, I'm so sick of getting asked when I'm going back to work, if I found a job yet (nope not looking), how bored I must be, if I'm having fun just chillin at home and mooching off my H. Just all the shaming for whatever you choose sucks.
Who are these people that think it's okay to ask things like this?
My UO is that too many parents assign their kids'good attributes to their parenting and don't see that it's just temperament and luck of the draw. How your kid sleeps, how picky of an eater, how clingy, etc. I know so many smug moms who swear by their method when I bet one zillion dollars that's just the nature of their kid.
Haha this is so me, not really but I do like being pretend smug (mostly just around my family) about how awesome of a mom I am because my kid is so well behaved. This next one will surely be a little hellion, karma and all that.
Post by lostinfaith225 on Jan 28, 2016 14:24:57 GMT -5
Re: essential oils.
My aunt sells this. Every holiday or occasion she gives me a bottle and tells me it will help with this or that. It goes right into a cabinet, never to be seen again.
I have highly sensitive skin and it gives me a headache! Haha
Re homebirths: not for me but I have a few friends who did it, and they had wonderful experiences. And cleanup wasn't really that much as a tub was brought in for them to give birth. But it is too scary for me. I had zero risk factors with DS and a picture perfect pregnancy until it all went to shit when labor started and I had to be hooked up to everything and had about 15 medical professionals in the room when I gave birth and then DS wasn't breathing when he came out. So no not something I could ever do, but I have a lot of respect for moms who do home births and have everything go well.
And re daycare, I think working moms are awesome. I also think SAHM are awesome. But as a stay at home mom, I'm so sick of getting asked when I'm going back to work, if I found a job yet (nope not looking), how bored I must be, if I'm having fun just chillin at home and mooching off my H. Just all the shaming for whatever you choose sucks.
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I get annoyed with that question too as a sahm! Or the, you must not have an education or are wasting your education. Grrrrrrr!
The thing about home-births and even birth center births is you get to be back in your own surroundings so quickly. I was having a legit anxiety attack when they were taking forever to discharge me from the hospital after DS. That said I had a few complications that were totally unexpected and even though I had a midwife she had to call an OB so I don't think a home-birth would have been acceptable to me.
Also re clean up: My SIL accidentally had a home-birth and she had the baby right at the top of the stairs. There's no stains or anything but it's so hard not to walk up the stairs and be like "yup, that's where so and so was born"
Re homebirths: not for me but I have a few friends who did it, and they had wonderful experiences. And cleanup wasn't really that much as a tub was brought in for them to give birth. But it is too scary for me. I had zero risk factors with DS and a picture perfect pregnancy until it all went to shit when labor started and I had to be hooked up to everything and had about 15 medical professionals in the room when I gave birth and then DS wasn't breathing when he came out. So no not something I could ever do, but I have a lot of respect for moms who do home births and have everything go well.
And re daycare, I think working moms are awesome. I also think SAHM are awesome. But as a stay at home mom, I'm so sick of getting asked when I'm going back to work, if I found a job yet (nope not looking), how bored I must be, if I'm having fun just chillin at home and mooching off my H. Just all the shaming for whatever you choose sucks.
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I get annoyed with that question too as a sahm! Or the, you must not have an education or are wasting your education. Grrrrrrr!
(I have a masters degree)
That makes me ragey!! I have a Pt job that's way below my degree level. I constantly get asked. "Why do you even work here?" "When are you going to get a real job?" "Wouldn't it be better for your daughter if you just stayed home?"
Forget what people say to me when I tell them I plan to go back for my PhD once I'm done having kids.
Post by sarcaztic10 on Jan 28, 2016 14:31:39 GMT -5
cavewmn, I really don't want people visiting for a month or more after the baby is born. I need my space to adjust. Side note: my mom is not included in this rule. I would be perfectly happy if she just moved in with us and stayed forever.
My UO is that too many parents assign their kids'good attributes to their parenting and don't see that it's just temperament and luck of the draw. How your kid sleeps, how picky of an eater, how clingy, etc. I know so many smug moms who swear by their method when I bet one zillion dollars that's just the nature of their kid.
Haha this is so me, not really but I do like being pretend smug (mostly just around my family) about how awesome of a mom I am because my kid is so well behaved. This next one will surely be a little hellion, karma and all that.
I also have a well behaved first and some anxiety about not being as lucky next time. A relatively easy kid is hard enough as it is!
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