Post by Deleted on Feb 22, 2016 10:17:24 GMT -5
4 cycles is a little crazy.
However, I will say as part of a couple who has an MFI diagnosis, I really wish it was the norm for men to get SAs after maybe 6-8 months of TTC. MH has 0-1% morph so we basically had less than a 1% chance of getting pregnant the entire first year we were trying. It's never seemed "fair" to me that women who don't ovulate or have PCOS are allowed to seek help after 6 months, but you could have an MFI diagnosis and not be allowed to seek help for a year.
It's hard to balance "borrowing trouble" with actually having trouble that could be discovered earlier...
You can seek help earlier if you have a knooooooown cause. If a man had any injury, illness, surgery, etc that could affect sperm then earlier intervention would also be recommended. If there are no risk factors for either person then waiting is recommended.
EDIT: I do think that wanting an SA before the one year mark without any prior medical indication of something being off is "borrowing trouble." (God, I hate that phrase). There are plenty of women who have no findings during testing but don't get pregnant, either. Their chances within that first year were also as low as yours. But, there was no reason to suspect anything was amiss until enough time had gone. This isn't a problem specific to men or women.
EDITEDIT: I'm annoyed that Taking Charge of Your Fertility is spouting this crap. My RE would not even let me make an appointment unless one year had gone by. Impatience is not infertility. You don't want infertility. You don't want to take pills, give yourself shots, have forty million ultrasounds, pay for all of this, and ensure that your husband jacks in a cup on time. My god, I wish so hard that just sex had given us a baby. But, alas.
I was re-reading it last night and getting really angry about all the "BOOM, PREGNANT" anecdotals.
It's been a while since I read it and I must have skimmed past them before.