This makes me feel like a hermit. Girl, where are you finding the energy to get out that much?
We have been trying to get out every day either for a walk or to do an errand just so we do something. But so far we have just done feed, go out, go home, feed.
Same. She falls asleep almost instantly in the car and will sleep almost the entire time im out.
I've fed her in public about 10 times so far. I just use one hand to get the latch right and then fully hold her with both arms and support her as the pillows would after that. She's not too heavy for it yet haha! I will say she has only fed as well when we were out as at home about 3 times. She hates being covered so places where her head is free (such as a friend's house or our church where no one cares) she does better.
Ditch the cover? If she feeds better without it, why use it?
I basically have. California is pretty good about breastfeeding in public, but it turns out old men everywhere are judgmental weirdos who have no idea what it's like to feed a tiny, hungry baby with your boobs! I don't even have a cover per se, but there were certain times I tried to throw a swaddle over her head/my shoulder because someone was staring. But she feeds better in places where I don't feel like people care about a cover, like our church, for example, or some of the restaurants we've been to.
In other news, it turns out IDGAF about modesty while breastfeeding. Not too surprising given my raging feminism, but I do have very large breasts, so if I'm feeding from a button-down shirt or dress, even when she's latched, a very large portion of breast is exposed above her head. But...
I've fed her in public about 10 times so far. I just use one hand to get the latch right and then fully hold her with both arms and support her as the pillows would after that. She's not too heavy for it yet haha! I will say she has only fed as well when we were out as at home about 3 times. She hates being covered so places where her head is free (such as a friend's house or our church where no one cares) she does better.
This makes me feel like a hermit. Girl, where are you finding the energy to get out that much?
Haha, my parents were here the last 2.5 weeks (basically since we got home from the hospital) and they are very active, restless people! So some days we just left the house for a little walk or a quick errand that LO slept through, like you and jewel441 are saying, but other days we would go have a drink and then dinner or go to church and then brunch or a take a walk and then have lunch. We have also driven LO across town to a couple of friends' houses for dinner (we brought pizza to my friend who had a baby, for example, since her newborn was even more new-born than ours!). On those occasions, we'd be out of the house for like 4 hours, so she needed to be changed and fed at least once. But the plus side is that now I feel confident taking her out, so MH and I can try to keep it up now that my parents are gone!
Speaking of feeding, how is everyone handling drinking and BFing? I know the general rule is have your 1 glass of wine after LO feeds and wait 2 hours to nurse again, but a few times she's started cluster feeding early and it's been not too long after my glass o'wine - maybe 30 minutes or an hour. It doesn't seem to affect her attitude or her routine whatsoever and I know 1 glass of wine isn't much, but I'm just curious what others are doing. I'm looking forward to the time when she STTN so I can put her down and have a drink or even two and not worry about the math, knowing my milk will be perfectly clean in a few hours' time!
Ditch the cover? If she feeds better without it, why use it?
I basically have. California is pretty good about breastfeeding in public, but it turns out old men everywhere are judgmental weirdos who have no idea what it's like to feed a tiny, hungry baby with your boobs! I don't even have a cover per se, but there were certain times I tried to throw a swaddle over her head/my shoulder because someone was staring. But she feeds better in places where I don't feel like people care about a cover, like our church, for example, or some of the restaurants we've been to.
In other news, it turns out IDGAF about modesty while breastfeeding. Not too surprising given my raging feminism, but I do have very large breasts, so if I'm feeding from a button-down shirt or dress, even when she's latched, a very large portion of breast is exposed above her head. But...
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Super thankful for this too! I have had very few issues, for which I'm thankful. I usually keep a receiving blanket to use as a cover if i feel i need it, like if i'm struggling with a latch, or sitting super close to someone I don't know well (church, etc.)
I did have an incident once in the waiting room where my eldest has therapy. One of the staff asked me to cover or relocate to a more "comfortable" place. I told her I didn't have a cover or blanket (lie) and was already comfortable. She argued with me, and tried to get me to move, and I ended up complaining to her supervisor. She had to call me and apologize. It was something to the tune of, "I'm sorry you felt that I was stepping on your right to nurse, I was just trying to make sure the other parents and children were comfortable."
Still mad a year later. (Obviously.) She's olderish too. 50s?
Speaking of feeding, how is everyone handling drinking and BFing? I know the general rule is have your 1 glass of wine after LO feeds and wait 2 hours to nurse again, but a few times she's started cluster feeding early and it's been not too long after my glass o'wine - maybe 30 minutes or an hour. It doesn't seem to affect her attitude or her routine whatsoever and I know 1 glass of wine isn't much, but I'm just curious what others are doing. I'm looking forward to the time when she STTN so I can put her down and have a drink or even two and not worry about the math, knowing my milk will be perfectly clean in a few hours' time!
I don't time or pace my drinking with BFing. Safe to drive is safe to nurse, don't overthink it too much and just enjoy your wine!
Speaking of feeding, how is everyone handling drinking and BFing? I know the general rule is have your 1 glass of wine after LO feeds and wait 2 hours to nurse again, but a few times she's started cluster feeding early and it's been not too long after my glass o'wine - maybe 30 minutes or an hour. It doesn't seem to affect her attitude or her routine whatsoever and I know 1 glass of wine isn't much, but I'm just curious what others are doing. I'm looking forward to the time when she STTN so I can put her down and have a drink or even two and not worry about the math, knowing my milk will be perfectly clean in a few hours' time!
I don't time or pace my drinking with BFing. Safe to drive is safe to nurse, don't overthink it too much and just enjoy your wine!
I'm no help, I (usually) only drink hard alcohol, so i just continue to abstain. I haven't really had a drink since 2013. I'm going to get so smashed the 1st time I have anything...
Has anyone fed LO in public yet? It would be nice to go out for longer but I am not sure how to feed LO without the Boppy, or pillows....
Yes, we went to breakfast on Saturday and church a week ago and he ate both places. I used cross cradle hold, crossed my legs and propped my elbow on the diaper bag. It was NBD really.
Speaking of feeding, how is everyone handling drinking and BFing? I know the general rule is have your 1 glass of wine after LO feeds and wait 2 hours to nurse again, but a few times she's started cluster feeding early and it's been not too long after my glass o'wine - maybe 30 minutes or an hour. It doesn't seem to affect her attitude or her routine whatsoever and I know 1 glass of wine isn't much, but I'm just curious what others are doing. I'm looking forward to the time when she STTN so I can put her down and have a drink or even two and not worry about the math, knowing my milk will be perfectly clean in a few hours' time!
I don't time or pace my drinking with BFing. Safe to drive is safe to nurse, don't overthink it too much and just enjoy your wine!
This. As long as im not drunk then im ok with nursing. I also look at it from a physical safety aspect. I dont want to be handling LO if my judgement is at all impaired.
Post by rachelilly23 on Mar 21, 2016 13:14:54 GMT -5
I've only nursed in the car so far (while parked), but I do cross cradle and whichever side I'm feeding on cross that leg over the other to prop her up like she would be on the boppy. Easy.
Speaking of feeding, how is everyone handling drinking and BFing? I know the general rule is have your 1 glass of wine after LO feeds and wait 2 hours to nurse again, but a few times she's started cluster feeding early and it's been not too long after my glass o'wine - maybe 30 minutes or an hour. It doesn't seem to affect her attitude or her routine whatsoever and I know 1 glass of wine isn't much, but I'm just curious what others are doing. I'm looking forward to the time when she STTN so I can put her down and have a drink or even two and not worry about the math, knowing my milk will be perfectly clean in a few hours' time!
I don't really drink anyway and when I do, it won't be anything stronger than a glass of wine so I fall somewhere around the camp who equate alcohol with caffeine - Don't overdo it and use common sense. I'd be comfortable drinking my one bottle of Mikes then nursing when needed just the same as I would after drinking my coffee. If it made me feel wibbly, that would be cause to wait.
RE: nursing in public - I haven't yet but I will. Crossed leg, changing bag on lap for height, cover if I feel the need but likely not and also a printout of NH's public nursing law in my bag in case I have to deal with someone being an ass and reason doesn't work. I want to get out a bit once I've healed some more and the weather warms up so we'll find out soon enough how this goes.
Are you going back to Denmark at some point? Did you ever have any problems nursing in public there?
Are you going back to Denmark at some point? Did you ever have any problems nursing in public there?
We go back at the end of summer. I had DD2 in the US and we were done nursing before we moved so I don't know how it'll go in Denmark. It's a very family-oriented country so I don't foresee any issues but you never know.
Edit: google disagrees, apparently it's up to the owner of the building if they allow breastfeeding and there's a lot of side-eye in outdoor spaces. Weird, considering how chill Danes are about nudity in general.
This is very surprising to me as well. Maybe its part of their whole children are invisible culture?
This is very surprising to me as well. Maybe its part of their whole children are invisible culture?
Maybe. I find their approach to raising children very strange - they have lots of laws that encourage family togetherness and make life easier for families to exist yet people look at me like I have two heads when I take DD2 to the grocery store (apparently she's meant to be in daycare) and you must never, ever correct your child's behavior in public in any way (also your child should never need to be corrected).
We need to try a bottle but it's harder to figure out when to do it this time. Ideally I'd have H do it in the evening but I don't want to pump the because I have a toddler too. I need to just suck it up and do it though. She's three weeks old today and I don't go back go work until Aug but I want to get her used to taking a bottle so we'll have to do it a few times a week.
We need to try a bottle but it's harder to figure out when to do it this time. Ideally I'd have H do it in the evening but I don't want to pump the because I have a toddler too. I need to just suck it up and do it though. She's three weeks old today and I don't go back go work until Aug but I want to get her used to taking a bottle so we'll have to do it a few times a week.
Same, except I feel emotionally torn. I don't want her to take a bottle yet, but I know eventually I will and I don't want it to be too late. I think I'm going to say at a month we will try... I will WFH when I go back so it really only ever needs to be an occasional thing, and I don't want it to be super regular.
We need to try a bottle but it's harder to figure out when to do it this time. Ideally I'd have H do it in the evening but I don't want to pump the because I have a toddler too. I need to just suck it up and do it though. She's three weeks old today and I don't go back go work until Aug but I want to get her used to taking a bottle so we'll have to do it a few times a week.
Same, except I feel emotionally torn. I don't want her to take a bottle yet, but I know eventually I will and I don't want it to be too late. I think I'm going to say at a month we will try... I will WFH when I go back so it really only ever needs to be an occasional thing, and I don't want it to be super regular.
We gave LO her first bottle yesterday and I was almost insulted by how happily and readily she took it! No, I'm glad she was easy-peasy about it because I go back to work 3 days a week in 3 weeks.
We could also be under thinking it - but so far, no problems...
If it's working I think you are good. Some babies are easier than others with different things... My one friend has a 5 month old that has never successfully taken a bottle and they have tried EVERYTHING, so I think I'm just being paranoid.
I am going to a BF group on thurs so I can ask there... We don't actually have any bottle nipples yet (just the free bottles I got but they have the wrong nipples) so that is prob a good step one. Lol
I've also had a hard time giving DS2 a bottle. I've only pumped once so far. I go back to work at the end of April and he'll need to be willing to take a bottle by then. I've just really been enjoying NOT needing to give him one. DS1 couldn't figure out BFing right away, so we introduced the bottle at three days old and I was nursing/pumping around the clock for four weeks until he could transfer milk right away (with several stressful weight checks at the pedi's office along the way). It was very stressful and detracted from my enjoyment of his first few weeks. I'm really liking the different experience this time around.
It's only been ten days and I'm already discovering how important it is to do "what works for you as a family" with this parenting stuff. I'm pretty sure we are all doing a great job.
Post by rachelilly23 on Mar 22, 2016 14:43:26 GMT -5
K has been nursing every 75 minutes today after eating every 3 hours since she was born, most of which were me waking her to eat. Today she is much more awake and screaming for boob. Yay first growth spurt...
Slightly OT but DS1 is going through a growth spurt right now and it's almost as exhausting as the baby's. Every freaking hour it's "Want to eat!" followed by rejection of many of my suggestions (he's a picky eater). I made Belgian waffles from scratch this morning and he ate THREE (plain, but still). This is a kid we've long suspected exists on air and an occasional glass of water since he never eats....
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