FIL is a raging alcoholic who could give two shits about his son or DS. He called MH three days after his bday last year and said "oh hey son. I was writing a check today and realized your bday was a few days ago, so happy birthday."
bibliothecary, everytime you talk about your MIL, I kind of want to punch her.
I kind of want to punch her, too. Have I mentioned that MH is the failure of the family? Because he's the only one who moved out and has a job where he doesn't work on cars in the backyard? Oh, and my two BIL? The one with a fondness for heroin and the other with fondness for women half his age? They've not seen their nephew. Not once.
Apart from the actual abusive components that I won't go into, there is some true ridiculous circus shitshow in my family. There's my mother's husband who thinks he is the messiah and has started a cult (and my mom is a devout follower). My father's (4th) wife who is younger than me and whose brain is filled with air. Those are the two most notable characters from my family tree. Lol...
Mil taught my kids my first name and gets great pleasure in hearing them call me by my name instead of mom. It really bothers me, but I try not to let it show because I know it will do no good.
She is also extremely manipulative and critical. She has criticized everything from what we feed or don't feed the kids, how often I shower or go to the grocery store, what I wear, etc.
Post by Martinis&Medicine on Feb 29, 2016 19:32:59 GMT -5
My father in law called a big family meeting. He started with some grim words about family and love and strength, then teared up. He told us that he was diagnosed with cancer and was given six months to live. We all cried for about 3 minutes before he started laughing and pointing at all of us yelling, "GOTCHA!" He thought it was the best joke he's ever played. He's an ass. And I told him so. We don't speak much anymore.
ETA: (Backstory: we TTC'd for 4 years with 3 losses, we were open with family about the situation) FIL was talking a few days later about how much he loves his son and daughter in laws and we were like family. About how if our spouses died we would still be in the will. Then he turned to H and I and said, "I guess if you both died I'd have to give the money to the dog since you don't have kids or anything. HAHAHAHA!"
There are no words for the loathing I hold for that man.
4 year olds say the funniest things. The other night I was singing to DS before bed and he held his hand up to halt me and dramatically said "MOM...stop... I Have to talk to you about Jake and the Neverland Pirates."
Me: ::Blink:: ok...
DS: There was a Ratsputin. And he wasnt big like they thought.
Post by Martinis&Medicine on Feb 29, 2016 19:39:55 GMT -5
@leatherpants, unfortunately he does not have the excuse of being Michael Scott. He's just an ignorant old ass who doesn't care about anyone and doesn't know the meaning of hardship or loss.
Post by ViolinsOnTV on Feb 29, 2016 19:40:19 GMT -5
No competition here, but MIL is a militant Catholic. She hates our Catholic parish because they are too liberal and use square wafers and the wrong cups. She leaves me and SIL pamphlets about "Mary-like dressing" because we wear modern fashions that show our arms and legs. She doesn't recognize her oldest son's marriage because they were wed on a beach and not in the church and wrote him a letter saying how they needed to fix that or go to hell (16 yrs and 3 kids later). Ok.
And she's your run of the mill passive aggressive twit. She wrote me a letter about how upset she was that I did not want the crib that had been handed down since her generation because I pointed out it has drop side rails, and the latches were broken. And she guilted me about enrolling DD in preschool/ daycare 2 days a week because I was supposed to quit work and be a mom and she's more like DD's mom (wut). Worse, she cried while telling me how awful a mom I am so I had to comfort her just to get her out of my house peacefully. She's a peach.
My SMIL didn't talk to me or acknowledge my child for at least 2 years. I think she thought I was trying to pull something over on H or something because we got pregnant soon after we started dating. Eventually H told her to get over herself and stop acting like we (baby &I) were some mistake he made. I never got an apology but she did a 180 and is a million times better now.
I've never met my in-laws. My husband's mother put him on a greyhound at 11 years old, with a one way ticket to his paternal grandmother's place. He hadn't seen her since he was 3. Now, 27 years later, she has never once tried to contact him.
He has a bunch of half siblings, only one whom was already born when he left at 11, that he's connected with since on FB. She, I guess, was a parent to them and is somewhat of a grandma to his siblings' kids.
My MIL let my immunocompromised (I think he was 7 mo old at the time) eat cat poop off their living room floor to prove that he wasn't really immunocompromised at I had Munchausen by proxy. The fact that he miraculously didn't get seriously ill apparently proves that she was right. We only recently let them back in our lives after they made some serious changes.
GFIL let my 10 mo old drink coffee. He had pneumonia at the time. DS2 was up throwing up all night long that night. Fortunately DS2 did not get pneumonia. H's extended family found it hilarious. We haven't seen them since.
Last week DD and I visited them at their timeshare condo in Orlando and went to Disney. That's not the awful part because it's pretty awesome. On Thursday my 79 year old MIL went to Magic Kingdom with us. She tried to make it all day but needed to quit before our dinner reservations. Her H picked us up. In the car I suggested I order a pizza so no one would have to cook. MIL and DD said that was a great idea. sFIL wouldn't hear of it because it's too expensive and they had plenty of leftovers. MIL said she didn't want leftovers after walking around all day. Again I suggested pizza. sFIL said not to get delivery, he could go pick up a frozen pizza from the grocery store. I pointed out that would probably take a while and I needed to get DD to bed. So again he insisted MIL would cook.
In the end she not only cooked one meal, but she cooked a separate meal for him because he didn't want what she cooked DD and me. My poor MIL was so tired! But she wouldn't let me cook either.
FIL is a professional photographer and he encouraged MH to propose to me. He promised to be the photographer at our wedding but two weeks before he went MIA never calling or returning MH's texts. So we scrambled and luckily found another photographer on short notice.
He has been out of our lives ever since but will send MH pictures during the holidays with his wife(MH step mom), their daughter, grandMIL, and grandFIL stating that "someone is missing" and that "THESE are the people who love you."
Oh, and he started a rumor amongst that side of the family that MH wasn't the father of DS "because they look nothing alike."
Eta he denies the existence of his grandchildren as well
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