I'm going to rip this band-aid off...FFWC

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Hugs mama!!! You have got this. And it is 100% ok to have all those feels. I know your situation is not ideal, but D is going to love being a big sister. Focus for now on the positive of that

[khopec]

So many hugs...YOU CAN DO THIS!! It may be cheesy but my favorite quote ever rings so true to send your way...

[annapunkalunka]

Mar 2, 2016 12:01:38 GMT -5 @becominggold said:

Hugs mama!!! You have got this. And it is 100% ok to have all those feels. I know your situation is not ideal, but D is going to love being a big sister. Focus for now on the positive of that

All of this. You got it, girl!

[weeklyplanner]

Love you!

Life has handed you a lot of shitty things, but never forget that you're a damn good mother. I know this won't calm all your fears or answer all your problems, but at least you can lay down your head at night knowing you're doing a great job with D and you can do it again.

P.S. If I win the lottery, I'll send you a big, fat check!

[swim]

Hugs.

[mamajojo]

Sudsy, I know our situation is different in a lot of ways, but I'm having a lot of the same feelings you mentioned. We didn't expect or plan this pregnancy. H isn't happy or excited, in fact just the opposite. I have no one to talk to about this except you guys. Big hugs, you are a great mom!

[afmama22]

Love you

[mamajojo]

Did you just find out? How far along are you?

[mamajojo]

Mar 2, 2016 13:08:11 GMT -5 @Lemonpielover said:

Mar 2, 2016 12:36:11 GMT -5 mamajojo said:

Did you just find out? How far along are you?

I did. I went in for a cervical biopsy last week. A pregnancy test was part of the pre-procedure procedures. I was super early. In fact, I had had an ultrasound 2 weeks before for fibroids and nothing showed up. I hadn't missed a period yet. I am right around 5 weeks today.

BTW, i don't have cancer.

That was going to be my next question... Glad to hear the cancer screening came back ok.

[peachesncream]

Hugs to you. I had a lot of mixed feelings with this pregnancy too as it was unplanned. It was really rough coming to terms with it and honestly some days I am still in denial. But, here we are. I am glad you don't have cancer! And if you're unhappy and this is truly unwanted we live in a country where we have options. I am pretty adamantly pro-life but my husband at one point asked me if I wanted to terminate this pregnancy and I appreciated him at least giving me the option of considering it.

Anyway, it was brave of you to get that off your chest. We are here for you if you need us.

[klauket13]

Hugs to you sudsy! I know it's totally cliché, but I really believe everything happens for a reason.

[lucylou]

That wasn't what I expected when I opened this thread!
Damn that must have been a huge shock to find out that way. I think a lot of people probably have mixed feels getting KU again, even if they had been planning it. And if they weren't planning it, at least most people have a 2-3 minute wait to prepare themselves while the stick dries.

I understand not feeling great about this right now, but I'm still going to give you a big Congratulations, because I know everything is going to be ok in the end. Anyone can see how happy and loved D is. I have no doubts you will get through this because you are strong!

I don't want to seem like I'm telling you what to think, but I know you had mentioned going back and forth on wanting more kids. At least this way the decision was kind of made for you?? (That's how I would try to look at it if it were me). And hey, No Cancer!!!!!! That's worth celebrating.

Hugs to you. You know we're all here for you!

[lucylou]

And I just realize I have no idea where your head is at. peachesncream is right, you have options. Only you know what's right for your situation. I'm here for you either way. And I still stand by my statement that everything is going to be ok in the end.

[lucilleaustero]

Yay for no cancer.

Hugs for the rest. And feeling all different emotions is understandable. We are here for you sudsy.

[yogini kiki]

You are amazing
You are an incredible mother
You can do this

So much love and so many hugs.

[ice61313]

Ah sudsy. I'm sorry you had this unexpectedly thrown at you. It's a lot to handle when you're planning it, let alone it being a surprise. Don't be so hard on yourself for not being excited. It happens to all of us. I'm sure since RM is happy about it, you're feeling like your options are limited (even if you wouldn't ever think about terminating). Hugs to you. Big hugs.

[puffandstuff]

Hugs and kisses!

[asundevil80]

Congrats, @lemonpielover and mamajojo! I hope time brings you both peace knowing that you can handle this. And like others said, it's ok to feel all the fear and other things right now and take the time to process this all. Wishing you the best!

[otepoti]

Hugs

[starrynight14]

Hugs @lemonpielover.

[caybeh]

Hugs

[hoosiermama76]

@lemonpielover

I honestly think you were meant to be a mother. Hang in there. We are here.

[mimsy]

Mar 2, 2016 16:38:30 GMT -5 @Lemonpielover said:

Each day I find a new reason to be upset. Today it's that I am telling you all how unhappy I am when so many of you are struggling with infertility and I'm all, "I wasn't even trying" and "This is horrible".

I'm really not being an ungrateful bitch.

You know, I probably can't speak for all of my fellow IF ladies, but most of us are happy (in our own way) when a friend gets preg.

[bobloblaw]

No one thinks you are ungrateful, @lemonpielover. Your situation has nothing to do with anyone else's.

It may not be an optimal situation BUT you are a good mom. Don't doubt yourself.

[aaemommy]

Hugs, sudsy. It's okay to feel not okay with what's happening. Like other pp's said, we're here for you. And we all think you're an amazing mom no matter what happens now.

Xoxo

[mrsnorris]

Hugs @lemonpielover. It's always okay to feel how you feel and I will be hoping for all the best things for you. I think you're strong, amazing and a wonderful mom.

[gahorseygal]

Hugs!

[skylark002]

These feelings are normal with an unplanned pregnancy. It took me a long time to be excited about this one. D will be a great big sister, just like you're a great mom.

[gratefulgirl]

Everyone else has pretty much covered it. ((Hugs)).

[cdseno]

Love you and your hot pregnant ass. We're here for you no matter what.