The Conceiving After a Loss board is a great resource, and the TTCAL (Trying to Conceive After a Loss) and WTDS (Waiting to Do Something) threads are great as well. Lurk around for a bit and find the place(s) you feel comfortable.
I'm very sorry for your loss, but glad you found this great resource.
I think I'm trying to avoid getting pregnant for right now, But at the same time I want a baby now. Conflicted.. Because I'm still very sad about my loss.
Where do I belong?
Can I ask this question here? Periods questions after MC? Pregnancy questions after MC? Feelings about trying again after MC?
I have things on my mind I do not know were is appropriate to ask.
Welcome. I am very sorry for your loss. You are definitely welcome here while you sort through your feelings.
We have a few specific weekly check-in threads that you might find particularly helpful, such as the Waiting To Do Something thread that is posted on Mondays, or the TTCAL thread that I believe happens on Tuesdays (someone correct me if I'm wrong). Lots of ladies on this board can (unfortunately) relate to what you're going through and have awesome advice and insight, so feel free to ask your questions. You will find a lot of support here; be sure to give it in return too!
Post by samanthasays on Feb 8, 2016 17:26:11 GMT -5
I am so sorry for your loss. I too am not trying anymore, and I still go here, so welcome I hung out on the Conceiving After a Loss board right after my 2nd loss, this board is more active though, which I like. There are fun daily threads you can participate in, the WTO (waiting to ovulate) and TWW (Two week wait) threads are really good places to get started.
Not everyone here has experienced a pregnancy or miscarriage, so the Carrying a Rainbow thread might be a good place for pregnancy questions after MC. Conceiving After a Loss would be where I would go with period questions after a MC and trying again after MC.
July 2013 started TTC 7/20/2014=BFP; CP confirmed 8/1/2014 Dec 2014: Diagnosis = Unexplained IF 12/24/2014 Medicated TI (clomid)=BFN 1/22/2015: IUI #1 cancelled due to cyst 02/17/2015: IUI #2 cancelled due to another cyst 3/31/2015: IUI with Femera, 1 good follie, great sperm count = CP, my December Rainbow became an Angel
Post by kayladawn91 on Feb 8, 2016 18:08:01 GMT -5
Welcome. I am so sorry for your loss. The ladies here who have experienced loss have different experiences. We all have our own struggles dealing with our losses and therefore are all in different places emotionally.
If you feel like this board is a good place for you, please feel free to lurk, read the newbie blog, and jump in when you feel comfortable.
In answer to your questions, and again remember that each person has their own personal circumstances involving their loss: My period took 8 weeks to return after my loss. We started trying after my first post-loss period. Emotionally, I'm still all over the place even over a year after my loss. I'm not sure I'll ever feel the same as I did before about TTC, but we want a baby so we're still trying.
Post by ohinvrtedworld on Feb 8, 2016 18:08:06 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your loss. I just wanted to echo that you are welcome here no matter where you are emotionally or physically in TTC -- many of us are in different stages, whether by choice or not. The other ladies above gave great advice.
Post by peaseblossom55 on Feb 8, 2016 18:15:16 GMT -5
Hi I am so sorry for your loss. I've found such comfort after my losses on several board here, including this one the CAL board. I did not get a period after my first loss but I do not have a regular cycle. I just went back on femara, the second loss I got a period a few days later since it was a chemical. I knew H & I wanted to try right away because of our ages and despite how much our loss(es) were devastating to us the desire to grow our family far outweighed that sadness.
There is also a weekly post on this board posted Tuesdays for those TTCAL.
Welcome. I'm sorry for your loss. The others here have given you great advice about some other sections of the boards that might have more specific advice and support for your situation. But, GKU is a great place to hang out in general and get to know lots of great ladies while you sort out what you want to do. Lots of us play on a few different boards. Good luck!
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
Saw RE 1/11/17 HSG x 2 - 2nd revealed both tubes open and arcuate uterus Cycle #1-2 Femara 5mg + TI = Cancelled - poor response Cycle #3 - Femara 7.5mg and Dex 0.5mg - another poor response - waiting to see when I O
Post by TheEleventhHour on Feb 8, 2016 19:38:48 GMT -5
I am so sorry for your loss. You are certainly welcome here! There are a lot of us over on the Waiting To Do Something thread that a currently TTA so jump in there whenever you want
Not everyone here has experienced a pregnancy or miscarriage
While true, we have a large loss population on this board, so it's perfectly fine to ask loss questions here, too. ;)
OP, post wherever you feel most comfortable. I'm so sorry for your loss. My feelings on trying again are somewhere between terrified and crazy excited, so it's perfectly normal to feel however way you do. I'll never be as excited as I was, but I'm hoping that someday I'll be able to be excited still. <3
Post by requiressnacks on Feb 8, 2016 21:52:08 GMT -5
Welcome @samrs22 and I am so sorry for your loss. Of course you are welcome here! I just had a loss in December and I found it so helpful to participate in the Tuesday "trying to conceive after loss" (TTCAL) check-in. It's for ladies at all stages of their process - whether you aren't actively trying or when you are. Join us!
I took cytotec the first week of December after doc couldn't detect a HB at my 8w4d ultrasound. (I could go on and on about how devastated we were, but I'll stick with your questions). I bled for 8 days from the cytotec and then got my first real period about 25 days later. My FF chart is in my siggy so you can check it out. I also had an SHG once I got my period to make sure I passed all the tissue. This is my first cycle that I've been cleared to really TRY to conceive.
@samrs22 - I just want to echo PP and say post where you feel comfortable.
I strongly encourage you to read the newbie blogs on the different boards to get a better sense of what each board is like. And don't feel like you have to pick just one board to post on. There are many people who regularly participate on multiple boards.
I want to thank everyone for your support. I completely panicked and went to the Internet. Anywhere else I would have gotten completely ripped apart. You are all very classy wonderful people. Thank you all. Update, I am not pregnant, although I knew it was unlikely had to check to calm the f down.
I hope you'll stick around and get to know us here! This board really is an amazing resource and source of support and much-needed laughter during all stages of this crazy and stressful TTC (including TTCAL) process.
I want to thank everyone for your support. I completely panicked and went to the Internet. Anywhere else I would have gotten completely ripped apart. You are all very classy wonderful people. Thank you all. Update, I am not pregnant, although I knew it was unlikely had to check to calm the f down.
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