Tell us your love story

[cetcar]

I don't think we have done this before- how did you and your significant other meet? Was it love at first sight or did it take some time to figure each other out?

[wittyandwaiting]

I loooooove this! I'm swamped at work but I will come back to it later! Great idea cetcar!

[kekaellypula]

chat room. neither of us was looking for anyone. i tried to school her on the ways of the internet - don't take anything seriously... so one day i called her a name... and she got upset. i had her contact information and as soon as i knew she was upset i contacted her and we started talking. 6 weeks later she moved in. we've been together over 5 years now.

[lv2016]

Sooo...I apologize ahead of time for how long this is going to be. Our love story took some time to develop.

V was the Resident Advisor on the floor I lived on in my dorm my junior year of college - our small, private, Catholic college. She was a senior.

I had other friends who were RAs that met V during the Summer training they all had to go through. They told me she was really funny and nice and that I would like her as my RA. I had only ever dated guys, and so my friends were certainly not trying to set us up - just telling me about this cool new person they met during their training.

I remember the first day we met. My friend and roommate, Sarah, and I were moving in, and V stopped by briefly to introduce herself. Over the weeks and months, V and I became very close friends. While there was a definite attraction and flirting on both sides, the timing was off for us - V had a controlling girlfriend, and I was nowhere near ready to face such new and scary feelings at that point.

But, I know I fell in love with her that year. We secretly held hands, wrote little notes to each other and sought out reasons to spend time with each other, just the two of us.

As the end of the school year got closer, I became sad. V was graduating and moving in with her girlfriend. I still had another year left in school. The night before V graduated was awful. I stayed with her in her room, and we tried to stay awake as long as we could because we knew that in the morning, it would be our last day together. Of course, we eventually fell asleep, and the next day, her family and girlfriend arrived for the graduation. I just remember feeling such sadness that whatever it is that we had was over, and there was nobody I could talk about it with. Heartbreak is awful, but lonely heartbreak is far worse.

After V's graduation, we saw each other a couple of times that Summer, but things were different. Her girlfriend did not like me (understandably), and because they were living together, V was less available to me. I was working two jobs and living with my parents before my final school year. We eventually lost touch and went on with our lives separately. I still thought often of her.

Three years later, V and I got each other's contact information from a mutual friend. She and I sent emails back and forth for a week or so before deciding to catch up in person. We met for dinner, and while it was my understanding that it was just a friendly dinner, I couldn't ignore that my love feelings came back.

When we talk about that evening, we call it our first date, because within a few weeks, we were an inseparable couple. The timing was finally right! I came out to my family and friends because I couldn't hold in my happiness. That was 11 years ago, and I am still so in love with her!

[rikkiandjulie]

Julie and I met when I was 14, she was 17, and about to graduate. Our town had an LGBT youth group. She was dating someone else, but we ran back into each other at the mall, and have talked every day since. There's a little bit more in here, but it's very long. So all in all high school sweet hearts. We just celebrated 10 years together, and will have our 8 year wedding anniversary on 8.8.16. We got married when I was 19, and she was 22.

[2brides]

We initially met when I was a freshman in college and living in freshman housing. L was the administrator in charge of freshman housing and living on campus with her then partner. It was kind of a big deal (early 90s) and I was intrigued (I had never met anyone who identified as gay (keep in mind I grew up in the south and this was 24y ago!)) We didn’t hang out, but had a lot of mutual friends since I was friends with a lot of the RAs.

Fast forward 8y. I had recently come out and was hanging out a lot with one of our mutual friends. One night he randomly ran into L at the mall and asked her if she would like to come and hang out with us. She did and then the three of us starting hanging out a lot – going to happy hours, movies, etc. At one of the happy hours, everyone thought we were together which got me thinking. I wish we were together. After about 6 weeks of hanging out, she asked me if I wanted to go to dinner before our friend and I went to a concert (we’d had the tickets for months.) At that dinner, she told me she was interested in dating and asked if I felt the same. I did.

We never really dated after that. The next night we all went out and then I went back to her place and basically never left. I refused to officially move out of my roommate situation and would go home every night after work, pack a bag, and go to her house. After 6 months, I agreed to break my part of the lease and officially move in. That was almost 16 years ago.

[lv2016]

Yay, I love love stories!!!

[JustJudy]

Love tits for you all! Apologies is advance, mine is long and a freaking soap opera. Also Tegan and Sara just came on my pandora station in the middle of writing this. Cliché!

J was dating a friend (E) who lived next door to me in the dorms sophomore year. Our big group of friends went out for said friend's birthday one night and I walked in to the restaurant, saw J, and truthfully thought to myself "well shit this is going to be a problem."

A couple of night later she was over visiting E, but she really had to study so I invited J to my room to smoke Hookah with a few other friends. To make this a bit shorter I'll just say we started hanging out a lot.

School ended for the year and 4 friends and I moved into a house off campus. We had a huge party before we officially moved in and of course I was pretty drunk. J took me aside at some point in the night and told me she had a crush on me. But she was still technically dating E, though they weren't exclusive.

Well, E went abroad the next semester and J and I started hanging out alone more and more. J suddenly needed a place to stay and so I said she could crash for a while. One day we came home and didn't think anyone was there. I mentioned something about keeping us hanging out a secret and one of the roommates (my now ex-BFF) came out of her room and said, "well it's not a secret anymore."

Our big group of friends split into two sides, my ex-BFF chose E's side and moved out. J still needed a place to stay so she moved in and we became an official couple. That was almost 11 years ago.

The funny thing is that we still speak with E and she actually came to our wedding. She forgave us for the shit show we created, thank goodness.

[healz413]

We met online on OKCupid just over 5 years ago. I also met someone else at the same time and had has two dates with her by the time M and I had our first date. In fact my second date with the other person was earlier in the day of my first date with M. I wasn't really myself at our first date (probably because I hAd already gone out with someone that day) so I thought the date was only ok. Thankfully, M asked me out again. We talked a lot in the 4 days between dates 1 and 2 and my affection started to grow. And the date 2 was awesome. M ended up spending the night at my place because of a long story that involved me lending gee my car in the morning for her driving test.

[dannigirl]

Jo and I met on Plenty of Fish. Both of us were actually just looking for friends to hang out with as we were both new to the area. We started talking a lot and then met up and well, the rest is history..
Been together for over 7 years and married for 4 in June.

[crazyaunt84]

C and I have one of those long and kinda ugly love stories. I got engaged to a guy in college and we were living together. It was 100% wrong in every way, but my parents were going through an awful divorce and I was desperately seeking stability in my life. Right after college I started applying for jobs and got hired into the management training program at a Fortune 500 company. During my interview, the district manager went on and on about the potential for growth and kept using this one woman as an example who had gone from a part time employee to the most awarded and successful manager in the entire company in her 14 year career. Turns out, that woman was C.

I got hired by the company and about 6 months later I was at a district wide management meeting. C was there, and I'd never met her, but given her prestigious position I wanted to introduce myself. I walked up behind her and said "Hi! I'm A!" She glanced back over her shoulder, said "whatever" and walked away.

6 months after that initial meeting, I was shipped off to the annual national management conference. C was also there, and we were supposed to be on the same flight. There were flight delays and she took charge of getting everyone re-routed so we'd make it in time. However, they were short a couple of seats and she had to decide who got left behind. She left me sitting in an airport in Chicago.

A few days later at the conference, she was awarded "Manager of the Year" out of a pool of 3,000 managers nation wide. Our district (19 managers) got a limo and all of us went out to Coyote Ugly to celebrate. I was 100% there by default, but out of the blue C noticed me and got a little flirty. We ended up kissing that evening, and she told me "I can't do this, I'm married!" (She'd been in a domestic partnership for 13 years with her girlfriend) I told her I was engaged to a guy and it was just the tequila talking. If ever she were going to flirt with and kiss another woman, I was a pretty safe choice.

Over the next 6 months, things unravelled. We started secretly calling and texting each other. She and her partner had a huge falling out, which was then exascerbated ten fold when her partner found out she was communicating with me. I broke things off with my fiance less than 4 months before the wedding. C and I stopped talking and the whole world seemed to implode. Three months later she called me and asked if she could see me. Two years of bumpy on-again/off-again dating later we moved in together. We got married 3 years after that, and now we're expecting our twins. It has been the wildest 10 years of my life and some days I can't believe we saw it through - but I love her to death and wouldn't change it.

[calsurb]

C and I met on match. We went to a local Thai place down the street from my place. I had a string of short and bad romances with people and I promised myself that however awesome this C person was, I would decline all advances to prove to myself I could use good judgment. So after the date, C said we should do something again so. And my response was, Yeah......maybe. I thought about her for a whole day and then texted that we should get our dogs together and go for a walk in the woods near my place. She agreed! And in the middle of our walk she asked me all about my yeah maybe comment. We got engaged in the same woods 3 years later, and the baby came 2 years after that. Yay for people who don't give up on me when I'm a total idiot!

[bexincanada]

We met online, chatted for a bit and then H. came to my city for our first date - already a good sign as she lived in Toronto at the time. We started off getting coffee, then coffee led to dinner. During dinner she accidentally butt-dialed her twin sister who was mortified to overhear H. talking politics and religion on a first date. Meanwhile we were hitting it off, finding that we had similar values in the important areas. Dinner led to Scrabble at my place, literally Scrabble that's not a euphemism, and an incredibly awkward kiss goodnight.

We dated long-distance (an hour apart) for a bit, going back and forth for dates. I knew it was a long-term relationship before H. did as she was a late-bloomer with coming out and initially wanted to keep options open. I had been in a couple of 2 year relationships prior so I was not in a rush. We made it a year before moving in together and were married a year and a half after that. Our 4-year wedding anniversary is this summer and we'll be spending it with our first little one!

[wittyandwaiting]

C and I met at her girlfriend's apartment which I had been dragged to by a friend. They were going through a rough patch and were doing the on again off again thing.

She didn't know I was gay and I didn't know her and her girlfriend were on the brink of calling it quits so we just chatted without either of us being up to anything.

Fast forward....we become friends, talk on the phone, discover some friends in common and hang out. They break up and ten years later, here we are.

[kona]

M and I met in college. She was 2 years ahead of me, we met as she was the student trainer for the basketball team that I played on. I'm pretty sure she had her eye on me from the beginning but I was clueless. Her persistence paid off as we got together the summer before my sophomore year.

We got married in 2004, although legally in 2014.

[cetcar]

I suppose we should answer since it was our question...

We have two stories about how we met, one we tell over drinks with friends, and one we tell our families.

The family friendly story is that we met in college because we were both on the equestrian team, and started hanging out through team events. All American love story and all that....

The unofficial story is that, while we did meet because we were on the same team, it was actually at totally unofficial team parties that may or may not have actually occurred, one of which was the college-wide annual 'drag ball,' which is a particularly hilarious theme at an all women's college. There may or may not have been some cross dressing, drinking, and late night shenanigans. Then, in the cold light of the next day, CAR got shy and refused to talk to CET for upwards of 3 weeks. However, CET was persistent, finding ways to hang out and pester her, until finally giving the 'do you want to keep this up or not?' ultimatum. Thankfully, CAR said she did (in as many words) and the rest, as they say, is history. We've now been together over 12 years, married for 2 and a half. We still both love and ride horses, and are nostalgic for our college days.