Working Mom Check-In 2/1
Feb 2, 2016 13:58:34 GMT -5
Post by billyhorrible on Feb 2, 2016 13:58:34 GMT -5
5. Any additional rants/raves/questions? I'm not sure where to put this rant, so I'm putting it here. I need some advise.
The sitter texted DH and I yesterday saying that she has been pureeing the food that we've been sending E for breakfast and lunches and either adding breast milk or oatmeal to thin/thicken it. She wants to play it safe so he doesn't choke while at her house.
This means that she's been doing this for a month and this whole time that I've been cutting food into pieces, she just pureed it for him. I honestly don't know if I'm mad about this; I'm still processing how I should react and what I want to say to her. Its just really caught me off guard. I'd really like for him to get practice with pieces of food, but am surprised that she took it upon herself to make the call to puree food without telling us or asking about it first. Am I making too much out of this? Was it wrong for me to just assume that he'd be eating the food the way that I sent it?
On the one hand, I definitely think they should have said something to you before pureeing the food you sent in. On the other, did you have any kind of discussion with them about the fact that you have been feeding him table food at home? Just from a quick survey on this board, not everyone is comfortable with that, so I definitely think it's a conversation that needs to happen.
And this kind of gets into beersandweirs questions. As far as sending food in to daycare. I never sent purees with either kid, because they don't need solids at this age, so if your kids only get milk at daycare, then it's not a big deal. However, before I sent in regular foods both times I had a discussion with the child care providers. I wanted to gauge their comfort level with my kid eating regular food, what their experience was with young babies and regular food, etc. With LBB, they had never done BLW or any real solids with infants. They only had experience with purees. And for them, I waited until LBB was 7 months old, and not gagging before sending things in. And even then, I kept it to simple things like melon slices, french toast sticks, etc. With BH, she was very familiar with the concept and she already was making food for the other kids in daycare since BH is the only infant. So as soon as he started eating with us at 6 months, he was eating at daycare.
Is this something to get mad over? I think that you're entitled to whatever reaction you feel. BH's daycare gave him a bottle of formula his first month there, and DH was livid. But I'm in the "no harm, no foul" frame of mind, so as long as the kid is happy and healthy I can't get too upset about it. I did talk to her about contacting me first, and I would suggest you have a similar conversation, but beyond that, it's really your call as to how upset you want to be.