Just saw the LC about feeding, and I didn't get many answers. Like DanaScullyX, I'm struggling with a pre term baby that refuses to latch. It was great to see he is getting something, but most of that is because of the bottle. She recommended that I get anappointment with the pedi, so we can get a referral to an OT. She thinks that it will help develop his suck, swallow, stay awake reflex. Sigh. I just feel like it's one thing after another. I'm so very thankful I finally have my rainbow, but I just wish it wasn't so hard! He is a great baby except at feedings. Then I swear it's like some evil demon inhabits him.
Post by nexttonormal on Mar 8, 2016 14:19:21 GMT -5
I'm not sure what I was thinking having 3 kids in less than 4 1/2 years... I was clearly intoxicated at the time of this decision.
But seriously, this past week has been so tough on me. Mostly it has tested my patience for my older girls, and I have lost my cool on them more times than I'd like to admit. MH has been as supportive as he can be, trying to get them out of the house so I can try to rest with DD3. Oh, and I forgot to mention that DD1 had to get 5 stitches in her foot yesterday, and I couldn't go with her to the doctor's because I was home with the younger 2. Cue hormonal meltdown.
I guess the ironic part of all my venting is that DD3 has been the easiest baby of the 3, so at least I've got that going haha.
Guys, the sleep deprivation is a bitch. I do not know how to function like this. Also, I really want to sleep when the baby is sleeping but he doesn't sleep much unless he's being held. How the hell are you supposed to sleep ever? I am crying tears of frustration over here and breastfeeding is still super painful. *End pity party.*
Hugs all around. End of pregnancy and post-partum is the craziest rollercoaster of pain, feelings, love, and bodily fluids around. I'm struggling with a lot of it right now - sleep deprivation, ongoing back pain, complicated happy/sad feelings, and a perineum that's still so swollen I swear it looks like I have testicles.
Andplusalso - what are these poop pills and where do I get them jocountry & SheilaTheTank? Day 5 and still no poo. I think my body can tell how terrified I am and has just shut it down for now. My poor, poor perineum..
Hugs all around. End of pregnancy and post-partum is the craziest rollercoaster of pain, feelings, love, and bodily fluids around. I'm struggling with a lot of it right now - sleep deprivation, ongoing back pain, complicated happy/sad feelings, and a perineum that's still so swollen I swear it looks like I have testicles.
Andplusalso - what are these poop pills and where do I get them jocountry & SheilaTheTank? Day 5 and still no poo. I think my body can tell how terrified I am and has just shut it down for now. My poor, poor perineum..
Colace or generic equivalent. Available anywhere. It's an over the counter. You may want to call your OB if you still haven't pooped by the end of the week.
Hugs all around. End of pregnancy and post-partum is the craziest rollercoaster of pain, feelings, love, and bodily fluids around. I'm struggling with a lot of it right now - sleep deprivation, ongoing back pain, complicated happy/sad feelings, and a perineum that's still so swollen I swear it looks like I have testicles.
Andplusalso - what are these poop pills and where do I get them jocountry & SheilaTheTank? Day 5 and still no poo. I think my body can tell how terrified I am and has just shut it down for now. My poor, poor perineum..
Miralax works so much bette for me than stool softeners! Stool softeners did nothing at all for me. One dose of Miralax and no more problems!
Hugs all around. End of pregnancy and post-partum is the craziest rollercoaster of pain, feelings, love, and bodily fluids around. I'm struggling with a lot of it right now - sleep deprivation, ongoing back pain, complicated happy/sad feelings, and a perineum that's still so swollen I swear it looks like I have testicles.
Andplusalso - what are these poop pills and where do I get them jocountry & SheilaTheTank? Day 5 and still no poo. I think my body can tell how terrified I am and has just shut it down for now. My poor, poor perineum..
I have dulcolax stool softeners. Also drinking coffee in the morning. My OB said to call them if no poop within 6 days so I would call your midwife tomorrow if no movement.
miggg if you soak in about 3 inches of the hottest water you can stand in the bathtub and just splash the water against your poor thrashed lady bits it helps so much. And you are right, what a roller coaster!
miggg - they gave me Peri-Colace at the hospital. I think it has a mild laxative component that the regular Colace we took during pregnancy does not have.
miggg if you soak in about 3 inches of the hottest water you can stand in the bathtub and just splash the water against your poor thrashed lady bits it helps so much. And you are right, what a roller coaster!
I've done this every day since coming home and it's great. I add a few drops of almond oil, tea tree oil, and soap and a handful of Epsom salts as well.
Post by OrganicRosemary on Mar 9, 2016 6:29:37 GMT -5
Going past your due date is a total mind game. I hate due dates and how much weight is put on them. Baby doesn't have a calendar. I went 2 days late with DD and today is 40w5d with #2, so much for second babies coming earlier. I cried over my bowl of cereal at 3am today. I told myself I would just relax and be patient this time around, but I'm just done. I've had an easy pregnancy and physically I'm not miserable, but mentally, I'm done. So tired of the texts/phone calls asking if anything is happening. Nope, it's not, I'm going to be pregnant forever. So much for being an "experienced STM".
We had our first very tough night. LO fed from like 10 to 12 non stop and then had her only decent stretch of sleep for the night. My boobs still don't feel as full as they did before the cluster bc she still fed like every two hours and basically had to be held by H or I in between and still intermittently screamed for no reason. I cried a few times. So tired. She is in the RNP with my mom now and H and I are trying to get a little more sleep. Mom leaves tomorrow AM.
Guys, the sleep deprivation is a bitch. I do not know how to function like this. Also, I really want to sleep when the baby is sleeping but he doesn't sleep much unless he's being held. How the hell are you supposed to sleep ever? I am crying tears of frustration over here and breastfeeding is still super painful. *End pity party.*
I'm sorry. That is frustrating. I'm dealing with the same thing. Wants to be held and won't take a paci so I can get a break. Have you tried swaddling at night and when you put him down during the day? That seems to help sometimes.
Co-sleeping. H put his foot down and said "absolutely no co-sleeping". We co-slept for 18 months. Why? It's the only way she would sleep. Cuddle, nurse/bottle feed in a side-lying position, baby falls asleep in your arms. You sleep too. Think of LO as super cute teddy bear.
It doesn't have to be forever. But if it gets you rest now when you're desperate? I'd try it.
Started to get sentimental last night at 3am when I couldn't sleep about how it will never just be me and H again and got really sad. I obviously will love this baby more than anything in the world but will miss my time with my husband... Sleeping in, biking, long walks, dinner. ugh. What's my problem today?
Going past your due date is a total mind game. I hate due dates and how much weight is put on them. Baby doesn't have a calendar. I went 2 days late with DD and today is 40w5d with #2, so much for second babies coming earlier. I cried over my bowl of cereal at 3am today. I told myself I would just relax and be patient this time around, but I'm just done. I've had an easy pregnancy and physically I'm not miserable, but mentally, I'm done. So tired of the texts/phone calls asking if anything is happening. Nope, it's not, I'm going to be pregnant forever. So much for being an "experienced STM".
Liked for commiseration. Even when you know you'll go late, it's just a terrible waiting game that no one else should be able to weigh in on
I'm sorry. That is frustrating. I'm dealing with the same thing. Wants to be held and won't take a paci so I can get a break. Have you tried swaddling at night and when you put him down during the day? That seems to help sometimes.
Co-sleeping. H put his foot down and said "absolutely no co-sleeping". We co-slept for 18 months. Why? It's the only way she would sleep. Cuddle, nurse/bottle feed in a side-lying position, baby falls asleep in your arms. You sleep too. Think of LO as super cute teddy bear.
It doesn't have to be forever. But if it gets you rest now when you're desperate? I'd try it.
Yep. We did that last night in the hospital. He cluster fed from 11-1 and 4-6. In between we just snuggled in bed and slept together (the nurse only asked once if she could take him) survival mode for sure.
Started to get sentimental last night at 3am when I couldn't sleep about how it will never just be me and H again and got really sad. I obviously will love this baby more than anything in the world but will miss my time with my husband... Sleeping in, biking, long walks, dinner. ugh. What's my problem today?
Hugs. I've actually had the same feelings, even as a STM. I find myself grieving our little family of three and missing the normalcy of the life we created. Being stuck to your newborn like glue is beautiful and necessary but it's also a little lonely and.. claustrophobic.. for lack of a better word. I miss DH and DS1 and our old life.
I know we'll create a new life and pattern as s family of four that will be even better but the transition is emotional and change is hard.
We had our first very tough night. LO fed from like 10 to 12 non stop and then had her only decent stretch of sleep for the night. My boobs still don't feel as full as they did before the cluster bc she still fed like every two hours and basically had to be held by H or I in between and still intermittently screamed for no reason. I cried a few times. So tired. She is in the RNP with my mom now and H and I are trying to get a little more sleep. Mom leaves tomorrow AM.
My barnacle baby was latched on pretty much from 10pm-5am. Every time I wouldn't try to lay her down she would start screaming. I dozed a few minutes at a time sitting up, and finally got her laid down for 2 hours from 5:30-7:30. So tired. And my nipples are thrashed this morning. I was too tired to worry about a good latch. I just want to cry this morning.
We had our first very tough night. LO fed from like 10 to 12 non stop and then had her only decent stretch of sleep for the night. My boobs still don't feel as full as they did before the cluster bc she still fed like every two hours and basically had to be held by H or I in between and still intermittently screamed for no reason. I cried a few times. So tired. She is in the RNP with my mom now and H and I are trying to get a little more sleep. Mom leaves tomorrow AM.
My barnacle baby was latched on pretty much from 10pm-5am. Every time I wouldn't try to lay her down she would start screaming. I dozed a few minutes at a time sitting up, and finally got her laid down for 2 hours from 5:30-7:30. So tired. And my nipples are thrashed this morning. I was too tired to worry about a good latch. I just want to cry this morning.
Ugh so sorry. And now I feel like I have no milk left. All of her feedings since then have been short and not so fees and her poop is back to green. The milk comes back, right?
My barnacle baby was latched on pretty much from 10pm-5am. Every time I wouldn't try to lay her down she would start screaming. I dozed a few minutes at a time sitting up, and finally got her laid down for 2 hours from 5:30-7:30. So tired. And my nipples are thrashed this morning. I was too tired to worry about a good latch. I just want to cry this morning.
Ugh so sorry. And now I feel like I have no milk left. All of her feedings since then have been short and not so fees and her poop is back to green. The milk comes back, right?
Yes, the milk comes back. The more she eats the more you produce.
Going past your due date is a total mind game. I hate due dates and how much weight is put on them. Baby doesn't have a calendar. I went 2 days late with DD and today is 40w5d with #2, so much for second babies coming earlier. I cried over my bowl of cereal at 3am today. I told myself I would just relax and be patient this time around, but I'm just done. I've had an easy pregnancy and physically I'm not miserable, but mentally, I'm done. So tired of the texts/phone calls asking if anything is happening. Nope, it's not, I'm going to be pregnant forever. So much for being an "experienced STM".
Post by OrganicRosemary on Mar 9, 2016 15:46:22 GMT -5
@pugsandwine solidarity fist bump. Once you go have your induction Friday I'm gonna be all by my lonesome.
Though, my mw did give me a glimmer of hope today at my appointment. The new moon is tonight and she said they actually see more babies born on the new moon than the full moon. Maybe it'll work for both of us!
ETA: Apparently it's a super moon and solar eclipse too, let's hope it can get things going.
@pugsandwine solidarity fist bump. Once you go have your induction Friday I'm gonna be all by my lonesome.
Though, my mw did give me a glimmer of hope today at my appointment. The new moon is tonight and she said they actually see more babies born on the new moon than the full moon. Maybe it'll work for both of us!
ETA: Apparently it's a super moon and solar eclipse too, let's hope it can get things going.
You won't be all by your lonesome if this girl prolongs her past-dueness anymore
But I was not aware of the super moon thing. This is good to know
Hi ladies! Thanks so much for your words of encouragement. It's week 2 and it's been a bit better. H was able to stay home Mon and Tues so that was helpful. I got out of the house for a bit. We did a target run and the baby had a dr appt yesterday. Boobs are finally feeling better, I'm so glad. I actually took a 2mile walk with baby. It was such a nice day out. My sis plans to come visit tomorrow and my mom is off all next week and plans to come and help me out. Day by day is how I need to look at it. Hugs to all of you and I'm glad we can support one another.
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