Post by wittyandwaiting on Feb 5, 2016 10:29:50 GMT -5
It's Friday and I am off work today! I am feeling thankful that my wonderful family let me sleep in today.
It's also getting pretty real that we are super close to meeting our baby girl, my plan for today is to sort through more baby stuff, get a massage and finish packing up our hospital bags.
Major win for the week is that my blood sugars have been under control!
Post by firstcomeslove2013 on Feb 5, 2016 10:35:16 GMT -5
I feel tired and nauseous. I guess that is par for the course at this point. I feel bad complaining but I am currently only 5w5d pregnant and already I'm ready for bed at 4 pm and by the time dinner comes around food sounds disgusting. We have a busy night tonight and a busy weekend ahead but it should be a lot of fun.
Tonight we are having our water tested (something C signed up for in exchange for a gift card...I'm not impressed) and then we ordered a whole pig to split between my sisters family and my parents and it's been processed and is being delivered tonight.
Tomorrow C is speaking on a panel about transgender people and birthing. H and I are coming to watch and it should be really interesting.
Sunday we are meeting my parents for lunch. Hope everyone has restful and fun things planned for this weekend!
I'm feeling guilty because I just dropped c off at daycare but don't actually have to go to work until 3. I want her to get in a schedule though. Plus, I think they do more educational activities in the morning before lunch.
I'm tired and still coughing some but overall feeling slightly better I think (fingers crossed).
I'm feeling anxious because I don't know what to do with myself until work. I think I'll just go home and watch TV, maybe take a nap, but then I feel guilty for being lazy!
And I feel ridiculous that this seems like a problem. I have the day off until 3. Woohoo!!!
firstcomeslove2013, I remember those days! For me, anything sour helped. I ate pickles for breakfast on more than one occasion. Also, sipping on hot water with fresh lemon and ginger helped a lot.
I hope everyone is setup to have a wonderful weekend!
Mila didn't eat on her usual schedule this morning which left me engorged and in turn I soaked through my shirt.
It's just Mila and I this evening while MW goes out with friends tonight. I am looking forward to being able to go to sleep with Mila when she goes down at 7:30 to make up for the last couple of nights where sleep hasn't been so great.
Tomorrow, we are heading out on a short road trip to see family. FX the convertible car seat continues working like a charm in keeping Mila from scream crying the entire drive.
Post by wittyandwaiting on Feb 5, 2016 11:29:45 GMT -5
firstcomeslove2013, complain away, first trimester is exhausting! It sounds like you have a pretty busy weekend coming up, make sure to take time for yourself and sneak in some time to rest, a 45 minute nap can go a long way! Also, I found that grapefruit really helps get rid of the nausea.
I met with a new primary this morning and she was great. You never know what you're going to get and I was super relieved when I said "my wife" and she didn't bat an eye. I've decided to try to wean off my AD meds, but she wants me to see a psychologist so it's successful. Dealing with IF and my terminal mom I know should be seeing one already, she gave me the push I needed to make some calls.
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I'm feeling all kinds of things today, mostly super happy/relieved that we have a happy healthy little baby girl at home who's doing great and being all kinds of sweet and adorable (as well as opinionated and strong already.) I'm also, however, having a hard time with not being around all day. Since there's no paid family leave that doesn't require a serious pay cut (no, I don't think the loan company will take 55% of our mortgage this month) I had to go back to work the day after baby M turned 1 week when my PTO ran out.
Overall, I like my work, but it's pretty all-consuming (or at least needs to be for me to do it well, I'm a litigation attorney on large cases), but this is rough!! Any state leave I take would have to be 2 weeks at a time, and that's just not practical, both financially and work-wise since we're going into a big trial soon. I'm tired (expectedly) as well, so it doesn't help. Most of the men I work with have kids, and I know they all pretty much worked right through without taking time off, so no one really thinks of it as a big deal, it's just the nature of the career.
CAR's mom has been staying with us, which has been a big help, and all's well at home, so that's great at least. I just hate already missing things. I knew this is how things would be set up going in, but it's hard in practice. The one week I did stay home was so nice, and I miss it.
Any other non-carrying parents have a similar experience? I'd take any and all advice/commiseration.
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I am just feeling unsettled. I can't pinpoint why. I feel like we need a big vacation to get away - but that isn't happening any time soon.
I have a 3 day weekend coming up....but L's parents are in town so I won't really get much alone time...which I need.
We have a rather busy weekend. I need to clean the carpets (will the darn cat stop throwing up!?!), clean my car, set up the guest room, do laundry, and clean the grill before the ILs come tomorrow at noon. L is going to the grocery store to get stuff for our family Super Bowl party.
Sunday we have a field trip with the kids' Sunday School class, lunch with the ILs, G's swim team practice, and the Super Bowl gathering at our house.
Post by kekaellypula on Feb 5, 2016 15:54:25 GMT -5
I feel like Friday got here pretty fast. I've been tired all day. I woke up 20 mins before my dr appt and have been half asleep since then. I don't drink coffee or tea so no powerups. One of the subs is letting me borrow a solder gun this weekend so I can fix the pull out chair. I'm going to try and talk the wife into letting me sell it. It was our first furniture purchase together but the damn thing is large and awkward. We are going to talk tonight, uninterrupted, and get some things figured out for our upcoming move. I can't wait to go home tonight to see what my B/W and U/S results are. I want fluffy follicles!
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Post by wittyandwaiting on Feb 5, 2016 18:17:03 GMT -5
This is more of a random but I feel I need to tell somebody:
C and I are spending our Friday night driving around town buying up deodorant because she just found out that the one that she likes and has used for years is discontinued.
This is more of a random but I feel I need to tell somebody:
C and I are spending our Friday night driving around town buying up deodorant because she just found out that the one that she likes and has used for years is discontinued.
This is TOTALLY something C and I would do. Instead we are spending the evening getting our water tested and hauling pork to our basement...I'd rather be buying deodorant...
This is more of a random but I feel I need to tell somebody:
C and I are spending our Friday night driving around town buying up deodorant because she just found out that the one that she likes and has used for years is discontinued.
This is TOTALLY something C and I would do. Instead we are spending the evening getting our water tested and hauling pork to our basement...I'd rather be buying deodorant...
I find everything about this hysterical. Thank you for the actual LOL!
I am feeling shocked. Today at Lucie's pedi appointment, she weighed in at 9lb 1oz. She gained 10oz in 7 days! The pedi said she looked awesome, and that I can stop supplementing with formula during the day and just nurse, and for how we can continue to offer a little formula at night to make sure she is still still getting enough. But basically my supply is enough to sustain her 75-80% of the time. I really didn't think that would be the case. We had a really good day BFing today too. I am just taking it one day at a time with BFing. I think a good amount of our success so far is due to the fact that I'm not pumping at all right now. I HATE pumping, and I think exclusively pumping from day 1 when William was in the NICU was a big part of my BF failure last time.
I am also feeling exhausted. Does BFing drain energy? Because I feel like it is making me a lot more tired, but maybe that isn't why...
Also, William had a pretty good day today. So I feel grateful for that. He gave Lu a kiss on the head tonight!
cetcar-- I'm sorry you are having a hard time. I was the carrying parent with C and stayed at home initially so I can't offer any direct advice from my experience. I know I am so grateful that L has a really good job so I can stay at home or work part time and not worry about it. L and C were not as close initially, but they are very close now and have been at least since she was 6 months. So, if you don't feel as much bonding, give it time. I think it's hard when they are so young and you aren't the one breastfeeding. I know L was jealous of this.
I'm actually an attorney but don't practice anymore. My mother worked as an attorney on large litigation cases when I was growing up. She went to law school when I was 9 and was pretty busy the rest of my childhood. But I always felt I had quality time with her and was really proud of her. I think being present and involved when you are there is what's really important. I'm sure you will find a balance. Like I said , I haven't personally had to do it. And luckily L usually doesn't work more than 50 hours a week. It's a difficult profession but sounds like you are very successful at it and providing well for your family. Sometimes I get jealous that L's professional life has more going for it now than mine, but I am usually very grateful that I get to be the one home more now. I think it's hard on either side of it though. You are going to miss out on something either way. I don't think there is any perfect balance. Anyway, not sure how helpful that is but I hope you get the time you deserve with her and find a balance as best you can.
kh826-- I think the oxytocin that is release from breastfeeding makes you sleepy. I remember getting sleepy after feedings and taking catnaps with C. Although I am sure that is more difficult with William around!
This is more of a random but I feel I need to tell somebody:
C and I are spending our Friday night driving around town buying up deodorant because she just found out that the one that she likes and has used for years is discontinued.
I love everything about this! My feelings on this Friday: Animals are better than people.
I'm at work today so I actually have time to catch up.
firstcomeslove2013, I LOVE that you're feeling tired and nauseous! Forgive me for saying this but this makes me so happy for you both.
mahler5, Day care mom guilt is annoying! My wife and I are having a day date on Feb 16 and sending both kids to day care for the day. I'm so excited!
cetcar, I was the non-carrying mom for R. I was able to take 1 month off from work. I remember having moments of feeling jealous that my wife got to spend so much time with R and the bond they had. It was actually in those early days that I made the decision that I wanted to carry our second. Those newborn days are so hard as you all figure out your new role as mothers and what place you have in the baby's life. I will say that I think the expectation for fathers is very different than that of mothers. You are a mother and you have all those mother feelings, so it's not fair to compare yourself to the men you work with.
kh826, YAY for not needing to supplement anymore. How's bf going? I'm going to guess the reason why you're tired is because you have a newborn and a toddler, but that's just a guess
mahler5, I always thought you were a nurse. Are you both?
kh826, YAY for not needing to supplement anymore. How's bf going? I'm going to guess the reason why you're tired is because you have a newborn and a toddler, but that's just a guess
mahler5, I always thought you were a nurse. Are you both?
I'm both. I am working as a nurse right now very part-time. I've worked in risk management at a hospital, which is a good combo of the two. I may go back to that. Working very part- time now is nice though. And patient care is usually a little less depressing ( although there are good and bad about both!)
kh826 , YAY for not needing to supplement anymore. How's bf going? I'm going to guess the reason why you're tired is because you have a newborn and a toddler, but that's just a guess
mahler5 , I always thought you were a nurse. Are you both?
BFing is a roller coaster ride. Some days my supply seems adequate, and she seems satisfied by it. Other times, she latches, sucks for 5 mins, then fusses and thrashes her head. She will keep relatching and suck a few times, but then she gets frustrated. When that happens I try the other side, and if it keeps happening on one or more side(s) I will try to hand express and often find that there is nothing there. So it seems that some times I have enough for her and other times the well is dry. This often happens when she wants to cluster feed. Then again the other night I got up for her 2am feed and milk was literally dripping from my boobs. I don't get it. Anyway, we are still supplementing with formula when needed. Some days she only needs 2 ounces of formula, other days she needs more. I am OK with it, since I know she is getting everything from my body that I can currently give her. We are both trying. Not sure how long it will last, but for now we are doing OK with it. Because of my experiences with William (and the fact that he ended up being exclusively formula fed after about 3 weeks) I feel like what we have going right now for Lucie is much improved and no matter how it works out she is getting the best that I can give her at the moment. I know a lot of people have a lot of strong feelings about BFing and about formula. We are just taking it a day at a time. Anyone who might read this and be tempted to chime in about how we should be trying harder or trying other things or not offering formula... trust me, I have a long complicated history with nursing and I have met with many lactation consultants. I am comfy with our current situation, and I know that Lu is thriving and that is what is most important. Just thought I would head that off at the pass for anyone who might not be familiar with me and my BF struggles from last time around.
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