One More Day til Friday Spam

[dmorgendorffer]

Bringing back the SPAM!

[dmorgendorffer]

Team dinner tonight so DD will be in bed before I get home

But since she will be in bed and I'm sure DH will be cranky that he had to take care of her and the dogs alone I'm thinking I'm going to booze it up and have fun while I have the chance. Will probably look something like this:

[dreemkin]

I've never had spam... *shrugs*

Today I'm just trying to get stuff done before the party/guests arrive this weekend. It's crunch time!

[danitaec]

Hanging in my hotel room until lunch then going to the conference. This is my favorite job-related thing I do all year.

[lilyelayne]

Cleaning house, laundry, setting up the guest room for the weekend. Wrapping my friends' Christmas presents - gave me nearly an extra month and I still didn't get it done haha.

DS has been all.about.momma the last few days, so it's slowing me down, but I'm doing too much bending over to put him on my back comfortably. It's hard to resist when he brings me a book to read, or even better, a wrap to go up. So rare for Mr Independent.

[dreemkin]

How are you going to wean the paci? My first daughter never took to them so in this regard I'm like a ftm. We only keep them in DD2's crib so I'm wondering if, when it's okay to leave stuffed animals and blankets in there soon we should try to distract her with those...? Maybe those will provide the comfort. What's your game plan?

[cougarette]

I'm glad I'm wfh today since I woke up at 8.

I've had Christmas presents wrapped and ready since mid Dec but haven't had a chance to get together with bil and sil to exchange.

Speaking of, they are going to be moving in a couple of months to WV to be near her family. They broke the news to mil and she's all upset (understandably I guess). DH was saying that they'll want to come over more to see the grandbaby. I said that we need to keep our firm boundaries. It's not my fault that mil's only hobby is grandchildren. It's not fair to anyone. She has these high expectations of what it means to be a grandparent, but forgets that there are human beings involved. Ugh. I said I hope they move up to the mtns like they've wanted to do for years. Then they'll be about halfway between the two sets of kids.

[cougarette]

Jan 28, 2016 10:26:47 GMT -5 dreemkin said:

How are you going to wean the paci? My first daughter never took to them so in this regard I'm like a ftm. We only keep them in DD2's crib so I'm wondering if, when it's okay to leave stuffed animals and blankets in there soon we should try to distract her with those...? Maybe those will provide the comfort. What's your game plan?

I've wondered about this too. We're already trying not to use it as much while he's awake. I don't know about at night, though.

One of my girlfriends said that for the few months leading up to her son's birthday (2nd or 3rd, can't remember at the moment) she was telling him that he'll be a big boy soon and won't need his binky. She was saying they're for babies and whatnot. She said on his birthday he handed it to her saying to give it to a new baby and that he wouldn't need it since he's a big boy now. She did say that for a few nights he would ask for it back, but over a few weeks or so he stopped asking.

[mishka29]

I feel like LO has not been her usual happy self for such a long time that I barely remember what she was like. She so whinny and grumpy all the time now and it's getting a bit frustrating.

I feel like it's always some reason - teething, weaning, sickness or starting daycare. But now I'm just starting to wonder if some of these are just excuses. Excuses for what I'm not sure. Then I wonder if I'm just expecting too much. DD1 was fairly well adjusted to daycare at this point but I feel like LO is not. It's hard not to compare but they are different kids with different personalities. I guess I'm just hoping that LO's current behaviour doesn't reflect her true personality bc she's not going to be fun to be around for anyone lol.

Vent over

[lilyelayne]

Jan 28, 2016 10:26:47 GMT -5 dreemkin said:

How are you going to wean the paci? My first daughter never took to them so in this regard I'm like a ftm. We only keep them in DD2's crib so I'm wondering if, when it's okay to leave stuffed animals and blankets in there soon we should try to distract her with those...? Maybe those will provide the comfort. What's your game plan?

DS doesn't use a paci, but my cousin weaned her 2 year old from his recently. Her method was apparently recommended by his pedi, but it sounded strange to me. They cut off the tip of the nipple so it wasn't any fun to suck on, then after a day or two, cut the entire nipple off the plastic part. He realized it was "broken" and had a little sad cry and then was done.

Eta: I wouldn't do this with a non verbal baby to be sure. I'd be afraid my baby would chew off the partially cut nipple & choke. But I guess you could ask your pedi if the idea appeals to you.

[dmorgendorffer]

DD was never interested in the pacifier so we aren't dealing with this, but I do remember when my mom was transitioning my little brother off of it she made him keep it in his crib so he could only use it at night. I don't remember how she got him to stop using it at night though.

The Christmas present talk has reminded me that DH's birthday is next Wednesday and I have not gotten anything for him. I got him an iPad for Christmas so his b-day is going to be something cheap.

[aggiebug]

Jan 28, 2016 11:08:36 GMT -5 lilyelayne said:

Jan 28, 2016 10:26:47 GMT -5 dreemkin said:

How are you going to wean the paci? My first daughter never took to them so in this regard I'm like a ftm. We only keep them in DD2's crib so I'm wondering if, when it's okay to leave stuffed animals and blankets in there soon we should try to distract her with those...? Maybe those will provide the comfort. What's your game plan?

DS doesn't use a paci, but my cousin weaned her 2 year old from his recently. Her method was apparently recommended by his pedi, but it sounded strange to me. They cut off the tip of the nipple so it wasn't any fun to suck on, then after a day or two, cut the entire nipple off the plastic part. He realized it was "broken" and had a little sad cry and then was done.

Eta: I wouldn't do this with a non verbal baby to be sure. I'd be afraid my baby would chew off the partially cut nipple & choke. But I guess you could ask your pedi if the idea appeals to you.

yep this is the method is have heard most commonly and with mostly positive feedback. The one tweak I heard was to gradually cut more, so start with only just the tip and if they still use it after a few day take more. The thought process is they like the resistance that comes with sucking when there is a hole the resistance is gone along with the soothing aspect of a pacifier. I doubt they would be more likely to chew on it than they would be still intact, but I dunno.


I think encouraging another comfort in a stuffed animal or blanket is also a wise idea. It can't hurt that's for sure.

[dreemkin]

I've actually seen a set of pacifiers that gradually get smaller and you guys just made me remember it! Might have to get that if my plan doesn't work. Cutting them would definitely worry me at this age and I want to nip this now IYKWIM. Love hearing the stories! Keep em' coming!

[lilyelayne]

I used a paci at night until I was 3 or so. I remember my sister's orthodontist telling me I had to stop using it (edit: and me being like LOLNO.) I don't remember my parents doing anything other than asking if I was ready to be done. Mom did take a picture of me throwing them all away when I told her I was ready.

[cloe111479]

Quinn only takes her right when she goes to bed. Most of the time within 10-15 mins its out once she falls asleep.

My plan for the moment is to leave it be. But once they all disappear, which they tend to do, we just won't get anymore, and that will be the end of it.

She doesn't really look for it except to nap and/or go to bed. But even then, she doesn't have one all the time.

[lilyelayne]

With first birthdays happening all the time on our board, I'm getting extra snuggles any time I can.

[aggiebug]

Jan 28, 2016 11:31:17 GMT -5 dreemkin said:

I've actually seen a set of pacifiers that gradually get smaller and you guys just made me remember it! Might have to get that if my plan doesn't work. Cutting them would definitely worry me at this age and I want to nip this now IYKWIM. Love hearing the stories! Keep em' coming!

Why are you so worried about stopping it now?

[seamonster]

Moved DS into his own room last night and I went out to book club once he was asleep. Apparently he woke up a few minutes after I left and H said the noise he made when he realized I wasn't there was like the baby orca in Blackfish when it's separated from it's mom. H got him to sleep in his stroller and I transferred him when I got home. It was a long night. I don't think this bodes well for trying CIO for getting him to fall back asleep on his own.

Hopefully tonight is better.

H and I went on a weekday date to see Star Wars. Loved it.

[lilyelayne]

DS has decided that nearly all foods are called "Apple."

seamonster are y'all in a new location now? Sorry, I can't remember, but I thought LO was getting his own room after y'all moved.

[taberbtb]

dreemkin I am in no rush to wean from the paci. I figure we have bottle weaning and everything else to worry about that is the least of my concerns. DD also only gets them in the crib or the car seat if she's extra cranky, so NBD to me.

ETA: A friend of mine took her three year old to build a bear and they took the pacifier with them. Instead of giving the heart a kiss and putting it inside they did this with the paci and brought the bear home. I think this is a cute idea and would like to do this with DD but obviously not until she's old enough to understand.

[seamonster]

Jan 28, 2016 14:14:15 GMT -5 lilyelayne said:

DS has decided that nearly all foods are called "Apple."

seamonster are y'all in a new location now? Sorry, I can't remember, but I thought LO was getting his own room after y'all moved.

Ended up not moving. Rearranged things rather than keep him in our room another 6 months. I love sleeping with my baby in the same room, but my marriage doesn't.

So cute that everything is apple. My friend's baby is the same way. DS likes to shake his head and say no.

[kartish]

Back to work today, and is kicking my butt. I think I could go home and go right to bed, if there wasn't a husband and a baby there.

After his birthday I think we will move to binks in the crib only, but will have to talk with DH, cause he gives V a bink all day long. But I think he'll do ok, if we can keep them out of sight anyway.

[dmorgendorffer]

lilyelayne I'm with you on the extra snuggles.

I feel like DD is really testing the limits of her independence lately, which is awesome but also not. She's into everything but then is always turning back to see how we are reacting to whatever her latest shenanigans are. Then she keeps going back to the things that get her the biggest reactions - like the dogs' water bowl, or shaking the floor lamp in the living room since she discovered doing this makes the light move on the walls and ceiling, or trying to put all her toys in the firewood holder. DH says he was a troublemaker and she seems to have inherited that trait from him.

ETA: She's way more into making trouble than making snuggles these days. 

[dreemkin]

aggiebug, I guess I just don't want her to get too conscious of her night time dependency and it be even harder down the line then it would be to just do it now. I also know she won't be upset about bottle weaning at the same time. She is so over those already lol. And (possible UO) I can't stand seeing older babies/toddlers with them. Too me it's like, "really?! They don't need that". I'm in the it's bad for verbal and teeth development camp. I know there's conflicting views on this. Plus I was GOING to be the parent that didn't allow pacifiers at all (laughs back at my none children self).

Cute way to wean when they are older though (from my eye doctor). They planted the pacifier in the ground and during the night it grew into a tree. He said it was a bitch to plant a tree in the middle of the night but his son loved the pacifier tree so much he never cared about using them again.

[lilyelayne]

dmorgendorffer DS has started startling guiltily when I come in the room and he's doing something he's not supposed to (typically putting something in his mouth.) if he's just playing with one of his toys & I come in and say "whatcha doing?" no big deal, but otherwise it's a big jump.

[dreemkin]

lilyelayne DD2 has been climbing in my lap when we're on the ground playing and I cherish those moments!

[mishka29]

I can't believe LO is 1 today! My least favourite gift she got today was pinkeye!

[dmorgendorffer]

There is no booze at this dinner. WTF.

[dmorgendorffer]

mishka29 Happy Birthday to your LO!

[lilyelayne]

Happy birthday to your LO, mishka29!