Looking to vent/support

[nextchapter24]

I received information from my agency that we were recently shown to an EM ( she was shown over 35 profiles) and we made it to the top 3. We normally aren't told when we are shown so I think our agency told us this as in a wow- look how good your profile is type of situation but honestly when I found out I was DEVASTATED. I was so upset that we were so close and did not get picked. Any advise/ words of wisdom?

I'm trying to keep busy during the wait but times like this that are out of my control are really hard! TIA!

[pinkie]

It's so hard, there is no second place here. You either are picked or aren't. However I would try to see the positive that she liked your profile and that it's very likely other EMs will too. We were told we were in the final group for 2 or 3 situations and then were chosen for our older son. So while this can be frustrating I really would try to focus on the positives. Hang in there, waiting is so tough!!

[nextchapter24]

Thanks, Pinkie! I agree with everything you have said. In reality I know it's a good thing and I'm glad our profile is standing out but like you pointed out there's no second place and I just go right to - but we weren't picked ;(

[cst2cst]

My agency sent out monthly updates with which moms were shown our profile and the outcome. ( either fallen off the radar, not yet chosen a family, chosen a family but not yet matched, or matched with a family) it was hard to see how many times we weren't chosen but I liked seeing how many times we were shown. We always had the option to not get those emails. Maybe consider asking your agency to not tell you details for awhile. FWIW, we were never a runner up. And then we were a first choice. I know it is so hard to wait and hear that you are "close".