Of course we can't. Because if we had a better option we would never choose to stay home and waste our lives away. ::insert giant eye roll emoji here::
I do really want my Ph.D. MH and I had discussed a bunch of different options but it settled into either us both doing graduate work at the same time = no kids, or me taking the hit and having him finish med school/residency and then me doing my post graduate work after kids. Can't say I'm not happy about the way things have been turning out.
I get annoyed with that question too as a sahm! Or the, you must not have an education or are wasting your education. Grrrrrrr!
(I have a masters degree)
That makes me ragey!! I have a Pt job that's way below my degree level. I constantly get asked. "Why do you even work here?" "When are you going to get a real job?" "Wouldn't it be better for your daughter if you just stayed home?"
Forget what people say to me when I tell them I plan to go back for my PhD once I'm done having kids.
I also have a part time job way below my education level and I can say with 100% certainty it's better for my kid that I am away from him 3 days a week or I don't think I would like him anywhere near as much.
beebe918 , I'm glad you say that, because when it's time for me to go in to work, I make for the door like I'm being shot at.
eta: And I have to add. Having a job that requires 0% actual effort, is awesome for recharging away from my kid. If I went from something high stress, and then came right back home, I'd probably be miserable.
Re homebirths: not for me but I have a few friends who did it, and they had wonderful experiences. And cleanup wasn't really that much as a tub was brought in for them to give birth. But it is too scary for me. I had zero risk factors with DS and a picture perfect pregnancy until it all went to shit when labor started and I had to be hooked up to everything and had about 15 medical professionals in the room when I gave birth and then DS wasn't breathing when he came out. So no not something I could ever do, but I have a lot of respect for moms who do home births and have everything go well.
And re daycare, I think working moms are awesome. I also think SAHM are awesome. But as a stay at home mom, I'm so sick of getting asked when I'm going back to work, if I found a job yet (nope not looking), how bored I must be, if I'm having fun just chillin at home and mooching off my H. Just all the shaming for whatever you choose sucks.
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I get annoyed with that question too as a sahm! Or the, you must not have an education or are wasting your education. Grrrrrrr!
(I have a masters degree)
Exactly. I have a masters degree too. I very well can find a good job if I choose to do so at this time.
And re daycare, I think working moms are awesome. I also think SAHM are awesome. But as a stay at home mom, I'm so sick of getting asked when I'm going back to work, if I found a job yet (nope not looking), how bored I must be, if I'm having fun just chillin at home and mooching off my H. Just all the shaming for whatever you choose sucks.
Who are these people that think it's okay to ask things like this?
Every time I see H's uncles's girlfriend she asks if I found a job yet. She was a working mom and I think she expects everyone to do that. And a few single guy friends have asked if I plan to go back to work or if I'm happy hanging out. I was less offended by those comments and the mooching off my H bc they were just making dumb single guy no kids comments. But I do get from a lot of people that it's great I'm staying home but surely I'll get back to work soon. It's just annoying.
I also get people who applaud me for staying home. I think it is all about what is right for you, your children, and family.
My mom worked while I was growing up and I looked up to her for it, but I also look up to dhs mom for staying home with him. We both turned out ok. Haha
TRUTH. I do not want to paint with unwashable paint, people! And stop giving DD fucking shopkins! I can picture DD2 choking on them already... the worst part is all this crap comes from my SIL who has a 2.5 yr old and should know better.
Shopkins are such an enigma to me...what is the point??? At Christmas my little cousin was showing my a catalog with all the shopkins she wants, they're just like little tiny things that don't even go together. I'm like this is a hoarder in the making, cut this shit off right now.
I used to get this a lot as a waitress. Clearly I was uneducated because all I could do was waitress and run a trivia night.
I actually had a guy challenge me on my answer once and pull the "well I have a degree in biology and you are wrong" so I told him "well I have 3 degrees, 2 in biology, AND the answers so no, I'm not. " I'd've liked to add a fuck you into that but you know - customer service and all. Lol
Don't get me started on CIO, I have strong feels about it. We did CIO with DS when he was 7 months old and it was probably the hardest thing I did in my first year as a parent. But I hadn't slept in 7 months and doing it allowed me to sleep, which in turn made me a much better mother, wife and employee. It truly changed our lives up to that point. But it SUCKEDDDDDDDD.
That being said, one of the things I will NEVER judge another parent over is their choice on how they get their child to sleep. I have seen so many people struggle with it, and you truly have to do what is right for your family. Unless you complain about your child's sleep habits but never do one single thing to try to change them. I have seen people try everything and have it all fail. Those people, go ahead and bitch away, I will give you all the hugs and head pats you need.
Amen. I didn't want to do CIO, no one does. But after months and months of 4x + a night wake ups with my kid who was 8 or 9 months old, I was driving to work and caught myself falling asleep at the wheel, going 65 mph on the interstate. It was an absolutely terrifying moment that I will never forget.
Lack of sleep isn't just an inconvenience, it can kill you.
Ray, I feel ya! I'm a glorified waitress at a country club. I started there because I needed good quick money when MH was in med school and I was the breadwinner. Then I stayed because good easy money and they bend over backwards for the hours I want. Luckily the guys don't give me shit (or try to get me to quit and work for them) because they know me, but I hear it all the time from their wives and guests.
katelou, that's terrifying. Lack of sleep is insanely dangerous and it changes you as a person. I always said that maybe I could have handled DDs wake ups if she just nursed and fell back to sleep, or if she just wanted to snuggle in bed with me. But she was only happy if you were physically standing and walking around. You couldn't sit down because she would cry. I want to say she was 7 months when I said enough was enough.
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Omg say it isn't so?? Cheese is delicious! Have you ever had an amazing grilled cheese sandwich with tomato soup. Soo good!!
I think I did around the age of 3.....I ate cheese on EVERYTHING prior to 3, then I told my mom I was sick of cheese and haven't liked it since. I hate the texture, smell and taste. I was kind of hoping I would crave it and MAYBE start to like it again, but no cheese cravings here.
Omg say it isn't so?? Cheese is delicious! Have you ever had an amazing grilled cheese sandwich with tomato soup. Soo good!!
I think I did around the age of 3.....I ate cheese on EVERYTHING prior to 3, then I told my mom I was sick of cheese and haven't liked it since. I hate the texture, smell and taste. I was kind of hoping I would crave it and MAYBE start to like it again, but no cheese cravings here.
I didn't like cheese until college. No grilled cheese and I'd take it off sandwiches. It was too salty. Now I love it. The stinker the better.
I think I did around the age of 3.....I ate cheese on EVERYTHING prior to 3, then I told my mom I was sick of cheese and haven't liked it since. I hate the texture, smell and taste. I was kind of hoping I would crave it and MAYBE start to like it again, but no cheese cravings here.
I didn't like cheese until college. No grilled cheese and I'd take it off sandwiches. It was too salty. Now I love it. The stinker the better.
So I guess there is hope lol! I don't mind mozzarella cheese but only on pizza!
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