We're not much into the nevers. We just try to be the best parents we can be for the kid we have. I try to serve healthy meals, but right now she has a lot of opinions about what she'd like to eat, so for breakfast, lunch at home, and snacks there are options. She snacks a lot, which some would frown upon, but she seems to have a high metabolism and asks for things often. She won't have her own tablet anytime soon, but she does steal my phone for music or an abc app, and occasionally watches something on one of our tablets. I wanted no screen time, but that went out quickly with pregnancy and non stop illnesses. Now it's a bit of a battle and she wants Elmo all day everyday but we're trying hard to limit. Some times I have the energy to say no and incur her wrath, other times I don't.
My grandmother just called and asked "how much weight have you gained so far?" When I told her she went "10lbs already!!! You still have so long to go! Well.. You can always take it off after..."
Thanks grandma lol I was thinking I was doing well lol
Ray haha yikes, I feel like the elderly have no shame when it comes to certain things! They just say what they're thinking, feelings be damned. As long as your doctor isn't concerned with your weight you have no reason to be, everyone gains it differently
As for "nevers", the only thing we have said we will never do is co-sleep/bedshare. Baby will sleep in a pack n play next to our bed for the first few weeks to help us get through MOTN feedings, but after that he/she will be moved to their nursery. I know several people who made the mistake of keeping baby in the bed for too long, and now years later the kid/s still sleep with them. That's just not my style.
I think it's silly to say "I'll never [do anything]". Up until a few years ago I was adamant that I would never have kids! Lol
That being said, I'd like to really try to limit screen time for my kids. SS2 is addicted to screens, plays age inappropriate games at his mother's, his eyes are terrible, etc and it really bothers me.
I am really looking forward to having a child I don't have to co-parent with someone outside our household lol
Some "I will nevers" are smart. They're how you want to parent or things that pertain to health and well-being. Others are more...holier than thou. I have a few I kept and a few I broke but the ones I broke were all things I realized worked better for my kid, like cosleeping. I was against it but as I fell asleep holding her, I started doing research on the safest ways and decided it would work best for us and I've never regretted it. I was all "healthy foods only!!" I stick to organic dairy and natural meats almost always but my kid know her fruit snacks and her chips as well. So, Balance?
Post by sarcaztic10 on Feb 17, 2016 13:49:01 GMT -5
I had a lot of "I will never's" with DS but most of them got broken. I was totally against co-sleeping and said I would never do it. That all went out the window when DS started crying non stop for the first 9 months of his life. I think I made it to 1 month with out bedsharing and then I caved and read up on co-sleeping safety. We switched to safe co-sleeping and did that up until DS was about 10 months and it got uncomfortable for both of us to sleep in the same bed. We moved him to a crib after that and didn't have too many problems. With this LO I would rather not co-sleep but I will if I feel like it will save us some sleep.
I was also one of those that said that there would be no TV and only healthy foods. Well it turned out DS was alergic to so many things prior to him turning 2 that we had a very hard time introducing any new foods and now he is a very picky eater. He loves fruit but has a hard time with protein and veggies.
As for the screen time we got pretty lax on that when he turned about 3 or 4 and let him watch TV after school. He plays age appropriate video games now as well (Mario and others like it). I don't sweat it too much if he spends all day Saturday playing video games or watching movies because he is at school (and after school care) for the majority of the week from 6:30 am to 5 pm where there is no TV at all. He and I both deserve downtime on the weekends and after his homework is done during the week.
Post by littlesthobo on Feb 17, 2016 13:58:52 GMT -5
I also lurked that "I never" thread and got a chuckle out of a lot of them! I totally admit to watching a lot of TV when DS was tiny because, well, tummy time and play mat time isn't exactly riveting. To each their own. And I used to brag when DS was 11 months about how good an eater he was and he "eats anything!". Ha. Now he's a picky toddler.
Ray my mom told me the other day that my face "looks extra round"... thanks, mom!
Post by sarcaztic10 on Feb 17, 2016 14:53:58 GMT -5
I am still trying to hide my bump at work and it is getting increasingly difficult to hide it. I am hoping to hide it from the general public until after the A/S.
My current department (only 2 weeks left) hates allowing me time off and actually canceled the PTO time I had scheduled today for my OB appt. I managed to argue my way and got the time approved again but I am so ready to leave this department. I really hope my new Dept is not like this...
Hey ladies! I have been MIA because my mom got REALLY sick last week (well almost two weeks ago)- she had a very bad form of meningitis and is actually still in the hospital. She should be transferred from the hospital to an inpatient rehab for 3-4 weeks by the end of this week and was transferred out of ICU yesterday, so she is moving in the right direction. I just wish she was closer, she is about 2 hours away and my dad is taking her to a rehab facility there instead of here... that's a whole other load of drama. But anywho, I'm back to play!
I'm going to lurk that thread on the nevers, I need a good laugh this afternoon. I said never to the kid leash things and so far so good, but I get that they can be a good thing when your kid is a flight risk. I agree with cabbagecabbage that most come off as holier-than-thou and mommy wars- ish if that makes sense. I have a friend that had her kid on the same day as me and used to compare our kids ALL. THE. TIME. and it fires me up when people do that. Stahhhhpppp, just because your kid did one thing a little earlier does not mean they are Einstein JR, they may do something else after other kids.
I remember being obsessed with organic everything when DD was a little little one and have eventually gotten past that. Some things yes (like the dirty dozen), but other things just aren't necessary.
Yikes TnT10, how scary! Glad to hear your mom is getting better! Sorry for the family drama that's come about as a result of it, hopefully everything gets straightened out soon.
Post by lostinfaith225 on Feb 17, 2016 15:58:20 GMT -5
Checking in!
I just checked on ds who is out cold. I went to open the door and his room smells awful! He must have pooped before he fell asleep. I want to vomit!!!!!
My grandmother just called and asked "how much weight have you gained so far?" When I told her she went "10lbs already!!! You still have so long to go! Well.. You can always take it off after..."
Thanks grandma lol I was thinking I was doing well lol
Aside from the rude-ish comment... I think 10 pounds at 18 weeks is pretty damn close to right on track..?
Post by rungirlrun on Feb 17, 2016 16:18:42 GMT -5
Haha I love how so many of us were perfect parents until we actually became parents! I for sure was one of them.
Ray, I know you are having some disappointment with having a boy (I did too with DS), but boys are so so awesome. And until I had one and started looking at boy clothes/decor, I never realized how many cute things there really are out there. I think a lot of it is cuter than girl stuff for sure.
Haha I love how so many of us were perfect parents until we actually became parents! I for sure was one of them.
Ray, I know you are having some disappointment with having a boy (I did too with DS), but boys are so so awesome. And until I had one and started looking at boy clothes/decor, I never realized how many cute things there really are out there. I think a lot of it is cuter than girl stuff for sure.
This!!! Now that 2.0 is a girl, I keep reverting to the boy things. Haha. Boys are very fun! Ds cracks me up every day.
TnT10 I hope your mom feels better soon, sorry you have to deal with the drama!
Ray I also agree that 10 pounds at 18 weeks seems right on track. My grandma got a few side-eyes from me during my pregnancies because of unnecessary comments.
ETA: I don't think I've ever successfully tagged Ray, am I missing something? I've got the first letter capitalized but it doesn't show I do, I give up.
glaze , I'm 90% sure the active ingredient in Mac and cheese is cocaine. That Kraft stuff is addictive.
tootsie , TBH. I'm always confused when people say their kids get no screen time. Like you don't watch tv at all? No news? There's just silence? I constantly have the news or music on. It's pretty much white noise. I think DD actively "watches" 30-60 minutes of baby TV in a day if I'm trying to clean up/whatnot around her. I'll probably have to be more selective once she gets to an age where she can focus on the tv.
ellebelle , That sucks something awful. Hopefully you're still immune.
DS pretty much had no screen time up until 2, and now we still limit it. H and I certainly watched tv but just when DS was sleeping. I wouldn't say we sat there in silence - we would do stuff or else be out of the house. I'm a SAHM, but I'd say with the exception of when DS is sleeping or eating, we are out of the house 90% of the time. I just don't really enjoy staying in the house all day so not having the tv on has never really been weird or an issue.
Thanks ladies! My father ended up selecting a rehab facility two hours away without doing research on any here closer to home. UGHHHH! And to top it off, he never even asked my mom if she had a preference, so needless to say I'm pretty pissed that he is making decisions based off of what he wants. If she were closer my brother and I could visit more and be able to help out more, so it's rather frustrating. I'm just going to focus on the fact that mom is getting better and the facility looks like a great place for her... I'll just try to ignore that my dad is being a total ass.
@lostinfaith my DD does that all of the time, sometimes she won't go to sleep until I go in to change her diaper. Why do they wait until naptime? Geesh.
glaze, Ray is tagged as rayschicky with the @ in front not just Ray. That should work next time you are mobile.
lostinfaith225, ever since we moved DS to a big boy bed a few weeks ago, he loves to stall before sleep. He will make himself poop about 5 minutes after we finish the already super long nap/bed time routine. He will yell "poop" with a huge smile and we will have to change him and sing one last song all over again. I say it's time he uses the potty (he has other ideas though).
rungirlrun, Ha. I simply do not have that much stuff to do in the house to entertain myself even considering my side business. It's definitely easier in the warmer months, but I'm not hauling a baby out of the house when it's zero degrees. So CNN FTW.
My grandmother just called and asked "how much weight have you gained so far?" When I told her she went "10lbs already!!! You still have so long to go! Well.. You can always take it off after..."
Thanks grandma lol I was thinking I was doing well lol
OMG my parents ask the same thing! I've probably gained 12-15 pounds since embryo transfer Oct 29 and remind my parents I'm supposed to gain .5-1lb per week in the second tri. Such an annoying question.
I think the only thing Mh and I actually stuck to in the "I will never" category is yell in front of our daughter. I grew up in that sort of house and we made a lot of changes in how we spoke in general (we both have tempers) to avoid being those parents.
DH and I are yellers and I grew up in a house of yellers...my parents STILL freaking yell so our biggest WE WILL NEVER...is never yell in front of our kids. I'm glad to see someone in a similar situation be able to change habits and not yell in front of their kids. I'm hopeful we can stick to this, but I know it will be hard since we both have tempers.
Post by littlesthobo on Feb 17, 2016 18:37:42 GMT -5
lostinfaith225 my DS sleeps through poop too... I've come into his room in the morning to explosions a couple of times. It gives him the worst diaper rash, poor guy. But he doesn't wake up so I don't either!
TnT10 sorry to hear about your mom! It sounds like she's on the mend, I hope she continues to get better.
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