Post by frecklesnbrains on Feb 19, 2016 9:34:50 GMT -5
I'm on the train and the guy sitting next to me is watching music videos (bad ones) on full volume with no headphones. I have no idea how some people become adults without knowing how rude that is. My confession is that I'm seriously judging this man's parents and/or community support system (or lack thereof). It makes me sad that not everyone gets the opportunity to be taught social graces.
I hate the idea of pets and we will never have one. I generally don't trust animals and think they almost always smell funny. I mean I do see the benefit in them (my grandma's dog keeps her active and not as lonely) but I just can't bond with an animal. My husband is fully on board.
nymama917 I happen to love animals, but I can see your perspective and I'm glad YH feels the same way. I would so much rather people be honest about not wanting a pet than be one of the many people out there who love animals, but have no business being a pet owner.
I hate the idea of pets and we will never have one. I generally don't trust animals and think they almost always smell funny. I mean I do see the benefit in them (my grandma's dog keeps her active and not as lonely) but I just can't bond with an animal. My husband is fully on board.
This was me before DH started sending me pictures of puppies at the shelter that needed saving. We ended up rescuing a lab mix almost 12 years ago and I was seriously on board as soon as we met her. I can't imagine the past 12 years without her and now DS loves her too!!!
Post by Flair Underwood on Feb 19, 2016 11:38:51 GMT -5
I confess that I can't stand having dogs. We have two - and they're a whole lot more work than I want in my life. They leave hair and snot on things, pace back and forth to go out AS SOON as I sit down. We take care of them, love them, walk them, but when the good Lord decides to take them we are going on a looooooooong dog hiatus.
I confess that I can't stand having dogs. We have two - and they're a whole lot more work than I want in my life. They leave hair and snot on things, pace back and forth to go out AS SOON as I sit down. We take care of them, love them, walk them, but when the good Lord decides to take them we are going on a looooooooong dog hiatus.
This is exactly how I feel about our 6-year-old border collie cross. I love her and she's spoiled, but I want to take a break from having a dog after she passes.
I think we'll go on a dog hiatus too for a little while when my dog passes away. I love him dearly, and I always said nothing would change with our relationship when DS got here, but it has.
I have one dog that I will be heartbroken to lose, and another dog who I love but is a total pain in the butt. Both dogs are 10 years old so once they're both gone, we'll probably take some time off from pets and then consider another dog when the kids are older.
*I also just had a momentary freak out when typing the word "kids" because it just sounds so weird to me.
Along these lines, I totally judge people who go overboard when comparing their pets to having children. Yes, pets can be part of the family. Yes, pets deserve to be loved and to have a good life. Yes, pets are time consuming and require a ton of care. But it's just not on the same level as caring for a child.
Post by sandandsea on Feb 19, 2016 13:48:59 GMT -5
Yeah, our dog has a large tumor in her chest and has already outlived the 1 year prognosis given in Nov 2014. We will be taking a break after she passes until the boys are old enough to do it all on their own. DS does a great job of taking care of her now, but will be crushed when the dog dies, as we all will. I don't want to have to go through this part again.
Post by Flair Underwood on Feb 19, 2016 14:10:11 GMT -5
babyzebra , my sister said to me, "Before you have kids, your dog is your baby. And then you have a baby and your dog is just a dog."
amiet79 , shan - you guys make me feel normal in my feelings. Thank you!! I think if we only had ONE dog I would feel less "over it" - but two dogs is too many dogs, for sure.
sandandsea, I'm already nervous about what it's going to be like in our house when our dogs go. Our bigger dog is 8 and our "little" 65 pounder is 6 - so DD's never been without them and although they drive her crazy, she is so in love with them. That whole process is gonna blow.
Post by 2dogs2kids on Feb 19, 2016 14:22:21 GMT -5
I am shaking my head in agreement with the no dogs for a while. I am probably the biggest dog lover you will ever meet but they are just too much to handle now. I will probably change my mind but right now it's a No way!
My older dog is 12 and has diabetes, pancreatitis, thyroid problem and beginning to go blind. I love him more than anything but it is so much work. Insulin injections 2x a day and monitoring his BG levels. DH and I know his time is limited and each day we have with him we are grateful for but it is overwhelming sometimes.
Not to mention our other dog who I love but is a total PITA. He has decided he will just bite our older dog whenever he feels like it. So we have to keep them separate.
On top of that I don't trust them around DS. The older one would have been great 10 years ago but he could be unpredictable because of his diabetes. And the other one i just don't trust. So it's just a lot to deal with and just the thought of adding another baby in the mix makes me cringe, but I honestly don't expect our older one to make it till June.
my sister said to me, "Before you have kids, your dog is your baby. And then you have a baby and your dog is just a dog."
I've spent a lot of time wondering if this is how things will be when the LO comes. For the past 8 years, our dog has been our baby. He sleeps in the bed with us. He has a daily dog walker so that he doesn't get lonely while we work (as well as a peer group of other dogs that she walks). I totally spoil him. But now I have a feeling he's going to be just "a dog." We're moving and we already decided not to get a dog walker when we go to our new neighborhood. We'll have to put that money toward daycare. He'll still be a member of the family, but he wont be as much of a priority as he is now. He's a very laid back and amicable dog, so luckily I don't think he'll care.
All this talk about dogs dying is making me so, so sad.
I've cried twice over it.
I know people side eye the whole pet = baby thing. But I am not an official parent yet, and I am not stupid/naive enough to equate babies with dogs. But Zeus has been my longest relationship, going on 12 years this summer. I have been responsible for his care and his care only for over a decade, so yes he is not a baby...but he is MY baby. And I am going to be completely wrecked over his passing.
I already have a lot feels about his place in our family once this baby is born in June. So I am sad and will be sad.
All this talk about dogs dying is making me so, so sad.
Yep, I cried the whole way home from the vet and then the oncologist appt. In some ways, it's kind of nice to know ahead of time to prepare yourself for it and to spoil her immensely. And to know what to look for so she doesn't have to suffer.
All this talk about dogs dying is making me so, so sad.
I've cried twice over it.
I know people side eye the whole pet = baby thing. But I am not an official parent yet, and I am not stupid/naive enough to equate babies with dogs. But Zeus has been my longest relationship, going on 12 years this summer. I have been responsible for his care and his care only for over a decade, so yes he is not a baby...but he is MY baby. And I am going to be completely wrecked over his passing.
I already have a lot feels about his place in our family once this baby is born in June. So I am sad and will be sad.
FFFC: I am one of those crazy dog people.
I could have written this exactly. I haven't had Cassie nearly as long, but I totally get it.
All this talk about dogs dying is making me so, so sad.
I've cried twice over it.
I know people side eye the whole pet = baby thing. But I am not an official parent yet, and I am not stupid/naive enough to equate babies with dogs. But Zeus has been my longest relationship, going on 12 years this summer. I have been responsible for his care and his care only for over a decade, so yes he is not a baby...but he is MY baby. And I am going to be completely wrecked over his passing.
I already have a lot feels about his place in our family once this baby is born in June. So I am sad and will be sad.
FFFC: I am one of those crazy dog people.
I understand what you're saying, Andrea, totally. When we moved to a new town years ago, DH had a job and I was unemployed for a while, alone in a new town with nobody except my dog. He was my BEST FRIEND, my number 2, my WORLD. I took him in the car with me everywhere, we walked together, napped together - and I would cry just THINKING about how much i loved him. And now, uuugh, it's not just the same.
Post by ArgyleEnigma on Feb 19, 2016 15:50:49 GMT -5
When my toddler brother died, a nurse told my mom she knew how my mom felt because her dog had died recently. For about 15 years after, I had a visceral negative reaction to anyone referring to a dog/pet as "family," never mind "baby." I've finally gotten past that, but I still have kind of an emotional shutdown when someone says their pet died, and I mostly have to fake my expressions of sympathy. I swear I'm normally an empathetic person.
The pet = baby thing has a line that some people just cross. Those line-crossers are the ones I judge. Simply loving your dog and considering them part of the family is normal.
The nurse above totally crossed the line. ArgyleEnigma, I want to give your mom a hug for having to hear that and that nurse a giant wtf for being so ridiculously callous.
When stating my opinion earlier, I was thinking of someone I know IRL who has sent out birth announcements for her new puppy and started a registry for him. She has also started doling out parenting advice to other friends because she's now a dog owner.
The pet = baby thing has a line that some people just cross. Those line-crossers are the ones I judge. Simply loving your dog and considering them part of the family is normal.
The nurse above totally crossed the line. ArgyleEnigma , I want to give your mom a hug for having to hear that and that nurse a giant wtf for being so ridiculously callous.
When stating my opinion earlier, I was thinking of someone I know IRL who has sent out birth announcements for her new puppy and started a registry for him. She has also started doling out parenting advice to other friends because she's now a dog owner.
ArgyleEnigma, Yeah I'm with everyone who said that nurse is an asshat.
The pet = baby thing has a line that some people just cross. Those line-crossers are the ones I judge. Simply loving your dog and considering them part of the family is normal.
The nurse above totally crossed the line. ArgyleEnigma , I want to give your mom a hug for having to hear that and that nurse a giant wtf for being so ridiculously callous.
When stating my opinion earlier, I was thinking of someone I know IRL who has sent out birth announcements for her new puppy and started a registry for him. She has also started doling out parenting advice to other friends because she's now a dog owner.
ArgyleEnigma , Yeah I'm with everyone who said that nurse is an asshat.
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