I am confused on the (happy Harry) and thing. I get that it's a Larry thing, and I get the contexts when they're used. But then I saw on Parenting people commenting "did you actually type the word?!" Umm the words/letters are all I see. Am I missing something?
are you on mobile? I am on desktop and when I click those emojis a picture shows up. When I am on TCF using my phone I can never see them.
I am confused on the (happy Harry) and thing. I get that it's a Larry thing, and I get the contexts when they're used. But then I saw on Parenting people commenting "did you actually type the word?!" Umm the words/letters are all I see. Am I missing something?
are you on mobile? I am on desktop and when I click those emojis a picture shows up. When I am on TCF using my phone I can never see them.
Yeah I'm on mobile. I didn't even realize there was an option to click emojis on desktop. What does the hhh one look like? Lol I'm way too curious about all this
I will give out all the thank yous. I probably say it too much. I do expect them when I help someone out and I notice when they don't say it.
There is no such thing as saying thank you too much - especially if you ask someone to do something, regardless of how small the task. People don't say thank you enough imo
are you on mobile? I am on desktop and when I click those emojis a picture shows up. When I am on TCF using my phone I can never see them.
Yeah I'm on mobile. I didn't even realize there was an option to click emojis on desktop. What does the hhh one look like? Lol I'm way too curious about all this
Confession that stems from the direction of yesterday's UO and XP on Parenting
I have ended up w basically 6 mo of mat leave. On the one hand, I am very grateful, esp given the circumstances of DD's birth and that she is such a peanut. But, after 3 weeks of mainly sitting at the hospital and at home it is stressing me out. I miss work. I want to get dressed nice and use my brain. I love my coworkers, they are friends and I miss them too. It will be better once DD is bigger, flu season is over, I get cleared to go back to gym, etc. And we will do play dates and such. I guess my confession is SAH FT is not for me. Work is not really a break...I teach middle school, but it is just something different that uses a different part of myself. I sort of feel like this is flame able because I know some of you would SAH in a heartbeat or love a PT gig like I have. I read some of you post about how you don't need a break or want to leave your kids and I feel guilty about how much I do need that sometimes.
I don't think you meant this to come out in an insulting way, but the statement "I want to get dressed nice and use my brain" (idk how to bold on mobile). To me that implies that SAHMing doesn't require much brain usage. And I B to D.
That being said, don't feel guilty that you don't feel the urge to stay home FT. I know several people who feel the same way and there's nothing wrong with that. Different strokes.
Thanks for pointing that out! I didn't mean that at all!!! No offense meant whatsoever. I just meant that I personally am stimulated in a different way by going and teaching than by staying home all day.
FFFC: My job is really wearing on me lately. I work with a bunch of overly needy adults. They require more from me than my 18 month old son. I think today's work force has a very entitled attitude. Because of these people I vow not to coddle my son...too much.
I don't think you meant this to come out in an insulting way, but the statement "I want to get dressed nice and use my brain" (idk how to bold on mobile). To me that implies that SAHMing doesn't require much brain usage. And I B to D.
That being said, don't feel guilty that you don't feel the urge to stay home FT. I know several people who feel the same way and there's nothing wrong with that. Different strokes.
Thanks for pointing that out! I didn't mean that at all!!! No offense meant whatsoever. I just meant that I personally am stimulated in a different way by going and teaching than by staying home all day.
@bazi45 is that something you and your H have already talked about? If not, maybe he's not under the same pretense. I mean, what would they do if you and he weren't around? Medicaid?
Post by minervamae on Feb 26, 2016 12:52:47 GMT -5
@bazi45, my ILs did similar things when FIL was still alive. He was ill a long time, so we helped as much as we could during that time. Once he was gone and MIL's decisions got worse, I just said we're out. I'm sure she's sponging off her other children and friends, etc, but I got us out of the game. I know I sound cruel, and I feel cruel, but she would happily bankrupt Donald Trump. No amount of money could fix the situation, but it sure could tear apart our lives and the lives of our kids. (Obviously I didn't decide this in a vacuum. There were a lot of long talks between me and DH before we bowed out.) I'm not saying this decision didn't cost us too...MIL has never met DD3. She calls DH, but when DH was visiting the state she's currently living in she didn't have time to meet him.
minervamae that makes me so sad for your H. I know I've got a long way to go on this parenting thing, but I can't imagine my son doing anything to ever make me not want to see or talk to him. Just call me Dolores Avery
Post by weeklyplanner on Feb 26, 2016 12:58:52 GMT -5
I don't know why, but I feel the need to "confess" this since I used to bitch a ton about naps. I just rocked my son to sleep for the first time EVER! We went from bouncing him to sleep (refused to sleep at the breast the first 4-5 mo), to napping on the boob to sleep training. My husband and I, well actually no one, has ever been able to rock him to sleep. It was so sweet and soothing. Now I get why babies and rocking chairs go together. I want to do this everyday, except then I'd have to hold him for his nap. This is a dumb idea at 18 mo, right?
weeklyplanner that would be like bankruptcy 4. I wish they could just sell the house, but there is a huge balloon payment. It's a mess.
Oh hell no.
And if you really HAVE to support them, I hope it doesn't include some giant mortgage payment. A little each month for a modest rent or something fine, but I'd die covering someone else's mortgage. I'd be thinking about the mansion I could be living in with all that money, ha!
Separate topic: the other message board I read allows you to make a post as "anonymous" instead of under your user name. I think people on there are way way more honest (sometimes just bitchy though).
I think this site would have a totally different tone if I could jump in to say something without it being tied to me. I usually tend to stay non-confrontational because I still mostly feel #new.
This reminds me of the TTGP Confessional on TD. It was always interesting... but those always accompany drama and end badly IMO. Though they are sort of fun while they last.
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