For everyone that's been told...

[jawswife]

"Stop stressing and it will happen!"


I just saw this when I opened up my FF app. I think this is a great way to shut people up that give you the insensitive and unscientific "you're too stressed and that's why you're not getting pregnant" crapola.

[sumbeach]

I do all those things...not pregnant

[mainewifey]

Feb 3, 2015 14:44:32 GMT -5 sumbeach said:

I do all those things...not pregnant

It doesn't say that doing those things will help you to get pregnant. It basically says that doing those things will hopefully make the waiting suck less.  For me, some days it does, and other days it doesn't help at all.

[PonyGirl]

sumbeach I love your siggy challenge couple. That is all.

[Deleted]

How weird would it be if laughing could get you pregnant? Comedians and clowns would be in big trouble.

[wowcheezits]

It's a crock of shit. And anybody who has the nerve to say that to anyone when they're TTC can fuck off. FF or not, that makes me stabby.

Edit to clarify I mean to the asshats who say to stop stressing.

[getzystark]

Feb 3, 2015 16:49:17 GMT -5 wowcheezits said:

It's a crock of shit. And anybody who has the nerve to say that to anyone when they're TTC can fuck off. FF or not, that makes me stabby.

The FF article is saying stress doesn't affect fertility. It's saying yoga and relaxation methods can help a person cope while TTC.

[wowcheezits]

Feb 3, 2015 16:52:21 GMT -5 getzystark said:

Feb 3, 2015 16:49:17 GMT -5 wowcheezits said:

It's a crock of shit. And anybody who has the nerve to say that to anyone when they're TTC can fuck off. FF or not, that makes me stabby.

The FF article is saying stress doesn't affect fertility. It's saying yoga and relaxation methods can help a person cope while TTC.

Yup my wording really sucks today. And I misunderstood it at first because it's just one of those days for me!

[jawswife]

Feb 3, 2015 14:44:32 GMT -5 sumbeach said:

I do all those things...not pregnant

Reading comprehension is not your thing if that's what you took from it.

[pismoduo]

Ooh, I should take this over to TB and shove it in the face of that ridiculous Pumpkin chick who keeps telling people to just relax.

This is definitely reasonable advice regarding stress and TTC, though. Not gonna get you pregnant faster, but helps keep your mind off it sometimes.

[jawswife]

Feb 3, 2015 17:15:16 GMT -5 pismoduo said:

Ooh, I should take this over to TB and shove it in the face of that ridiculous Pumpkin chick who keeps telling people to just relax.

This is definitely reasonable advice regarding stress and TTC, though. Not gonna get you pregnant faster, but helps keep your mind off it sometimes.

Exactly.

And wtf to that pumpkin chick.

[sister13]

Lol, is this really so enlightening? I'm going to start a blog of posts, written by Captain Obvious.

Hey, NEWS FLASH - by doing nice things you enjoy, talking to people you like and having fun, your life will be better!

[teenybenoit]

Oh dear.

[jawswife]

Feb 3, 2015 17:55:49 GMT -5 sister13 said:

Lol, is this really so enlightening? I'm going to start a blog of posts, written by Captain Obvious.

Hey, NEWS FLASH - by doing nice things you enjoy, talking to people you like and having fun, your life will be better!

I don't think anyone is saying that it's especially enlightening. For me personally though, it's easy to disengage from activities that may be healthy for me in a moment of sadness when dealing with TTC.

[juliayadda]

Feb 3, 2015 17:55:49 GMT -5 sister13 said:

Lol, is this really so enlightening? I'm going to start a blog of posts, written by Captain Obvious.

Hey, NEWS FLASH - by doing nice things you enjoy, talking to people you like and having fun, your life will be better!

I miss seeing Pasty in your siggy. 

[grahamcrackers]

I'm the biggest stress case I know and always got pregnant very quickly... so there's that. Absolutely no correlation at all.

[Ray]

Feb 3, 2015 19:13:22 GMT -5 grahamcrackers said:

I'm the biggest stress case I know and always got pregnant very quickly... so there's that. Absolutely no correlation at all.

Good for you...? 

I get what your getting at but still side eyeing this comment. 

[sister13]

Feb 3, 2015 19:06:37 GMT -5 juliayadda said:

Feb 3, 2015 17:55:49 GMT -5 sister13 said:

Lol, is this really so enlightening? I'm going to start a blog of posts, written by Captain Obvious.

Hey, NEWS FLASH - by doing nice things you enjoy, talking to people you like and having fun, your life will be better!

I miss seeing Pasty in your siggy. 

I love Patsy so much!

[Martinis&Medicine]

All relaxing does for me is make sex more enjoyable.

A tense vagina never did anyone any good.

[URMySunshine77]

Feb 3, 2015 19:13:22 GMT -5 grahamcrackers said:

I'm the biggest stress case I know and always got pregnant very quickly... so there's that. Absolutely no correlation at all.

humblebrag?

[sister13]

Feb 3, 2015 18:40:58 GMT -5 jawswife said:

Feb 3, 2015 17:55:49 GMT -5 sister13 said:

Lol, is this really so enlightening? I'm going to start a blog of posts, written by Captain Obvious.

Hey, NEWS FLASH - by doing nice things you enjoy, talking to people you like and having fun, your life will be better!

I don't think anyone is saying that it's especially enlightening. For me personally though, it's easy to disengage from activities that may be healthy for me in a moment of sadness when dealing with TTC.

That's cool, I just thought it was kind of funny after re-reading it a couple of times.  Hell, if I had time to laugh, exercise, not talk to people I can't stand (hello work!), rest, meditate and keep up with my hobbies, I would be happier too, TTC or not.

Also, biproduct is a mathematical term, whereas I believe the term that should have been used is by-product! 

[PugMum]

Feb 3, 2015 21:05:49 GMT -5 Martinis&Medicine said:

All relaxing does for me is make sex more enjoyable.

A tense vagina never did anyone any good.

I don't think a single man would complain about a tense vag.

[pismoduo]

Feb 3, 2015 21:41:08 GMT -5 PugMum said:

Feb 3, 2015 21:05:49 GMT -5 Martinis&Medicine said:

All relaxing does for me is make sex more enjoyable.

A tense vagina never did anyone any good.

I don't think a single man would complain about a tense vag.

Depends on how tense.

[Martinis&Medicine]

Feb 3, 2015 22:06:50 GMT -5 pismoduo said:

Feb 3, 2015 21:41:08 GMT -5 PugMum said:

I don't think a single man would complain about a tense vag.

Depends on how tense.

This is true.

Are we talking butthole tense or pleasantly tight tense?

Is this awkward? Do I need to stop drinking and posting?


eta: Silly wine. A man would love butthole tense.

[Martinis&Medicine]

Feb 3, 2015 22:13:49 GMT -5 W said:

Feb 3, 2015 22:11:18 GMT -5 Martinis&Medicine said:

This is true.

Are we talking butthole tense or pleasantly tight tense?

Is this awkward? Do I need to stop drinking and posting?


eta: Silly wine. A man would love butthole tense.

lol. Keep drinking and posting.

The people have spoken.

[BrewGirl]

This is about as annoying as when people say "Just stop trying and it'll happen".

Uh, WTF? So you're saying I can miraculously get pregnant by not trying. Shut. Your. Face.

[helloerrbody]

"I don't get stressed about TTC. I get stressed when know-it-alls like you tell me what to do and how to make a baby."

[Martinis&Medicine]

Feb 3, 2015 22:29:43 GMT -5 @wineandcupcakes said:

I get particularly ragey when people think that temping/charting & OPKs usage = trying to hard and stress-inducing.

Yup.

Considering the circumstances that some women get pregnant under (ie, rape, war zones, POW, etc.), I'm pretty sure taking my temperature once a day isn't stressing me out so much that my reproductive tract shut itself down.

[BrewGirl]

Feb 3, 2015 22:41:55 GMT -5 @littleliverpill said:

...i'm just going to leave this here...

I had cake for dinner. I am very dexaler.

[grahamcrackers]

Feb 3, 2015 21:17:31 GMT -5 URMySunshine77 said:

Feb 3, 2015 19:13:22 GMT -5 grahamcrackers said:

I'm the biggest stress case I know and always got pregnant very quickly... so there's that. Absolutely no correlation at all.

humblebrag?

Yeah... Pretty sure I just jinxed myself with that one