Pregnancy Check-in: Feb. 1

[wittyandwaiting]

Happy Monday!

This is our weekly check-in for expectant families!

Congratulations to all who have recently received BFP's! Jump in when you're ready and let us know when you'd like to be added to the roster.

1. General overview (examples--answer what you like: How many weeks? First baby/, second, etc.? Do you know the sex of the baby?)

2. Appointment Updates (recent appts? ones coming up?)

3. General symptoms/rants/concerns/exciting things?

Due Date List
wittyandwaiting - March 28
crazyaunt84 - May 15
bexincanada - June 1
mahler5 - June 9
Stringy - June 9
@suesposa - August 8
kona - August 14
esquette - August 16

QOTW:

1. I don't have any grand QOTW ideas....what pregnancy related stuff has been top of mind for you lately?

[kona]

12 weeks 3 days #2

We have our first trimester screen on Friday (at almost 13 weeks). This is exactly what happened with O and she was too long already to do the screen properly. Regardless since it's the cheaper option we thought we would start there. We can always do further testing later. Our next midwife appt isn't until the end of Feb.

M seems to be over the evening sickness. She had another appt with the personal trainer on Saturday. We also joined the YMCA so she can go workout during the week with O. We told most of her family this weekend about the pregnancy. They seem excited. I realized I won't see my mom again until March since she just left for Florida. I'm not sure I want to tell my dad in person because of his wife. We will see how it all plays out.

QOTW: This weekend specifically I was extremely stressed about how small our house is and how we are going to fit another human (albeit tiny human) in our space. I don't think we will move before the baby is born but maybe the following spring. It still makes me very anxious.

[bexincanada]

I'm all over it this week, posting so soon!

22 weeks and 5 days with our first little one.

It's wild to see the due date list pared down and be so close to the top! The time is going by quite quickly.

The last midwife appointment a week and a half ago went well. I was measuring large, but had just had the ultrasound and everything looked good. Next appointment is in a couple of weeks, next step is the glucose test.

No real rants or exciting things, plugging along.

[crazyaunt84]

Um first of all - WHOA. wittyandwaiting how the heck did we just jump to 1st and 2nd on the list?! That is terrifying.

1. 25w1d with twin boys

2. OB appt on Thursday, as well as my 1 hour glucose. I'm feeling pretty confident about it, though I have no idea why. I've never taken one, so I have no idea how I'll actually do. But I'll take confidence for now! We're doing visits every 2 weeks now, and we'll switch to every week in about a month.

3. **Whiny Warning** Feel free to skip this! I. Am. Exhausted. I have had 1 good night sleep in the last week. The rest have been plagued with insomnia, back ache, and general discomfort. Last night I was positively exhausted when we went to bed. I got in a full 4 hours of uninterupted sleep before C started tossing and turning. First she threw all her covers on me, then she ripped all the covers off me, then she rolled over and whacked me in the face before I finally gave up and got up - at 1:30 in the morning. I attempted to sleep in the recliner with minimal success, and now C has been calling me 'grumpy pants' all morning. Well no shit, Sherlock. Aaand I have heartburn so bad you could toast a marshmellow. **Rant over**

We got the second crib assembled last night. Practice does make perfect - the first one took over 2 hours, the second took 37 minutes! It feels SO good to have the nursery coming together. The boys continue to be super active, which is the weirdest and most wonderful feeling.

QOTW: People have started asking if we've picked names. I've gotten some very negative reactions when I've shared. "Oliver must be an old family name - that's the ONLY reason I can think of that someone would do that to their child". "Oliver?? If you hated your kid so much, why did you go through so much to get pregnant?" It's really alarming, and I'm pretty sure I'm just not going to share anymore until they arrive.

And in unrelated news, C's best friend is causing some problems, and I'm not sure how to help. About a month and a half ago, she told C "listen, I know it's like 'my job' to throw you a baby shower, or at least help with one, but honestly I have zero interest so I'm bailing." Then right before Christmas she knew we had an anatomy scan scheduled and would be finding out the sex of the babies. She saw C two or three times that week and never asked what we found out. A week later, she said "Oh, totally forgot that was going on." This past weekend, she told C that she'd received our baby shower invite. She had a laundry list of excuses why that date was a bad date for her, and said she'd make an appearance, but it would be a huge sacrifice to do so. Then she said she'd gone through our registry and seriously questioned the items we had on it. Specifically, she thought the $79 baby gate (one which swings open and latches behind you) was ridiculous. C explained that it was for the top of the stairs, so that we weren't trying to step over a baby gate while holding babies. She also said that the baby carrier we'd picked was stupid (The Eddie Bauer 3-in-1 for $69.99), and we really should have done more research before adding over-priced garbage to our registry. I know there must be some underlying issue here, but I don't know how to help smooth it over. She's C's friend, and she's normally not like this at all. C is ready to tell her off and be done, because she's super hurt. I'm trying to encourage her to find out what's at the bottom of this. Le sigh.

And if you've made it this far into what is a dreadfully pessimistic post this week, I'd like to give you this cookie. Thanks for letting me vent!!

[bexincanada]

crazyaunt84, I love the name Oliver!! It's super-cute. We're not sharing names pre-birth either (but we're also not sharing the sex so we're weird like that.) I figure it's a lot harder for people to be jerks about it once the name has already been given. It's strange though how when you become pregnant all social decorum goes out the window and people feel entitled to cross boundaries all over the place.

Is C's friend having fertility issues? That's the only thing that jumped to mind when seeing all those interactions. Hopefully C feels comfortable talking to her about it. Hang in there!

[wittyandwaiting]

Whoa! I am at the top of the list and so are you crazyaunt84!

32 weeks pregnant today with a baby girl who is going to have an awesome 14 year old big brother!

No major appointments this week, I just need to see my doc tomorrow to pick up a prescription for a breasts pump. I'm back in for a real appointment next week.

Rants and raves. I'm tired. I can't sleep. My back hurts. My hip hurts. I can't eat all the things. I'm so thirsty. I puked this morning. I'm still so happy to be pregnant!!

QOTW: I'm just feeling unprepared, like there are a million things to do and all I want to do is take a nap! In reality I think we're pretty prepared.

[wittyandwaiting]

kona I just looked at C this weekend and said "homes are like hearts, if something belongs there you'll make room". I don't know where I got that from but she rolled her eyes at me. I am having some of the same feelings but I am going to see how it goes.

bexincanada Yay for a great looking ultrasound! I've been measuring ahead too; clearly we just make great baby homes.

crazyaunt84 Up top my friend.....here's my feels on that!

SPOILER: Click to show

Do you have an adjusted due date since you're having multiples? Also, I love, Love, LOVE Oliver so eff all the haters. Sorry to hear that C's friend isn't being much of a friend, that sucks.

[crazyaunt84]

Feb 1, 2016 18:00:28 GMT -5 bexincanada said:

crazyaunt84 , I love the name Oliver!! It's super-cute. We're not sharing names pre-birth either (but we're also not sharing the sex so we're weird like that.) I figure it's a lot harder for people to be jerks about it once the name has already been given. It's strange though how when you become pregnant all social decorum goes out the window and people feel entitled to cross boundaries all over the place.

Is C's friend having fertility issues? That's the only thing that jumped to mind when seeing all those interactions. Hopefully C feels comfortable talking to her about it. Hang in there!

Thank you I agree- people's filters seem to fail miserably.

C is quite a bit older than I am - she's 50, I'm 31. Her friend is also 50 and has 3 grown children and 2 grandkids. It's not a fertility issue, but I wonder if it's a judgemental issue that C is starting a family at 50. I also wonder if there is some regret that we're getting a fresh start and she's suffering some results of poor parenting. Her youngest (age 19) was arrested last year for felony robbery and her middle child, age 23, is having trouble holding a job and is making some poor relationship choices. 

I've encouraged C to talk to her and find out what is really bothering her, or at least let her know that her words have been hurtful since she seems to not realize the damage she's doing to their friendship. To be continued, I guess!

[crazyaunt84]

Feb 1, 2016 20:51:00 GMT -5 wittyandwaiting said:

Rants and raves. I'm tired. I can't sleep. My back hurts. My hip hurts. I can't eat all the things. I'm so thirsty. I puked this morning. I'm still so happy to be pregnant!!

 This x 1000.


I guess I do have an updated due date, in a weird sort of way. The doctor anticipates that the boys will probably come on their own sometime in April, though he said to be ready for anything after 30 weeks. However, in case they decide that my ute is the best thing going, they'll schedule a c-section for May 1st, which is 38 weeks. My brother's birthday is May 1st, and he is wildly excited that his nephews may be joining the world that day.