PGAL/PAIF Check-In 2/16

[LadyNymeria]

We all know that PgAL and PAIF is not an easy road to travel. This check-in is a place to get it all out, share in worries and excitement, and support one another. Jump in as you like!

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How far along are you?

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)?

Any Rants/Raves/Questions you'd like to share/ask?

Any upcoming milestones or appointments?

QOTW: Because we're about a month out from my favorite Holiday...what's your favorite Holiday?

[LadyNymeria]

How far along are you? 10w4d

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)? Physically - pretty good except tired a lot. Some new nausea kicking in if I don't eat quickly enough. Emotionally - great! See R/R/Q below.

Any Rants/Raves/Questions you'd like to share/ask? I mentioned this in the Weekly Check-in already, but I pulled out the doppler quick before bed last night and found the HB almost immediately! I'm not going to let myself use it TOO often, but it's so nice to be able to hear the HB on our own once in a while just to check-in.

Any upcoming milestones or appointments? NT scan and OB physical on 2/25 - very excited to see baby again!! Then we'll be telling our parents and siblings that weekend which I consider to be a milestone - we're so excited to tell them!

QOTW: What's your favorite Holiday? St. Patrick's Day!!! No beers for me this year but it's still my favorite day of the year! The corned beef sandwiches, the music and dancing, all of it!

[flojo973]

How far along are you? 11 weeks

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)? Exhausted. But that could be because DD has been a terror lately and will not ever sleep. Also nauseous but that seems to be waning. Emotionally I was going okay but our NT scan is next Tuesday so I'm starting to get anxious and bad thoughts are creeping into my head.

Any Rants/Raves/Questions you'd like to share/ask? LadyNymeria , what brad of doppler did you get? I've been back and forth with whether or not to get one.

Any upcoming milestones or appointments? NT scan, cell free DNA testing and genetic counseling next Tuesday, 2/23. Eek! Regular OB appointment next Wednesday, 2/24.

QOTW: What's your favorite Holiday? Christmas! I just love the whole season. The decorations, the food, getting together with family. And now with DD its so much more special.

[LadyNymeria]

flojo973 - I got a Sonoline B which seems to be one of the preferred options out there. I was going to try to keep myself from getting one, but after hearing theophania talk about how she was able to hear the HB at home on hers I lost my resolve and bought one. I am going to try to limit myself to once or twice a week. Just enough to check-in, but not over do it.

I like the Sonoline B. It was really easy to get set-up and get started. It also has a screen and shows the heart rate. I bought it off Amazon from the seller Contech.

[frenchteachermama]

LadyNymeria, my Sonoline B is on it's way and I hope it will help ease my fears too!! I can't wait! St. Patty's day is one of my favorites too! Are we allowed to eat corned beef? DH is a GI doctor and is really annoying about me not eating certain things...I might have to do a fish fry YUM!

How far along are you?
9W3D

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)?
Physically I'm extremely tired, all.of.the.time. I also get nauseous if I don't eat constantly...I've never been worried about pregnancy weight gain but I am this time!! Emotionally I'm still a bit of a wreck. Even though we had a great appointment last Monday, I don't have another appointment with my OB until 2/29.

Any Rants/Raves/Questions you'd like to share/ask?
Last week on the ultrasound at the RE's office baby was measuring a few days ahead and we could see it's little arm and leg buds waiving around!

Any upcoming milestones or appointments?
I'm going to verify genetic testing on 2/22 and then see my OB on 2/29.

QOTW: Because we're about a month out from my favorite Holiday...what's your favorite Holiday?
I also love St. Patty's day, we usually go to this amazing Irish pub with the most delicious food. It's pretty kid friendly and we dress all of the children in matching Irish garb. I also LOVE Easter and Passover (we celebrate both Jewish and Catholic holidays in our family).

[LadyNymeria]

frenchteachermama - No one will be able to pry my corned beef sandwich out of my hands on St Paddy's Day! I can't think of any reason not to eat corned beef as long as it's cooked completely!

[frenchteachermama]

LadyNymeria, I'm going for it too then

[LadyNymeria]

Ugh I'm sorry you're still so sick theophania. I really hope you get some relief soon!

[karabear4409]

How far along are you? 7w6d

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)? Physically - ok. Diclegis has been working wonders for me! Emotionally- today is the first day that I have felt excited about this pregnancy. It's finally starting to sink in that this may actually work out.

Any Rants/Raves/Questions you'd like to share/ask?

Any upcoming milestones or appointments? Today was my loss milestone and my weekly check with the RE. It was a really good appointment! (Updated in the appointment thread).

QOTW: Because we're about a month out from my favorite Holiday...what's your favorite Holiday? It's very cliche, but Christmas. I love having my house decorated and buying gifts. I love it even more now that I have a child to watch enjoy it.

[LadyNymeria]

Question for the PAIF ladies...RE: thoughts on telling my coworker friend I'm pregnant?

She and I are very open about everything we've each been through - her IF journey and my loss. I assumed that when I got pregnant again I'd tell her pretty quickly since I've talked to her about everything else, but I almost panicked at the thought of telling too many people too early.

Now that my NT scan is next Thursday and I'll be 12 weeks at the end of next week, I'm starting to think about when/how to tell people and obviously I want to take my friend's struggles into consideration when I tell her.

Whenever I do tell her (in the next couple weeks I assume), I have been planning on texting her on a Friday night or Saturday so she has a couple days before we see each other in person again. I'm using how I felt about announcements after my loss as grounds for how I plan to tell her, but I wanted to get input from those who have been through IF to see if there's something I'm not thinking about. Thanks in advance!

[mrsjene]

Feb 16, 2016 17:37:06 GMT -5 LadyNymeria said:

Question for the PAIF ladies...RE: thoughts on telling my coworker friend I'm pregnant?

She and I are very open about everything we've each been through - her IF journey and my loss. I assumed that when I got pregnant again I'd tell her pretty quickly since I've talked to her about everything else, but I almost panicked at the thought of telling too many people too early.

Now that my NT scan is next Thursday and I'll be 12 weeks at the end of next week, I'm starting to think about when/how to tell people and obviously I want to take my friend's struggles into consideration when I tell her.

Whenever I do tell her (in the next couple weeks I assume), I have been planning on texting her on a Friday night or Saturday so she has a couple days before we see each other in person again. I'm using how I felt about announcements after my loss as grounds for how I plan to tell her, but I wanted to get input from those who have been through IF to see if there's something I'm not thinking about. Thanks in advance!

Sorry to quote the whole thing. I'm mobile and on a plane. Anyway, I know when one of my closest friends got pregnant again, she texted me. I had multiple feelings about this:

1. I was glad it wasn't face to face because I was sad for myself, but happy for her. I didn't want her to confuse my tears as resentment toward her.

2. She was SO nervous about telling me because she was one of the few friends who knew I was going through IVF. I ended up feeling awful that she felt so scared to tell me because we've always been so open with each other, but I appreciated the fact that she wanted me to be one of the first to know before it got out.

3. I forget what 3 was....

Anyway, just my two cents.

[cassey910]

How far along are you? 11w2d
How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)? Physically a little better still very tired. I'm still nauseous but it has lightened up some. Emotionally I'm doing better especially after hearing the heartbeat at our appointment on Friday.
Any Rants/Raves/ Questions you'd like to share/ask? I'm also thinking about jumping on the Doppler band wagon. I think I would feel so much better getting to hear the heartbeat more than once a month.
Any upcoming milestones or appointments. Just reaching the 2nd trimester in a little over a week and a half.
QOTW: Christmas! I love getting to spend so much time with my family and giving!

[LadyNymeria]

Thank you mrsjene. I'm not going to let her know I was hesitant when to tell her because she told me her SIL said that and it just made her feel bad. Which I'm glad she told me about so I don't make the same mistake.

[karabear4409]

LadyNymeria I may be the odd one out here, but I always preferred when people told me in person privately. A text message seems too distant and cold for such personal news from a good friend. I would tell her privately, but expect a mixed reaction. Then give her a little space and time to process.

I always appreciated it when friends told me that it was difficult to tell me and that they would understand if I was upset. I always appreciated the thought and sentiment towards that.

[LadyNymeria]

Thank you karabear4409. I'll definitely spend some time thinking about whether in person or via text would be better for her specifically.

[frenchteachermama]

LadyNymeria, I am definitely in the private text camp. I had so many people handle telling me in such terrible ways because they "didn't know how to approach it". I think that a really nice text message is how I would have wanted to hear first.

[LadyNymeria]

Thank you frenchteachermama and theophania.