WWYD re: friends

[katespade]

We havent seen friends of ours in almost 2 years, and they werent able to make it to my shower 2 weeks ago.  We planned for them to come tomorrow afternoon with their 5 year old.

My friend emailed that she and her daughter have colds.  No fever, just sniffly colds, and offered to postpone the visit.

I am 34 weeks today.  Part of me says OMG yes, postpone, I dont want to get sick.  But the other part of me feels bad being like "ew, keep your germs away!" since we havent seen them in so long.

WWYD?

[adorebel]

Ack. We had to deal with this at our Christmas party.

It was actually relatively easy because I knew they were sick, so I just stayed 3 feet from my friend and her daughter and resisted the urge to pick her up and kiss her as usual! Then I had MH wipe down all our tables and stuff where the baby had been playing after the party.

Fast forward 2 months - they were in town again and didn't tell us the baby had had a cold AND the stomach flu in the last week. I was cuddling the baby, etc. and that is how I ended up in the hospital with the stomach flu after my shower and THEN got a head cold right after.

Tl;dr go, but keep your distance OR skip it. Being sick while pregnant with no meds sucks. Luckily your friend warned you, which means she's going to be cool about it either way.

[katespade]

If it helps at all, they would be coming to our house, so at least we wouldnt be going to a germy space.

[nexttonormal]

For me, in my current situation,I'd reschedule. But I'm 37 weeks and have 2 little kids, so it's more that I wouldn't want my KIDS to get sick, not so much me.
I have a friend who I haven't seen since November because someone (her, myself, our kids) has been sick each time we've tried to plan something. It's frustrating, but being pregnant and uncomfortable while also dealing with a cold is even more frustrating IMO.

[peachesncream]

Kids have colds all the time, I wouldn't postpone. We also are lucky enough to rarely (if ever) catch what DD has.

[zombiesquad]

I probably wouldn't postpone over a cold. Now, fever, vomiting or diarhea ... stay away from me and my house. I'm currently fighting a little cold and it sucks but it could be worse. DD has had a snotty nose for weeks. I think we just pass it back and forth so it's hard to avoid it. Just keep plenty of soap, hand sanitizer and disenfectant wipes around the house.

[katespade]

Secretly, I feel like postponing just because I am mega lazy and dont want to do all of the cleaning I have on my list for tonight.

[rachelilly23]

Feb 12, 2016 9:46:48 GMT -5 katespade said:

If it helps at all, they would be coming to our house, so at least we wouldnt be going to a germy space.

But then they would be bringing the germs to your house.

I would say postpone.

[iwubrory]

I wouldn't postpone at 34 weeks. When I was teaching in a regular classroom setting the kiddos always had something when I was in third trimester because cold season both times . I rarely got sick from them by being diligent about washing hands and cleaning high traffic surfaces.

If you were much closer to your due date then I wouldn't but I think you'd be fine now even if you did get the cold.

ETA Recruit your husband to clean the high traffic areas.

[LadyNymeria]

Typically no, I wouldn't postpone over colds. Anything more severe definitely, but typically I'm not all that worried about colds.

However, seeing as how I'm currently dealing with a cold while pregnant and there's basically nothing I can do to make myself feel better I vote postpone.

[chatterbox]

I would postpone. But I currently have a cold I caught from DD and have been miserable all week (I'm 35 weeks today) so that may be clouding my judgment!

[jewel441]

I also have a cold right now and it's so awful. I would maybe postpone but also think it's fine not to.

[daydreamsam]

Most colds are only contagious for the first 2 or 3 days. If they've had the cold longer than 3 days by the time they arrive, I wouldn't worry about it.

My mom got sick while she was here for my shower and I just took some emergen-c and ate a spoonful of raw honey three times a day and never caught it.

[katieinthecity]

I have a 2yo in daycare so sniffly colds don't phase me in the least. I'd keep our plans.

[awkwardturtle]

Feb 12, 2016 9:59:08 GMT -5 zombiesquad said:

I probably wouldn't postpone over a cold. Now, fever, vomiting or diarhea ... stay away from me and my house. I'm currently fighting a little cold and it sucks but it could be worse. DD has had a snotty nose for weeks. I think we just pass it back and forth so it's hard to avoid it. Just keep plenty of soap, hand sanitizer and disenfectant wipes around the house.

+1 to this. If I had already had the baby, I would definitely postpone, but not now unless they were vomiting, etc.

[cinnamonsmiles]

Definitely team GTG. Kids get colds all the time and it'll be even less likely that you'd want to get together post-baby if there was any chance of sickness. But I'm also crazy social and wouldn't turn down the opportunity before being stuck at home with baby for weeks.

FWIW, two friends and I met together today and found out that all three of our kids have colds - and from the sound of it, the same one, even though they haven't been around each other much.

[isolemnlyswear]

I'd see them. Like said above most colds are only contagious for the first 3 days. Just do a good wipe down after they leave and you should be good

[katespade]

So it turns out my friend has bronchitis, so she didn't come over today. Next weekend!