Thursday/Friday Randoms

[frecklesnbrains]

sandandsea, that's a really interesting study! Sometimes I worry a little that DH and I don't argue enough. Maybe once or twice a month, definitely not 348 times per year!

DH and I both hate conflict so we usually end up apologizing profusely to each other before the argument even gets started. I've found that I have to be on the look-out for the "almost-fights" so we can address the potential problem and prevent tensions from building up. When we haven't addressed those issues in a timely manner we've ended up having some absolutely terrible and heartbreaking fights...

[twobananas]

Feb 26, 2016 11:58:14 GMT -5 babyzebra said:

So is this where I should put my FFFC that I totally talk on the phone while going to the bathroom at home? I only do this with DH, my mom, and sister. Am I weird? I would never do it in a public bathroom and never with anyone but those three.

I do it too, but I state at the beginning that I'm peeing so they don't wonder if they hear any weird noises! I've done it in public restrooms too when I'm running between meetings and have no other time to talk, again stating very clearly for everyone that I am on the toilet. Maybe it's awkward but sometimes I don't have any other time to talk!

[babyzebra]

DH and I bicker at least a couple times a week. I often feel incredibly overwhelmed from working a pretty high stress job and taking on the majority of the parenting. I also have a lot of resentment about some of the uniqueness of our particular work/financial situation, but I feel like I can't ever vent about it because it was really a life decision that I made when I decided to marry DH. He does help out more now and he's a really great dad, so I'm happy about that!

[bighair12]

frecklesnbrains, overwhelmed again. I refuse to buy things there. I just can't do it. It was disorganized and just too much. Online shopping it is for me.

[pbandj714]

Feb 26, 2016 14:19:51 GMT -5 bighair12 said:

frecklesnbrains , overwhelmed again. I refuse to buy things there. I just can't do it. It was disorganized and just too much. Online shopping it is for me.

That place IS overwhelming! Before we registered, I had done a ton of online research so I knew which big-ticket items I wanted to put on there. But then you get to the full wall of bottles and you're like.......uhhhhh?

[2dogs2kids]

Interesting. I'd say DH and I are average then in terms of our argument status. Our tiffs are usually about lack of time for anything.

[txmommy14]

Yay broadwaymama!! Keep us updated!!

andrea so glad that your DH got to feel kicks!

nymama917 How old is your DD? Awww!! I’m really trying to stick with “only pacifier in the bed!” as much as possible. It’s so hard! Today he fell down at the zoo and got a goose egg, I caved and gave it to him because it was so sad!!

soultrane I am so sorry for your hard week, but awesome that there were some great things mixed in! CONGRATS on the promotion! That’s so exciting!

We just got back from the zoo and had a great time! The weather was nice. My DS tripped and got a huge goose egg on his head, but he had a great time! It was so cute, all morning he was saying, "I see zebra!" and seemed to really understand and be excited!

[GOmamab15]

I just got shushed.
You don't shush a pregnant lady. Just. No.

[pbandj714]

Feb 26, 2016 14:31:19 GMT -5 txmommy14 said:

Yay broadwaymama !! Keep us updated!!

andrea so glad that your DH got to feel kicks!

nymama917 How old is your DD? Awww!! I’m really trying to stick with “only pacifier in the bed!” as much as possible. It’s so hard! Today he fell down at the zoo and got a goose egg, I caved and gave it to him because it was so sad!!

soultrane I am so sorry for your hard week, but awesome that there were some great things mixed in! CONGRATS on the promotion! That’s so exciting!

We just got back from the zoo and had a great time! The weather was nice. My DS tripped and got a huge goose egg on his head, but he had a great time! It was so cute, all morning he was saying, "I see zebra!" and seemed to really understand and be excited!

Minus the goose egg, that sounds like a great day!!

[manybellsdown]

Feb 26, 2016 14:58:09 GMT -5 GOmamab15 said:

I just got shushed.
You don't shush a pregnant lady. Just. No.

What? No. Forget pregnant (although that is particularly egregious), you don't shush adults.

[mladerri]

I just got my glucose level back and I got a 143 and high is 140.... Waiting to hear from my dr I really hope I don't have to take 3 hour test. I think I jinxed myself because I bought two donuts after my test. Gosh dang it. And to join in the weight gain fun... I've gained 19.

[ArgyleEnigma]

Feb 26, 2016 13:14:33 GMT -5 frecklesnbrains said:

sandandsea, that's a really interesting study! Sometimes I worry a little that DH and I don't argue enough. Maybe once or twice a month, definitely not 348 times per year!

DH and I both hate conflict so we usually end up apologizing profusely to each other before the argument even gets started. I've found that I have to be on the look-out for the "almost-fights" so we can address the potential problem and prevent tensions from building up. When we haven't addressed those issues in a timely manner we've ended up having some absolutely terrible and heartbreaking fights...

Don't borrow trouble! Besides, you're a newlywed. You're not supposed to be at steady state yet.

[soultrane]

mladerri, I think that was my exact result with my 1-hour when I was pg with DS. I was just barely over but my doctor had me do the 3-hour to be sure, and while it certainly wasn't pleasant, it wasn't terrible either. It really is doctor-specific though, so hopefully they can get you more info soon. Good luck and enjoy the donuts today!

[vivela]

DH told me I seemed stressed the other day, so I decided to tell him about how I felt like I am doing more than my share around the house lately and I'm worried about what it will be like when the baby comes. And as I'm trying to talk I'm literally getting interrupted by him wandering in and out of the room, grabbing a bag of chips, etc... So finally I lost my temper.
It could have turned into a huge fight, but I'll give DH credit. I can read him like a book, and I could see he was getting angry and defensive, but he took a breath and agreed that I should be able to rely on him more, etc. I'm guessing part of the reason he held it together was because he was thinking, "there is some emotional pregnant lady stuff going on here." But that's ok because a) he didn't say it out loud and b) I agree with him. I'm getting worried about stuff that hasn't happened yet. Big blowout fights are the absolute worst, I feel like I dodged this one by a hair. But they happen to everyone!

[vivela]

Feb 26, 2016 15:04:19 GMT -5 manybellsdown said:

Feb 26, 2016 14:58:09 GMT -5 GOmamab15 said:

I just got shushed.
You don't shush a pregnant lady. Just. No.

What? No. Forget pregnant (although that is particularly egregious), you don't shush adults.

+1. Who does that?

[2dogs2kids]

mladerri sorry your number was high. Did you have GD before? Hope you don't have to take the 3 hr.

[vivela]

I never leave the door open when I use the bathroom, let alone talk on the phone. I sometimes feel like it makes me a huge prude and I'm somehow not as comfortable with DH as I should be? But I just don't like it!

[pbandj714]

I definitely don't leave the door open. DH and I both have a closed-door policy when it comes to using the bathroom. Like I said, the handful of times that I've talked on the phone with DH while using the bathroom were at home and emergency-type situations. I definitely didn't tell him I was on the toilet! And I waited to flush until after I got off the phone.

[titania]

Sorry mladerri

[sandandsea]

Feb 26, 2016 13:14:33 GMT -5 frecklesnbrains said:

sandandsea , that's a really interesting study! Sometimes I worry a little that DH and I don't argue enough. Maybe once or twice a month, definitely not 348 times per year!

DH and I both hate conflict so we usually end up apologizing profusely to each other before the argument even gets started. I've found that I have to be on the look-out for the "almost-fights" so we can address the potential problem and prevent tensions from building up. When we haven't addressed those issues in a timely manner we've ended up having some absolutely terrible and heartbreaking fights...

DH and I never have fights, but we do have tiny disagreements regularly.  It's almost always a result of stress/lack of communication/unspoken expectations (which I guess makes them hopes?).   Like, he'll said, "i'm leaving in 15 minutes" so I expect him home in 45 minutes, then I call after an hour to find out he's still leaving in 15 mins. On my own, I'm super annoyed and am now thinking he's going to miss dinner. dinner will be overcooked, or DS will eat really late, which will throw off the whole evening.  But, if I think with empathy, I realize he's been trying to leave for an hour and people keep bugging him, so he's been super stressed and annoyed for the past hour too and feels bad for letting us down.  It's not like he's relaxing at the spa with a margarita!

[sandandsea]

Feb 26, 2016 12:56:51 GMT -5 soultrane said:

sandandsea , I really need to try to think of it in those terms more often. What it really boils down to for us is that this is the end of his season (the most important part) and it just happens to coincide with the craziest time of the year for me at work. We have our big deadline/project launch on Tuesday, so the timing of everything is just terrible this year and makes normal arguments and stress seem so much worse. Thanks for posting that, because it's giving me a kick in the butt to remember that he's crazy-stressed too right now.

Yep, I can totally relate to everything you've posted!  Sometimes (often) I wonder how we juggle 2 professional careers and a family and house and everything else!

[frecklesnbrains]

Feb 26, 2016 15:42:47 GMT -5 ArgyleEnigma said:

Feb 26, 2016 13:14:33 GMT -5 frecklesnbrains said:

sandandsea , that's a really interesting study! Sometimes I worry a little that DH and I don't argue enough. Maybe once or twice a month, definitely not 348 times per year!

DH and I both hate conflict so we usually end up apologizing profusely to each other before the argument even gets started. I've found that I have to be on the look-out for the "almost-fights" so we can address the potential problem and prevent tensions from building up. When we haven't addressed those issues in a timely manner we've ended up having some absolutely terrible and heartbreaking fights...

Don't borrow trouble! Besides, you're a newlywed. You're not supposed to be at steady state yet.

It's true - I shouldn't jinx myself! I'm sure throwing a baby into the mix will liven things up...

[sandandsea]

Feb 26, 2016 14:24:19 GMT -5 pbandj714 said:

Feb 26, 2016 14:19:51 GMT -5 bighair12 said:

frecklesnbrains , overwhelmed again. I refuse to buy things there. I just can't do it. It was disorganized and just too much. Online shopping it is for me.

That place IS overwhelming! Before we registered, I had done a ton of online research so I knew which big-ticket items I wanted to put on there. But then you get to the full wall of bottles and you're like.......uhhhhh?

I went with a friend (who had 2 L) to do my registry and she told me exactly what worked for her and I was like, "Great, let'do it!" and it worked out well.

[nymama917]

Feb 26, 2016 14:31:19 GMT -5 txmommy14 said:

Yay broadwaymama !! Keep us updated!!

andrea so glad that your DH got to feel kicks!

nymama917 How old is your DD? Awww!! I’m really trying to stick with “only pacifier in the bed!” as much as possible. It’s so hard! Today he fell down at the zoo and got a goose egg, I caved and gave it to him because it was so sad!!

soultrane I am so sorry for your hard week, but awesome that there were some great things mixed in! CONGRATS on the promotion! That’s so exciting!

We just got back from the zoo and had a great time! The weather was nice. My DS tripped and got a huge goose egg on his head, but he had a great time! It was so cute, all morning he was saying, "I see zebra!" and seemed to really understand and be excited!

She's 2y 5m.  We are already at only pacifier in the bed or in the car.  We live in the city so we're really only in the car driving 90 min to inlaws or 6 hours to my parents...so long trips and not very frequent (maybe in the car once a month).  So basically only when she's sleeping.  She does fine with that, so this is the last of it that we have to pull.  I'm not going to push so hard.  I'll see if she rolls with it and if not I'll cave.  I don't want her to resent the new bed and create a big mess because of the binky....just doesn't seem worth it.  I do need to get rid of it soon though because her front teeth are in a bit of an overbite because of it.  She will only take the stupid soothie ones (made for newborns) so it's messing with her teeth.  The dentist said if we pull it by 3 then the "damage" will correct itself.  It's not terrible but it's noticeable to me.

PS - I would have totally caved and given it with an injury too....I've been known to do that to settle her down.

[mladerri]

Waaaah I have to do the 3 hour. I also have to start taking iron supplements because my rbc was really low. She said the iron is going to make me constipated. I asked her if she had any good new to give me ha!

[cattuccino]

Popping in to give love to you all. I've been feeling pretty shitty and have another migraine so the screen is hard to stay up to date with.

I wish I could tag everyone I want to, but know I care about glucose levels, houses, and jobs, and your littles

DH plans to go skiing this weekend so assuming it doesn't feel like needles in my eyes, I might need extra company this weekend !

[csat]

Sorry mladerri, on all accounts.

My OB put me straight to the 3 hr, the fasting part was the worst but I spent most of the time day dreaming about what I was going to get for lunch which helped.

2 more hours and I can go home and get in comfy clothes. I feel so huge today, I'm sick of full panel pants.

[ArgyleEnigma]

Speaking of pants woes...

While checking in the mirror whether my underwear shows through my pants (answer: very yes) I discovered a hole in the ass.

This, after I got home from work.

Tra la la la la

[csat]

Feb 26, 2016 18:44:52 GMT -5 ArgyleEnigma said:

Speaking of pants woes...

While checking in the mirror whether my underwear shows through my pants (answer: very yes) I discovered a hole in the ass.

This, after I got home from work.

Tra la la la la

Oh dear.

[woodengirl07]

Feb 26, 2016 18:44:52 GMT -5 ArgyleEnigma said:

Speaking of pants woes...

While checking in the mirror whether my underwear shows through my pants (answer: very yes) I discovered a hole in the ass.

This, after I got home from work.

Tra la la la la

Oh well, better than discovering half way through the day and not being able to do anything. you can now assume it just happened and was not like that at work.