I keep taking my newborn out. I know you're supposed to wait, but I am totally stir crazy with the toddler. People ask me how old she is and I lie so I don't look like a bad parent.
I keep taking my newborn out. I know you're supposed to wait, but I am totally stir crazy with the toddler. People ask me how old she is and I lie so I don't look like a bad parent.
When J was born the doctor told me not to take him out for 6 weeks. I took him out after 4 days. As long as nobody else is holding them and touching them, I don't see the point with a full term baby. I always made sure he was covered with a blanket as if to say "go away from my baby!"
I keep taking my newborn out. I know you're supposed to wait, but I am totally stir crazy with the toddler. People ask me how old she is and I lie so I don't look like a bad parent.
When J was born the doctor told me not to take him out for 6 weeks. I took him out after 4 days. As long as nobody else is holding them and touching them, I don't see the point with a full term baby. I always made sure he was covered with a blanket as if to say "go away from my baby!"
serious question. what is the difference between taking them out and having people come to you? I get that your home is a controlled environment and all that, but people are still touching your newborn. Do I need to ban visitors, too?
I am just looking for an excuse to keep people away from me after birth.
If someone had told me not to take J out for 6 weeks, I would have gone bananas from the stir crazy. We didn't go to tons of places, but I took him almost daily to the grocery store or walmart from about 3 weeks on.
When J was born the doctor told me not to take him out for 6 weeks. I took him out after 4 days. As long as nobody else is holding them and touching them, I don't see the point with a full term baby. I always made sure he was covered with a blanket as if to say "go away from my baby!"
serious question. what is the difference between taking them out and having people come to you? I get that your home is a controlled environment and all that, but people are still touching your newborn. Do I need to ban visitors, too?
I am just looking for an excuse to keep people away from me after birth.
In my mind, nothing. I think people are more likely to be assholes and come to your house sick anyway. But this mostly applies to babies born during cold and flu season. You're baby will be born after that, so you'll have to just ban people just because it's your baby and you are totally allowed to do that.
serious question. what is the difference between taking them out and having people come to you? I get that your home is a controlled environment and all that, but people are still touching your newborn. Do I need to ban visitors, too?
I am just looking for an excuse to keep people away from me after birth.
In my mind, nothing. I think people are more likely to be assholes and come to your house sick anyway. But this mostly applies to babies born during cold and flu season. You're baby will be born after that, so you'll have to just ban people just because it's your baby and you are totally allowed to do that.
In my mind, nothing. I think people are more likely to be assholes and come to your house sick anyway. But this mostly applies to babies born during cold and flu season. You're baby will be born after that, so you'll have to just ban people just because it's your baby and you are totally allowed to do that.
Post by weeklyplanner on Mar 4, 2016 8:10:49 GMT -5
I started taking DS out to stores at 4 days old. I have to get out of the house everyday to stay sane and I didn't have anyone to sit with him. Maybe this worked out for us because at 19 mo he's been pretty healthy. Just last night he had his first real fever and he's yet to need antibiotics.
Also, my parents took me to a restaurant on the way home from delivering me. They ran into my mom's OB who had delivered me the day before! I think, if I remember he story correctly, he bought them their lunch.
Post by weeklyplanner on Mar 4, 2016 8:41:00 GMT -5
I'm not sure how this will go over, but I'll share it anyway.
If you're sick (cold, sinus infection, fever....let's just say anything besides puking your brains out, recovering from surgery or something like cancer), your children are still your responsibility. I know someone IRL and her husband and her are home sick with colds. They've given their toddler to his grandma two days in row. Grow the F up and take care of your responsibility. Two adults home from work with a cold (WTF?) and you can't care for your kid? Major side eye. You don't get to pick and choose when to parent.
I keep taking my newborn out. I know you're supposed to wait, but I am totally stir crazy with the toddler. People ask me how old she is and I lie so I don't look like a bad parent.
We went to target the day Nora was discharged so 3 days old? The only thing that bugged her was the heat from walking into the store since it was like 90 out. That and a lady was following her and DH around while I was talking with the pharmacy people.
I'm a major homebody and even I would have gone nuts if I didn't get out of the house those first few weeks! I think DS wasn't quite a week old when I first brought him somewhere other than his pedi or visiting family--one of my SILs convinced me to let her take us to BRU while DH was at work. After that, I eventually worked up the courage to take him places by myself, but that was more of a no sleep and figuring out a routine thing than anything else.
+1. The only reason I waited 3 weeks was because I was scurred.
I started taking DS out to stores at 4 days old. I have to get out of the house everyday to stay sane and I didn't have anyone to sit with him. Maybe this worked out for us because at 19 mo he's been pretty healthy. Just last night he had his first real fever and he's yet to need antibiotics. Also, my parents took me to a restaurant on the way home from delivering me. They ran into my mom's OB who had delivered me the day before! I think, if I remember he story correctly, he bought them their lunch.
I've had multiple people tell me they did this! Mostly around my parents age, haha! I had a friend who took her 3 day old out to lunch though, she wore her in a wrap and said no one realized she even had a baby strapped to her.
Honestly it's easier when they are sleeping all the time to take them out! Plus when you do short trips you will either keep them in their car seat the whole time or wear them! I preferred to wear her because people really wouldn't notice I had a baby and left us alone. Plus she stayed more content.
I'm not sure how this will go over, but I'll share it anyway.
If you're sick (cold, sinus infection, fever....let's just say anything besides puking your brains out, recovering from surgery or something like cancer), your children are still your responsibility. I know someone IRL and her husband and her are home sick with colds. They've given their toddler to his grandma two days in row. Grow the F up and take care of your responsibility. Two adults home from work with a cold (WTF?) and you can't care for your kid? Major side eye. You don't get to pick and choose when to parent.
Well there's a good chance they would spread that to their LO so I think it's a good call since both are sick. And another plus to them for being able to take sick time and preventing more spread. DH just got over a nasty cold he picked up at work. I'd much rather people stay home when they feel sick than go to work but I know it's not always an option.
I'm not sure how this will go over, but I'll share it anyway.
If you're sick (cold, sinus infection, fever....let's just say anything besides puking your brains out, recovering from surgery or something like cancer), your children are still your responsibility. I know someone IRL and her husband and her are home sick with colds. They've given their toddler to his grandma two days in row. Grow the F up and take care of your responsibility. Two adults home from work with a cold (WTF?) and you can't care for your kid? Major side eye. You don't get to pick and choose when to parent.
Hmm I see it more as a luxury that they are able to leave their kid with grandma. Doesn't bother me, honestly I'm a bit jealous. Wish my parents were that close!
But my dad did come help me for a few hours when I got the stomach bug and DD had a UTI. I got sick thursday, H wanted to work Friday so my dad volunteered to come friday to help me out. It was so nice to get to nap and not worry about DD for a bit. I still helped with her, my dad wasn't super comfortable taking full responsibility at that point but it helped me relax and rest more.
I'm not sure how this will go over, but I'll share it anyway.
If you're sick (cold, sinus infection, fever....let's just say anything besides puking your brains out, recovering from surgery or something like cancer), your children are still your responsibility. I know someone IRL and her husband and her are home sick with colds. They've given their toddler to his grandma two days in row. Grow the F up and take care of your responsibility. Two adults home from work with a cold (WTF?) and you can't care for your kid? Major side eye. You don't get to pick and choose when to parent.
Well there's a good chance they would spread that to their LO so I think it's a good call since both are sick. And another plus to them for being able to take sick time and preventing more spread. DH just got over a nasty cold he picked up at work. I'd much rather people stay home when they feel sick than go to work but I know it's not always an option.
I thought about that, but then I remembered that they co sleep with him on her boob all night, so in my professional, medical opinion (ha!) those germs have already spread!
I'm jealous of the folks that have someone willing to take kids while the parents are sick. I had to take care of kids while I had pneumonia last fall.
I'm jealous of the ladies who are able to take their newborns out. I got dizzy getting up to go to the bathroom for at least two weeks. I didn't have the energy to consider leaving the house for pleasure for weeks after each birth.
I'm jealous of my niece who felt well enough to go out with friends for the evening when her baby was 3 weeks old.
Maybe these are all tied to my AMA. Maybe I'm just a whiner.
I'm jealous of the folks that have someone willing to take kids while the parents are sick. I had to take care of kids while I had pneumonia last fall.
I'm jealous of the ladies who are able to take their newborns out. I got dizzy getting up to go to the bathroom for at least two weeks. I didn't have the energy to consider leaving the house for pleasure for weeks after each birth.
I'm jealous of my niece who felt well enough to go out with friends for the evening when her baby was 3 weeks old.
Maybe these are all tied to my AMA. Maybe I'm just a whiner.
+1. I didn't leave the house with DS (other than to lactation consultant appointments) for 4 weeks. And that was just to the grocery store. We were in nipple shield hell and getting him to latch each time was tough. I was scared we would go out and he would need to eat. Plus I had no desire to anyways. I was physically and emotionally exhausted.
But I never side eye parents out with newborns (well not usually). Mostly I'm just in awe.
Post by puffandstuff on Mar 4, 2016 9:56:31 GMT -5
With DD#1 I didn't go anywhere by myself till she was a month old. With DD#2 it was 3 days after she came home from being in NICU a week. I wore her and no one could touch her.
I will follow that up with that my mom made me keep it to show my OB... we called the hospital and they told us to, but it was still gross.
Same, and I ended up needing a D & C that week. So, I had surgery when I was three weeks post pardum, and I definitely enjoyed the break from taking care of my newborn. There's my FFFC.
I will say the only reason we went to target was because it was on the way home and we needed a couple things that our local grocery store didn't carry.
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